₦airaland Forum

Ryan03:
nobody marries the whole family unless he chooses to. Even as a single guy, family members do call me for money, if I have, I give, if I don't I tell you I don't. If I have and don't feel like giving, I won't. Its the same when you get married, nobody will put a gun to your head

are you sure you are an igbo man?

we know where the shoe pinches

Xisnin:
Education is also a sham to unemployed and unemployable graduates.


Are you really free since everything you do is dictated by your white masters who can't
handle their domestic affairs?



The same way many employers have been pushed into hiring bad candidates. What poor employers!
Given that it is Nigerian men who seek out and proposed to women, I don't think you are worth engaging
much further.


Of course, some women would be pushed into what they don't want


Yes. You are a product of the sham even if your parents were not married
because they benefited from a society that values marriage.

You are just like a nudist who complains about people wearing cloth without
understanding the need for clothes in the first place.

I have assumed that you are a single guy who is not interested in any relationship
now or in the future. But it will be too bad if you happen to be those who have a long-term relationship
or even cohabitating where the relationship is run just like married people while claiming not to be married.

I expected This kind of response from you

And I was not disappointed

what is my business with "White masters? "

who the help are those sef?

my parents have an actual relationship

what many Nigerian couples their age don't have

And our house while growing up was not the conventional one

it would not have mattered if they were married or not


yes marriage is a scam

Hadampson:
Lol.. Boss, i just checked the thread out of curiosity

You are marrying a Deutsch woman
this thread no concern you
oya waka

@Hadampson
I see you here
surprisingly

khiaa:
So in other words, Africans have less divorces because the wife is totally dependent on the husband and can't provide for the kids and herself so she remains in a unhappy miserable marriage.

it's more of being slaves to societal expectations

lefulefu:
some nigerian guys have borrowed millions of naira from the bank or from money lenders
just to do a wedding and after the wedding they are in perpetual debt .

man.suffers for his foolish decisions
that is the case of those ones who do this

Offpoint:
Being single is one privileged I can't trade for a billion naira, marriage is equivalent to life imprisonment.


The fear of someone standing at the door demanding to know where I was coming from by 11pm scare the shít outta me.

hahahahahaha

MoonWater:
Marriage isn't actually hard... It's the couple that will decide if they want it hard or sensible.
If you choose a simple wedding no one will arrest you.
If you choose to break the bank and add huge loan to it. Pray hunger doesn't strangle you

facts

Pettyprincess:
This is one of the things i dnt like about us,many guys are in debt after their lavish wedding just to impress family nd friends.
What i know is that on my wedding day it will be very simple with just family nd close friends,i will rather use the money to establish myself nd hubby.

You and your man will need balls of steel to pull this off...

I wish you well

Originalsly:
[qumoote author=Kapeter post=82675837]

I don't know what the problem with African is though buh it seems it's not God that created others that also create us sha cuz in everything we are totally different and it's obvious.



Who should we be like? That is our Culture... do the Chinese do the same as the Americans? ...do the Indians do the same as the Latinos? Isn't it the same God that created them all?... and yet you don't see them as difficult... but we are... difficult and different. Again... who should we like?

With this your reasoning and conclusions you don't even know you are supporting what you are condemning. ... too young to marry... not mature enough. You want to be free to marry at 18...like the Americans and others.... they were already living on there own....earning for themselves... were you?...are you? As difficult as they may be....what is the divorce rate compared to the ehmmm.... easy marriage countries?

and just so you know

it's the societal chains and all that has kept divorce rates somewhat lower in Nigeria
not because the marriages are better

Let Nigeria slide away from that
and you will see

Originalsly:
[qumoote author=Kapeter post=82675837]

I don't know what the problem with African is though buh it seems it's not God that created others that also create us sha cuz in everything we are totally different and it's obvious.



Who should we be like? That is our Culture... do the Chinese do the same as the Americans? ...do the Indians do the same as the Latinos? Isn't it the same God that created them all?... and yet you don't see them as difficult... but we are... difficult and different. Again... who should we like?

With this your reasoning and conclusions you don't even know you are supporting what you are condemning. ... too young to marry... not mature enough. You want to be free to marry at 18...like the Americans and others.... they were already living on there own....earning for themselves... were you?...are you? As difficult as they may be....what is the divorce rate compared to the ehmmm.... easy marriage countries?

so our culture involves marrying a woman and feeding HER FAMILY

that's fuxked up

Traditional marriage is all good2

its our heritage and we should keep that
with all the coiourfulness and all that

But after
it's you, your wife and your kids

your wife family should NEVER be your obligation

this is one thing I hate about igbos
we kill ourselves for ungrateful women and their useless families

Ikem11:
Lol op this more reason I married a white lady. For past 6 years I been with her not even a day I paid for her mama or papa things... Na them they join come give me sef as someone married to their daughter.

African mentality is so bad. My wedding was paid by my father in-law cos am not allowed to since am getting married to his daughter (not like I can't afford it they know very well I can)

that is interesting

skywalker240:
Oga I Didn't compared it with the west,


am only trying to point out reasons young men gets frustrated with marraige in Africa, thats why alot of young guys lose the girl they love because they cant afford that colossal list and the baggages that comes with it (when her family does any meeting the man would be billed some money, honestly that can be a burden thats even 1 of the many examples dont get me started on her siblings and parents), most girls end up with who is ready finance wise and not with who they wish to settle with.

why in Africa do you keep hearing that phrase,


NA WHO DON CHOP BELLEFULL DE MARRY ?

lets call a spade what it is.

don't mind them

when you call out the uselessness of the system run in Africa
they will open their mouth and try bringing in western countries into it....


The marriage scam in western countries come in a different dimension from the sham in Africa
the difference is that while they over there are having frank discussions about it, Nigger Africans are still burying their head in the sand, and in love with their chains


Damn it


hahahahahahaha

Xisnin:
Shed your inferiority complex.

Mariage is way harder in the western world, that is why it is gradually dying
and their divorce rate ranges from 40 to 70%.

The problem I have with many of you JJCs is that you live your lives inside Hollywood or
choose to believe in myth as opposed to reality.

Even many western men have started going to Asian countries to find traditional women
to marry because they can't face the prospect of a "hard" marriage.

I am not the one to tell people how to live their life but just because you don't measure up
to certain societal standards doesn't give the right to spread lies about it.

anyone who does not know that marriage is a sham, especially in Africa is fooling himself

If not for the societal chains Africans live with in their neck so gleefully
many sham marriages would have collapsed tey tey....

It's all for the societal appearances

Many men in Nigeria have been pushed into a lifetime of misery, fending for an ungrateful wife, and useless in-laws while his mental health is in decline....

many women in Nigeria have been pushed into a lifetime of misery as well, with what they have to suck up to and the heaping of undue responsibility here and there

Marriage of the last three centuries is a big sham
on that note I agree with the OP.

omoharry:
That is why the world is diverse with thier unique way of doing things. The way of the polish people cannot be the same in places like India or China or other countries that have their peculiar way of marriage and tradition..

You cannot use another country and their way of life and style of marriage as a yardstick to measure your own continent..it shows you do not have an identity. You are always quick to put down your own because it is convenient for you to accept their style of living, then why don't you take every package that comes with marriages in the western world where the woman rules and the laws favors her if she does not want the marriage anymore. You think sey na here wey you be master of the house?where you can do and undo and society will tell your wife to bear your nonsense and pray for her husband? whilst she continue to be the good wife of keeping the home front running as you gallivant around with your guys around town and a couple of side chicks...

Applying the western culture means you have to be involve with the domestic affairs of the home 50/50..including helping out with the work around the house as well as the children, cleaning them up caring for then as at when due, both of you will be sharing roles and there wont be " I am the man of the house" both of you will share income 50/50 and no body is the head of the house.

You dare misbehave in anyway with another woman or any mistake of unfaithfulness then you are a goner..you will not only loose all your properties, you will lose full custody of your children ,you will be allowed visitation right(that is if she really mean to deal with you)

So marriages everywhere has their pros and cons..it now depend on you to know which one you can cope with. You can travel and marry a foreign woman with just 20 dollas /pound if you so wish..it is your life and we should choose what will make us happy.
Abeg nor dey rubbish our culture ooo..! I am sure that even within Nigeria we have marital rite that are very cheap and less fun fare..it varies from ethnic group to group and families to families

You see what the OP was talking about?

hahahahaha

Kapeter:
and what are Africans ever good for? Most especially the ones stucked here in the continent. Did you even see the humiliation the African leaders suffered at the just concluded UNGA? The rest of the world left immideately African leaders started giving their speech. Why? Because they know Africans have nothing to offer.

who want to hear what the Africans have to say at unga?

they have nothing to say

this has to be some silly joke

zubydave:
The level of ignorance in this part of the world is alarming- even after reading the part where its stated that the whole exercise is solely for research purposes, some people still called them stupid. These set of people will still call themselves graduates and all sorts of sophisticated names. Some have written so called final year project papers and other research papers without even knowing what it actually means. FYI, most of the things you enjoy today; from your Android /IOS devices to the health care you get are all products of the sacrifices of some so called stupid people.
Peace

no mind them

chucs:
To start with, i'm not going to tell a man whom to date or marry. But it must be said that most black players prefer to date white women to suit the kind of life style they live( perhaps for show offs). And most of these girls they date have certain characteristics in common( most are models). Obviously such girls dont stick by their sides when the going gets tough.


Haven said that, inferiority complex isnt specific to a particular race as white ladies do all sorts to look like black ladies and vice versa. For me dating a white girl is not a leeway to having a good or happy relationship as some are also big time leeches.

S/O to Raheem Sterling for sticking to his childhood sweetheart. Nothing beats real love.

I have to agree with your message

ditching your childhood love for a white lady is sure sign of a complex

having a white lady as a childhood sweetheart
is not a sign of a complex


but as for dating "Models"?

You are on your own o

user4321:
... I agree sir, but there's something about being devoured by a familiar devil than a strange one

hahahahahaha

lmao

I have to agree

all destroy na destroy
but they destroy differently

hahahahaha

JonDon12:
What a progressive comment. He shows his incompetence in controlling his troops to prevent rape and looting (international war crimes) but because he is an Akinrinade , you Seun, thinks he and all the other Adekunles and Alabi-Isamas are war heroes.

I celebrate your objectivity. One Nigeria

what is this one saying?

Reference:
You watch too much television. The world is far bigger than shows and entertainment. Only a very small fraction of people and places and deeds ever get any sort of recognition. For every Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi there are hundreds of thoysands of capable footballers who wil never make the big screen and earn fame and fortune you so project. Will they kill themselves. They just love what they do and do it for the love of it.

Nigerians must begin to love things, love people, love the environment and nature not this dark, greed filled, pride puffed attitude we have that makes us the undesirables most places we go.

My friend it is not for money or fame the average scientist works but for the curiosity and the love of excellence. Please elevate your thinking. Not everything in life is for personal gain.

Stamped and sealed

Nothing to add anymore

falcon01:
Thank you brother ! the stupidity got us to where we are now.

it's a shame really

strangest:
Without their stupidity which is research, we will still be worshiping the sun, volcanoes and killing twins... .

Instead of us to appreciate the ones that developed the venom antidote, we are calling them stupid...


Kudos to the oyibos that led us to this day...


I heard electricity killed Faraday, imagine if had never pulled such stunt .... you wont be shouting up nepa upanddown

this post made my day
You nailed it

You see why black folks will remain bottom of the barrel?

because of the mentality exhibited by many here

Black man

Exc2000:


Foolish people everywhere


Career Diplomats chief judges just like College Professors takes time to reach there career pick...

Foolishness is representing Nigeria to a country like US with a todler without Rich Diplomatic experience and high connection among other diplomats and foriegn mission


Mumu People want youths like Yeye Bello, Dino melaye, Farouk Lawan, Mr youngest Senator the sex shop woman beater, Lamidi kanu, Fani Drug sniffer kayode to represent us as against man with decades of rich diplomatic knowledge,


..

You don't know what you are saying

You should have rich diplomatically experience
I agree

but is it this half dead fools who is probably suffering dementia that would do the job?

even trump in his mid 70s is still sharp
the Ghanaian president is over 74 and he is still.sharp

our own are just dead brained mummies

user4321:
Long time sir (From the days of FSB thread back in 2013). I'm saying that we must simply tell ourselves the truth, A lot of brothers chasing western women relentlessly are not doing so out of lust or love, but to level up or compensate or signal to their social hierarchy.

long time indeed



I disagree
some men do it for the esteem issues

But a good number don't do it for that.

Women are women and as long as you are with ANY WOMAN In a western country
You will always have that risk hanging on your neck

my uncles thought they were wise
married igbo women (useless women I have to add, especially uncle Sunny ex wife) and crossed thek over

They are mostly divorced today

so what the heck?

Denigrating black women in general Is what I'm against
but as for marrying whoever

that one has no issue

AreaFada2:
Because 90% of girls in those countries are white?.
So 9 in 10 chances of meeting a white girl.

Also areas where rich guys hang out will even have far fewer black girls.

If you are in a good environment or situation these oyinbo girls are super sweet. Very well behaved.

But it does mean they won't F you up years down the line. And it's not just because you are black. They can do it to their white guys too. When the shine wears off you. Like your career ends and no other lucrative punditry, management or business career to fall back on. Just human nature.

true

babasolution:
western black women can be very terrible

that's also true
women are women
the risk of being fvcked is high

Originalsly:
True talk. But... a dream come true for him.... to marry a White woman.... a dream for sooo many others.... but not possible until they can be millionaires. A dream come true for her.... to marry the owner 9f a good mine.... that she can later inherit a high portion pr all if possible. Inferiority complex period.

black men like you have low self esteem

No apologies

because it's only one with low self esteem that reasons this way


White men marry Asian chicks all the time
nobody will say he has low self esteem

White men marru black woman
no mention of self esteem

Latino marry white
no problem

but black man /white woman?
You hear dumb $hit like these

even regular school going black men marru white chics all the time
no big deal

a man has to choose what will kill him

crafteck:
Then she will destroy his life in the long run, ask tiger Woods

Tiger woods destroyed his own life

wickyyolo:
You guys are racist.

Just because you dont see some white girls marrying black women dont mean that they dont.

2 girls in my family married white guys. So guys stop hating. Marriage is a matter of choice. Not racial profiling here

exactly

serosa:
Because black players are fools and dont value their black women.

huh?
That's not true