₦airaland Forum

romoruyi:
Oboy she get pride ooooo; just to make a move to kiss na she end relationship; She go don dey die inside for more sef.

I sori for the man who go marry that sister becos she go sabi lie and form well well.

mamafunky:
JUSTIMAGINE

Kingsasian:
Don't be surprise say she don already send the guy pm.......LMAO

hahahaha lwkmd

Guys been pretending they don't want sex on nairaland yet they would think twice b4 bleeping you when you visit them.. Hahaha

harry509:
she always say 2 me she love's me alott n I love her 2. So.... Yu mean I shud apply wisdom ryte n try as mush as posible 2 read her body sign?

klark3:
Op u're absolutely right.

They will never admit it, because they are diffident abt sex by nature. when some ladies exhibit d green lite thing, & u fail to approach them, they get sullen when u even say hello, because they think women who initiate sex, approach guys are perceived to be cheap, that's there mentality though.

My last girl confided in her friend she left me because of sex, but any time I enquire as to why she left, she'll just say am boring, why am I boring, she won't answer. I'll just smile. She never succumbed to my authority, she never respected me, she gets sullen easily, she tagged me as a dull guy.

My advise to guys out there, if u knw u're not ready for sex, pls stay off women, they will only scoff & mock u behind, but when u bang them real hard, they eulogize u as a sharp guy.

Mhizkel:
From my own experience, i av never come across a non-sexual active guy before

harry509:
pls say sumtin ooh am reali reali confuse.

texybaby:
Hmmmm na wa which gurl b dat....I no gree ooo when some of us r looking for guys that will say let's wait till we r committed then u say they left....I'll hardly agree tosyne.2much.....anyway anytin can happen.......but I think there shd b a sort of discussion or agreement bfore d r/ship starts on d said topic......

goodmorning40:
But the bible said they plucked the fruit, do u pluck sex

Hahahaha lwkmd

harry509:
can I trust nigeria gals dis days? My x-gal alwys satisfy me wen we rr 2gada, aldoh b4 I meant her she refuse d 1st day, bt afta sum weeks later she kame 2 visit me, afta aloot of gistn wit sweet words frm me d asorto dance nu b here ooh. So eva since den she satisfy me b4 she 5nally dump d ass @ of me. Bcus she said she dos nt like my characta animo. Well I said 2 maslf life goes on. Afta sum few months later I meant new gal. 2 cut d story short, I demanded 4 sex she said no dat we shud wait afta our weddn, wit all d presure I gave 2 her dat 9t she later agree we shud do it. Bt I nava knew dat was goin 2 b d end of her relationship wit me bcus I sex her dat 9t. She refuse callin me, nt even a an sms frm her. Den I decided 2 call her 1 day 2 ask her y, she said bcus I sex her. Den I pleaded she has 4gven me. Now d nsurs here is dat she told me afta our weddn we can sex d way we like, y she is demandn alott of gift frm me 2 d extnd am even planin 2 pay her sch feels soon wit@ sex xcpt kiss. 2 cut d story shot, pls NL wat is her ntension 2wards me

dharmie092:
I disagree with this, tosyne2much I always love to read ur write-up's but this is a NO! NO for me.

Beamborla:
Okay! Take e easy... ma ti binu.
I never implied you treat them funny.

Yes, I mentioned that they've been taught to keep it in check and that it's a topic that should be discussed.

I've been taught to always be a super woman but isn't it proper someone I love and who claim to love me as well create an enabling environment where I can easily speak my mind on the forbidden topic? I used the word OPEN MIND.

Who goes into a relationship without discussing sex with his or her partner?

Yes, I expect her to say yes or no and mean it. Why withhold such information from whom I claim to love. If you don't discuss it with her, who will you discuss it with?

zenithgroup:
[s] A lady will dump you cos you lack wisdom to keep relationship. The truth is "sex before marriage is bad" but certain things needs to be frequently done to her, to keep her on her toes.
Ok let me ask you this,
1,what do you think her breast is meant for?
2, why do you think she clean and look her best whenever she coming to your place?
3,why do you think she stare at you frequently?
4,what do you think those her voluptuous body meant for?
5,Do you know your woman love language?
Sex is only 10% of relationship

Beamborla:
It's rather unfortunate you fail to see that there is need to treat everyone as an individual. Don't treat the lady next door the way you treat the one in your school / work place.

We all have different up bringing hence, our view and orientation of life is different. Don't forget I used the word 'OPEN MIND' without anyone holding anything back... here you need to let go of all your insecurities and fear and try to be selfish... this is what I want then you remove the selfishness and reach a compromise if you can


This believe / idea of yours actually accounts for some form of subtle rape where guys would Tell you don't mind her she wants it, she's just pretending.

If I can't show you my real color, i doubt if it's love. Something as fragile as sex should be discussed in a relationship it's very wrong to rely on assumption.

Beamborla:
Nope! Ladies have been taught to always hide their sexual desires.


That does not mean every lady who says no to sex is pretending. Some mean it while some don't. Best thing is for the two parties to discuss the issue with an open mind from the onset of the relationship/relationshit

wristwatch:
Woow. Tosin2much. This topic hit FP.

I'm glad my thread hit FP for the first time

** Dancing shoki **

wristwatch:
Well ladies are so complicated. When they see a guy that love sex, they call him sex frick. If he doesn't make advances, they term him impotent.

So whats d way forward. Give her when u perceive she needs it.

Shubbylee:
She doesn't want sex but she wants kissing and touching!! Isn't that a prelude to sex!! she didn't wanna make d 1st move on her own bf so she won't look cheap ! serzly!! that's y some marriages don't last!! some of our Nigerian ladies are just confused and clueless!! they want to be using boys to learn work!! If u don't want sex b4 marriage don't enter a serious relationship b4 u're ready to get married!!

Beamborla:
Jesu oko momi o!
See insult everywhere... all because of sex.
I can't fit shout.



Op, blame the society.

Hahaha

Ladies like sex but have been pretending they hate it since the time of Noah

Euckybaby:
@Mr op.. can you please use the word most ladies because you know is not all ladies..

Now I know you are not one of them

Adaobi12:
can I date you plsss can I date you plsss

I pity you.. You think you can choose a life partner here by their comments

Infomizer:
Methinks stuff like this can only happen on Nairaland. What kinda ladies did you meet sef? Nymphos? How come you're always coming across them?....OgaAde, waka well o! Some babes can fit to set u up o! No be only men dey raype o!

#DropsMic

hahaha

Baba calm down ooooo

NairaMode:
I think most of the guys lie about this.

Most girls would be happy if a guy doesn't bring up the issue of sex or a no-sex relationship.

No one wants a slack pus.sy before marriage.

TrishaP:
I'm going to agree to disagree with that.

b4 nko ? Why wont you disagree with the write-up

It sounds very strange and unusual but it happens for real and has been experienced by me (I'm sure many guys might have one point in time experienced such). However, there are many ladies whose behaviour become more and more bizzare when you fail to do the needful yet they claim SEX is not LOVE

While growing up, my friends always assert that one has to be very perceptive and tactful especially when dealing with ladies who claim they are NOT interested in sex but I used to think it was sorely for their own self-interest; and concern only to relieve their sexual urge not until I got to realize that many ladies truly claim they want NO sex yet they will take you for granted or dump your as.s when you fail to take advantage of their desire for sexual intimacy especially when sex is being initiated by them (anyway you might call this a maximal generalization about Nigerian ladies)

When it comes to dating, sex was always the last thing on my mind but the moment I realized I was being referred to as a VERY DULL DUDE by various species of ladies, I had to upgrade my OS from version 2.5 to version 7.5

I have once been dumped by a lady I loved so much just because I failed to do the needful even when she needed it. She stopped visiting, stopped her frequent phone calls and her love for me headed on diminishing returns. I keep wondering why ladies claim relationship is NOT about sex yet they take you for granted, and in some cases dump you without rolling those dice.

However, most ladies don't totally respect or succumb under a guy's authority, in as much as he's being deprived of what random guys out there are also being deprived of. You do the needful she shows little seriousness and affection afterwards; you do otherwise, she sees you as a dull niqqa and wouldn't think twice before dumping your as.s

Even those who are guilty of this act would storm on this thread and begin to call ladies who are guilty of charge all kind of abusive or insulting names.

Now the question is, Why Do Ladies Claim SEX Is Not LOVE But Dump Guys Who Refuse To Have Sex With Them ?