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He's not the first person, and he's not going to be the last. Assuming they've been doing it for the past victims then this call to action would be reasonable, but I guess not...

There are more than 10,000 ways to transition.


RIP to the dead!

MONEY247:
I walk more than 10,000 steps almost everyday. I deliberately do this to born excess sugar and excess calories....

Downside is you get kinda slim...


You should try it

On Sunday, I took almost 18000 steps (not deliberately), God knows the best sha.

Okoroemekah:
dropping from Grace to grass is still manageable.i dropped from Grace to burrow pit.i invested millions in 3 tipper trucks in 2013 and ended up bankrupt.i started again by focusing on what I learnt and know best agriculture. From cucumber farming to pepper farming. Thank God I have crawled out of the burrow pit and standing on grassland.by his mercy we will move to Grace this year . No retreat no surrender

I really have interest in the cucumber farming but I was told it requires a lot of water which I don't have in luxury where I am. Can you shed more light and/or put me through please?

NotOfThisWorld:
You were going to slap her for what? You don't have any right to hit a woman. Perhaps if you were a responsible husband who takes initiative, you would've noticed she needed new underwear and would've gone out to buy them for her. The fact that she was spending the peanuts you were giving her to buy "clothes and ladycare" for herself on your children means the money you've been giving her hasn't been enough and she has had no choice but to continue wearing ripped underwear that she had to sew.

Her father didn't go out to buy them himself but gave his wife (your wife's mother) to go and buy them for her. They did what any loving parents would do.

says who at the bolded?

Domestic violence isn't gender specific, any woman who raises her hands up to slap or hit a man, be it her husband or not is actually requesting to being treated like a fellow man.

Sonofgod1990:
I could have loved to help you with 5 million dollars

Alainikanse

Sonofgod1990:
You don chop today? Tell me the truth. I'm ready to help

Actually I haven't, so what are you doing about it?

Sonofgod1990:
Tinubu has ruined this country
Just imagine what Nigerias are going through in an African country.

Is just that we have a vegetable 🥒🥒 as a president.

I don't know why some people find it difficult to READ and UNDERSTAND!

Even if a father sleeps/rape his daughter it's also Tinubu's fault...

If a stray dog attack an innocent person it's Tinubu's fault...

If someone trusted you with his/her business/money and due to your greediness you mismanaged it it's also Tinubu's fault...

If a housewife gives her husband a child from another man it's Tinubu's fault...


We all need to wise up!

illicit:
I dont even understand

who died, ugoh or okey

who killed who. ugoh or okey or vice versa or both

i just dont get it....

so we're in the same shoe? I thought I'm the only one who don't know "who killed who"

quadraheem:
These people never know what politics is all about. Na now a lot of people will understand that it is entirely different from social media rantings.
Politics na dirty game o...

Na the VIP loan advertisement under your comment really making me laugh 😂, borrow 100k for duration of 150 days and repayment of 101k+...

Naigiriya and scam are inseparable

lusciouslyon:
We need a few more married matured guys

I really don't know how or where to send a PM. But you can please add me up on 08065742633...


I will appreciate!

Caaz:
No be bad thing to use crayfish and egg take dey align.

My question is...wetin you don put in place to make sure say you nor go dey buy eggs?

Good question ⁉️


People don't actually give it a thought...


You can start the journey now by getting just 5 noiler birds and feeds them with kitchen waste, corn and millet, in 5 months time 1 noiler will gives you at least 5 eggs per week then multiply that by 5.

teemac01:
IF ONE HAS TO GO THROUGH ALL THESE AND DID NOT AT THE BEGINNING WHAT IS THE POINT THEN...

BOTH PARTIES SHOULD JUST HAVE CHILDREN SINCE THAT IS THE MAIN GOAL ANY WAY AND

SPLIT AS PEACEFULLY AS THEY GOT TOGETHER...

NO COURST INVOLVED

You read my mind...


And there are still a lot of people out there who still want to enter this trap, peace draining and emotional exhausted union called marriage.

jesusjnr2020:
Can Anyone Raised By Atheists, Versed In Science, Become A Christian?


Many irreligious people believe and usually claim that anyone who is a Christian, was brought up by Christian parents and have little or no knowledge of science otherwise they won't believe, however Dr Sarah Salviander, a Christian apologist, proved all their assertions wrong with the following post on X:

she said she HAD, not HAVE cancer as you typed.

Onegai:
The fact that this is happening now is so textbook common, it's nothing to worry about.

In my case, Oga (a timid fellow when he was growing up, someone that cooks breakfast for his family) was roaring like a lion, punching the cupboard

Me (someone who has never won a fight in her life, infact when I was in Pry 4, Tracy who was in Pry 3, beat me and took my sweet😔) was squaring up to him like Anthony Joshua and shouting "do your worsssrtt!!".

the devil was just checking us out in one corner happy that we were acting like idiots.

Please take a deep breath, keep a cool head. Eat, focus on work, enter your bathroom, pour water on your head and tell God what's going on. Nothing's new under the Sun

I don't have access to that mail you sent to again, maybe if we can talk via telegram (preferably) or Whatsapp or... You can please resend the mail again, I just reactivated now. Thanks

JustMakeMoney:
I hardly comment here!

But this case is simple, just focus on your business and maintain a full attention on your child. Ignore every word she says n perform your responsibilities on your baby. Don’t waste your time n money going to court because she will contest and frustrate the process. Am sure your mind isn’t at peace when ever you think how to go about divorce right? It’s a sign that you need to invite an higher power spiritually.

She will latter calm down if she sees you no longer respond as expected besides you didn’t mention her age here because it matters now a heads.

Peace I leave you!

thanks for this!


She's 34

femi4:
Just walk out ...you dont need to make it formal

The problem is that I can't afford to lose this apartment I am right now, that's where my life is, that's where I'm making ends meet. So, me moving out is like starting right from the scratch.

ImmortalLawyers:
How long have you been married?

Going to 5 years

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...


Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

Maybe we can talk...

terrezo2002:
maybe you should first take it to God in prayer. He will direct you on what to do.

she's actually frustrating all my efforts...I'm losing it!

spiceadole:
Why are you seeking divorce?
Don't you live in Nigeria where married men can just decide to walk away ,abandon their wives and children, relocate elsewhere and start another family without any consequences?

You sound like a weakling , to be honest

relocating elsewhere without my source of livelihood will make me miserable for couples of years before getting my feet.

UnknownQueen:
E never reach like that, if you can't afford court case, seperate from her for as long as you want..

There's no crime in that, who never chop belleful no fit go file for court....

Separation will go a long way returning my sanity back. But the major problem is, I can't be the one to leave the house for her cos, that's where my life is. My job/business is my life, it's what's putting food on the table for me. And, she's not ready to leave either!

Raregem9000:
My people will say suuru la n fi se oko obinrin (it is with patience that one becomes a successful husband to a wife), although I now understand that you wanted to divorce but bro, I’ll still advise you to be calm in this situation.

What I’m thinking is leading to the violence is that both of you are not calming down for each other. Because it’s only gbasgbos + gbasgbos that can lead to that.

If your wife is blowing hot, relax and calm down. If someone is insulting you, just dey calm down dey look at the person or simply excuse yourself, no way that one go lead to violence. Lol. Don’t blow hot at the same time.

You are the head of the family, so do everything possible to make your home work. Marriage is not easy, but with patience and wisdom, many things can still be resolved. Like I said, I don’t know all the details, so if you can briefly share more, we can advise you better.
Ire o.

Can't just continue this way! My peace of mind is becoming like my shadow, distancing itself from me. Pressure is mounting fast on me, my life is under threat from pressure and lack of peace, I'm really becoming a shadow of myself, turning to a monster.

There's no time that I think of taking drastic action without thinking of my little princess, can I really cope without her? What will my life look like if she's not around me? Loving her is an understatement, she's absolutely become part of me. To me, she's (my daughter) the one still holding this marriage together, if not, I would have long gone before even starting this my agribusiness in my compound, which is now very difficult to move along with me if I want to leave. My life is under intense pressure right now which is really blurring my thinking...I can't think straight again.

capetownboyz:
tell her to leave to her parents place and stay there for the time being ..

she won't. I think she really wants me to do something wild, something really violent to her that'll get me locked up. The more I'm trying to avoid that the more she's really looking for it.

It got a little bit violent this morning.

She has disappeared now, not coming home to sleep, and to be honest, I really don't care am just worried about my child that's with her.

capetownboyz:
seperation should be your next solution for now and don’t tend towards violence cause it solves nothing.. give her a space and get yourself back on track and see wether you still want her in future if No , go ahead and process your divorce ..

giving the space automatic mean stopping my business, cos i work from home. If I leave how will I live?

Can't continue with this again and I can't afford to vacate the home for her cos, I work from home, I do my businesses inside my compound and it can't be moved cos getting a space like where I am at is hardly possible.

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...


Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

Let me get this straight... Does that mean I'm stuck with her for life if I can't afford a court case?

If yes, then somebody's son or daughter will go six feet below or end up in jail one day

Kobojunkie:
Please move out of the marriage home immediately, if you have not already done so. 😒

Contrary to widespread rumors, only about 10% of divorce cases end with one party paying alimony to the other. This, of course, is dependent on the agreement between the couple at the time the marriage was entered into, as well as the laws in the particular state or district. If you and your party both work, then chances are that the major cost to worry about would be the court fees.

As long as there is no violence or abuse against the child, I recommend that, rather than give up custody to your partner or take on full custody, you should opt for shared custody of the child. This will ensure both parents remain a part of the child's life even after the divorce is finalized. 😒

How expensive is the court fee is really my question...


Thanks though...

Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

Kelklein:
It's been terrible lately, even in city centres of FCT..

It s difficult to stream with.

It's difficult to use with a Google Map. It told me GPS signal lost for more than 10 times over a distance of just a 3km trip..

It can't connect on Zoom, Zoho, or Meet online meetings

Video calls is a no-no.. it lags more than 10 times for a one minute call..

I almost lost an online interview today because it just won't connect even when I had over 30Gb of Data balance. I had to quickly switch to another network that was what saved me.

It's been this way for months non end now🤔🤔

Are they aware the network is this terrible around the FCT..?!

Mods pls take this as far as possible.. let it get to them

Then maybe you should try Glo and see how good that your Airtel is.

If you have high temperament or HBP pls stay far away from Glo!

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

What if that's what has kept you till this moment?

What if being who you wished to be would have sent you to your early gra.ve?

Are you tired of life?
How much do you cherish peace of mind ?

DomPerignon:
I wonder why some idiotes were hailing this guy and mourning him in death.

An usury merchant and an obvious money launderer is whom some idiotes were idolizing and mourning his death.

All those properties he held in London to whose benefit?

He ripped us off in Nigeria and stashed the loot in tax havens and properties in London.

If Dangote was like all of them, he won't have reached his networth today.

We need just 5 more Dangotes and this country will be fixed.

People like Wigwe remain the problem and he will never be missed from my end.

you might or might not be right.