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bukatyne:
You are admitting you'll feel insecure if women possess power?

Hmmm!

What's the but for?

i intentionally made the blunt comment cause i know thats what you want to see.well there you have it.women naturally dont believe or respond to equality.women want to be led and led well.so once that leadership is inexistent in whatever sphere they share with men, if they have that fair chance, they will assume authority and assume it very visciously.women are mainly emotion and very little to reason.power majorly influence by emotion has being doing damages.tales abound.women are very powerfull as it is even.it is the men that need to up their game.

why you all getting worked up.funiture allowance has always been a fixture for our honourables even if the country was plundering to its death.it has always been more like a token to welcome the honourables.lets not deny them that birthrigth.

@stillfire am afraid your demand for such equality will be fought with every vehemence.are men insecured of the very "power" women possess? The hell we are.every man is.and there is no shame in admitting that.i am trully a democrate...advocate for equall right.hater of oppression but...

launching into all these martin lurther king's "i have a dream" write ups just because you are having it rough? a letter to your future wife eh? Christ! What the hell happened to a few bottles sometimes when it gets that tough.Cvnt!

so if hazard had produced same result in a game against peru then suddenly it equally would have disproved the point? Ok i dare you lot.homsteady and your gang discribe neymar's qualities lets see.lets place them side by side against the best talents in the world at the moment.

she may not have been abused.and this is certainly no evil spirit.children are overwhelmingly curious at that tender age.she has obviously noticed the mounds on momies chest having also suckled it and wondered why daddy doesnt have one.she would have seen her brother with a penis while she has it flat,also very possibly seen him twitching his penis or even twitched it herself.these are children.she would have noticed the difference in sexes and her curiosity is hitting the roof just as with any other thing that gets her attention.its better you find out the questions she has been wanting to ask.

clevadani:
Are u comparing neymar to robinho and coutinho?and yet u claim to know football?smh
Do u know wat it means to be d main man for the Brazilian national team? Am not sure u do

so you think if robinho had emerged at a time like this where brazil were no longer producing talents like they used to, he would have had such a career? Do you know the hype that followed the lucas maura's transfer and his transfer fee to psg? a player more like wright philips.look at the transfer fee of silva of psg and also the one of david luiz.brazil never used to do all this shitty hype England did because they had so much talent.pepe and deco of barcelona had to naturalize in portugal then thiago after many years in barcelona stating eleven had to too for italy.lucho gonzalez of porto and then marselle couldnt even boast of more than five caps.someone said mario jardel and giovanni Elber where not playing football the brazilian way, please is Ramirez also playing it the brazillian way?now before i answer you further, place side by side the qualities neymer has better with that of robinho and coutinho.and also their carreer moves.

homesteady:
Same level with Messi? Like seriously? Mr man are you kidding me?
Your further cemented your clownish stance by referring to that list - A list that puts Hazard above Cr7 and Neymar? the both of them are the most marketable players in the world for petes sake! Don't you know any club can recoup almost half the amount they spent on buying the both of them from Jersey sales?
Besides Hazard just signed a new contract!

recoup what from jersey sales. Oh God what made you think a club can earn back a players transfer fee on their jersey sales,when those players are equally earning huge wages over the course of their contract.the club kit sponsor will earn nearly 50percent of every jersey sold.the player too gets some percentage, the club sponsor as well gets its on percentage. I suggest you find some good articles on jersey sales and how much revenue clubs make from them.

homesteady:
I hope this troy20 won't commit suicide if Neymar gets on the podium in January

A player that has been the joint highest goal scorer in UCL, 3rd highest goal scorer in Worldcup, and 2nd highest goal scorer in Confed cup (behind torres who scored all his goals against Tahiti) an overhyped player? Are your brain cells in comedy mood?

Yea.... he is an opportunists because he plays with Messi. ...... We also heard this excuse about Messi been an opportunist because he played with Xavi and Iniesta.....
Next please. ..

when you know your way around football say in the next 10years i might spare you time or a well written comment.you probably picked interest in football a year or two ago.so you watch champions league finals, a handfull of el classicos and some big matches, then maybe browse through some stats for now its not bad for your level of exposure.and if i may add messi's talent was obviously unique right from time.no one ever reffered to him as an opportunist.

binhozie:
Elber and jardel failed because they couldn't play football the Brazilian way dis guys were foxes in d box albeit prolific but they were not d traditional Brazil number nine and dey were to replace a certain ronaldo De Lima when he was injured a huge responcibility I would say. maybe football has dropped I dont know but d elegance of zidane figo rivaldo ronaldo r.Carlos might not be there any more but u can't deny that the stats dis current players have d olden days players would never have gotten it in today's football. some one like zidane had drab games he won't mark just be strolling but wen its a big occasion he'll shine his boot and perform always. its more of a team sport now every body puts in an effort
I am not sure u knew neymar in Santos robinho left as some one people believed would grow up to be a star neymar led Santos to league and cop a libeterodes scoring goals left right and center he was d best player in all the south American leagues for 2 yrs before he came to Europe where as Madrid signed robinho d way dey signed odeengaard now.
Your point is valid a player playing with messi could grab so many opportunities and look better than he actually is logically but why didn't ibrahimovic henry hleb villa Sanchez take dis opportunities as much as neymar is doing ? He must be a very talented opportunist den if u look at the list of players I just mentioned you will know y neymar is great

the brazilian seria A cant compare to europian football.robinho was also the most influential player in santos.back to neyma, players who play on hype(1) usually try to play up to that hype (2) since they live on a hype, every effort they make get overwhelming receptions.e.g david backham was a good free kick taker but you can never compare his free kicks to juninho pananbuccano.but david becham had as much as documentaries and books made for his free kicks.hazard can only be compared to the likes of messi as it is.take out messi and see how barca struggles.harzad just need to play in barca for two seasons to be all rounded,on same level with messi and carry that team like messi does.even the resent most valueble player ratings placed hazard at second and neymer fourth which is a very good position for him even please list the qualities neymer has that robinho doesnt have.

binhozie:
elber was invited he flopped wen Ronaldo was injured they invited him and jardel
all of barca s fowards have deir selfish moments how does messi beat 4 players alone and score. same with Suarez against juve he had to team mates on d right but tried to beat Buffon on his near side.
leave going to stadium matter if I was in Spain I'll prolly live close to nou camp
u can't compare neymar and robinho dats an insult d kid was a legend in Santos bested only by Pele he thoroughly conquered south american version of champions league he even scored 4 goals in a final wen robinho left Santos he was just a prospect neymar is a great if u take out c Ronaldo and messi dis yr neymar would be world best and he can still win it or come second.

giovani elber and mario jardel where topping goal charts in germerny and portugal but they werent giving much chance.i was describing how difficult it is to get into that team then.if you realy watch football you will know when a player is living on a hype.the three titles this season is owed to messi's uniqueness.neymer is just an opportunist feeding off the attention on messi and the talent of the technical style of the barca team.he is a very lucky footballer.a few years back players like him from brazil where playing their club football in ukraine.all the hype and whenever i watch him its just like football generally dropped compared to some years back.did you watch robinho's years in santos and the hype that brought him to madrid of all places? Please dont even quote pele.if he wins ballon de 'or then football has dropped indeed

unless you started following football 5years ago, neymer wouldnt make the bench of brasil senior national team of last ten years.he is living up a hype just as david becham was for England.you dont rate players who play on hype with same measure.the brazilian national team is a dying team.for some years now brazil has not been able to produce talents like they used to.days where the likes of giovani Elber who played along side greats like roque santa cruz, pizzaro,stefan Efenberg of bayan munich couldn even get a national team invitation or even juninho pernanbucano who where barely giving attention.neymer has nothing unique that robinho couldnt even do better then cause robinho is his closest comparison.Epl is a physical league which demands equal defensive responsibility from forwards and much for his technique robinho found it difficult to maintain consistency.thats same league Hazard is playing in and for a team who are no better than stoke city.do you know the sort of difficult football chelsea play? I have alot i want to break down but dont want to say too much.but still let me drop one.close control is also a rare talent few players have and neymer isnt even one of them.anyone who picks neymer over hazard knows nothing about football.neymer should be proving himself against coutinho.

He will and the presendency is his aim.am not a fan of his but fear any man with any sort of ambition.

Crocz:
At the inception, I said it that it would be in their best interest for APC to support Saraki for the seat but Tinubu sees him as a threat and he feels he can spread his tentacles everywhere forgetting that the party belong to "everybody and nobody" ...Saraki would be more problem to them if he isn't than if he is. People who know him well would tell you that he's a smart, ambitiously dangerous man who'd do anything to attain his wants. He doesn't relent, he doesn't yield, he doesn't coward-in or out...he would take risks others would think madness. He dared his own father when he pitched tent in enemy's(his own sister's) camp.

He doesn't care how or what it takes...he's willing to achieve his ambition with whatever means necessary...and I mean whatever means necessary

frank underwood.

cozy7:
Sure, it can definitely work out, but will depend more on d woman's level of understanding. She needs to realize that she may be d boss at work, but THE MAN IS D UNDISPUTED BOSS AT HOME. In fact what's most appealing to me is that one of them will be transferred right? So it can as well b assumed that they "don't" work together.
But d man has to really make sure she'll be subordinate to him OFF-OFFICE, but regard him at work too. But if I were d man, after marriage, I'll plan on leaving d job for sth better, in order to fill up d financial gap, but of course with consent n support of d woman. I WISH THEM BOTH PATIENCE N GOODLUCK.

."..i'll plan on leaving d job for sth better, in order to fill up financial gap..." how many jobs that pay 370k readly come that easy in the country to start with.

@babymama wouldnt it have been better if you dropped your advice to her without making a point of it being fornication.cause i dont think you stand the best possible position morally to jugde her on that.

Moana:
not every man is pessimistic and full of trust issues...he gave the reason why he got so emotional. If you never found a woman that can make you put all doubt, it doesnt mean every other man is experiencing life the way you experience it. Its not every man that sees the glass half empty, some see the part that's half full

easy thats very unfair you know.how about you mull over the memes and comments instead.you are not a man.

Moana:
he who finds a wife finds a good thing.

never seen a man tear up in such moment before.seems from the outlook like its more out of pain and the probable uncertainties of the future.any 23 year old man willfully getting into such monumental responsibility has to feel sorrow.this is bravery.

damiso:
Discrimination is even largely an illegal activity .. though I agree that Nigeria not being a largely litigious society makes it difficult to pursue those cases. Even that can be changed by a willingness to follow due process but we are generally just lazy to go all the whole hog and people just say ' Wo just leave it and let God be the judge'. If one person can come out with proof that they were discriminated against because of their gender I know a lawyer who will make noise about it

As I said in my earlier post on this thread what people call discrimination is mostly prejudice that is perpetrated by stereotypes especially in Nigeria. Even the west where anti discrimination laws are in place ( I can speak about the Equality Act in the UK as I did academic study on it) you cant legislate against peoples opinions or control what they think.You can only try to educate them to see things differently.I know from experience and interaction that some white middle class men are as chauvinistic as hell. I had a colleague who once said Maternity Leave is a holiday and yeah he was white.

read a certain similar post once where you tried to differentiate them as stereotypes and prejudices.which is not uncommon with human beings.and offcourse you cant control or legislate on what people think but you can educate them.enjoy your wide input as always.

damiso:
I would really like someone to name and shame companies in Nigeria that pay women less than men in the organised labour sector solely because they are women.

I never experienced it , my mother in her 60's did not as she joined a govt parastatal on Level 8 like all young graduates and earned the same as every other person .She and my dad were mates sef and I think she earned more than him at a time as parastatals paid more than the civil service. I know so many other women who have not experienced it but I keep hearing it exists so I cant say it does not if someone else has experienced it.

i think women making such claims are just trying to create and push any sort of complaints of discrimination farther beyond the wall to see what they can get and that is very manipulative which is not uncommon with women(damiso you are not in this category).often many cases of discrimination against women expecially in this 21st century is exagerated.

cococandy:
of course.

Anyone who doesn't agree with the bullshit flying around does in your eyes.its harder to admit it. The easiest way out is to call the person man-hater or something like that.

Cococandy says a woman doesn't need to be married to have dignity= she has unhealthy view of men. We know that's how it works

it wont kill you to admit to some certain truths? Ugwu nwanyi bu di ya might be bullshit to you but my point exactly, (1) that adage wasnt made to demean women who dont have men.but for couples already in marriages.true its been used out of context but the creation of that adage had noble intentions.the creation of that rich african cultural adage which you call "bullshit"is what has held families such as yours.you dont recognise the headship of a man in your new home, fine! Atleast your mother did.but you using the adage as an example in that way made it so sort of extreemly patriarchal and defeated its good intentions.i know how hard you are trying now to embrace the west.your new found love.but i will never let you insult the igbo heritage.you dont know how much you reveal by the comments you make and the ones you dont.i mainly read on nairaland but we men notice some hateful comments you make that sets you out as having personal vendatta with men.you ignored a comment i made about men being disrespected and made not worthy of diginity in there families because they are unable to get a woman and are dealing with there own biological clock.men are equally desperate.but ah! you dont want to accept this kind of truth.

cococandy:
@bolded makes you look unreasonable.

Your interpretation is the same as mine yet somehow mine is malicious.
Why do you guys have issues with the truth.
Carry on

you have a very unhealthy view of men.everyone knows that but try and focus on much more than the bolded.

cococandy:
you were not and have never been a woman.
None of your parents or older relations have ever said to you.

''T nwa m now that you've graduated from school, when are you going to bring a man home? You know that no matter your education and achievement if you're not married it's not complete. Remember that ugwu nwanyi bu di ya"

You have never been a single woman. Stop saying what you don't know.

You're not an older spinster who's in her 40s and has been shushed in a gathering of women because she's a 'nwa okpu' who's place should be in her husband's house and not with the other women married into the community.
Basically she has no place as a woman because she's not married.

I hate it when you guys start saying this of which you have no experience. Pls shut it.

i very well know what i am talking about.i know it has been used in different situations other than its primary purpose.but your discription of it is cruel and maliscious probably born out of your twisted feminist beliefs as usual.why ignore a good fact that an unmarried man is equally not accorded respect in a community.situations as where an umarried woman is "shushed" in a family rarely happen this days as a result of civilization and the wonderfull inroads modernity has made even already for women such as you. if for anything i would say men are the ones losing ground.men are the ones losing their identity.

cococandy:
SMH.

Pls go on. Bring a different meaning that doesn't mean the same thing I said.

the purpose of that adage is for a home of married couples.one example; a well cared for husband is the diginity of his wife.primarily, it wasnt made to ascribe indignity to single women who are yet to snag a man.

FrancisTony:
Whether i'm a male or female shouldn't be a subject of discussion - sigh.

Seems some people won't accept the bitter truth because it's coming from their own gender.

Anyway, I've forgotten they won't have chance to label me man-hater/misandry hence the conspiracy theory.

i knew you were a woman long ago.

VictoriaBee:
Same way you wish women never existed to be a glorify gay. You wish!

Real-men who understood feminism don't argue with feminists, infact they marry feminists and move on with their life happily.

try to purge yourself of all this hate of men.your brand of real men who understand and accept what you want them to is your own creation.a real man shouldnt be your creation.

Ewuro4:
Na jejely I dey mind my own business watching early morning CNN news , then came a jelly livered wannabe knight calling for a fight.

she is just another example of my earliear point.a pained generation of women who wish men never existed.spare yourself all these before she drags you down further.

babygirlfl:
It would be nice if you replied without any insult whether meant or not. I did not insult you neither did I quote you because I knew you were the type that like insulting people.
I understand Igbo very well and I know exactly what that adage means.

sorry

babygirlfl:
It would be nice if you replied without any insult whether meant or not. I did not insult you neither did I quote you because I knew you were the type that like insulting people.
I understand Igbo very well and I know exactly what that adage means.

sorry

VictoriaBee:
Anyone that doesn't agree with you men is a female.
I assume that Ewu4 abi na Ewuro4 is a man or transgender that transformed from a man to woman like those shemales that hate on female gender.

frankely speaking she is a woman.she has revealed it once.

babygirlfl:
Dignity= the state or quality of being worthy of honour or respect.

The dignity of a woman is her husband


The state or quality of being worthy of honour or respect of a woman is her husband.

The translation still put women down and is no different from cococandy's translation.

you just picked a word out and it sums up the meaning of an entire sentence? I dont suppose thats how you studied to make your grades(no insult meant)but that adage was to emphasis the headship of a man in a home and is mainly used in such contexts.this is culture.no tribe respect women more than we do.and go verify we have the most number of women who where unable to get married doing well and duelly respected.but i forgot, feminism and feminists such as you does not recognise the headship of a man in his home.

cococandy:
While I was growing up, I used to hear phrases like "ugwu nwanyi bu di ya"
Loosely translates to "a woman is not worthy of respect except she has a man in her life:husband"

As young as I was, I didn't need anyone to tell me how wrong those teachings were. Little little things that subtly encouraged women to believe they were worth nothing except with the approval of a man.

If it takes having to endure one jab or the other here and there to help promote the idea that as woman your life shouldn't be what it is dictated to you as or that your worth as a human being isn't tied to a man, then so be it.

I'm so unapologetic about my support for feminism. Very very so.
The useless guilt trips won't work as long as the discrimination still exists.

I'll try not act amused when folks coin new words like womanism abi na womanitarianism or equity (and all those other euphemisms) to try to get away from associating directly with the feminist core because of the bad rap,

It is what it is.
It is feminism. It is about gender equality.

cococandy see how you lie and twist a healthy igbo adage just to make your point.there is no length you wont go eh? "Ugwu nwanyi bu di ya" clearly means "the diginity of a woman is her husband".'di ya' is even a husband for christsake! it is a whole lot different from "a woman is not worthy of respect except she has a man in her life" whether loosely or not."ugwu nwanyi bu di ya"is an adage mostly used by older women towards younger women to emphasis the importance of respect and responsibility towards there husbands and homes.its more didactic.it is an adage mainly said to married women or intending wives as advice among other things a mother tells her married daughter as she builds her home.there is even a song created by women for it.cococandy knows it and more.so why twist a rich african cultural adage into such example to support your dark pursuites.anything to bring men to there knees eh? honestly its really cruel and malisciously wicked.this is just one of the reasons men are mistrustfull of the intents of feminism.am still struggling with my live experience of feisty feminists whom no doubt from actions are just out to get men and some comments here trying to describe the noble purpose of feminism.feminism is a nicely masked hatred of men and what we represent.i think men should be extreemly carefull of the women in their lives.