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dasparrow:
You know, it is chauvinist men like you that I wish will mistakenly date any of my single female family members so that I will have an excuse to leave you permanently disabled. You will never be able to use your legs or arms again after one encounter with people like me who protect their sisters and female cousins like an aggressive lion. Just because your father treated your mother like trash and got away with it does not mean you can try the same shyte with some other people's daughters/sisters/cousins and get away with it too. In fact, my brothers and I will make a scapegoat out of you to teach you and other hopeless chauvinist Nigerian pricks out there a big lesson you all won't be so quick to forget. Next time when you come across a lady, you will inquire about what family she comes from first before commencing with your chauvinist bull shyte.

Well, have you asked yourself why women are okay with marrying men way older than them, that will be man enough to boss them around? Why do women say they hate nice guys? Why do women find more aggressive men more appealing than the softer, gentle guys? The want the alpha male not the beta male. Shout from today till tomorrow, it won't change the fact that most women want to be dominated. They crave men who want to control them.

If you're a woman I understand why you feel this way but doesn't change the fact you're a little crazy. How are you gonna get your brothers to make me a scapegoat? Please, I'm waiting.

You even often hear it from females themselves saying "we want a man who can be tough, controlling and put us in our place. We don't like guys that can't be aggressive". For y'all to ask for these kinda men to keep you in check, you're indirectly admitting you have issues, that you lack self-discipline, that you need a daddy figure to boss you like you're still a 12 year old.

I have seen this time and time again and it pisses me off. You'd is a woman gentle and submissive as hell when she's with the domineering, proud guy but when she's with the gentle, chivalrous guy watch her instantly or sloooowly transform to being obnoxious. I said "slowly" because some females gradually develop into unnecessarily rude; you'll just notice one day "ah ahn, when did you start talking to me like this?" "What's with the bad attitude towards me?" "But I'm good to you". Even if she doesn't show rudeness, she'll show disappointment and subtle lack of interest because you lack the balls to 'daddy' her.

I know being aggressive with females works like a charm, in fact I'll be wondering why? GUYS, always form "i don't take rubbish" every time she disrespects you in the slightest way even if its unintentional and watch her melt and fall deeper in love. Even if you have money, good looks, fun personality but you lack the aggressive, controlling, domineering attitude she'll start to question your manliness. She might stay especially if the money is flowing but her heart is most likely not there because you're not giving her the challenge she's craving for.

And that's how guys get friendzoned. Listen, every babe has at least 10 guys on her list. If you're forming lets be friends first, she'll lose interest eventually. And guess what, immediately a guy she finds very attractive comes up to her boldly telling her he wants her...FORGET IT!

You soft guys need to learn how to lock a babe down, play games (girls love the thrill) and get her hooked...But DO NOT get emotionally attached. Now that she wants you, take it slow, be her friend. By doing this, the ball is you your court: you can assess her while she waits for you to take it further.

This is a foolish question made up by lazy, fat, potbellied and physically unattractive men to justify being lazy, fat, potbellied and physically unattractive. They're trying to belittle struggling men who fortunately look fitter than them and STUPID NIGERIAN GIRLS are feeding their ego by answering this pointless question.

Anyone who thinks getting ripped is so damn easy, I'll give you one year to change from fat to ripped and it won't be enough. It takes A LOT of hardwork and dedication to turn your body around but Nigerians are ignorant and backwards as usual. Not saying a nigga should be broke, who doesn't want to live a good life? My point is, this question is ignorant af because choosing to have a ripped body isn't a compensation for not having money.

Lesson to the "modern women" tryna be the boss in the home in the name of "equality". Thing about pride is, if you let it in a little, it starts to grow gradually especially if your partner let's you get away with it too often. Nothing good comes from being proud and arrogant...and nothing good comes from being insecure and passive.

OP, don't jump into conclusions till you finally talk to her. Give her some space though, being clingy pushes females away even more. Don't call for like 2 weeks, focus on work or other babes. She's not your wife yet, don't kill yourself.

Debbywills:
Mr, if we do the aforementioned, you guys will come here again tagging us slot.

In this era, you don't do anything without being questioned. Drop the 'Naija girls' syndrome. Its becoming stale, it happens in all tribes

What is "guys" business with your sex life? Giving y'all advice to improve sex with that one man in your life within the four walls of your room.

Debbywills:
Yes really!! And the screams, squirt, Moans, all joined... We'll be boosting their Ego then we die in silence ..
This is partial,This days, hardly do you see a good sexual partner

And whose fault is that?

Experiment on yourself, learn what your body needs...and freaking communicate tactfully to your man. Tell him you want to teach him new things as a way to spark up the sex. If you don't understand want your body needs, why do y'all expect someone else to?

You naija females are sexually boring, I swear. All y'all do is lay there like a log of wood, spread legs and shout "Ye! Ye! Ye!"

Funny y'all are choosing a broke guy because according to statistics money is the leading cause of break-ups and divorce...not infidelity.

From what I see around personally, a man can't be attractive to a woman just because he's faithful but he's hell of attractive if he's rich. You don't see girls chasing a guy because he has a good record of not cheating.

Let's not forget woman are fond of lying to themselves that they can change a bad guy with her love. "What if I can change this unfaithful rich guy to be committed to me alone, I'll enjoy all his wealth for life". "Who 'faithful' don epp? Sha 'faithful' fit buy me car? Mmmtchew".

Hungry girls!

attackgat:
Buhari is a deluded man. All he is doing is 'money recovery'. I'm not saying that going after people who have embezzled public funds is a bad thing, but it is just a small part of fighting corruption. What about those that are currently embezzling funds now under Buhari? What has Buhari done to ensure accountability in all spheres of Government? What has he done to ensure that Local Government Chairmen don't pocket monthly allocations? That Governors don't steal? What is Buhari doing to see that "Egunje" still being extorted by the armed forces from Police to the Army becomes a thing of the past?As Buhari goes after funds looted in the past, the current office holders are busy looting away. Buhari is just a clueless dullard.

It's called one step at a time, smart man. And who gave you concrete evidence of all this allegations? I'm pretty sure you're Igbo.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#cc66ff]My tolerance level is low,so if you do get from my face[/color]

Forming tough chic incognito, funny gal.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#cc66ff]•Form that trash you just spewed, I know you sure ain't a "wowsweetguy" but a double standard having clown! [/color]

Chill, the guy is getting the girls so the girls are the cheap ones. Crazy how women can throw themselves shamelessly at a boy. Is it money? Has to be cause nothing else makes sense.

Recently in Nigeria, divorce is increasingly becoming acceptable especially amongst younger generations. I have attended the best of the best weddings in the past and hearing now that some of these marriages are on the rocks and it's deeply worrying. Couples don't marry to divorce, certain things destroy marriages beyond repair and it varies from marriage to marriage.

So NL ladies, besides domestic violence which 100% of you will mention, I wanna know the 3 major things that will make you INSTANTLY want a divorce. You can use the list below or name yours. Give reasons if you can.

- Infidelity
- Unemployment/low income
- Poor communication
- Over submissiveness (i.e. becoming a doormat)
- Adding excessive weight
- Poor sex (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, very tiny tool etc.)
- Over-dedication to his work and very little free time
- Infertility
- Too controlling
- Too clingy
- Excessive smoking and/or drinking
- Marrying a second wife

Note: By choosing your top 3, it doesn't imply you can tolerate the other ones...it's just TOP 3.

fellis:
You see all these men? They are all superior to you.
They are better than you and their lives have more value than yours.
The first is a theif, the second is a mass murderer and the third are three mentally unbalanced/lunatics in an insane asylum.

They are all superior to you dolly joy.


I didn't just insult you by the way, you said men will always be superior to women so I am showing you pictures of different men that are superior to you.

Duuuuude, stop this. Is this supposed to be a sensible argument? Why do people use exceptions to form an argument? What about messed up women too, are you gonna use them to represent the while woman race?

The argument is superiority in terms of leadership and who is fit to dominate the other not morality.

Good down memory lane and see the battles between men, do women wanna step up to that level of power struggle? Women should know their role and shut the hell up.

LuveU2:
I think i have finally come to agree with guys that say this.
Our typical behaviour is not very appealing and encouraging. Look, deny it or not, we always try to act or think like "other girls" forgetting our unique personalities,likes.

Other girls change their accents, typical of us we must change ours. Our hearty laughters we replace with brief opening of our teeth. We snub because other girls snub. We ignore our messages cos thats what big gals do. We talk small talks like other girls.

Heavens, we can't breath freely, always looking up for "what should be done" instead of sharing who we are with others

Great to know a chics can be open about it. Lots of naija babes are too robotic. Once you see a materialistic looking naij chic, you already know how she'll be acting. Snobbish, vain, faking accent, 24 hours of heavy make-up, one word replies during chats, always waiting for niggas to call, only friends seen with her are other robotic babes, you must have a whip just to collect number, forming shakara with her expensive phone etc.

I'll be wondering how these females don't get tired of their charade. Like, is your personality that shitty you have to act and look like a particular kinda woman? Damn!

Berlyn:
hey! Why are you so spiteful/judgmental? Why can't you just mind your business

My bad . Good luck with Lalasticlala.

Berlyn:
i can pay your bills trust me

With whose hard earned money? Stop jonzing, little one.

Berlyn:
Lalasticlala why cant you just upload your pics for Nl to see how cute you look,



whats your fear




Maybe you aint real sef






looking forward to see your cute face soon

You're probably below 20 and/or haven't started working to pay your bills. Because I'm wondering why you have time for this.

Y'all are talking like you don't know your Nigerian women. They can be a third wife just for the 'good life'. She knows the right thing to do but she choose to be in denial just so she can continue her relationship with him. Sending her gifts and promised to marry her and go to be based in UK? How many naija babes will turn that down in this wicked economy?

OnaRegina:
When my boyfriend and I go out, I make sure to sometimes pay and don't leave him to pay all the time. I think I pay a lot of the time actually. He earns more than me. However, recently, we went out with some friends and when he tried to pay with his card, there was an issue with the POS machine so I had to pay for him and myself. He mentioned that he would give me the cash later for both of us. When we drove to the ATM later, he took out the complete amount (covering both our bills that I had paid). I noticed that he initially counted out the full amount but later only gave me the money he owed for just his own bill. He had told me in front of our friends that he would repay me the amount for both our bills and besides when he attempted to pay using POS at the restaurant, it was for both our bills. So I dont know why he did that.

Also, in the 9 months we've been together, he has never bought me a gift (not even on my birthday or valentines) and at Christmas, he gave me a book he'd just finished reading as my present. To be fair, I didnt give him anything for christmas but I did give him something for his birthday.

When I travelled, I asked him what he wanted and he said nothing as he didnt want to feel obliged to return the kindness. I found that odd. I wasnt trying to buy him something so he could return the favour. Nevertheless, I bought him a small gift anyway.

I spoke to him about it and told him that while I'm not expecting expensive gifts, giving in a relationship is nice. I suggested chocolates or flowers and he said he didnt know etc.

Are my expectations high (based on the brief background I've just given) or is this sounding like a stingy guy to you? I feel a bit resentful but want to be reasonable about the whole thing.

Thanks for your sensible comments/advice.

Don't listen to all those small girls making noise up there.

He might be the saving type. You need to honestly make this observation before jumping into conclusions. Does he spend a lot on himself? Does he buy new clothes often, use the latest smartphone, go clubbing, dine at fancy restaurants, go to the cinema regs etc? Listen, some guys have been through a lot in the past (i.e. serious brokeness) and develop fear of being broke even after making lots of money: Peniaphobia. If a guy is unwilling to enjoy his own money, don't expect anything from him.

OR...
he might be acting on bad relationships in the past. Imagine if he was used and dumped for his money, he probably wouldn't feel comfortable blowing cash on you.

Just enjoy the good things about him...except you're in the relationship for the goodies in which case he's not your type. No guy is perfect, the next guy you dump him for might be generous but unfaithful. It's up to you to decide what you can tolerate and what you can't.

Vickyydera:
Most times, men are the cause of these failed relationships.

That statement is when you shot yourself in the foot. You castigate guys for generalizing then you do the same. HYPOCRITICAL! Do you now expect us to take your advice?

blackfase:
I appreciate ur matured rebuttal. But d point here aint even about PDP or APC. Its about getting d job done and not stuffing our faces with silly excuses of subtle "it-y'alls-faults" mind games. He knew d enormity of challenges there. His ruling government controls d security apparatchik. There r quite other measures they can come up with only if they choose to dust their sleeves and put on their thinking caps. And to think dude got d moral bent to chastise Jonathan on this same issue beggars belief. And i could still rant on, abegi.... People r really suffering out ther cos of this light ish, he can honourably concede d kitchen is too hot for him, thers no shame in it, they shuld just stop taking us for granted.
By d way, no tribal nothing here, im fully Yoruba. We just dont take prisoners whether d party involved belongs to our clan or not. We serve them hot ni, just d way it is.

I get your frustration but I have a question. Is there anyone in this world that will find a solution to this light issue when the source of electricity is being vandalized. It's a no-brainer, sir. I am telling you no progress in this country will be made if we don't tackle the two major challenges Nigeria has now: Security and Corruption.

Are Nigerians expecting magic to produce electricity? People are ranting "if APC couldn't improve electricity, they should have at least maintained it". Please, did FG sponsor Avengers to destroy pipelines to make people suffer and make their work harder? NO! The issue is national security. Fashola is one of the few politicians with a good track record, so for you all to crucify him as if he's one of dodgy ones is unfair.

Let's conclude that we have differents.

Good night.

Today is my first time really going through the Politics section on Nairaland and I've been shaking my head all day. If it's not Yourubas bashing Igbos, it's Igbos bashing Hausas. But please answer me this question: What will winning an argument that "your tribe is the best" do for your life? Will your condition change? NO! None of that will happen...but let me tell you the one thing that happens when y'all post these hateful threads: You are fueling tribalism, keeping it alive and passing the hate down to the younger generation.

We as black people rant and complain about racism towards us yet a set of hateful people will do the same and say another tribe is inferior to theirs. Listen to me, by supporting tribalism you are also supporting racism, sexism, classism and every other form of prejudice that exist. Intelligent people understand what I am saying. If you have lower IQ lemme break it down to you. Did you have a choice of what life you wanted to be born into? We're you like "Nah, I don't wanna be Hausa or I don't wanna be Chinese or I don't wanna be a woman"? We opened our eyes and found ourselves where we are now GBAM!. You obviously don't want to be prejudiced for who you are but yet some of you do the opposite.

What we younger educated ones can do is be the difference this country needs. We are the ones that will rule this country some day and we NEED to kill this pointless hate. An innocent person IS AN INNOCENT PERSON, my guy forget tribe abeg.

No matter who you are or where you're from...

SAY NO TO VIOLENCE
SAY NO TO TRIBALISM
SAY NO TO WAR

SAY YES TO UNITY AND PEACE.

Don't let satan work through you.

refreshrate:
Yes let pdp come back
There was light & I didn't pay this much for power failure
We had tomatoes
Dollar exchange made sense
Fuel was almost half of the present cost
People did not lose jobs en masse

What good has your apc done
Name one just one

Brood of apologists that God must surely punish

Same thing the Israelites said when Moses got them out of Egypt, "We want to go back to Egypt, life was better there than this desert". Nigerians has always been one the poorest countries in the world. Why? Because of corruption. Now, fighting this corruption, isn't gonna be a walk in the park. We need to break free from corruption if this country has to grow progressively. I'm not saying I'm happy with what's going on, with the difficulties and suffering but I believe and pray everyday God has a plan for us. The Avengers want war against corruption to stop. A logical person can only assume Avengers are being sponsored by power-thirsty politicians who don't care if their people suffer.

Dude, your hating won't do anything. This is your country and you should hope that whoever is ruling it whether Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba succeeds. Buhari has 3 more years to go. A lot can happen in 3 years, let's hope and pray it's all positives.

Well, if you want more destruction in the country and failure from Buhari's administration just so PDP gets back in power and continue their power trip, you're an avenger without a gun.

Say no to violence, say yes to peace.

blackfase:
Very nonsensical and foolish line of defence from a clueless and failure of a Minister. Whats the percentage of vandals destroying power infrastructure to the multitude of Nigerians that hopelessly wait for idiots like you to act, imagine him banding all Nigerians together?....and for some people to keep referring to this dude as being cerebral. Mtchewww, oshi iranu.

Lawyer wey wan dey do like Engineer na suegbe eh, na suegbe o...#felaliveson

He was wrong to generalise but to blame only him and not the "Avengers" is illogical. Those people are hell bent on destroying this country under Buhari's administration so PDP can get back their power. Are those the people (PDP) you want to rule this country again? PDP politicians will see you, your family, friends, colleagues, state, country suffer just to regain power. Don't be clouded by tribalism.

Naija babes care too much about looking the classiest amongst their peers. Technically, it's their goal in life, their dream...just to be envied.

And if you can't deliver, then she'll move on to the bigger ATM.

What about woman-girls? Are guys supposed to give 'em a pass?

But wait o! You saying we shouldn't ignore them typical gold-digging naija babes and focus on career and financial development? I'll willingly say no. 1, 2, 9 and 10 to a babe with my self-esteem intact.

Don't give a damn. If she truly likes me for me, she'll convince me otherwise. A proper gold-digger would find her route.

demzylahot:
is he a brother of the night watch ?

OP stabbed us broke niggas to death by posting this.

Let's chill for the red witch...

You betrayed us!

FLOG THE KONJI KOMOT FOR THEIR BODY!