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billynoni:
Even at 60yrs you can... lemme sleep and wake up, will edit and explain.(possible solutions).

Answer these first=> Can you make it part-time learning? Would you trust anybody with your business? Do you plan to work with the certificate later? If yes, how soon?

Yea i can do part time learning provided it's a uni..I see poly like a waste of time. But then, won't it affect my focus?

It's hard to get honest people these days so can't really leave the business with someone else and btw, my fear about the business is that, I've built some kinda relationship with my customers that they'd likely not purchase when I'm not around. Or lemme say i have this persuasive power to make them buy.

I see the certificate as a backup, incase anything can come up.. I've once had someone wanting to hook me up with a job opportunity so you can imagine that kinda scenario.

I'll be 34 when I'm done with the 5year first degree so looking at that TIME i just want to know if it'll be worthwhile

Okk, this life no really balance sha.. When i was younger i struggled to gain admission.. I was all fired up then but finance was a restraint. My parents couldn't just afford it even though I gained admission.
I eventually lost interest after getting my hands busy and started getting small change. Right now, I'm 27 and would be 28 by March 2022.
I've managed to grow a business which is surviving by God's grace and now when i think of it, it might not be that sustainable.. This business requires my attention so I'm at crossroad here.
Now i have the funds to see myself through school but i fear the business may crash if i should leave. It's not easy starting up a business from scratch and then watch all your years of effort go down the drain.
Please i need experienced advice on what to do. Thanks
Cc Lalasticlala Seun

I feel really sorry you had to go through this.
The guy did not try at all but then i wouldn't blame him because he had to do what he had to do.
The Nigerian society ain't so accepting of his kind and its not helping matters.
This kinda scenario would always happen because they tryn save face.

I also feel sad for the guy because he might be on suicidal thought now

Eviana:
Wow,
This OP really hit home for me.
The most devastating thing, I believe, that can happen to a woman in a perceived heterosexual relationship, is finding out that you are living a lie. That the man whom you shared your heart with (and perhaps even conceived children with) is not heterosexual at all.
Awhile ago I had a conversation with a friend about what she thought would be more devastating: A. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a woman OR B. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a man?
She said A.
I was shocked cause I couldn't believe that she chose "A".
Her rationale was that she has no chance when it comes to the man being gay and cheating with a man...but if cheating with a woman, she would always wonder what the woman whom he cheated with had, that was better than her.

I, vehemently, disagreed with her....and she had to remind me that it was her opinion and choice.
The conversation ended.

Looking at this from a purely secular/non-religious viewpoint, I would have to say that both parties are victims.
Victims in the sense that because of societal, cultural dictates, (especially in a "religious" country such as Nigeria), there is no safe place for those whom believe that they are homosexual, to openly practice and live their lives.
So because the practice of homosexuality is forbidden and allegedly punished by law in Nigeria (and many black African countries), the only way the homosexual person can live is through underground/hiding. So the homosexual, in turn, marries a heterosexual in order to keep up appearances and the expected cultural norm.
So now an innocent person is brought into the deception and even conception of children.
It becomes such a tangled web of lies....until it finally bursts open (because the homosexual can no longer hide his true feelings) and all is exposed...leaving emotional devastation so deep and hearts so broken and feelings so embittered that it almost becomes irreparable.

I am a born and raised Christian and have commented on many threads in the Religion room pertaining to homosexuality and the Bible.
This OP happens within the church as well. In fact, a large homosexual population exists in the church, but it is kept "hush-hush."
I cannot condone the act, simply because God condemns the act.....as He condemns a plethora of other sins.
I don't personally believe that same-sex attraction is just as cut and dry as saying a person was "born that way." So many other reasons have been cited as reasons why the attraction has developed.
Clearly and most importantly, the Bible cannot be contradictory, and it is impossible for God to be a liar---so the answer is plain for those who are confused and sincerely pray for the truth.

I do, however, believe in freedom of choice.
I believe that people should not be ostracized, beaten or killed because of their choice of lifestyle.
For me as a Christian, heterosexual woman, I can support the freedom of choice YET disagree with that person's choice and NOT harm, discriminate against or ostracize him/her.
I happen to live in a country where homosexuality is not only celebrated, but rewarded...which is a gazing-stock and shunned by the majority of developing nations such as Nigeria. Also which is probably why Bobrisky is such a phenomenon there.

I think, however, where the majority of African countries have a big issue is how they choose to address the issue. Is it a governmental right to exact certain laws which are extremely harmful to individuals who clearly aren't physically causing harm to another person, but whose lifestyles aren't the norm? Is homosexuality on the same level as murder, robbery, kidnapping etc., in a governmental sense?
Clearly, in many black African nations, it seems to be.
Every human being should be regarded as a human being...complete with freedom of choice and rights.
Until Nigeria is ready to truly address the issue in mature, serious manner, these types of stories will continue to forever be the narrative.

So many layers to this issue...so many.
I'm sorry for delving off of the topic in a sense.

My prayer is for the OP (if this is a true story) and anyone going through this type of situation (cause I guarantee that there is someone else reading this thread who is) to heal by going to God in prayer---first and foremost.
If not a spiritual person, I would suggest that you call out to Him anyhow. Yell and scream if necessary,
Tell Him you're not sure He exists and then dump your cares on Him.....cry it out.
Then perhaps seek Christian counseling as a practical way to help you through the devastating crisis.
I cannot NOT suggest some form of religion because it really is the only way to get true healing.

This is by far the best and most constructive take to this.. God bless you real good

Graceful

Felabrity:
Can't remember the last time Bruno scored

Same stuff that killed Juventus

exactly! But you see those silly ronaldo fanboys would never agree

God! First time I'm spending Christmas alone as i got myself an apartment. Mehn food wan kill me! From my family, friends, neighbors choi!! The chicken i bought for myself was just prepared today sef.
I jus dey look the meat dey irritate me

pinatag:
Like for Jesus the Son of Mary
Share for Pedophile Prophet

stop this nonsense!

I don't have a girlfriend and not sure I'm ready anytime soon... I'm still enjoying the company of these two men flirting with me
Funny something

All i will say is, may God bless you exceedingly!
Your father go humble!

Righteousness2:
When you hear and see some Decrees of mere men , you begin to imagine how things would have been if men were GOD.

Thank you LORD JESUS! You alone is GOD, LORD and KING.

as in eh,!

jeffizy:
I don't think it's a palm print. Rather , it could be a case of wall gecko running a face course on that surface.

Verify well though.

hmm. This is clearly a palmprint. If it was any reptile or insect like someone said, there'd been trace path of it getting away. Please see the picture again

daddytime:
Lol

Have you thought about the possibility of a roach landing there on its back, struggling to get back on its "feet" for a while before finally succeeding and making a flight before you catch am?

I see no palm prints there my brother.

roach? In my room? Impossible. Even at that, a roach can't make such distinct pattern

I just saw something bizarre this morning.
First of before I proceed, i stay alone in a single room self contain. If i say alone, i mean it in every sense of the word. No visitors, no family members, nothing!
So i woke up this morning and my attention was drawn to my dusty Television stand which wasn't too far from my bed. As i made to clean it, lo and behold i saw a fingerprint or rather a palm print on the dusty set. I immediately knew something was off because it in no way looks like my palmprint.
Firstly, my palm is way bigger, secondly it looks like something fresh because i don't leave my electronics stand dusty for too long. I've not not had a visitor for a while now so there's no explanation for how the palm print got there.
I am almost certain this happened overnight because I'm quite a very observant person and if it were there before, I'd noticed it!
This has got me thinking very hard since then, not because I'm afraid ( I no send anybody papa! Anything wey wan touch me make e come face to face make we digger am! Lol) but I'm just tryn figure it out.. Attached is the picture of the palm print.
Second picture is my own palm print because i wanted to be so sure it wasn't mine!
Lalasticlala please to the frontpage thanks

Some stupiid people blinded by sentiment would now be defending Auba's rubbish display. Hope y'all are watching.??!

Even if it remains 10 secs to go, Athletico Madrid will score.

Prettydevil:
Silly because I accepted that I’m into girls and I’m not gay, does that make you want to cry realizing I’m straight? Or that I like paying for sexx better than pretending to love a girl for sexx? I have an extremely high intelligent quotient so you’re the dumb one. I am tired of you people telling others how to behave and what not to say, if you die nobody will remember you so live your life trying to sound politically correct you’re only missing out on LIVING

pretty devil.. No one cares whether you're gay or not, or wether you derive sexual pleasure from a tree! What am saying is, you tryna explain yourself only makes you look sillier than i initially thought.
I knw your type.. Trying to seek validation on your weird life.. Bro no one gives a fvvck!

Moconka:
Going thru this until my church member stopped me one day and told me she’s into selling clothes n co. Gave her attention n she requested for my phone number. Suddenly began vibing on WhatsApp and before you know it, we dated for 2months. Remember I was on my own jejely because I haven’t met the right woman for me. Now I was loving this babe and She loved up too before she suddenly told me some days ago that her mom went to pray and they said we can’t marry each other that am fire she’s water. I haven’t been thinking straight for days now but I know God will come to my rescue.

lmaoo
What's with these churches sef?? You're fire and she's water? More reason the two of you are fit for each other because when you throw in fire she quench it with her water . Yeye people

Prettydevil:
I am not gay my dear nairanladers. Why will I chose the strong butt hole of a man over the big soft yansh of a girl? God forbid!

All I’m saying is normal girls won’t even want to do kinky stuff with you because you’re their so called boyfriend..after spending all u have on their stupid needs. But when I pay for it, I get to have the best sexual experiences over and over so maybe You people are the gay ones for begging one little girl to fvck u after spending money u should be giving your mum on her all because you want to feel among and say you have a girlfriend. I am in a class of my own, when I die nobody will remember me after two weeks and u think I won’t do all the sexual fetish that is known to man? I don’t need a girlfriend, I have a million girls I pay for my PLEASURE DUMB ASSES

how old are you? You might be adult but your reasoning is like a kid.
I was even tryna defend your stance sef until i read this silly submission

VOsimhen144:
Are you gay? You obviously sound like one.

Which one is I have a pretty face? You should have said I'm good looking or handsome.... So, which one is I have pretty face?

Werey! You're gay Dude!!

And if he is, so fvccking what?! He should kill himself??
What's wrong with y'all?

I seriously think naija girls need to change their ways cos what's with the rubbish i hear almost every day?
Just today, a customer friend of mine came and started ranting about how his girl is frustrating him. He's not even married yet o. He went as far as saying were it not for the sake of child birth, he would not consider marriage. Lol.. It's crazy!

Majesty33:
Africa is gradually loosing her cultural values that were left behind by her ancestors due to the emergence of social media and our brothers in diaspora have brought western values and it has brough us shame, pain and catastrophe. The discipline inflicted in children of nowadays is very minimal. Society should expect more of what happened at Bowen college Lekki. And again, never blame North Korea for placing a strong restriction on South Korean cultures cos our embrace of western values brought this catastrophe upon us. Shalom my brethren.

just... Just shut the fcck up! Y'all are making me very angry with this your senseless notorious take! The children disciplined back then, what happened to them?
Are they not the thieves and broken leaders/elders with no sympathy we have today??
Use your senses for once and stop blaming the west for every misfortune bedeviling the black race!

Rubyventures:
Child abuse disguised as something else

where are all those kids now? all emotionally damaged.

exactly! Some people are here saying it's what made them who they are today.. F**cking bullcrap!!

realestate99:
I once asked myself, with all the iron hand we were tortured with during our child hood, how come we have a dysfunctional society?

Beating does not instill discipline on its own, it has to be aided by other methods, when you beat a kid for every inadequacies, he gets used to it and sometimes he will intentional err if he knows the enjoyment he will get from the punishable act is greater than the punishment itself.

There was a day I ran away from house. I forgot to do the assignments my dad gave me before he went out in the morning, I went out to play street football for almost 6 hours, I was exhausted, my battery was on red, I wanted to rush the assignment when my dad came, he asked for the answers but I was stuttering.

He was unleashing his belt from his trouser's belt hole , I was afraid that day because my body can't take any beating that moment, then suddenly he told me to go outside and bring a big stone so that I can carry it as punishment after I will get my beating.

when I reached outside, a divine thought came to my mind, flee!!! your body can't take the impending punishment. And truthfully I might not survive the beating that day, I dropped the stone and ran , I stopped after I reached another neighborhood, I was there till 8pm, then I remember the rampant cases of kidnappers, I decided to trek back home . When I was some metres to my house , the neighbors were already looking for me, I could hear my mum's cries, I just had to show myself because I couldn't bear to hear her cries any further.

The neighbors were happy I came back, an elderly man told my father not to beat me again that night, one neighbor even took me in for the night because he saw the anger brewing on my dad's face.

After 23 years, I told my dad that if I had been punished that day, He might not have someone to call his only son.........we both laughed over it.

God bless you! Most of the beatings back then, were highly irrelevant and irresponsible sorry to say!

Ekpekus:
Na wetin put the world for where e dey so .

that's a big lie! The kids back then are the grown ups of today, causing all manner of havocs!
So what happened to all those so-called discipline??

You see that number 32, God knows i might have been a very good professional footballer by now... If you dare kick a stone back then in the name of playing football, you're in hell!

I really don't think that's the best way to train up your kids.. Parents back then were too harsh! Even with all the harshness, those children that are tyrants, are still tyrants! the beating changes nothing!

Parents back then(black parents precisely) thought they were training their children but they're instead breeding hardened kids

ThierryJay:
Pained Dumbos. When did they start counting votes in Ballon dor? Wasnt it 2013 or so meaning 4 of Messi's Ballon dor wins were accrued without the current vote counting system.

Dum* fans lol

God bless you my brother.. Lol.. Them go cry taya

justosee:
That is because he started getting nominations earlier than Messi.

Not per se sef.. Percentages not points, were used to determine winners when Messi won 4 of his ballon d or. So this point Obembet is trying to raise is stupidly ignorant!

BoomBucks:
Bros nothing like being logical and I don't care how you feel and I don't want you to reason with me either.

I really care less....

The moment Argentina and Messi won Copa America(international trophy) I knew he will win balond'or. All those Kante, Lewa, Jorginho(LOL) were just funny.

Messi won laliga golden boot
Copa America golden boot
Best player
Best assist
Won Copa del Rey too.
I don't know what you mean but Messi 100% deserve balondor 2021, Lewa 2020!!!

Like I said, I don't care how you or anyone who wants to act rational because Messi won it feels.

And yes he had a better season. I mean even Modric won this thing with a poorer stats abeggi....

Take k!!!

tell them!

Where's that Obembet whatever.. Shiooorrrr

The misconceptions about homosexuals sha.. The fact he wears waistbeads does not make him gay.

Many of the real homosexuals, as in, those naturally just attracted to the same gender, DO NOT have a single feminine trait.!