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Talk2Bella:
hahahahahhahaah

I no fit laugh abeg

Your loss though. We would have had mad fun.

Good luck finding a place...actually I take that back so you can end up in my place. *winks*

Must it be a female? I stay at Salem which is quite close to Ikate.

We'll share the flat, the bed, the blanket, the bathroom, the towel...EVERYTHING!

What do you say?

In this system both soil branch pipe (from WC) and waste branch pipe (form shower, basin, kitchen sink) are both connected to a nearby vented vertical drainage pipe. The actual name of the system is single stack drainage system. I hardly see this system around in a place like Nigeria where you would expect the cheaper drainage system to be more common.

Please, we are about to implement this drainage system in one of our projects. I need opinions based on actual experiences.

Thanks.

Prefola:
"Retweets so her future husband can see her"
with such deflated balloons??
well,the future husband will see it but he is in kenya,cuz itx kenyans that admire such...

Wait, wait! So if her jugs were firm before, she'll now be good enough for you? As she is now, you can only have anything to do with the her...in your dreams. So don't criticize bruv.

TheRealestGuy:
The reality is that women are like kids.

You know how kids taunt you an adult sometimes to see your reaction? It's just the same way with most females.

Once you guys have become close, they begin to test the waters to see see your reactions, though I have to admit that they may not be doing it consciously.

So it's up to the man to handle the situation as well as possible. Scold her if you have to, warn her seriously and even raise your voice if you have to. That is the only way they will respect you fully.

If you fail to man up and stand up to the occasion but always letting her get away with the little disrespects as they start, believe me it will get worse. With time she will no longer see you as man enough to be firm with her.

In as much as women want to be pampered and loved, they also subconsciously want you to be firm and scold her when you need to.

My two cents.

You put it well. They're basically little girls inside meaning they naturally have that tendency to become disrespectful if given the room to be.

dnoable08:
Once banana start falling on them they think they have arrived

Especially when the banana is too small and cant fill her tummy...na one chance be dat.

dollytino4real:
rude has different categories. insultive or careless talkers

Different categories ke?

I'll combine both: Why do girls gradually become insultive careless talkers?

My colleagues and I were talking today about how a lot of Nigerian females gradually become rude whether you're in a relationship, you're close friends or colleagues. We talked about how we guys can be free, crack jokes about each other constantly, be generous AND still maintain that respect for each other especially when there is clear age difference.

As a guy who wants to enjoy his friendship/relationship without unnecessary tension, you try to make her laugh, you're generous to her, you don't hold a grudge and let her wrong actions slide for peace of mind etc. With all of these acts they slowly start becoming disrespectful and verbally abusive, they start challenging your decisions and commands to form "equality", they stop becoming as helpful as before, they start giving unnecessary attitude as if they wanna see how mad you can get. They'll basically corrupt the relationship/rapport themselves and leave the guy cracking his brain, wondering how they got there.

I am not here to ask for solutions to this problem e.g. Confront her aggressively, Stop being nice to her, Buy her gifts blah blah blah. All I want to know is why girls spoil a good thing going for no OBVIOUS reason. Y'all ladies should give reasons for this come change in attitude.

Ladies, will the feelings you have for a guy you like change if saw him being bullied in public?

For instance, you two go on your first date at a restaurant. You sit on a table close to a TV. Then a tall, buff guy walks in, approaches your table and says to your date "Make you and your girl comot for here, I wan watch ball." Your date hesitates at first, then the buff guy shouts "GERAROYEH!!!" and slams the table. Now everyone's looking at your date anticipating what he'll do next. He quickly gets up with fear written all over his face and tells you to quickly join him. Some people laugh at him, some whisper "mugu", "coward", "chicken" etc.

Will your feelings change and why?

IAmOged, you're actually proving to us all that women are flawed in choosing a partner. NO MATTER and I repeat again NO MATTER how a relationship starts, whether the guy was too needy or the girl was too clingy, what matters is COMPATIBILITY. Seems you're still a young girl caring way too much about early impressions. I might do everything you say very well (not looking clingy or emotionally dependent) but if think these are the ingredients to make a relationship work then you have a lot to learn. If the man right for you initially shows more emotions than you prefer and you ignore him for a guy who gives you less interest because he has about 5 other babes, whose loss is it?

Please, can you kindly tell me how majority of relationships start? You'll agree with me that in almost all cases the man show a great amount of interest initially and tries to WOO her. It's most likely what you father did to your mum. He was ATTRACTED to her and gave her that "needy love" which she accepted and matured into something more real. It's in our DNA but you're telling us to fight it? WAIT THERE! If a man doesn't show this "needy love" you're complaining about, its because he doesn't find you attractive, he has too many options, he's too shy, too proud or too busy.

Tbh, I understand what you're saying but because you want your man to act a certain way doesn't mean ALL MEN should act that way. Like, your post is the very reason y'all get used and dumped by the "bad boys".

ButterFrost212:

I dumped my ex after a month though, and he called the day after I agreed to date my present bf.
Some guys are just funny. Why would you be keeping malice with me for that long? I call you, you don't pick? That should be me, not you. Nobody has time for that kind of drama!

So it's okay for you to keep malice but not him? Y'all don't get yourselves. You give drama but you can't take it.

I would sue her if it were me. That level of deception should be against the law.

Was waiting to see the "virginity lie". Loool

Slaveman343:
Summary of the whole fight:

Bad men will always flock around bad chicks. These bad men are the hypocritical men.

They praise you this moment and condemn you in the next. They are mostly immature and unstable.

Ladies if you want to attract this kind of men, make sure you are fake, bitchy and dress revealing most times.

They will fill your posts with likes and loves. But brace yourself up when the music stops, because they will cuss you down.


On the other hand, good men flock around good women. Good women are always decently dressed, smart, and some are very beautiful.

Good men would never bad-talk you or go hypocritical. And you have nothing to lose around them.

Women, ladies dont be carried away. Dont belittle the power of discernment it can save you so many life troubles.

I am not a good man yet i am working towards that. I have a kid sister to look after and i dont want to give her a bad impression about men. Not all men are jerks.

You buried it, man.

Trust me, a lot of them know the good men. Money and status is what is the major appeal these days not being a good guy, it won't pay their bills. Their wahala sha.

khiaa:
Whaaaaaat? Don't you comprehend what I wrote. Let me break it down for you in simple terms. I THINK THAT YOU MEN SHOULD STOP CATERING TO WOMEN SO THAT THEY WOULD HAVE TO LEARN TO PROVIDE FOR THEMSELVES!!!
If you men continue to be the simps that you are portraying, they will continue playing/using you.
*Waiting for the female haters* but I don't care.

Yeah, men do play a big part in women being overly dependent. I personally feel it stems from low self-esteem; a man has to spend on a chick to make her like him because his personality isn't good enough to keep her around. Some men can go as far as wooing chicks with expensive gifts...just wooing oh! Like she doesn't even know your surname. Smh.

About men on money:
Guys feel its not his RESPONSIBILITY to cater for majority of her material needs. Because he doesn't feel responsible doesn't mean he doesn't want her to look beautiful. You don't agree? Okay, you want a successful man, did you contribute to his success? You want a good looking man, did you contribute to his fine face, muscular body? You want a tall man, did you feed him enough beans growing up (jokes)? If I want a beautiful woman, you are saying I am responsible for her clothes, make-up, fake hair, nice ride etc. Okay, if you're looking for a rich young man, go get him the success. Believe me, when us men complaining about needy women, it's not that we want a woman who is totally independent on us. We want to help a woman who helps herself. No man wants a liability, no man wants to be used. Do you want a man who wants you just sex? Exactly! We don't want a woman who wants us just for money.

About men on make-up:
Make-up is used to enhance your beauty NOT to be your beauty. It's hard for a person to tell how a woman naturally looks behind her make-up so men fall...and end up feeling deceived (can you look at a woman wearing make-up and tell exactly how she looks without make-up?). He was seeing a light-skinned chick with thick eyebrows now he's a dark-skinned chick with no eyebrows. Men aren't complaining about women looking beautiful, men are complaining about women being deceptive. They're two different things.

About men following girls dressing slutty on social media:
You need to know how the male body works. Men are naturally lustful creatures and only a naive or foolish person will disagree. A man being lustful doesn't mean he's brainless. Now, there are instinctive actions and logical actions. Instinctive actions are made based on what the body naturally wants, feels etc. In this case, consequences aren't thought of. Logical actions are based on reasoning. In this case, you think of the consequences of an action before taking it. EVERYONE including you is a blend of logical and instinctive actions. Because you make instinctive decisions doesn't mean you can't make logical ones. NOW, because a man follows a slutty chick on instagram (instinctively thinking about his balls), does that mean he can't advise you that posting slutty pics online will be detrimental to your future (logically thinking about YOUR future)? Listen, YOU are responsible for the choices and actions you make. If you decide to live your life by good advice of a logical man, your choice. If you decide to live your life by actions of a lustful man, your bloody choice. By the way, there are women on social media who dress BEAUTIFUL, who don't need to dress SLUTTY and still have loads of followers. It's called class.



*drops mic*

Negan is the best villain the series ever and will ever have.

You guys screaming he should die, he's gonna be a very important person on the show. He essentially replaced the main characters...by killing them.

Been following the comics for like 3 years and I already knew Glenn was gonna go. At first y'all will hate Negan with all your hearts but trust me, you'll love him down the line. Why? Because he's BY FAR the most entertaining character on the walking dead (speaking from the comic).

And SPOIL ALERT...












He's still alive in the comics' latest issue (about 3 years after Glenn's death) for those hoping he'll die soon. You really have no choice but to accept and love him.

The truth is women love a "ladies man" i.e. the kinda guy that has the looks, the assets, the yanz to keep all them ladies hooked. So my advice is to find yourself an ugly, broke and boring "nice guy" that your fellow females don't give a damn about so you can have him all to yourself.

No, that's not his daughter. She's on instagram. She's an upcoming actress and a model for Delta Soap.

jonaifame22:
Wat is recession?

Jamb question.

Benita27:
Is money everything in a relationship?, is your gf dating you because you have money or because she saw something in you?.

The recession only affects Oloshos as was told.

Please ask your fellow women that question because we guys have been asking the same.

The recession affects everyone in some kinda way, are you dreaming?

Even some years ago when things weren't as bad, money was always the confam way to keep a chick hooked but personality and looks were important to an extent for some. You'd hear them bring up sense of humor, faithfulness, height, body fitness, face, maturity, respect etc.

Now, with the way men are losing jobs and the unemployed ones can't find one...

- Do you feel men must still attain financial stability to commit even in this ?
- If so, do you feel other qualities remain important to you even though financial stability is harder more than ever? Please, name them.

Because, the reality is things are so so tough; The rich are getting less richer, the poor are getting more poorer. So ladies, let's us know how this recession and increase in brokeness have affected your taste in men.

Debbywills:
You are definitely dumb, it's dumb guys like you that take advantage of girls.
If you think the least way to get into a girl's panties is meatpie, then you have a thousand miles to treak
Useless he-goat with a cheap mentality.

Hahaha! Why you so mad? I'm not cheap and I never took a side. He gave a very impressive comeback.

Has the pain from the diss subsided? I wish you speedy recovery.

Peacetemi:
I don't have to boast
Just tell your fellow lazy FishBrain beggars to stop begging and go make something out of their lives. Be a successful woman and stop begging for meatpie.

This has to be the diss of the year. BRAVO!!!

Debbywills, I hope you use this life-changing experience to become a better person.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#9999ff] .clothing determines a partners faithfulness? Her behavior ? the logic.
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Op is trying 2 justify the actions of a chearter by victim blaming.
Why don't we hold every1 accountable for their own actions? Yeah?[/color]

He said "increases a woman's chances". Get what he's trying to say before getting defensive.

As a man I'm telling you, what makes a man want to commit to you highly affects the outcome of the relationship. Think of it too; if a rich dude likes to flash his cash and is very extravagant, what kinda woman would he OBVIOUSLY attract? Gold-diggers! If she cheats or dumps him for a more wealthy show-off just to climb the social ladder...he brought it upon himself.

There's a degree of truth to stereotypes; people who look a certain way, act a certain way...not all the time OBVIOUSLY.

I'll give her attitude adjustment (John Cena's finishing move).

Oliviaarims:
@the emboldened. That's the way to go. That's one thing I've come to realize and a personal decision I've made. The whole boyfriend/girlfriend kind of relationship is one big waste of time, detrimental especially to the girl. I've more or less had two relationships and I think I'm done with having anyone call me his girlfriend. When he's ready for business, we'll court and he's got to agree to a no-sex relationship. But until then, I'm just very fine being single.

All in the name of bf/gf, people date for almost a decade and then someone walks away...#shivers#. That's crazy!

We are on the same page I swear. I'm single and not a fan of futile relationships. Letting yourself be physically, emotionally, financially vulnerable to someone who won't be down with you till the end (or plans to be) makes little sense. We live in a selfish world so why give power over me to a random person simply because I "like" the person?

Occasionally, we do get to meet that rare someone that makes us want to commit and have all to ourselves...but it's out of selfishness and impatience. Timing is just as important as compatibility. You get?

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

But she's allowed to collect his hard earned money without doubts?

Please, your boyfriends are not your fathers. The way a woman depends on her man financially is the same was a man depends on his woman physically.

A logical woman who really wants to abstain from sex won't go into a relationship knowing fully well her man just like majority of men would want to smash.

When did relationship become about only taking care of a woman's needs (financial, emotional, romantic)?

If no sex before marriage, then no relationships till it's time to court.

I'm laughing hard right now. Mostly accurate. Pete Edochie, Mama G, Eucharia, Jim Iyke and Kanayo O. Kanayo were the bests.

lovethchioma:
Dude you are talking nonsense. I am a Lady. You better not generalise it oo. Any lady that prefers a man who bosses her around and treats her with disrespect, has got no self esteem.
Marrying a man older than us doesn't translate to liking a man who is arrogant and aggressive.
You better change this mentality, I wonder the kind of ladies you have been meeting all your life.
Just know you can't try that with any kind of lady. Some Nigerian Men and their shallow mentality

Why are you assuming things I never said? If you father shows dominance in his house, does it mean he's disrespectful? If a CEO bosses his staffs, does it mean he's rude? If I have power over my woman, it doesn't automatically make me a bad person. It's abusing it that does.

I'm talking as a man who has had loads of experience with women as a friend or more; once a man's woman grows balls to talk to him anyhow and disrespect him the relationship is a sinking ship. A lot of women know this so they are drawn to men who they can't walk all over, the aggressive males, not the doormats a.k.a. nice guys.

Please, I'm not advocating physical and verbal abuse.

sarahade:
You just proved you are a weakling. Don't be scared women will do better ruling this world. And to any woman that has ears, a man is not better than you or stronger than you.

Your duty is to guide him nothing more. God created every thing a man has to rule over and he failed that's why God created women to crown it all. The first shall be the last and the last the first.

And tommychow the likes of you can't even gaze at me. I match with Men not c*ck inhabitants like you. Thanks

I never said anything about physical, emotional and verbal abuse towards women. I only talked about men being in control in a relationship and showing toughness to maintain the RESPECT and ATTRACTION his woman has for him. Do I have to provide articles to you to enlighten your ass?

You know you love the tough guys, you're probably fighting it. Embrace it, it's in your DNA.

sarahade:
Any man that feels he needs to control a woman to b man needs electric shock therapy. Weaklings we call men nowadays. SMH

Keep lying to yourself. You might as well marry a doormat that you can control. Listen naive little child, there can't be two captains on a ship. If a man can't control his woman, she'll gradually lose respect for him.

I pity the guys that are chopping your yanz. For you to keep babes, you have to do what works not what makes sense to you. WOMEN DON'T WANT AN EQUAL; they want a man taller, stronger, richer and more aggressive not softer and more submissive. It's in their genes.