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In your first few years of marriage or even during your courtship, your spouse or wife will try to dominate and control you. Yes! Thats the nature of women. You might say not all of them but some of them are subtle in their approach while some are aggressive. Depending on the kind of man you are and on your temperament. You wife or girlfriend is always on the look out for your every weak point. She is always on defensive mode to ensure she has tools to manipulate and defend herself against you when her negative female nature kicks in. Please theres a difference between being corrected and advised and being controlled because i have noticed that redpillers jump at any opportunity that looks like this to justify their bad behavior. Listen to your wife’s advice when she is right! Her attempt to dominate can be trying to control every decisions at home, when its time to make decisions she always want to ensure that her decision should be final. She will also be attempting to set boundaries in the house, and restrict your access to some places in the house at certain times or challenge your every authority. She might even justify her bad behavior by using traditional roles to establish authority within the relationship. “If you ask her why dont you sweep she will challenge you by saying men and women have hands or if you are broke she would say when you start to provide for me like a man I will start sweeping”. If her dominating nature is extreme, she will frown her face, she will start to gaslight and throw subtle shades to diminish your ego and make you dance to her tune and sometimes she will act erratic hours or days after her attempt to dominate you failed and you will be confused about what’s going on. What can you do about this character? Always watch out for subtle controlling attempts. Make sure when she corrects you, she does it respectfully and she chooses her words carefully. When she tries to guilt trip you into doing her biddings, do not concede. Make sure whatever she does with you she is gentle and in a feminine manner. Do not be scared of any attempts she makes or you think she would make. Mind you whatever decision she makes will always benefit you as women can be choking sometimes and times like this when she is pissed and angry will give you space and peace of mind to think as a man. She will try to make you angry so that you can make statements that she can hold against since there’s no rational reason behind her anger and tantrums. You know, So that she go fit shalaye give her family and friends. Don’t jabo! Compose and maintain your steeze omoba! Caveat: Dont be a big bully. Sometimes give her the chance to do what she likes and correct her once in a while so that she doesn’t resent you. |
dmg1:To each his own baba |
Bizmind95:Bros she will resent you because you dont know her background and family history. 16 na still development age, who knows if she go turn out to have the same characteristics as those older girls you dey avoid. She go kom begin hate the way way you dey correct am because she be wild girl and you dey holdd her down |
Yes! Your wife will deny you sex. For many reasons, hormones, mood, stress, pregnancy, control, etc. She will not be able to explain why. She will deny you sex to the point of aggression. I am saying this because some guys that love sex (and those who pleasure themselves) so much thinks getting married will give them a partner that they can be having sex with all the time. However this isn’t the case. Even if you guys had lots of sex while you were still dating something in marriage just changes her interest and chemistry. This is where sex becomes a tool of domination for some women. If you are a cocky guy that thinks your pre-intimacy game is the best. In your arrogance you would think “I sure seh if i touch am for the right places she go fall”. But no! that wont work, infact it will make you look like a fool because she will be staring at you whille you are romancing her and if you look in her eyes you will see disgust, irritation and that look of tyrannical boss. In her mind she’s thinking “I bet i can break and manipulate this guy, see the way he’s begging for sex and worshiping me” Cases like this is what some women use to dominate men especially the cocky arrogant ones. When women are not in the mood for sex they use it as opportunity to dominate men by saying things and making gestures to diminish his ego. She might say you are wasting your time, she might say your mares are good in making money while you are here boasting about sex matics. If a man likes sex so much and lacks self control then he isn’t ready for marriage. This is because a woman is looking to dominate and control a man in the marriage. Also You cannot force her into having sex with you because that would be rape. And if you think you can beat her into submission, you go beat her taya until she kills you or police come to arrest you. So the best thing as a man is to learn self control or else if raising your family properly is your priority then a sexless marriage will lead to resentment and bring lots of negativity into your marriage. Don’t forget marriage na night market, you might be good at selection but once in a while you will carry bad product. And no matter how smart you think you are, you are only prepared for 50% of her character. Best is to learn self control or choose other expensive and destructive options. Kudos to the matured ladies out there that understands and respect their men’s physical desires you guys are the best! |
The way women act with their spouses is different from the way they act with their children |
To all you aggressive men that has been tormented by women natural characteristics. Life isn’t fair! You also picked those partners because you thought they look responsible and can nurture your family. You are trying to control an adult. You want her to dance to your every tune like a robot.Then you become angry when she doesn’t. Tradition don cover una eye. Tradition sometimes rely on manipulation tactics, wealth and status to control people. This is a modern world, hierarchy na for who earn am and tyranny dey backfire. For your information na God put her for your hand. Handle her shenanigans like a man that you are. You are the head of the family. Your job is to lead. And this leadership na professor to PHD student and not principal and kindergarten children relationship. Lead with love and correct with love. Argue once in a while but for correction reason and sometimes just for the fun of it to tease her. Shakara her once in a while but don’t ever forget that your emotions are stronger than hers. The case of husband and wife is like an intelligent father with children. |
Nonexisting1:Bros, majority of human beings out there are out to take advantage of you and women are no different. Women think of comfort, provision and protection. If a man looks like he can provide these characteristics and she later finds out he couldn’t she will be very disappointed and can also act irritated. This irritation can be aggravated by mood swings. But if you shook eye for ground well and watch her well she will rather be with you than anyone else. Lastly no b everything wey woman talk you go take serious. But know when to take her serious though. |
I appreciate ya’lls comments but I believe from my post its easy to see I ain’t no simp. But we have to be realistic. Theres no way aggression works. You can only demo and shakara her here and there just to put her in her place but deep down you should be aware that women and men are totally different. If she recognizes that you have a strong personality she will automatically fall in line and recognize when your Lion is being calm. When she understands your personality and she’s feeling irritated she will control herself around you and when she loses it a bit she will feel slightly remorseful (Dont expect her to show it!) If you study your partner cArefully you should be able to know when she’s pretending. Even at that you still have to play the game and pamper her. Love is an art. She also plays that game once in a while. The truth is wisdom is a gift. Being able to communicate your feelings is also a gift. There are So many gifts we take for granted. Also I hope you guys are also aware that pills causes mood swings also. Go into marriage being realistic. Its not a fair game but you have to deal with it. However like some of you noted, mood swing isn’t an excuse for bad behavior. Mature women will talk themselves out of it and a teachable woman will learn how to talk herself out of it in due time. Lastly, women adjusts to their environment and to their partner’s character. |
AishaDant:Thanks sis. Amen 🙏. Its not easy o. Its a very hard job, you guys should take it easy with us men also. Especially the teachable ones. |
I want to quickly drop an advice based on personal experiences both in my life and observation of people around me. This advice is specifically for the guys. Not to say that men don’t also have their flaws but that’s a topic for another day. You Must Be Able To Manage and Handle Her Mood Swings Women have all sorts of mood swings caused by emotional stress and hormones and whenever this mood swing happens, you have to be able to recognize it and give your partner a little break while also checking on her once in a while to see how she is doing. Mood swings can happen during her menstruation period, it can happen when she’s stressed by other people or situations you know or do not know about. Mood swings can also happen while she is pregnant and after she gives birth. Her mood swings can be so bad that you might end up resenting her and planning on how to get back at her in the most evil ways possible. The solution to this issue firstly is Patience. Marriage can be sweet but most of the time marriage is tough (Very tough). You should also be aware that money will not solve mood swing problem, also be aware that there comes a time in every man’s life that he will go broke which will leave him very vulnerable and crush his ego. These times are the times devil uses mood swings to ruin marriages the most. Secondly as a guy, going into a marriage is a responsibility, it is not a fairy land. You are going into marriage to work. If you find enjoyment there savor it. Also detach Your emotions from your partner. Most of the time there will always be a reason for your wife to be unhappy, make sure your happiness doesn’t depend on her. Focus on your work and your hobbies. Forget about these fairy tales and all these RNB songs, only patience and tolerance can maintain a marriage because love is an emotion that can fade. Lastly, you need to pray a lot or put simply guard your spirituality. Theres possibility that your partner has spritual challenges that might start to affect you based on your association With her. These challenges can be so bad that it causes brings resentments into your home. You need serious prayer to chase these evil entity out of your home. A major consolation is that mood swings dont last for very long, it might take hours or days or even weeks. Find something to focus on. Make sure you don’t let her mood swings cause resentment in your family. Lastly she will deny that she has mood swings, dont argue with her, just recognize it when it happens, study your partner and act accordingly. ***TO THE SIMP MONGERS**** Woman (even men) case b like person wey buy dog, if you no watch am well he go wan dominate you and if he catch rabbies he go find as e go bite you. You know all these and yet you still buy the dog. Act accordingly with your fellow humans abeg! Real men don’t complain about situation, they just deal with it. The aggression in your comment shows some of y’all’s docile and passive aggressive personality. Always whining about life’s challenges. And to the mature men that gets the point, God bless your marriage and may he give you wisdom to lead your family the proper and Godly way. |
Odotech:Well, advise to muslims, suratul Baqarah (and other surahs in the Quran) also sends people like this running helter skelter whenever they see you approaching in real life. This people are terrified of Islam and muslims because it terrifies the demons in them. |
Suratul Baqarah has tremendous benefits. It brings healing and chase evil away from you and your family. You dont have to read the entire surah at a go. Merely reading ten Ayahs or less or more has lots of benefits. If you find yourself in the hospital or a new environment you can recite some ayats from surah Baqarah and Allah will bring healing and tranquility to the sick and to the environment. |
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madridguy:Amen sir |
lecowas:Thanks boss |
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A case in point. I am the type of person that loves praying tahajud but it wasn’t consistent. Sometimes i pray tahajud twice a week or thrice. At a certain point tahajud became difficult for me. I would sleep off and feel so tired to wake up for tahajud and when i do I would feel very sleepy. I still prayed my normal five daily prayers without difficulty but when it comes to tahajud am unable to pray to my satisfaction. So one day I called out to Allah through one of his names “ya Lateef (The benign). I wasnt expecting much, I was only hoping Allah will improve the overall quality of my life. To my surprise I woke up at exactly 1:58am in the midnight of the next day. I felt like I had slept for eight hours, I was so energetic that I picked up my mat and prayed Tahajud till fajr time. I wanted to make sure it wasn’t coincidental. I recited the same Allah’s name as much as i could and the same thing happened for days. Its been happening like that from the first day up until this point. Also the quality of my life has improved a lot. I feel more happier and contented now as if I have millions in my pocket. People have also become more friendly with me, and those who dislike or envy me have switched to wanting to be my friend. I have seen so many other miracles that have solidified my fate in Allah even before this particular miracle. This one is just wonderful. I wake up at exactly 1:58 every night and I never feel tired to pray tahajud. Example of another miracle is whenever I recite “Ya Mutakabir” (The majestic)for as little as 20 times I sleep more peacefully and I have never had nightmares nor sexual dreams. My point here is that Allah is truly very close to us than our jugular veins. And he truly answers our prayers. Infact he is eager to answer our prayers. My advice to anyone who finds it difficult to read the quran or pray is to first of all seek forgiveness from Allah by reciting “Astaghafurullahi” as many times as possible and also follow it up by reciting “ya Lateef” Atleast 100 times daily. Then slowly, gradually Allah will guide you towards himself. He himself will inspire you to do good and lead a pious life filled with abundance and joy. |
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All women keep malice and are manipulative. Just look for the lesser evil and manage her. It happens to all men. No man likes to keep malice but women will test you. The best solution is not to base your happiness on her. Just treat her like you would treat your sister or your mum. (You no go get choice because she go test you to the point of denying you sex for months or weeks) Just detach your happiness from them. Make dem happy but expect nothing in return. |
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willpowerUP:Your topic sounded like u needed help. And needed contribution and suggestions from other people. After going through your thread i realized you are trying to educate people while also on a journey yourself. Its not a bad thing. However you have to be open to other people’s opinion. Yes masturbation is a terrible habit that leads to weakness and other negative impact on guys due to the release of dopamine in the brain. However. You cant just go cold turkey like that. You have to manage the energy by first of all delaying gratification which is by delaying ejaculation which is the point of masturbation in the first place. Then going few days in a week then few weeks in a month then few months in a year. You cant just decide to start counting long days. |
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As a muslim wake up in the night to pray tahajud. Then sit down and do as many astaghfirulah and plenty zikr as you can. Then ask for what you want from Allah. Even if you dont get exactly what you prayed for. You will surely see significant improvement in your life in general. |
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Guys. Masturbation isnt the problem. Quick ejaculation during masturbation is the problem. The longer you delay ejaculation the lesser damage it does to your confidence, etc. You can pause and continue again whenever u feel like ejaculating. do it several times then ejaculate. Its called the stop amd start method. It will keep your private part erect after ejaculation and You wont feel like a loser because you didn’t lose so much energy. At this point masturbation will become boring to you since theres no instant gratification anymore. |
