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ALKARULEZZ:
lol..... Dats why life is full of "ups" and "downs"

We go still put am to order if he fVck-up lyk unib.enstudent

hahaha

I'm not a symbol of perfection so fccck-up is inevitable

AGE they say doesn't define maturity or wisdom but that is not excusable for absolutely behaving like a kid. I'm sure you have seen at least one "childish" guy even though he's through with his degree but still thinks and behaves like a pry 2 school boy

Being mature means a man is able to care of himself and approaches problems with a calm and collected manner. He understands the importance of being a man, being independent and values what he has. One doesn't necessarily have to be rich before he's being regarded as matured, but needs to have a good orientation about money making and ability to influence others to the best of his capabilities

Sadly, the fact that you could admit to see a part of yourself doing one of these things even till now does not give you the audacity to throw punches at me because we are ALL Evolving and we have some maturing to do.

Thanks for taking your time to read Tosyne2much's write-up

Without further ado, let's get started

Guys, Silly Things You Should Stop Doing When Your Are 25yrs& Above

1. Writing Yourself Off Because Of Your Financial Status
Many guys believe that if you consistently make money you will get the lady you desire. This is complete bogus. Your money can however get you a money-grubbing lady that would zoom off when your cash flow no longer meet her needs

The notion that every lady wants money has driven many dudes into developing low self esteem; and acting like ladies puppets. As a matter of fact, no matter how empty your pocket is, no lady can ridicule you unless you give her the chance to. Remember empty pocket is NOT empty destiny

When a guy lacks self confidence and holds himself in low self esteem, he sees money as the only manipulation tool to get the lady he desires

2. Publishing Your Life Plans On Social Media
Having your friends informed about your plans is not a bad idea but it should be done moderately on social sites.

I have a friend who keeps updates of his movements on social sites, That is, he keeps travel, exam and food updates. You see updates like,

Exam Loading 30% ..50%... 100%;

GNS 201 taken down, Com 101 here I come;

In two hour's time, I will be in 400L .... 400L here I come with swag;

Ibadan loading 10%.. Oyo Loading 30%.. Akure Loading.. 100%

Haba !! bros you are no more getting younger for Christ's sake. Passing your messages this way isn't a bad idea,

Another step forward in my academics, Lord I thank you;

Final lap, this calls for celebration;

Lord see me through as I embark on this journey;

Isn't it better that way ?

3. I too Know
A mature guy needs to be polite, respectful, considerate and attentive. Even if you have vast knowledge in Queen's English, do not aim it at using it to mock others. A mature guy respects other people's way of talking knowing fully well that your fluency is NOT a true measure of intelligence.

A negatively minded immature dude will always be complaining and seeing the bad side to everything by antipathy felling that is expressed by condemnation especially when other people are trying to communicate their mind lucidly. Just as we have some self acclaimed mature skull head yet dummies who have no meaningful contribution to make but condemn every write-ups

4. Lying To Ladies So As To Get Liked
The notion that many ladies fall easily for liars doesn't mean you should you should also employ lies to win a lady's heart.

A dude with ambition, distinctive set of goals for himself and holds himself with high self esteem will not be deterred from other people's belief and will not be easily pressured into doing things that he does not believe in.

I personally believe that when a dude has low self esteem, swag-less and does have what it takes to prove his worth, he resort to lying about what he's not just to get liked. I see no reason why I should lie to a lady about being in 400L when I'm currently schooling in a Polytechnic. Ooooh common this is pure discombobulation.. You have to be confident in yourself, who you are, stay true to your word and true to yourself

5. Generally Acting Like An Idi.ot
I detest guys who act like idiots when they spot a lady. At 25, a lady passes and you have to show your stupidity by hissing or shouting. ''see ukwu", or ''see ynash''.. Isn't that foolishness ?

You have to bring out that your Q5 or Ipad just the moment you spot a lady and that's when you start singing, doesn't that make you a plain idi.ot ?
The truth is, you don't have to flaunt your electronic gadgets to show how sophisticated you are. Your worth can be proven even with a torchlight phone of N2, 000

If you are 25yrs and above you still find yourself doing this, then it's a clear indication that you are a certified idiot. Even if you seem immature inwardly, you don't have to display it outside

6. Sagging Of Trouser
In my personal view, men that are guilty of this are not worth my respect. I just can't fathom why or how a grown up man would put his trouser beneath his buttocks and go about sagging and prancing around the streets. It doesn't NOT make you look like a big boy but it makes you look weird, absurd and childish .

Someone who spends more time pursuing his passion/ aspirations would never go about sagging his trouser and go about walk bouncing the streets.. If not for the epileptic economic state of the nation you should be through with child bearing


7. Chasing Your Kid Sister's Mate From Street To Street
The notion that one should enjoy his youthful days judiciously doesn't mean you should go about chasing anything putting on skirts around the streets.

Also, chasing and keeping different species of ladies is NOT and achievement and will never be an achievement anytime anyday. When you are 25yrs & above and you are guilty of this, you are silly.

By the time nemesis catches up you with, you will start running from churches to mosques to Guru Maraji crying for deliverance

8. Going To A Party Without Being Invited.
I personally don't go to parties where I'm not invited unless I'm going with a friend who was invited. This shows self respect and discipline. You shouldn't be present anywhere things are being given for free

9. Raising Shoulders To Neighbours
It's paramount to know that the farther you go in life, the humbler you should become. That your parents are rich and you were privilege to be a graduate at a tender does not make you should look down on others, remember life doesn't life end there.

On a different note, life is about class but It doesn't mean you should avoid saying hi to neighbours just because you want to show class


10. Going To The Church Without A Bible
Your church does not beam Bible passages on the screen, but you always go to church without a Bible/mobile installed Bible on your phone& you see nothing wrong in it, bro you need to be spiritually grounded to some extent


I drop my pen at this point

Written by : Tosyne2much

Source: http://tosyne2much..com/2015/02/uys-silly-things-you-should-stop-doing.html

naijaboiy:
i'm actually tired of how we Naija guys just lay too much emphasis on the fact that only money can help us get girls.

Like seriously haven't you guys approached girls and discussed with them normally and get them attracted to you?

Money will only make you a 'MAGA' and not buy her 'LOVE'.

We guys should go out and sharpen our attraction skills. Money will be used to sustain the relationship among other things.

Mubbyleey:
Dude, am gonna follow u forever... All ya articles dn change my life. I now feel free 2 walk up 2 any gal.

The problm i hav is... Am nt da kinda rich guy 2 buy ur Ebooks.
I would realy love u, if u could complete them.
And if u can't, pls help me out wt more tips.
I dn suffer 4 gals hand bro.

hahahahaha roflwkmd lmao

chimerase2:
Ok tosin wat can u say abt me?

I keep mute at this point

cherryice:
I hope you die

. Recharge my phone now.. I need recharge card oooo

queenyjewel:
you knw what you do with most of your topics nah, why ladies are this, why ladies ar that. you knw urslf nah guy. but remember say God dey o.

cherryice:
jeez must you guys be like that? Something for something? Smh that mentality is badd

Horrlah:
Oops sorry miskate tuk u for sum1 else

Who can that person be ?

Geenickel:
Female Bashing......
As some. Call it...

queenyjewel:
this your thread got me laughing seriously......babe na ur type dey make guys like Tosyne2.much dey insult babes ontop nairaland

Hahahaha

Does Tosyne insult babes ?

remsonik:
You are right about this one. I only need to check a persons facebook page before adding as a friend or check your tweets before following you.
Most people say that's not who I am but if you constantly have to defend your actions which other people see as disgusting and offensive then that's who you are.I have seen scenarios where tattooed/pierced people are denied jobs,rejected by inlaws.
My ex once gave me a waistchain and insisted he ties it on my waist and I must always wear it. That same week I broke up with him, why? because I dont like it and wont want to be defined by it.

wooooow I love intelligent ladies.. Please send me your bank account lemme roll in some money I'm impressed by your comment

Something happened to me when I just got admitted into the Polytechnic.. I did a late registration and on getting to the faculty, it was confirmed that registration had closed.. I was so devastated and felt my world had come crashing down
. I took a step backward and was heading back when a woman in the admin office who never knew me from Adam wailed at me. I went to her and she said she would help me out because my responsible look caught her fancy. Can you just imagine ?

I also remembered a scenerio when my friend was ordered out of the HOD's office during registration because he had his name customized as a haircut

My dear, this is Nigerian not United States. I pity people who draw thrash on their body and expect people never to judge a book by its cover
. Many people with this belief have lost great opportunities out of ignorance

My chief lecturer always said that some people would be offered jobs at the door step by their appearance. He however stated that not everybody is being offered a job by his accurate tenses and dictions

When you tattoo your body in Nigeria, the society frown against it and you are being pictured whatnot.

My dear like I once said, we shoudnt always live our life the way we want, in fact, I don't believe in the saying "I live my life the way I want"

There are certain things I would like to do, but when i look at the home I come from, the bad impression it would give those who trust in me, I refrain myself from doing it (this is not the matter of living your life to please people). Why? Your lifestyle must be appealing and people should see you as a role model. If I really want to live my life the way it pleases and suits me alone then I should be smoking Indian hemps by now "I don care what people say ?

I'm not rich for now, in fact, I'm not running a 6 digit account balance but I can boldly say I'm a role model to many people. Many emulate my lifestyle because they think it will also do them good

Attentionbarbie:
Awww.. cute guy

ayodijex:
seriously,quite sad about these people....
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Tosyne2much
is this really the truth about ijmb?

Horrlah:
On bbm ni joor

Creamish:
I don't have any.. but I admire good art when I see 1. I luv to draw.

Creamish:
Lolz...na u sabi.

So tell me, what part of your body is your pattern drawn ?

I hope it's not revealing sha ?

Psalmwise:
Oooo...ur words are so toucching...I was touched oo...mostly ur last 2paragraphs...,jez blik say dem plant sense inside..cos e too make sense...BTW I wanna open a couselling House...shey u go cum join me

Creamish:
@Bolded... why? cos they'd prove u wrong? If ur doing a research, u shuldn't decide on who shuld b sampled and who shuld't. As long as u have determined the criteria as being "tattooed babes", then all tattooed babes should be examined...not just those u'v come across. I speak based on my experience and their tatts have nuttn to do with their attitude.

I dont care what people say... that does not translate to "Living a careless life". Live well and treat ppl like u'd luv to be treated. Let nobody write the pages of ur life for u. I alone account for myself so I dont c y I shuld live my life pleasing others. As long as I know watz right, Il do it. No matter how much u want to live by impressions, u cant win everybody. So y bother trying?

Nwayz Tosyne...u have ur views, I have mine.. I still stand on tatts having nuttn to do with attitude.

It's not easy to win ladies especially in an argument like this.. I drop my pen at this point

All tattooed Nigerian ladies are responsible and are the right prospects for a sane man. Does that make you happy now ?

Geenickel:
ds dude has repented......

repented as how ?

Horrlah:
M ok.how cme u disappeared

I have just been a silent user

UjSizzle:
Today must be a good day OP has spoken well. I find the money aspect very distasteful. So we know you have it, awesome! Can you not slap it in our faces every millisecond like it's the only thing you've got to offer?

Another thing is confidence. Seriously I can't think of anybody (male or female) who wants to be saddled with a bundle of insecurities. It's fine not to have money sometimes or at all, what's not okay is hinging the state of your happiness on the absence of said cash. I know broke guys who dated the moat beautiful women simply because they were pretty much comfortable (not without drive) in whatever financial position they were at a time.
If a woman likes you, she just does. The presence of money in your life will not turn disinterest for you to love. It'll only turn it (for those who are like that) to love for your money.
Men need to start doing themselves a favour.


Meanwhile, Searching4love biko come let me heal your broken trolling heart. It pains me to see you gallivanting round the forum spewing your rejection around The women are not your enemy, and your attitude is pretty much jinxing your quest to finding love.

dahreyM:
Dat sounded like u r tking shots@ the OP

Egbon calm down.. She's not taking shots @ me

koyyess:
Op, this is the only reasonable post you've ever created. I repeat- the only post. Little wonder you haven't gotten much likes because the kind of males you are referring to are reading your post right now. Good luck.

Horrlah:
tosyn sup?

ronald4lif:
Lol @average Naija runs girl. What do I know na. You know the runs girls better

hahahahaha funny

stan241:
my brother this one you asking but yea I've had a friend tell me they thought short guys carry bigger kini