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limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

freeDR:
1 Samuel 15 vs 1-3.
Genesis 6 vs 13
Genesis 19 vs 24-25......the list continues.

freeDR:
1 Samuel 15 vs 1-3.
Genesis 6 vs 13
Genesis 19 vs 24-25......the list continues.

freeDR:
That's not true. God kills.

Twizzy30:
so it's the devil that kills?

ItzBIM:
The people that destroyed ur past can’t guarantee your future.

Let’s take it back

shachris02:
true. Buhari is just clueless.

Willgates:
It's high time we retired these dysfunctional men.

Willgates:
It's high time we retired these dysfunctional men.

PinkStarsFallIn:
Bros, keep up with your resolution o.
I just decided to break my own this month,
And I have 120k stuck in the air as I speak.
Its sad

helinues:
May be we should try harder next time..

Its a game of football so no big deal

Opinionated:
The New Year is just few days away, so it’s time to make the most of it. At this time of the year, you must have done a proper review of the year. But if you are yet to do that, it is not too late.

Reviewing the year is not just to remind you of your achievements and shortcomings but to help you kick off your New Year’s career on the right foot and here is how to get started.

List your achievements

Think of the best three to five things you accomplished this year and write them down. You must have achieved those goals because you did something spectacular or improved your skills or began a new behavioral pattern. Whatever you did to achieve those goals should be listed as your strength.

List your shortcomings

After doing this, you should also state three to five goals you could not achieve and why. When you become familiar with why you were unable to achieve those goals, you can make those reasons your weaknesses. Write out those weakness and draw up a plan to manage your weaknesses.

Create a Plan

Now that you are familiar with your strengths and weaknesses, it is time to write out your New Year goals and seek for ways to maximize your strength to achieve more. If you need to acquire more skills to do more in the coming year, you should begin the training process now.

This is also the right time to create a plan on managing your weaknesses such that they can be used to achieve your goals.

Brace yourself for the next level.

Success is opportunity meet preparation – Zain Asher

The world is evolving really fast and you cannot afford to be left behind. The end of the year is a great time to look ahead and figure out what you need to start doing to prepare you for the changes that may occur in your professional, financial, social and personal life.

Source: 4 Ways to Get Ahead of the New Year

Some of the above mentioned points are not within the everyone's power to execute. There are other inhibiting factors in some cases.

fykes:
only the military can attack a former General.
This attack has all the imprints of a hit

Giovanni2332:
Women beside masquerade, odi egwu