₦airaland Forum

This issue of child marriage in the north is tricky and at the same time complicated.

Permit me to say this, northerners marriage last as they don't marry for love but marry for WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF ME BEST. that's the truth about an average northern lady.


Most of this girls married out to older men obviously won't refuse it as they don't have any plan for the future or themselves than sell jeda, gist with peers and offcourse discuss even things you don't imagine they know. And offcourse wait for Ango. I'm half northern half Yoruba and I stayed most of my life there till 2018. Before y'all castigate the man etc, know the fact that it's more of a culture over there for the talakawas and it won't stop any yearsssss soon.

Nigerian police will work if they are motivated to.


My statement is short but broad. The motivation can be in different folds.

Juliearth:
We are truly in hard times. Sir, if you can squeeze out a budget of 1 million and buy all the dry ingredients in bulk. Thus, monthly, you would spend less than 50k on perishables.

You could buy Rice in bags, meats in bulk (half cow, full goat, etc)
Bulk shopping for 6 months saves cost.


Need I also say that a scale of preference needs to be drafted out and implemented. If I had a family, we would go minimal on cereals because those are actually poisonous to our bodies. That can be replaced with healthier alternatives.

You're very correct in the bulk buying. But a man with 4 kids and a wife might think twice before coughing out the money for bulk buying, that's even if he can put such punt together without been tempted to touch. I do bulk buying and i stay in Ibadan. With even less than a million I stock up the house even with drinks and other edibles. I just have learnt to stay off lounges and money syphoning places.

slimstanakacns:
To me, the significance lies not in how much money I spend, but in the joy and fulfilment we derive from it. I strive diligently to ensure that my family finds happiness and contentment in whatever I can provide each day, no matter the amount. It’s important to me that we cherish the experiences and moments together, creating memories that overshadow any financial concerns.

You missed the road, you went from answering the question to licking your wounds. The question was how much do you spend not what motivates your spending.


Nigerians haba

yemmit90:
We are so selfish and ignorant in this part of the world. What is so bad in staying with someone aged parents that laboured endlessly to raise us? So, he can move to them when he was struggling but not when he is financially stable? That is the extent of our shallow thinking, and you keep wondering if it worth it to suffer to raise children these days.

An average European, Chinese or American live with their parents but here in Africa, we detest and don't have empathy toward one another. Why would anyone leave his aged parents when he/she is in position to stay with them. Loneliness at old age is out of this world, and it is a great privilege to have one of your children family around.

That is why every man should try to make money. The rich take up another wife that will give them young children who will keep the house running at old age.

You're on point. A friend of mine in Texas told me he relocated to California to be with is aged parents. Dude had a good job in Texas though. In this part of the world, I think there is this idea that you're grown when you leave your parents for no just reason. The major folks who practise this act are internet fraudsters and those I call wannabes. I have lots of friends doing well who still stays in the family home and even married there as long as no friction between partner and parents.


Fun fact, parents need us more when they're grown than when they're agile.

SultanOfPuna:
I have lived alone in apartment from 2019 to 2023
Due to financial struggles i relocated to my parents house 2023 since then i'm still with them

Now its 2 years and i have gotten financially stable and solid.
I want to leave but my parents are old and they want me to be around them at this stage of their life.


My parents are really old
My siblings are all married except me. My siblings are in different states far away from my parents.
I'm the only one closer to them

I'm the one taking care of the house and making sure things are in order.
But deep down i want to leave the house and go create my own family.

If i leave them and move out i fear that things will be out of order and disorganised due to old age.
Unfortunately no younger sibling to help look after them.

What should i do?

If you are making your money around or within the area, I don't see any reason why you should leave. The only thing is to try and build a demacation to avoid ladies palava. I really don't know where this idea of leaving home just to prove grown starts from though. A friend stayed with his parents and married there until he built is own house at 38 or so. Dude and is wife were both doctors. I can site more example. The only reason I believe a man should move out is for job sourcing or if the home won't contain them maybe shared kitchen etc.


Try and stay by your folks, now is the time they need you most.


I also stayed with my mum till 29 when I had to start my business in another state. Now, my mum stays more with me and I'm planning converting her house in the other state to 3 unit of 2 bedroom flat for more income . Once married, my plan is to build a 2bedroom inside the same compound to avoid friction between my wife and precious jewel.

Ijapa...... The car will climb any hill any day and any time. Used to be my dream car.

ibinaboonline:
Very good point. 👍I take back my word. The CrossCabriolet is the world's first convertible SUV, but not the only one.

I'm glad we still have descent Nigerians who ain't dogmatic on opinions.

It's obvious why the ex gf left.


He dodged a stray bullet.

Location and post more pictures.

durentboi:
I've been called good-looking, average and ugly.
I just want to know which it is and be at peace with myself.

Please don't sympathize with me, I just want the truth.

Harsh comments are welcome as well.

Thanks

You will look back at this Shenenigan few years from now and and shake your head in pity....


I thought the female gender are the ones that crave public validation, e be like table don shift.

Range rover Evoque does have convertible.

There are no bad cars, just bad handlers.


I drive an Honda, and I've used other brands. My mum used a babyboy 1999 back then when I was a teenager and I always see the way the car messes us up with the leg issue. This almost poisoned my mind. My first car was not even Honda, but I will tell you, I have used 2007, 2012 and presently 2014 accord and not once I have regretted the idea.

Funnily, my 2014 uses CVT gear and lots of so called expert advised me against it. Not for once have I been stranded with any of my Hondas. In Short, no bad cars, just bad users and handlers. First thing you do before buying a car is to read about the cons and probable issues then plan accordingly if your chest carry am.

helinues:
Some months ago car is what you want to be gloating about. Except this is an advert

Go back to politics, we read between the lines and digest here before rushing to comment.

Ruke1991:
Go ahead, what cannot kill a man makes a man
Get rich quick or die trying
No pain, no glory
Tough times never last but tough people do
Life is a risk
Man can only die once
Cowards die many times before their time

Don't be a coward, borrow that loan. Greatness is inborn. You could be the next Elon musk who debt nearly ruined but ended up becoming the world richest. The grave is full of unused talents. Man must not die without using their talent. Go on and blow

I can't decipher if this is sarcasm.



You earn my respect either ways.

This muric man........... He lost credibility already

More like NIGERIANS, I'm still here o, once Tinubu leaves power, I will continue my shenanigans.


I haven't even heard muric in a while sef. They used to be vocal even when the economy was better though.

Something he will use to take side chick on a joyride once he drops wifey at home.

Front0lane:
What tribe are you from OP ? Ipob or obidient ?

To think simpletons like you share the same clime is genuinely purging. No wonder the country is in the big mess it is.

Saw the clip, I was really embarrassed. Seyi is not a Catholic member neither a public office holder, what took him their in the first place. Tinubu keeps making Buhari and is family look like a saint with is many actions.


In the history of Nigeria and the world in general, this is the first President son that even outshadows the vice president himself. Even idiamin families were not in the limelight half of this.

GetMeRight:
What are you even saying? Una just want turn this country to Banana Republic

You're the one acting too emotional. Private schools don't just expel. They count their gain by number of students they can get. For the authority to expel her wards then the woman needs to be checked. But then, Nigerians as usual. MORE EMOTIONAL than WISE.

mastermaestro:
Nice move. I will always ask people to defend their establishment by all means. It takes a lot of years of diligence to break even in any business. Only a fool will fold their arms and watch one bitter soul tear it down. I am very pro-establishment.

Protect your private business or organization by all lawful means! Nor let one stupid staff or client come spoil your hard labour. Most people who work or speak against organizations have never founded one by themselves. They don't know the cost of starting up something from ground zero.

To start up, sometimes you starve yourself, you borrow money, you beg family for funds, you sell your valuables, you deny yourself of simple pleasures, and then one devil comes along thinking it's fun to tear it down. Na to cure their madness!

I'm into business and omoh, I don't mind loosing 10 customers to keep my trademark intact. Let me share a scenario. Been a Christian, I make sure my hands are free of any anomaly. Their happen to be this driver who used to buy PMS in my station. I suppose he was not okay with the service of a new staff one day and he started telling other drivers to boycott it as my Meter and my fuel is adulterated. I started this business renting fuelling stations years back and a man out of bitterness will just ruin it. I told my manager to reach out to the man and even pacify him with some incentives. Next time baba came luckily I was on ground as those tanker boys no dey disburse wetin them send them. They sell some off along the way. Baba started is shenanigans again. This time he was like they should give him 30naira change. Very flimsy thing the man was trying to create a scene on. I just walked over greeted him and gave him is full cash though they already sold the fuel inside is bus tank. I told him he can leave and baba was shocked. After much ado etc he left. I told my folks never to sell or allow him entry again. I lost 20k that day but if he wasn't checked, he would have used that nonsensical radicalism to push better customers away. I still see the man pass by and that doesn't stop me from greeting him if need be.

mastermaestro:
Hear from the school first. There is more to the incident than this simplistic narrative. What this mum claims is a mere complaint may actually have been a dirty smear campaign against the school. Never allow one idiot spoil your business. Cut them off before they succeed!

If you don't run a private business, just shut the up! You don't know the destructive damage one blackmailing client or customer can inflict on your establishment.

You're so on point. She will be a very troublesome one and perhaps uncouth. I once managed my uncle's school during a break while in higher institution and I realised lots of parents are so hard to work it and will even pass down the nuisance gene on the kids. I can remember one who never does whatever the school deems right and will also poison the mind of other parents. She can also be so combative with words and she's always the first to compare the standard of the school with the schools around. Funnily, the same thing those schools do are stuffs we tried inclucating. After a while, I made sure her kids (3) were expelled not to come again as her shenanigans was affecting the greater good. I'm damn sure she won't say the story the way it was if she's to tell the bigger audience.

The lady should come out with the full story. The way Nigerians always act on weaklings emotions ehnn. I'm sure her kids ain't the only one who didn't pay, and I'm sure this is half baked truth. I'm sensing she will be a very troublesome and nuisance of a parent hence the school decided to thrash her where she belongs.

Angelfrost:
I already answered your question earlier with my submission that you quoted.

That's a firsthand experience working in-between studies in Canada.

That's just the barest minimum too.

The minimum wage abroad is designed in a way to cater for anyone's housing and feeding at least.

Gas, electricity, and water bills are not expensive except you are wasteful and unwise... Some households don't even consume more than 60 Dollars for water and electricity monthly.

Only two things take up one's expenses: Accommodation and Taxes.

Food is practically affordable in Canada and most nations since they don't import food.

This is not the same in Nigeria... No amount of justification and arguments can help your denial here.

Alright then. I will agree with you if you won't with Me.

Angelfrost:
Nigeria... I have had the privilege of living and working abroad.

Good one. Let's be practical, how much was your rent, water bill, gas bill, tax etc when you were abroad. And how much was your earnings per hour. Before then were you a low income me earner, intermediate or high. Now if you fall at the low, answer the above question I sent with all humility.



Btw, even Ghana is abroad. I should have been specific in my question.

Angelfrost:
Nigeria... I have had the privilege of living and working abroad.

Good one. Let's be practical, how much was your rent, water bill, gas bill, tax etc when you were abroad. Before then were you a low income me earner, intermediate or high. Now if you fall at the low, answer the above question I sent with all humility.

Angelfrost:
An average minimum wage earner who lives within his means is not left empty-handed after taxes and bills...!

He has enough to live comfortably except he chooses to bite more than his mouth can chew.


How many minimum wage earners in Nigeria can say the same?!!

Which country do you reside before I speak on this.

Nigerians and half baked stories. How much Tax is required in the above countries, how much is rent, miscellaneous bills etc.



Nigerians will hear a man is making 3000 dollars per month in diaspora and next thing they will start telling you how much millions it is in naira. They forget this amount don't have values over there and after bills are paid, peanuts are left. Result of inflation sha.

To marry don dey hungry her. One foul reasoning man will be stupid in the name of love.

Zonefree:
You can't even make a complete sentence yet you're calling someone ode

When you see folks using abbreviations, just look and pass. They hardly reason before voicing.