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@poster, I'm sure it wasn't meant as anything negative

actually, it was.

So I found put my fiance is really 32 and when I confronted him he flew off the handle and turned to me and says you Look older than 33 anyways so what are you worried about if I am 32? I'm oh so hurt by this. Its not the first time he's said this

but love can cover all i guess.

men are scarce and black males are even scarcer.

in any case, she too should stop confronting him perhaps. Dont know what the guidelines are for people in most of these types of relationships. Where the man has different names, different birthdates, multiple everything since we are all fleeing the bad conditions at home.

It all boils down to one thing, for those of us already in Britain you gotta make the best of a situation gone bad.

true.

You can see a man serving God his whole life but a woman might be easily swayed to soft pedal in her commitment because of the many distractions.

actually, men are more easily swayed than women.

all it takes most times is a simple seduction.

the big difference here is a man will commit all kinds of secret sins and still feel it doesnt affect his public standing in the church [bounces back easily], while for a woman who does the same, sooner or later her emotions will take over.

^^hmm, well you're right but sometimes things just arent so simple or straightforward.

@ topic

women are more emotional than men when it comes to religion.


they are practical in other areas but in religious matters, majority of them are not.

dont know why this is so.

denony:
and they have the highest number of demons running in them
each vigil i attended u see thousand of them being healed from demomic operations
the next vigil u will still see the same people confessing how many powers they possess.

u will see pastore shouting,

oya vomit that snake, vomit that ring, vomit that scorpion,
remove the one in your tongue, remove the one in your kitty,
oya remove that chain in your waist you demonic power,
oya confess, how many powers do you possess, i command fire all over you
fire, fire, fire, fire, fireeeeeeeeeeeeee.

come see confession,
yesoooo the fire is too, pls ok i will confess, pastore i will confess
i've destroyed thousands of men, render them useless
chai we men don suffer for their hand.
u will even be scared to get close to your sister after listening to all that confesion

lol

Sometimes, love ain't just enoff.

nobody said it was.

love is fickle and many marriages have issues because the couple assume love/infatuation alone is what sustains a marriage.

not to mention some people assume lust is love.

Panties, bras, weaves, acrylic nails, false teeth, eye-lashes, contact lenses, tampons. . . .name it. All come off without asking.

dont know what you mean by this and neither do i hear any man complaining when yall are drooling over beyonce or any other celebrity who have all these things on your list and some with butt and bosom implants to boot.

and if women are putting up with your beer gut and funky breath then why so much whining.

^^you still need to change your mindset.


this is what you were replying to:

I look around and see alot of women work so hard to keep thier marriages and all the men sometimes do is sit back, make no  effort to making the marriage work

with this:

Serves them right.
What else would you expect from desperate, needy Nigerian women?

When a man decides to leave his matrimonial home, he has made his choice/s.
It is either she accepts it or leaves the marriage.
No need to disturb the man and his girlfriend/s.

If she had what it took, her husband would not look outside for the real thing.
It is his choice to move around, so is it her choice to leave the marriage.

Marriage vows were never meant to be kept. Why people keep deceiving themselves beats my wild imagination always.

If you cannot take the heat, get out of the kitchen and stop disturbing the peace.

Too bad, it is a man's world and will forever be a man' world. If the women feel so badly about the whole situation, let them cheat themselves.

Hopefully, they are not married to those kinds of men who beat women to death in some parts of Nigeria or stone women to death for committing adultery.

not good


far too many black males have this attitude you typify here and feel they have a license to just be irresponsible.


why is this so.

do we blame the whites and slave trade for this?

the point of the article about the lack of black males in the teaching system is it highlights the absence of positive black male role models in society.

lord Jesus have mercy.


the aunt, the pastor, the father and anyone else involved in this mess should not go scot free.

they should be rounded up and made to pay for her medical treatment.

man's inhumanity to man.

@ topic

good or bad?

but when did we start importing cassava sha or have we always imported it.

If there is nothing special about Somalis, why don't you prove all of us wrong and post Kenyan women who come close to the Somali in the beauti department? It is easier to talk trash when you have nothing to show. Fact still remains, Somalis are by far the most physically beautiful in all sub-Saharan Africa followed by Ethiopian/ Eritrean.

seriously, you overrate yourself.

beauty is subjective, and a bad character cancels any so-called beauty you may think you're preening over.

besides, not much variation, from what i see.

okunoba:
@MissEast,
abayo, u are right Somalian men will not go around talking about how wonderful Nigerian women are.  They can`t, the retrogressive influence of  a stagnant culture and dogma, makes it haram. How can they, with these limitations, understand or appreciate the beauty of the Nigerian woman or the rainbow of beauty spread around the Globe? Unlike the Somali man, a Naija man is a rainbow lover, he appreciates and loves the beauty in all of god`s children. In affairs of the heart, he doesn`t discriminate. we date from all race, creed and religion. We are not held back by that old age customs and  traditions that glorifies aparthied. 

If u stay on Nairaland long enough, u will see that Nigerian men admire Women from all corners of the globe, today the post might be about how wonderful looking Somali women are, the next time it could be Kazak women and if u go back in time u will come across many other post talking about how nice, girls from so many other African countries are. We just love our African queens, regardless of ethnicity.

The more cultures a society has assimilated into itself, the richer it becomes. A better World if we leave the clan mentality and embrace the human race.

Leave tpia alone, she is public enemy no 1 on nairaland. If u get entangled in her culture of abuse u might end up offending innocent Nigerians.

gosh, can you lick any more azz.

your tongue must be longer than a giraffe's own.


what a load of horse manure you just typed.


s.tupidest post i've seen on nl this year.


what an embarassment you are to nigeria.

where on earth are they breeding these morons and bottom feeders!!

you dont really want to know.

a star trek character- a female data perhaps.

captain janeway.

which one.

toward women now embolden the African woman to challenge biblical teachings

if it's the husband challenging biblical teachings does that make it ok.

hmph.





anyway! @ topic

it seems to be a question of water water everywhere but not a drop to drink.

or else how can one explain the phenomenon of black females being surrounded by black males yet unable to find any to marry?

quite a paradox.

seyibrown:
It is a sin of disobedience! Marriage is to produce 'GODLY SEED'. God's commandments are for our own good, so please ask yourself the following questions:

Will it be easy for your Children to be practising Christians when you marry a Muslim? (Remember how 'family' is 'traditionally run' in 'Africa').
Do you know what rights you have in Islam to practice Christianity?
What 'powers' does a Muslim man have over his 'Wife'?
Will he love you as CHRIST loves the church or Will he love you like ALLAH commands?
Will his family be happy for you to continuing practising Christianity or will there be a MUSLIM wife (or four more)added to the family if you are deemed 'uncooperative' in the matter of religion later on in the marriage?
Will you be happy to practise ISLAM if you had to choose between 'A HUSBAND' and 'A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD'?

I am sure you can come up with more questions yourself! If you still CURIOUS after all the questions, ASK GOD!

Osama10:
The bible says marry only in the lord.

what are your perspectives on a Christian/Christian marriage which turned out worse than a christian/non-christian one?

with what we're seeing nowadays shouldnt we ask ourselves such questions?

^^i think you need to change your mentality.

check the article i just posted about the lack of positive black male role models in the black community.


this kind of attitude only comes back to bite you in the behind when you least expect it.

later you start whining the white man is keeping you down.

surely there ought to be more to life than just looking for the next lay or am i being unrealistic.


http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/07/03/AR2009070302498.html

mediatrix8:
I am still here, now,who get lost?

^^dont stop taking your medication.

final word of advice

now go attend to your naija man before he goes on to the next female since you spend your days on nl.

cook his favorite eba or something.

190:
[color=deeppink]^^mediatrix8 i said lets leave here,

Please lets leave here fast


HELL HATH NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN'S SCORNED When there is Lack of husband

Women can BITE,

Im outta here for good Mediatrix I suggest you do the same!![/color]

i notice some of you wimpish males tend to use foreign women to fight your battles.

can you get any lower for real.

what passes for men these days.

anyway, they say yall are scarce so people cant be choosy i guess.

mediatrix8:
YES i did and I am happy with that !

good for you.

now get lost.




or do you have any more announcements for the internet community?


let's have the lowdown and dont leave out any details.


they'll help you snag your next naija guy.

abegii!!!

i really dont think you and the 190 goat are worth my time, so let me leave you two uglies to each other.

enjoy!

mediatrix8:
yeah she really is, and i have observed her ways of replying,I didn't come here because of her so she isn't big deal to me.

you better face the person you followed here, if you know what's good for you.

190 the goat will not save you in case you think you snagged a naija man therefore you must run mouth like a locomotive.

prince caspian was good.

liked the beach scenes and ben barnes.


for the dawn treader, i'll have to reread the book cos i've almost forgotten the story.

i know there was a boy going on and on about the british consulate, and also a dragon, etc etc.

i'd say change your supplier.

anyway!!

i think you've gotten enough attention from me.

go throw your hissy fit elsewhere.

if some things are biting your nyansh, too bad!!

i could care less.

he posted at 4:48

then waited, waited and waited.

he couldnt take it anymore so he quickly came back as loneliness wan kill am

posted again at 5:52.

he's still waiting for tpia@'s reply oh.

just staring at his computer, fingers eagerly at attention.

sure.

^^take your own advice.

if it's not too hard for you!

thanks for giving us the blow-by-blow account of your experiences in oyiboland.


so, what's this snow you speak of?

what does it look like and how does it feel.

can you eat it or is it only good for making tea.

^^it seems you see yourself in every bad thing or how does one explain your popping up even when nobody mentioned your name.


thread is about black women not finding eligible and marriageable males to date, right?

and why are so many black males like yourself and some other touts so unmarriageable?

could it possibly be tied to a lack of positive black male role models?

take nl as an example nah!!

talkless real life!

na the tail dey lead head for una lives.

According to the Department of Education it is not uncommon for a Black child to turn eleven without having interacted with a man for any significant amount of time.

because most of the black males are more interested in chasing toto [or whatever they consider it's equivalent], than anything else.




gosh!! what an embarassing article.