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Guys don’t mind these modern women. Dont let them bamboozle you. These women have always existed from time.

They are making it seem as if all women are like them but thats not true.

There are women who still love flowers and likes to go for dates and wont ask you for a dime.

They are just looking for companies for their misery.

focus7:
Guy, forget about ancestor bullshit, you are probably living in area close by to river side or bush. That tortoise simply wondered to your doorstep, you either cook and eat it or throw it back to the bush or better still, give it to someone who can eat it.

Lol. I think seh u wan lecture me about how to begin worship tortoise

focus7:
Your ancestor visit. Take him inside, build a shrine for it and start worshipping it

Am not the type to get into religious arguments but I love to under Other peoples perspectives on things. If you wont mind. I would like you to just elaborate what happens when a man carries the tortoise and build a shrine.

Does the tortoise become a representative of the ancestors and you worship the ancestors through the tortoise or will you worship the tortoise itself.

Also do you have to buy a female tortoise so the tortoise can procreate.

Unless you are being sarcastic then ignore my question

I swear it thought he meant “Sikira Ibu” like a yoruba comedy or a comedy slang meaning “Devious/mischievous lady named Sikira.” Lol

Merry100:
I am not better than many women; I am just privileged and exposed to the truth. I am not facing relationship stress, but I am still human, and when I see other women out there going through emotional pain and psychological discomfort, it breaks me.

A great war has to be waged against selfish and male-centered content that constantly teaches women to endure everything in silence. More content encouraging women to love themselves, value themselves, and protect their emotional well-being is supposed to be in circulation.

I will always enlighten and support women. We, the enlightened and privileged ones, cannot keep quiet while many women are still trapped in unhealthy mindsets and relationship patterns. Some women have been conditioned to see their husbands as gods, believing they must be patient and tolerate anything just to keep peace in the home, even when it destroys them physically and emotionally.

This painful video shows the kind of emotional patterns selfish ideologies create:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTfjgbATY1U?si=NMMVJId14lU2xNMp

In the video, a young girl narrated how her father killed her mother.

I will always stand against content that promotes selfishness and unhealthy male-centered ideologies, whether it affects me personally or not.

Wonderful. Wetin man go talk bayi. As I dey swerve go left you dey swerve go right. I have kuku read the old messages but my brain is not well booted for a looooong reply i planned.

Anyways back to the topic and i will reply all in this post. See sincerely ehn my lady God never gjves you what you cannot handle and if ge gives someone a terrible partner then theres every possibility that one is able to handle him or her. Thats why this same person ends up dating the same person in a different body. There is an issue that needs to be fixed by the person in side the person or the person’s partner which the person has deliberately refused to deal with due to selfishness.

Don’t defend people you know absolutely nothing about their background. You dont know their thoughts. You don’t know their spiritual battles. Did you know that the person who plays the victim is usually the perpetrator. They know deep down that they are the reason their partner behaves the way he does towards them but they will never dare to admit it.

Did you know that everyone is privileged and exposed to the truth also. God gave all of us certain gifts that always ends up achieving the same goal. For example two people’s lufe partner are in Oyo state. God will use NYSC to carry one to Oyo state to meet the life partner and he will use Tinder for the other one to find his life partner in Oyo state. Thats how God balance things up.

You say you are exposed and privileged thats why you act in a civil manner towards your man. But there are women also exposed to what you are exposed to and privileged like you that have refused to act civil towards their partners. They know their mouth runs like water but they cannot control it. They force their partners to accept them as they are. Then there are some who cannot even see what rhey are doing as wrong. How in the hell do you hope to save these kinds of people.

All am saying is, you only know yourself and assuming all women are innocent is not the right assumption. I am not saying cheating in marriage is a good thing but that person saw the partner’s flaws before they went into relationship with them.

No one is saying women should shrink themselves. All we are saying is a woman should respect her man. And marriage is an institution with the man as the head and the woman as the shoulder. They bothe work together but one is the coordinator not the controller but the coordinator.

The problem with modern women is that they dont like being corrected or challenged.

Have you seen the biscuits yale has been making nowadays. I know they’ve been around for a while.

Am not that much of a biscuit fan but for some weird reasons I love these biscuits and the fact that they are also affordable with very attractive packaging too.

Marriage i guess. If it counts as mumu thing since all men must marry.

Merry100:
If a cheating man leaves, it is freedom to a woman who knows her value. If every woman knew her worth and value, so many nonsense things men do would stop.

Women should not allow men to treat them wrongly. Every woman deserves peace. A healthy relationship requires peace, and peace means different things to different people. That is why every woman should choose a man who aligns with her peace and clearly define what peace means to her.

There was a time my boyfriend was yelling, and I told him, "Honey, you are shouting." That day, he stopped. After that day, anytime he started yelling, I would often go silent. With time, he adjusted to the fact that I hate noise and that if we have to communicate, it should be done calmly.

Many women are not scared of losing a loser or a cheater. A woman's refusal to cheat is not rooted in fear, but in respect for the bond she shares in her relationship.

My guy doesn't live in Nigeria. The last time he visited, I noticed he was feeling unnecessarily jealous but trying to hide it. Even when random guys merely glance at me, I can sense his tension.

Though there are some guys who go too far; the moment he looks away or steps aside for just a minute, they would try to strike up a conversation with me or ask whether he is my brother or my uncle. He eventually voiced his feelings when I had a minor accident recently and a particular man was the one who helped me, and I had to make him understand that I am with him because I value our relationship and the bond we share. Many women often meet wealthier, finer, better, and more caring men than their partners who could easily capture their attention, but out of respect for their relationship, they exercise self-control and remain faithful.

I pity future relationships. If men continue to take women for granted, relationships will lose respect, loyalty, and emotional depth, and interest in relationships will gradually decline.

As society evolves and more women become financially independent, the uselessness of many men would become more obvious.

I have an assignment for you: bring out the importance of a husband to a financially stable woman. If your answer is offspring, science has made that easier. How much does it cost to get a sperm donor?🤣🤣🤣

There are many videos online where married, financially stable women question the essence of marriage.

The only thing some men can provide in marriage is finance, and a financially stable woman is not after finance in marriage; she just wants peace. Once peace fades or does not exist, she begins to question the essence of marriage.

If thats the case then why do older women beg younger women to stay in their marriages. A case happened recently where a friend of mine left her husband’s house based on many allegations. When she moved bk to the family house everybody was supporting her and even took the husband to human rights.

This lady stayed only few months and dem don dey whisper seh she dey disrurb them. One even went to meet her that abi they should help her beg her husband.

Older women they value husbands a lot. Rarely have i met an older woman who doesn’t value her husband. Single mothers nko. They love men ehn. When you meet them and you seem like a good man they will be telling you how they wish you could stay behind forever and not leave them.

Older women used to say women dont know what they are doing till they get to a certain age. I concur though. Av met some ladies that says they are very good people in general but whenever they start to be in relationship with that same good friends of theirs that they just transform into a crazy girlfriend overnight.

A woman can brag about how she only wants a financially stable guy but will end up with a broke dude simply because of how he makes her feel at that moment. That one moment will make her project into the future what is impossible then when she wakes up she starts to blame the man.

E no matter wetin man fit do for woman. Women have different reasons they need men. It could be one very tiny insignificant thing but smart women wey dey enjoy husband house never ever comes out to ask what she needs a man for. She just simply flex the marriage as she should. I have seen women that dont stress themselves about what their husbands are doing, they go to their workplace and return home to their man. They have beautiful conversations and enjoy with the kids till the next day. Those ones sef will tell you it was very difficult at first but they scaled through.

For instance You now, you said ur guy shouts sometimes but you go silent to make him dealize you don’t like the noise. The ladies wey you dey defend online dem go join shout with their man, drag him cloth join body.

Merry100:
Frank Edoho's wife is a beautiful, financially independent woman. Which one is "send her packing"? How is that a punishment to a financially independent woman? Many financially independent women would even gladly let go of a cheating partner. When a man cheats, his value reduces. Better to die single than to be with a cheating man.

It is better to grow old in peace. Life is better spent in peace than in bitterness. Worry and overstress have even caused some married women to grow grey hair early and look like great-grandmothers.

Many financially stable women value men they can trust. You would find her in her feminine energy when she finds companionship in a man. She does not value every man, but she values her man. Such relationships are likely to be genuine because it is not about survival. Everything about the relationship is genuine and natural: genuine love, genuine respect, genuine desire, genuine companionship, genuine emotional safety, and genuine connection.

Women do not need men; women want that particular man who matches them. That is why there are preferences in relationships and why many women do not simply marry just any man. If women truly needed men or could not survive without them, many widows would not choose to remain unmarried after losing their husbands.

You can force people to pretend they are happy, but you cannot force them to believe they are happy.

Women that have cheating husbands are not happy. Women that are constantly being abused and hit by their husbands are not happy. Women that are constantly being belittled, insulted, and disrespected by their husbands are not happy.

There is an extent to which a mentally stable person can tolerate. Yes, marriage requires some level of tolerance, but once it turns into mistreatment, it has already crossed the line.

There are many unhappy and unhealthy marriages. Many women remain because they are financially dependent, while others stay trapped by psychological conditioning rooted in religion or societal pressure.

All what you have said still boils down to what i said in my original post. A woman has to be patient to build with her partner or potential partner to be able to benefit positively from that partner.

I still reiterate that no woman likes to be alone. Its just that they want a Prince Charming. They want food wey don done. They dont want to go through the rigorous process of early stage of relationship.

It’s punishment o. You know seh woman ego big pass man own. Especially among her peers and her subordinates. Nope not all that kind of relationship is valuable. Everything is a test. The man could be playing her for her money. Also did you know that women despise men that let them do what they want. Women study everything the man does. No single thing goes unnoticed.

Look ma’am the truth of the matter is people, women aside now. People who are victimized, cheated on, treated badly. Those people you will never ever hear them complain. They wont even let you defend them.

Like i said earlier. You are rebelling against that cultural “shackles” that has benefited women. Do you know how hard it is to resist emotions?. Infact financial independence feeds women lack of self control. She opens up to everyone that seem nice to her so they mess her up plenty times. Life becomes like an office job to this kinds of women.

Welcome to social media age where someone who is clearly suffering the consequences of their actions is advising to make the same mistake they made.

It seems misery does love company.

Single mothers and impatient girlfriends should leave our sweet women alone abeg.

Antlisiam:
This is a day in 2026 allah is waiting for as he is thirsty already

Chai! Una too dey play for here. Savage though

Merry100:
All this while men have been excusing, supporting, and endorsing cheating. Does that mean all men cheat on their wives, or is it just a fantasy among men?

Hope you are aware the guy can send her packing. And now she’s single again. Now she has to hunt for guys and start the cycle all over. But the guy can just marry another woman almost immediately. Men can marry the most ugliest woman. Women are picky and choosy. Na there she go old.

The odds are against you guys my dear. At the end of the day na talk we just dey talk reality speaks for itself.

Merry100:
Exactly, you get the point, but you prefer to speak from a biased and illogical position.

There are responsible and irresponsible men, and responsible and irresponsible women.

Behaviour is individual, not gender-based.

Therefore, the issue clearly lies with individuals, not gender.

But if thats the case why are you women supporting Frank Edoho’s wife. Does it mean all women cheat on their husbands or ifs a fantasy among women

Merry100:
https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSxDj9qLr/

Yes he is right for irresponsible men. Not all men are irresponsible. A responsible man expects a sensible woman.

Merry100:
All glory be to God that society has evolved and more women are becoming enlightened day by day. May God Almighty, the unracist God of Heaven, continue to bless every hand, individual, government, and agency empowering women.

With time, even job creation will be at equilibrium for both men and women. You guys have not even started crying yet, carry on with your selfish expectations, the future will tell.

Culture wey dey crazy. Culture look woman wella tell her say she belong to a man, come dey train her on how she go make man happy. Her, she be goat right? She no get emotions?

A leader leads by example. How many men can even lead? One woman decide to follow una example and cheat small, una dey cry and question her behaviour all over the internet 🤣🤣🤣

The same culture that supports and excuses men's bad behaviours, including cheating, has no right to act as moral police or limit women's freedom.

Men do not have the moral authority to criticize women.

Men never finish advising their fellow men, but dem wan turn teachers and moral defenders for women🤣🤣🤣

Some men are simply hypocrites. There are drunkards wey dey lie for gutter, throw up on themselves, pee on their bodies, display all sort of nonsense in public, but na the lady wey no wear bra be the problem to some guys.

Every man na leader, even drunkards self go dey claim leadership for their homes. Una no get problem. Carry on🤣🤣🤣

But a Woman does indeed belong to a man. If not why do you guys wanna get married at all cost. You know, you guys talk a lot of logical things when having conversations with you but when hormones and emotions take over all logic just flies out the window.

That emotion and hormones is the reason women can never unite for a cause lai lai. Also when women gets above a certain age they jist become more mature and can never allow their sons take quarter of what they dished out to their husbands while they were younger.

Infact it is you women that encourage men to behave badly to other women. A woman will tell her son that if sue cannot be patient let her go. Her wahala too much abeg. But if the guy ask the father if his mum was different he will say no!.

All those bad characters you mentioned are actually being tolerated and encouraged by older women. Not men. This society is being run by women. So many times older women will tell the younger ones that men are polygamous that you should leave them alone to do what they like. Shey you know seh na woman dey shame woman pass infact the most goto weapon of a woman against her fellow woman and men sef is shame.

Women are very stubborn o. Before a woman will agree to any standards they must have been defeated to the core and saw that the battle cannot be won. Una think seh older generations stupid? Lol. Life was brutish back then. Now everybody don chop belleful na him make una think seh women were soft back then.

Women women wey no dey look face when craze start. An ordinary woman can wash Tinunbu from head to toe not caring who e b.

Those badly behaved men you are talking about most of them are products of single mothers or mothers that snatched the authority of the man over the child.

Also did you know it is the weak ones in society that usually cunningly create culture. Did you know this culture you women are rebelling against now was perpetuated by you guys. Because you guys observed you were fragile and cannot handle so much stress so after all the stress over many years, you decided to play the role of this sweet damsel in distress that needs saving from a man. So the men mumu fell for it.

What are you guys even rebelling against sef. You guys are cunning and diabolical. When a man marries you. All you do is manipulate him to do tour biddings till he dies. Infact the house belongs to you guys, the kids belong to you guys. Infact some of you are so stubborn that you want the benefit of a wife but you dont want the responsibilities.

If una don taya to dey play cute damsel in distress then so be it. Make una dey compete with men lets see how far it goes.

In my own opinion sha. I believe society can never evolve beyond the point where a woman stops needing a man. The reason everybody is shouting respect respect is because a woman won’t do anything for you unless she is emotionally attached to you. And since emotions dey expire respect and tolerance becomes the reason she does what she does.

Hmm Woman! Woman!!. Have you seen two women fighting, it’s vicious. Even mere quarrel sef, ground go shake. A woman can hold grudges against you for eternity. She fit avoid you for judgement day join sef. Women, they fight dirty very dirty. Una kom dey claim seh society dey disrespect una, society no value una, society dey oppress una. Na una society fear pass. Very funny.

But this one wey una no wan dey husband house again na dat one go finish una kpatakpata.

Do well to reply this one o merry100

3weeksblocking:
This una religion na ojukororo

Wayoooooo

The reason is because everything in our religion is out there in the open and nothing is gate kept. So its very likely to hear something thats not polished.

Dont marry her. Women that asks those questions she asked are aggressive and impatient women. If you study her very well, her going to church is because she is looking for something from God. Sje has a technical brain. God is just a means to an end for her.

Dont make that mistake bro.

Proserpina:
You refuse to answer my questions because you clearly have no answers. Now you want to impose an ancient superiority claim that really don't make sense in today's reality. Dude look for the owners of 2go beg them to reactivate the app for you because that's where you clearly belong.

Have a nice day.

Lol. Madam i don answer your question. But if i didn’t, then Clarify which one i didn’t answer

Merry100:
Your entire argument keeps reducing women to a man's possession instead of seeing women as full human beings with their own intelligence, values, preferences, and different life goals.

The fact that you asked a question like "Why hasn't he married you yet?" already says a lot about how you view women. Your mindset seems to be shaped by the kind of women you are surrounded by.

Marriage is a mutual decision between two adults. Women are not commodities that men purchase.

Let this stick in your skull: no matter how much a man loves a woman, he cannot marry her until she is also ready and they both agree.

Your question is sincerely degrading to women. A woman's worth is not tied to a man. A woman's worth exists whether she is single, dating, married, or entirely uninterested in marriage. You are probably used to desperate women, but they do not represent every woman.

My partner wants marriage, but we are not in a race, so we are not rushing anything. We are approaching that stage naturally.

Let me clarify this: a "single lady" generally means a woman who is not married. This is basic knowledge but I understand you might struggle with logic and such definitions because your mindset is simply shaped by outdated standards.

You are even arguing obvious things just to defend outdated ideas. How exactly are you asking whether women experience stress in marriages as if reality is invisible? There are documented cases of domestic abuse, emotional abuse, controlling marriages, and even women being killed by their husbands. So yes, unhappy marriages do exist.

And tradition does not automatically equal wisdom. Historically, many cultures did not "protect" women; they limited women's independence, education, finances, freedom, and choices. Thank God society has evolved.

Hmmm…. So if i approached you and asked you out what will your relationship status be? Single lady?. Because you are not married means you are a single lady? Does that mean you are ready to mingle? Think about that before you throw the words “single lady” around.

Marriage is an institution and men are the head of that institution but modern women seem to want to rebel against that idea. They want their partner to be their “equal” because they can both stand upright and walk with two legs. They think the man being the leader means he wants to walk over them and boss them around.

To reiterate marriage is an institution. As an institution the man is automatically the head. Having this in mind would guide every woman to make careful decisions. To choose partners who would lead with love and who listens. But thinking a man and a woman are equal when it comes to relationship is an idea that has never worked.

A man no matter how dormant and dense he appears to be can lead a family better than a domineering and strong woman. I have seen marriages where it seems its the woman that’s running everything in the house hut looking deep into that marriage you will see that there are situations where the man stands his ground to ensure that that woman doesn’t run the family to mud!.

When a woman marries a man she has chosen to surrender her leadership to that man ma’am. Because if you truly think deeply you chose that guy not because he is handsome but because he had leadership traits and you are sure that he can coordinate you towards your goal. Even though you both share same ideals you know that his contribution will propel your goals and aspirations immensely towards your desired destination.

What i think you are rebelling against is the style of leadership common in our african homes whereby the man is the lord and savior of the family. Whereby the man is a despotic leader who doesn’t listen to his wife. Its not the same in every African home.

To address your last point about women being free to do as they please. Have you seen latest podcasts and most recently Frank Edoho’s case. Look at all what they did for their wives and see how they paid them back. For some weird reason women seem to be a rebellious gender. They seem not to like order. It seems they view order as some sort of control and restrictions. If you are the type of man that leaves her alone to do as she pleases and supports her she seem to also resent you for being good to her. Modern women are messed up mehn.

Merry100:
So much nonsense. You sound mentally stuck in the 60s, not in today's reality, and I honestly don't even want bother trying to convince you otherwise.

You keep speaking as if all women think and behave the same way, which already shows how unrealistic your mindset is.

Some women are simply single by choice and are doing perfectly fine.

How exactly would you know single ladies are unhappy? Are you a single lady? I am a single lady, and I wake up every day happy and at peace. I don't have anyone stressing my life, disturbing my mental health, or bringing unnecessary drama into my space. I focus on my business, my goals, my peace of mind, and I am dating someone who values my peace.

And that "low value" idea is honestly ridiculous. We are in 2026, not the 1990s where women had to sit quietly pretending they had no interest in men just to appear "valuable." Value is not determined by who approaches first. Value is tied to personality, character, mindset, qualities, emotional intelligence, and what someone brings into a relationship. I know people personally, including family friends and acquaintances, where the woman was the one who approached first, and they are in healthy and stable relationships today.

Why the unnecessary moral panic? What exactly is wrong with women being attracted to men or "tripping" for fine guys? Men also do the same for women they find attractive, so why is it only an issue when women do it?

You also claimed that successful men do not want women or relationships, which is completely false. Many successful and accomplished men are dating, married, or actively building families. I am dating one myself, and he was even in a relationship when we met. Your narrative does not match reality.

Your entire write-up is simply a mix of stereotypes, online gender theories, and personal assumptions rather than facts.

Your claim does not even align with psychological findings. Men actually tend to score higher in narcissistic traits.

Men and women are wired differently. You talk asif your orientation is modern. In the old days people look at towns and villages and the home a woman came from before proceeding to date or marry her. To avoid orientations such as yours. But because its a mixed society and your voices are louder in this impulsive internet space you think all women welcome your kind of thinking.

Societal norms and cultures are actually set up to protect the weaker gender (women) from their impulsive decisions and from stronger and domineering gender (men).

Most marriages where the women initiates the relationships usually end badly except for very few and those few they were both friends and didn’t met at random places where fhe lady goes to “toast” him.

This thing you call modern is just “impulse”. Everybody wants to do what they like. They think culture is something backwards. They think restrictions are prison sentences.

This person you are dating why hasn’t he married you?. And if you are the one telling him to marry you then trust me he doesn’t rate you at all. You have to understand how men think. Men know a marriageable woman and a temporary woman.

Also you claim to be a single lady yet you are dating someone. You are not single. You are in a relationship.

How do you u know women are stressed in marriages when you’ve never been married.

Proserpina:
It's always about the vagina value to you lots

So what happens to the man women keep dumping, does his value increases? Are you saying women should stick with a badly behaved man so they won't lose value? And who's the custodian of this value? Who's keeping record?

Men and women are not equal the sooner you accept that reality the better. Also vagina is not the only thing of value women has that men consider.

In Islam our prophet says cocks crows when angels are around and i have confirmed it myself.

I can confidently tell you that there is a very strong prayerful person living in your house or your area.

Or its trying to wake you up to pray.

If you are prayerful person then congratulations God is giving you glad tidings.

Proserpina:
Ooooookaàaaaaayyyy?
I'm lost, can you connect this with my initial post?

I responded to this part:

“I don talk am before, as a man if you have bad character you will be dumped andreplaced. Read that again!!!”


Simply put, Stop dating men with bad character or else you will lose your value by jumping from one guy to the other all in the name of bad character.

Proserpina:
Two people are in a relationship but one should be calm and allow God mould her while the other is doing what?

You are not ready.


I don talk am before, as a man if you have bad character you will be dumped andreplaced. Read that again!!! Work on yourself and always strive to be a better version of you. It's not that hard.

The dating world is a market. Your value diminishes by the numbers of encounters you’ve had. Also, you attract your kind of partner not the other way round. You chose to date that guy in the first place. When i was younger I have been in places where I was Talking absolute balderdash about “we only die once” and taking foolish life threatening risk and the girls were looking at me like “lets go home right now”.

Merry100:
But the method of pushing blame, twisting the Bible, and running away from accountability has always worked for men, right?

Women are not entering marriage with the intent of leaving. The mindset of women just "being patient" in dating is part of what contributes to these cycles. Some end up making avoidable mistakes and entering wrong marriages because they did not walk away when they saw the signs.

Walking away from what does not align with one's values, goals, standards, or lifestyle is not impatience. It is common sense and self-preservation.

Dating is just like a market. If you go to the market to buy rice and you keep seeing beans, would you stay there practicing patience hoping beans will become rice? Wouldn't you rather leave and continue searching?

Timing and season only applies when there is already compatibility but external circumstances are causing delay. Without alignment, there is nothing to wait for.

The real key is recognizing that incompatibility exists, and accepting that both men and women can be wrong instead of pushing blame to one gender. Men are not saints or angels. There are a lot of irresponsible men in world, drunkards, toxic and aggressive men, womanizers, abusers, and criminals. So the idea that women's "impatience" is the core issue is totally invalid.

Patience does not change character. A bad man does not become a good man because a woman patiently tolerated his ill-behaviour and married him. Some women have been emotionally destroyed, abused, driven into depression, and even pushed to early graves trying to "love a man into becoming better."

Being single is not a disease. It is better to be patient in selection or remain unmarried than to be trapped in the wrong choice. Patience does not fix incompatibility, it only prolongs suffering.

Many single women are actually happy. Many who claim unhappiness are reacting to societal pressure, not reality. The truly unhappy woman are those woman constantly being abused and beaten by her husband. The truly unhappy women are those women whose husbands are unfaithful. The truly unhappy women are those whose husbands are irresponsible and come home drunk after making a public disgrace of themselves. The truly unhappy women are those women whose husbands are lazy and irresponsible. The truly unhappy women are those constantly cleaning up the mess of their useless husbands who add no value to their lives but instead create more problems. The truly unhappy women are the ones living in continuous abuse, betrayal, irresponsibility, and emotional neglect all in the name of marriage.

"You are getting older" are the married ones getting younger?

The world has moved beyond such a mindset. Enlightenment has brought freedom. Nobody should knowingly drink poison and call it patience.

In simple terms: compatibility is not to be joked with. If values, goals, and standards do not align, no amount of patience or time can fix it.

Mehn this your response is long o. Well, You are well aware that among humans are narcissists. They could be men they could be women but they have similar behavior. At the core of their behavior is selfishness and jealousy. They know how to spot selfless empaths with bright light easily and become their partner. When an empath starts to date a narcissist the first thing the narcissist does is try to diminish the empath‘s light through different nefarious voodooistic means. They want the empath‘s light for themselves or they become irritated by the empath’s light so they corrupt it. Then this empath becomes a useless person in the relationship. They lose all motivation and they become dull.

These narcissists they know it’s because of the voodoo they did or are doing to this person thats making this person act this way but still they do not care. They will continue to do that evil to that empath. Then they will start to complain and rant and gaslight the empath about how he or she lacks motivation in life and how they are incompatible. They use this excuse to run away after they have messed these empaths up. Then when people ask them why they left, they tell them that it’s because the empath lacks motivation and doesn’t want to work.

Most of the time in the relationship the narcissist is always the woman and the empath is the man. There are rare cases, say like 25% of the time where men are the narcissist. Those are the men you mentioned.

Now back to compatibility. When you ask a woman to define those things you call standards, goals, values, etc. You will observe that she attributes those things to material things. However very few men gain those things at an early age all he has below the age of 40 or below 35 are his potentials and his small or meager salary. Women who have been patient with these kinds of men are the ones who enjoys their marriage more than women who goes out hunting for men that fits their goals and lifestyle.

Wait! What would you do if you see a man who matches your ideal?, you will walk up to him and do what? Show him how low value you are by asking him out. Also best believe that the man that already has his goals and aspirations figured out in life is not looking for a woman because he already has one or doesn’t want the stress that comes with women.


And nope! Ma’am single ladies are not happy. Women are sentimental beings. They need their surroundings to make them happy. They like the idea of having a comfort zone where they cam rest their head. Even though when they get it they usually try to mess it up but you see that idea of having a comfort zone it keeps the single lady going out everyday hunting for a partner and if she is a single mum it keeps her up at night crying her eyes off.

What a dilemma. The guy she is dating has his own girlfriend and doesn’t want to stay the night with her. He loathes the idea of marrying her but leads her on. He knows all she is good for is nice conversation and the other rooms but his comfort zone is with his wide or his babe. Imagine having to beg a guy to stay the night with you.

Have you seen girls nowadays. They trip for any fine guy. Small thing they are rolling their hair. You are talking about standards when girls nowadays will sleep with you for free. You seem not to know how bad the situation is with this generation.

Merry100:
The real problem is uncultured men wanting women to always shrink into a role that fits their own selfish expectations.

You are so obsessed with shrinking women that you miss the essence of dating.

Dating is simply a compatibility check, not a process where a woman must patiently endure and be shaped to fit a man's expectations.

Some of you behave as though you created women, imposing rules and expectations that were never set by God. Why should women shrink like a goat in a world that belongs to both men and women? A woman has every right to choose who to marry or not to marry; she is not required to fit into a guy's idea of a partner.

In dating, two individuals who have been living their separate lives come together to see if they are compatible and can function as partners. A woman is not dating you to satisfy your expectations; just like you, she is also evaluating whether you fit into her values, goals, and standards.

There is a right person for everyone. Every individual should find their own match, rather than trying to resize someone who is not meant for them. Even when a woman is good, issues can still arise because some men fail to understand that women are individuals with their own lives and boundaries.

I understand you point ma’am and i feel your pain But this method you mentioned has never worked out for women. They try and try and try then time flies then they marry then they become impatient when the guy is slightly broke then they leave then becomes a single mother then the cycle repeats itself again.

No one is saying you should shrink yourself. Its about understanding timing and season. If same thing keeps happening to someone then someone should learn patience.

You know women are impulsive and moved by emotion. If she has a checklist she will immediately fall for the guy that matches that list. and then they begin dating then her test repeats itself again. Cuz There are people who are good at disguising themselves to fit other’s fantasies on the surface.

Antlisiam:
So anobi no no suratul feel abi

You try bobo

Ur brother go kom reply u here or for another post