₦airaland Forum

raldsfield:
Girls are just funny. The guy is just your boyfriend and you are thinking about marriage.

You have to engage, ( become the financier). i have friends that have being dating for over

6 years and they are not yet married. Well check the guys pocket before you talk about marriage.

If he is na Igbo guy, has he got the millions to pay your bride price. Abi to marry na free.

No mind me, some people feel marry 1 week after they meet. best of luck.

I support you. Ask the guy or bring to Nairaland make we ask am for you.

dennylove:
ally,remember you are a lady,and AGE is telling on you, if you really LOVE this guy like you ''ve said,then CONFRONT him about the marriage stuff,jst like UHCE2NNA, will say if the mountain does not come to MUHAMMED,let MOHAMMED go to the mountain.so if you know that the guy belong to you,then fight for your POSSESSION.peace.
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That is wat i am talking about!

neelsel:
You asked for peoples' opinions and seem to be getting greatly offended when they advise accordingly. First of I personally believe you are suffering from a case of low self esteem. Why would you put yourself through so much to be with someone who doesn't deserve to even wash your feet?
Sweetheart, you are worth much more, don't let anyone, I say ANYONE mistreat you like that. I don't care how great you claimed the sex to be.
You need to do a seriously thorough self evaluation. Prioritize everything and everyone in your life. Let this guy go, I know it would be difficult. Sounds familiar? I had a similar experience, the guy wasn't married but he seems to have similar traits to your abuser( yes that's exactly what he is)
Start living for YOU. There are so many things you can accomplish without this obvious burden. Wrap him up and throw him in the ocean, where he belongs.
Someone once said "Love should never make you hurt or sad, for if someone Loves you he/she wouldn't make you do those things( paraphrasining)
Things you should do to rid yourself of evil guys:
1. adopt new hobbies, start doing things he dared you couldn't do before, like scuba diving.
2. change your physical appearance, maybe a new hairdo, wardrobe etc
3. get a new number( private) and make sure he is not aware of it
4. rekindle the friendships he destroyed when you both were wasting time.
5. if you are in school/college finish up that degree and get a great job
and last but certainly not least( well I did this) buy yourself a brand new "ride" and make sure when you are driving down the block to honk your horn at him in his beat up Toyota.

mochafella:
How would you describe the 50year old Northern men marrying young teenagers and saddling them with VVF? Granted the North is regarded as "different" but you will find the odd twisted Southern mind that likes the kiddies.