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talk2alabama:
Yes guys have taste too

Ladies, are you hearing?

Why can't some women be rejected or enter friendzone peacefully? I'm getting really tired of females feeling if they like you and give you the greenest lights, you're automatically meant to go for them. They rant about how most men can't handle being denied relationship or sex but when it happens to them, there'll hate the hell out of your life, you sef go dey fear.

The most current story: There's this chick at work I hardly knew cos I was new there. I got to know her more when we met at a supermarket during lunch break. We clicked fast and became good friends; gisting, gossiping, joking, things normal friends do. We was cool until she started getting too clingy and touchy, calling too often, palpable moodiness when I don't have her time etc. She was going hard on me...but I love my new job and I personally think it's very foolish to have affairs at work. I stayed strong and continue to be just friends with her. She gradually got the message that she was in the f-zone and has begun to despise me. She ignores my greetings, gives me evil witch looks, rudely interrupting my conversations etc. Someone I've never disrespected once o, you'll just wake up and decide to hate a nigga.

I can't react because I'm new there. It's too early to start forming I-don't-take-rubbish. I need my bosses to believe I'm mature and can keep my cool consistently. She's been working in the company for 4 years, she's older than me and earns more. Atm, I can only chop her nonsense drama but it's haaaaard. Plus, I'm desperate to be cool with as many colleagues.

Not generalizing but I see this too often and no one rants about it. These ladies need to stop being hypocrites and chop their yawa nicely. Do they also say "yes" to every Tunde, Femi and Emeka that comes their way? They can go as far as ruining your reputation. Abeg guys have taste too.

Stupedinluv:
This thread is boring.

Anyway, I heard somewhere that ugly people have a way of seeing great beauty in average looking peeps. Dunno how true sha

And where do you fall in? "Ugly people" or "average looking peeps"?

You keep acting like you're none of the above.

vizkiz:
[b] I don't need to be a lady before using my IQ to judge those "lists" you have up there.

A girl using am expensive phone is broke? Do you know what she does for a living

They spend too much on make ups so they are broke? Seems the kindda make ups you use are the 700naira own. So when you see a girl spending 70k on make up you think she is broke?

Going to expensive restaurants in groups? I have never ever visited a restaurant alone. It is either i am on a date or with friends because I hate sitting alone in a public place. So does that makes me broke

They use fake leg chains. Well you are somehow right here but do you know aunty linda ikeji bought some fake handbags few weeks ago? Is she broke

They worship their boyfriend. You have to be shallow in thoughts to think that way. Because a girl "adores" her man doesn't make her broke. Some people cherish what they have because you don't know what they have been through in the past

They are always on nairaland. Now this is stuppid... Do you know how many millionaires are on nairaland Do you know how much people make here daily apart from the founder (seun) not everybody comes here to display stupidity like you frequently do


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Easy, man.

oliviacute:
show me d beautiful galx without make up not doze dat paint their face if u think am lying check d before make up and afta make up ov xum galx.

How hypocritical of you!

Everyone will be there taking Tiwa Savage's side in this whole ish. What is it with females being in relationships or marrying bad boys and hoping their love for him will turn him to a prince. I'm 100% sure Teebillz gave Tiwa Savage more than 100 red flags that he was far from fit to be a father and a husband.

We've seen it over and over and over again and everyone can't understand why some females keep falling for these "bad boys". Na curse? They'll be like "We love bad boys joor" "They're hot and fun jare" "Who nice guys don epp?" Then when he destroys her heart she'll be crying about, forming victim. Olodos!

Nothing can be resolved because Teebillz is NOT husband material. Is Tiwa even wife material sef? What a horrible union.

Girls will be coming her to give dodo "yes we love shy guys. They're so mysterious" "we hate don't prefer loud guys". Guy, the reality is they get bored of shy guys fast and will be drawn towards the loud guys.

...except you're rich tho. You can trap any single naija babe even if you're mute.

mimzy:
Like seriously!!! What the heck!!! I just read a story on FP bout a wife (and her friends) that beat up her husband's mistress at work, used scissors to cut her hair, stripped her, poured slimy substances on her body and made her walk naked from the office to the car!!!

This is all shades of wrong!!! Whatever in the world happened to the woman beating up her husband if she really wants to prove macho If there is anyone that should be put in check, it is the husband for crying out loud, she has not freakn business with that mistress.

Yes, the wife has every right to be angry but she has absolutely no RIGHT WHATSOEVER TO TOUCH THAT LADY!!!
If you as a woman cannot put your husband/boyfriend/fiance in his place, then do not go about picking up your man's phone to curse,stalk or arrange to have their mistresses beaten!!! its b*sh!t.

Until you find out it was your husband's secretary seducing him with her short skirts and full cleavage. Not condoning violence but to talk as if the mistress should be allowed to walk...Well, it has to happen to you 1st (don't wish it for you, though) to completely empathise with the wife. Men find it very, very hard to turn down offers and if you know the woman who exploits his weakness, are only gonna confront your man or are you also gonna be an alpha female and show biatch he's yours alone?

amtaken:
So you honestly think Buhari is probing all erred politicians?

What of Tinubu, Amechi, Fashola, Atiku, Ambode etc.


All Buhari is doing is witch-hunting. If you can't see it then no need of wasting my precious time talking to you. Thanks.

I feel I'm wasting my time too because I think it's very unclear to you the corruption Nigeria has suffered in the hands of PDP...but in your world PDP should remain because their last presidential candidate was from your side. Whether the next APC presidential candidate is Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa, I'm 100% with him.

Let go of GEJ's loss and move on, stop your biased views, unfair judgments and irrational hate due to tribalism and hope APC will be far better than PDP at the end of the day.

GOOD NIGHT, AMAKA!

FowlYansh:
This is what you get when you vote APC.

Lemme guess. You're Igbo still hurt GEJ wasn't reelected even after belonging to the most corrupt democratic party ever, PDP. I am 100% sure if our current president was Igbo, you won't be taking shots. Bloody tribalism in this country makes me sick.

Some of you will be wishing things get worse for Nigeria so you can say "Buhari failed" instead of supporting your own country and hoping your president, whoever he is, makes the country better.

The reality is this woman won't run for her life. She'll be thinking "who'll pay my bills?" "where will I live if I leave?" "he'll collect the car back" "all my friends are married" "i can't cancel my big wedding". Then she'll make up her mind to stay with this monster of a man because she feels worthless or actually is worthless without him.

amtaken:
Buhari's daft policies are affecting everybody in Nigeria negatively so I don't understand why you wanna tribalise this.

The man is trying different things, he's active, he's humbly seeking legit international help, fighting corruption and catching all the politicians that stole right under GEJ's nose. It is the independent marketers of fuel responsible for this fuel scarcity and they even said it openly. Buhari's vision is to make a Nigeria where the public enjoys the country's wealth not the big businessmen and selfish politicians. Are you saying the government should surrender to these greedy traders and let them profit the most from our economy? Do you even know why fuel is expensive? Do you know the story or you just wanna take shots at a man who wants to end corruption?

The end of these greedy fat men is coming BUT it's gonna get worse before it gets better. It's war and losses will happen. Even though you wanted GEJ, it's in the past. Hope and pray God helps Buhari to make your own country better. Hating won't do a damn thing, it will only get you worked up.

I swear, #7 is my personal reason. I'm good with fine babes but I think long term...and I know my fellow niggas. I worry if the relationship can stand the pressure and if she might give up and be with a fresher nigga.

It's all Chris Brown's fault when he sang "Loyal", now niggas are paranoid.

amtaken:


Punch is as daft as Buhari.

Lemme guess. You're Igbo and you think GEJ is a better president. Why must men from your side rule this country, go and sit down joor!

Judge Buhari after his four years.

I swear, if she gave me these signs or I get a concrete evidence...I'll just call her up one late night waking her up from her sweet sleep and say these three words "WE ARE DONE!". Cut the phone instantly, no explanation.

When you're about to break up with a cheater or a babe giving you the signs listed above (even though she ain't cheating), DONT PUT THE BALL IN HER COURT! Just end it coldly and never look back. All these "why babe?" "what did I do?" "is he better than I me?" "is he more endowed or richer?" will make her know she has complete control over your weak ass. In fact, she's more likely to be more remorseful and want you back when you ex her abruptly. After doing this, the ball is in your court.......THEN MAKE THE BITCH PAY!

BitterTruthUass:
As much as girls sleep around, guys sleep around too. There is no place in the constitution where it says "Only guys are allowed to sleep around". Sleeping around is disgusting and I'm totally against it whether from female or male so I think you should rephrase the details of this thread as it seem to be biased and in favour of guys.

But the last time I checked, "modern" women claim they prefer "experienced men", that they don't want someone that can't "use" it. Y'all can't have that if he doesn't know how to please all kinds of women.

Vick4rill:
lol, u must be a comedian! so u tink nothing goes on in the minds of extrovert, the two ve sumtin great to offer. is jst that former is too naive and lack confidence to execute it, while the latter took the bull by the horn. silence always doesnt mean that a person is wise, it may also be lack of ideas

What the hell is this mumu saying?

There's a difference between being shy and being an introvert. You're just making yourself look proper naive.

And how can you say introverts are dumb? Get out of that small village you live in, BLOODY TOWN CRIER! Introverts are the smartest set of people due to the time they spend alone to develop themselves. We are talking about the great inventors in history, scientists, super brilliant students (go to Harvard and see if they have lousy s like you), professors, authors etc. These people are usually reserved, gentle and can isolate themselves to focus on their goals, assignments and intellectual development. Have you heard of Mark Zuckerberg, Albert Einstein, JK Rowling etc?!

OLODO OSHI!

Nothing against extroverts though, they have their strengths and flaws just like introverts. We need each other, VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE!

misspicy:
And the best way to correct this flawed "modern" Nigerian females is by insulting and bashing them right?

I hope you learn not to correct your kids in that manner,just so you know,it doesn't bring any needed change, it only hardens their heart.






PS: am not implying about the topic at hand,I see no bashing in it

Sometimes, being brutally blunt can come off as hateful bashing BUT it just shows how y'all are important to us. E.g. Shaming gold-diggers because it's disturbing knowing females will leave their struggling nigga for a richer nigga.

Empathise, girl. Niggas are very worried.

vizkiz:
another female bashing thread. Mehn, this trend don dey tire me oh... If we bash all the women for nairaland finish, how many wan remain

"Modern" nigerian females are majorly flawed and they need to be fixed. No Mr Nice Guy cause our future happiness is on the line.

Rexhenrex:
am sorry but it seems you replaced your brain with beef shawamar..

because with this you just posted it can be deduced that you are after her body, if not her physical appearance won't stop you in as much as it quite matters it shouldn't be the reason you won't marry her na...u ma check am na bro. as long as she has manners, and brains I will say stick with her...you both can go for road works together and hit the gym it would help that am sure of...

#don't let her slip away from you...you never know the value of what you have till u loose it!

But the same females you're supporting and fighting for will dump your ass when you're broke and a rich nigga comes along. Laziness is in different forms and laziness will always be a REPULSIVE attribute. She's eating and eating and eating and blowing up without considering her looks, fitness and health, what does that say about her? Who are you to say thats not a serious relationship problem? She's steadily gaining weight and majority of men will find that troubling to the point they start feeling detached.

If "manners and brains" were all that was needed, you'd see an electrician with a model or an obese pepper-seller with a rich celebrity. Physical attraction matters more to men, Financial security matters more to women. EVERYONE wants the whole package but people who can't have their type settle for less.

Some nigerians are bloody ignorant villagers. How can you not know Prince? Smh

RIP, Prince. You stood out at the time when it was hardest for black musicians. Goodbye, brother.

uzolexis:
And it's ok for men to jump from one relationship to the other right Pls you guys should leave women alone, it's our bodies not yours, we are free to decide what to do with it. we don't tell you guys what to do with your bodies.

So women shouldn't be advised and guided through this man's world? You prefer all men to keep quiet while the selfish ones use your bodies out of your ignorance? The thoughtful ones are giving you advice, be grateful.

Stop comparing yourselves to men when it comes to sex, we have ten times your libido. Face facts and wise up, y'all will be wives someday.

Good day, ma'am.

uzolexis:
I am so mad at NL mods who keep taking his topics to FP or is Toks2008 an mod??

What exactly did he do wrong? He's advising women not to readily end a relationship and jump into another because you females suffer more from it. It's just the way things are. Your bodies are more delicate and y'all have to be EXTRA-SENSITIVE about the sexually active relationships you get yourselves into.

Or would you prefer he said you should have series of boyfriends and give your body completely to each of them? The way the world works is a lot of women want experienced men (which I don't personally understand) while most men want inexperienced women because he wants to feel the most significant in her sex life.

ronald4lif:
Mr. Toks never disappoints in brandishing his misogynistic views. Dude, a woman doesn't have to stay in a relationship that's not working just so she doesn't appear to have many exes. If it's not working, she move on. Likewise the guys.

You talked about women being 'ransacked' but never spare a thought for men who are also being ransacked. Why must your opinion be laced with male chauvinism, female belittling and condescending to the women folk. You can do better mate. We already know you're a chauvinist but easy with flaunting it on our faces.

Guy, wake up and face reality, reality as in the world we live in and the way majority of people perceive things. The reality is, most younger men go into relationships for sex (i.e. much higher libido) and if a female is ignorant to the fact, then she'll pay dearly for it. Why will she suffer for it? Men's sexual biology is different from women's (i.e. more delicate) and due to this fact women MUST be highly selective far more than men. However, I see A LOT of women who can't be single for a week. They have very little self-control and fall for any guy with game.

If a sexual active woman is quick to jump from one guy to another "searching" for a sole mate and ignoring the fact that her body is depreciating way faster than a man in the same situation, she'll pay for her ignorance.

So, when Toks2008 is telling women not to quickly jump from one relationship to the other, from my point of view, he's actually advising women to value their bodies and be aware of the consequences of readily quitting.

Men on the other hand aren't scarred sexually from being in multiple sexual relationships. In fact, women are more appealed to these "experienced men". I don't get female logic though.

wemmieslim:
She kissed, what's the big deal?
who doesn't get tempted once in a rear while?
Abeg, forgive her and move on with your relationship.

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Same chick will cry blood if her man kisses another babe.

You really wasted my time, bro.

ireneony:
so unfortunate is daughter his dark skinned what an irony

He's gonna bleach the poor girl. Lol

sukkot:
he walks around with a gun. he has a permit to carry concealed guns so nobody messes with him.

Ha! That explains his extreme confidence.

sukkot:
he has facebook presence too. the article says from ' tommy sotomayor ' . its the same guy. he has like 10 youtube channels and several facebook accounts to spread his message of disgust for the black woman

My bad! I didn't notice the account name "Tommy Mr Controversy Sotomayor". He probably made it up.

I'm aware the uneducated ratchet blacks in America are very very appalling women, but for him, a dark-skinned woman automatically equals a ratchet female that deserves no respect and constant bashing.

If niggas catch that guy...no one will save his hateful ass.

sukkot:
oh by the way the guy is a black guy. he is a youtube celeb called tommy sotomayor and he hates black women. google him. he is a black panamanian american with a huge youtube following

Lmao, Tommy Sotomayor OPENLY hates dark-skinned blacks. The guy doesn't need a random account to show hate, he has like two channels for that.

Guy, I complain about heavy make-up, those ones that the pancaking is so much they look like clowns. Their face will have an obviously different colour from their neck down. How's that attractive to you? Her face is light skinned, her body is dark skinned.

And your examples don't relate, bro. What does the cleanliness of a car or dress have to do with painting the face? Cleaning is about removing stains, dust etc. Making-up is putting substances on your face to COVER NOT CLEAN. You even referenced fake hair and fake nail, those things that are known for harbouring germs. Cleanliness is compulsory to all and making-up isn't, so how are clean men hypocrites by not liking make-up?

Ladies, you look like clowns when you wear heavy make-up. Keep it light, let your natural beauty show, don't shave your eyebrows and paint a new one cause you look like a nollywood movie witch.

Jameskyle:
now what would u have me do in this situation, she's been my friend for a long time now and she needs my help

Guy, are you seriously gonna let random people decide how to live your life?

But if you can't think for yourself, from the description of her husband, he's an aggressive and abusive man. Is that the kinda man's wife you wanna sleep with? If he eventually catches you, you just be another bad news on Linda Ikeji: BOY BUTCHERED AFTER CAUGHT HAVING SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE. Her sex life isn't your business and there's nothing you can personally do for her except advise her and gerrout.