₦airaland Forum

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Common sense dictates you should wait for them to finish.

Allow them their privacy unless you are a pervert or have another motive for not doing so.

What would you do if you were the one having sex and somebody started looking for charger?

Very annoying!

Women who date someone's father need to let it go if he is no more.

Dont be stalking his family like a witch.

What are you still looking for again, you've finished your mission, why are you unable to move on.

To do what?

^Do you know any other males besides this imaginary pastor?

hiss.

Blacks and other Africans complain a lot about Nigerians' perceived love for non blacks.

But I would have said the same about non Nigerians though, everyone seems to show this love everybody else complains about.

Am I missing something?

and why are they so many in Nigerian churches?

start.

"s/he slept with him/her", etc etc.

shrugs, what reaction do you need?

What are you supposed to do about that?

You're all grown people.

What exactly is wrong with plain language?


Adaptability is important, I also use symbols as I can, if that's what the audience understands.

Then they say I'm not a Nigerian.

Also, look at the nature of the social circles surrounding you.

Check the marriages- is there anything unusual or out of the ordinary about them?

Try not to ignore any "funny" feeling you have that something is wrong.

Sometimes people will put up a very convincing front with their marriages, this can happen when you are on the lookout for singles, people will use their marriages to pretend and convince you they are legit and thus gain entrance to your mind.

You may be deceived, even the devil can masquerade as an angel sometimes, your option is to hold fast to your principles while others are doing their mission.

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The whole point is to make the wife feel inconsequential both in general and also to her husband.

How do you differentiate between MGTOW through a communal effort versus just the normal "guy stuff" due to a man's cluelessness about the female gender, in particular, his wife?

One way of checking to see which of the two applies: has his (or your) social circle changed significantly over some years? Figure out the rest from there.

People change with time, community will provide the necessary "cycles" to effect the personalities they want to see, and instruct them on what behaviours to show.

If the MGTOW is based on a communal effort (Nigerian churches are a favorite setting for this), then it's common knowledge you, as the wife, would be at a heavy disadvantage because any attempts to fight a whole number of people working in conjunction with one another, would cause you to be labelled crazy, moreso when you cannot produce any physical evidence they are intentionally making your husband estranged from you.

When a man's social circle want to influence him towards MGTOW, they'll make him "see" how different he is from his spouse and how much their personalities differ.

A common trick is to emphasize the differences in background, the man is made to feel he relates more strongly with others who are "like him" and "understand him better" compared to the spouse. So this encourages him to withdraw emotionally on the home front.

One important reason why it's so easy to influence men in this manner is because they are more "community wired" as opposed to thinking something through as an individual. This is a very pronounced weakness especially in Nigerian men, they are not raised to be individuals but tend to defer unwaveringly to whoever they consider authority, this can include any strange voice they feel they can relate to, without investigating further.

Remember they are not guided by logic, but symbols.

Which men are more prone to this type of manipulation?

1. Social characters

2. Men who place excessive value on social input without thinking it through

3. Cheerful males (apt to interact more with questionable people)

4. Open minded males (see above)

5. Easily trusting nature

6. Traditional minded (see # 1, 2, 3)

It refers to men going their own way.

This term might puzzle a lot of women, it's about a man being persuaded either subliminally or physically, to emotionally abandon his spouse and direct his attention to other people who consider themselves more worthy of it.

How is this accomplished you might ask? Caring wives might be puzzled when their spouse suddenly "switches off", ie he seems unresponsive to any emotional contact and this is even in the absence of conflict. He buzzes around doing seemingly erstwhile things which take priority over alone time, to the dismay of his wife.

He is usually encouraged in this state of mind by select groups of people who fill his thoughts with various anti marriage contexts, to the extent he cannot differentiate between what he really thinks and what others are thinking for him.

Folks, please post suggestions and advice for our returning brethren, they need assistance at this time.

We should not let fear prevent us from doing what we could.

Opeoluwa99:
I'm sorry tpair did I offend you with my comment

You didn't offend me with your comment, the cakes are beautiful.

The part about picture copyrighting was what I meant.

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Oh Lord bless this thread and the posters in Jesus name. Amen.

jobsmiths:
And Someone said it doesn't have value anymore

No value with that high cost?

How most men are lonely in their marriages, How we battle daily with the temptations of infidelity

oh boy.


This thing wey I just hear today, e don reach?

Wait, why do (Nigerian) male nlers say they are the ones being judged and harassed by females when many (most) of the threads and posts castigate, insult and abuse women in very vulgar and strong language?

I responded to someone's thread one time, and he quoted me saying "I know you're female" as if it was a crime or something?

How come the Nigerian men here (op) are throwing pity parties and feeling sorry for themselves? What happened?

Sad.

harizonal123:
I thought Visa is supposed to be a stamp on a passport

Before, I think.