₦airaland Forum

larryking540:
, sometimes when I see male and female praying for a good woman or delay in marriage,I don't feel pity or bad for them , this is one of the reason ,you hardly hear an Asian woman leaving a guy because of small dick or because of hight only African women do so ,

. But I didn't See you raising a Hell when ur fellow Man Commented on this thread in the 4th Page that He Can't Marry Ladies that He Sleeps wit b4 Marriage as He had Texted 4 of them and they failed but u wanted a Lady 2 Condone a Man She isn't Sexually Compatible with.

Most of you Guys are terrible Seriously a Woman won't Open Her Legs for you U will Come here to Create Thread,Gnash ur Teeth,and defame them, and if they stl let u do,u will Still Come here and Shame them wetin una want?

But when u Guys are at d receiving End that is when u will realize She should have stuck wit you So that She won't be at Shiloh2022 Bal bla bla Even She was being Proactive now so as not 2 Cheat in Her marriage. anyway I blame d Girls thinking Opening their Legs for a Nigerian Man will Kee them not knowing when it Comes to them no be One size fit all.

ultraviolet27:
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Why didn't Her male Friend Send the Gift through Someone to Her or even Send it inform of Cash? if their is no string attached? isn't it even rude to tell Someone you want 2 giv a gift that He/She Should Come Collect it His or Herself when it is just Friendship btw u too ?If they both really meant really meant well for each other He should hv Come to deliver the Gift Himself or Wait till when Her Vacation is over b4 gifting Her.


I have a Male Friend Who lives far away frm me He sent me a monetary gift on my Birthday and I had return d favour to Him on His Birthday too now even if He lives in the same town wt me and I want to gift Him materially shouldn't I hv gone 2 Him 2 deliver it myself instead of telling Him 2 Cm Collect it? except dia is an agreement before Hand?


But we all Can guess She ddnt even tell d other male Friend She has a B.F when we all know the Supposed male Friend may even be the Real B.F for a Man who Could Lodge U in a Hotel for 2 weeks What Cud the Other Guy gift you that your BF couldn't afford ?

And as for those dt implied He Lodged Her 2 Bleep Her for His Selfish Reasons So He didn't own a House He Cud have don't that with Her there?He Only wanted it 2 b memorable for Her I guess even though He was wasteful with it.

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Sorry I Quoted the wrong Person it was meant for Romanoff

Ealiserwest:
It is wrong to take monetary/gifts from a guy who u know wants more than just friends. It's an embarrassment and shameful thing to do

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Why didn't Her male Friend Send the Gift through Someone to Her or even Send it inform of Cash? if their is no string attached? isn't it even rude to tell Someone you want 2 giv a gift that He/She Should Come Collect it His or Herself when it is just Friendship btw u too ?If they both really meant really meant well for each other He should hv Come to deliver the Gift Himself or Wait till when Her Vacation is over b4 gifting Her.


I have a Male Friend Who lives far away frm me He sent me a monetary gift on my Birthday and I had return d favour to Him on His Birthday too now even if He lives in the same town wt me and I want to gift Him materially shouldn't I hv gone 2 Him 2 deliver it myself instead of telling Him 2 Cm Collect it? except dia is an agreement before Hand?


But we all Can guess She ddnt even tell d other male Friend She has a B.F when we all know the Supposed male Friend may even be the Real B.F for a Man who Could Lodge U in a Hotel for 2 weeks What Cud the Other Guy gift you that your BF couldn't afford ?

And as for those dt implied He Lodged Her 2 Bleep Her for His Selfish Reasons So He didn't own a House He Cud have don't that with Her there?He Only wanted it 2 b memorable for Her I guess even though He was wasteful with it.

Tallesty1:
[font=georgia] There are things you need to find out before you jump to conclusions.

There are ladies that don't keep female friends, their friends are males and they don't fvck them. They know where to draw the line. Contrary to what romance section will make you believe, some women are faithful to the core.

If she's the type that has more male friends than female, are you then saying that she will not accept birthday gifts from friends because she's dating you?

She has a life before meeting you dude, key in or leave. Don't take it from her.

What else did you see in their conversations?
Give us something to think about and then advise.

Deleting the messages is a red flag but what if you're a sensitive, jealous and insecure boy. friend?

Find out bro. Don't ask for a woman's trust in a relationship that is new. She's dating you means you came first in her list of many admirers. She will have to be very sure of you before she deletes others. She's a woman so that is what it is.


As per two weeks vacation because it was her birthday, please where are you taking Jesus t?o/font]

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Why didn't She inform Her B.F of the said male Friend before Hand? or even Chat with Her So called Friend or Sms Him with the know of Her B.F?as a Girl with Male Friends u should have made them known to ur Boy Friend even b4 dating So if He wasn't Cool wit it He wud av found His way even as a Lady while have a load of M.F when u already have a B.F? at least one Friend is enough and u shouldn't even be in the same location to avoid Over Familiarity.


For Her lying about d gender of d male Friend at 1st,even had 2 delete the Chat means She wasn't straight as Rain She is just a 2 timing Girl who is eating Her Cake and stl wanting 2 have it and Couldn't She have advised d Op against wasting that money on lodging Her 4 two weeks When He Cud invest on a viable thing or even use it to Set Her up on a trade? if She was a Wife material?

How Pps dey waste money for this Buhari era self?

All of you Shouting Ch Femi Falana is intimidating and harassing Kemi Olunloyo it Seems you don't know the meaning of Petition He didn't Call for Her arrest He just made mention of the Police inviting Her to Come tender Her Submissions and Statement about the facts She made about the Sylvester's Case Bcs it wasn't an Opinion again.
Kemi Said it as if She was there When the Boy Signed His Consent at least She should be interviewed So She Can aid the Investigation,Therefore Falana is stl right within the Law.

walkingshadow911:
Am sorry if i stroke a nerve Mrs Nobody....
I only stated the obvious truth here
i understand how it feels to be campaigning after election.
what she felt was not what she got. thereby are pussy game failed
we all got exploited at some point, it's no brainer
its breakfast that will go round....

. Stroke Whose nerve? I just admonished you to.Stop Castigating Her as Nobody Holy Pass!! U Calling Her a LovePeddler as if She requested for money after doing the do bcs I didn't read anywhere She wrote that,Someone that even asked for the Guys account details to Credit Him and even want 2 buy Him gifts is stl decent and kind enough ,and it is stl ur Hypocritical type that will Create a thread on Naira land wailing that a Lady that u have been Spending all ur money on Refuse to let you Sleep wit Her wetin Naijiria Men want?
They will Castigate a Lady for Having Sex,Yet still Pressures their Girlfriends and Fiancée's to Sleep with them and if they refuses,they will Come to Naira land to demonize them.

walkingshadow911:
you meet online in 2 weeks.he took u to the hotel on first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
You are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And you think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap a man with their pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol
[b]you meet online in 2 weeks.he took u to the hotel on first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
You are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And you think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap a man with their pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol
[/b]you meet online in 2 weeks.he took u to the hotel on first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
You are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And you think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap a man with their pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you have just been exploited..
you actually wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol.

continue opening legs fine face and financially ready players.
it will go round...

. Calm down Mr Nobody Holy Pass o .their is a Yoruba adage that says a Kin mo on rin ki Ori ma ji meaning no matter how One is Careful He/She may still trip(fall) even many Married Women U See today they don experience their Palaver b4 they finally settle down too(Many water don pass under the Bridge)its just that they won't tell you .Moreso if Some People never experience Some things they may never learn So pls don't lambast Her.

ngoziwrites:
Read my post well. We went to his house.

Obviously, you just picked the parts you want to.

. We no dey fight nah haba!!! Just giving you a piece of my mind sha o.And who told you taking u to His House at d 3rd day still doesn't mk Him a Scam? are you really Sure He owns the House Self?Just tread Carefully though.

NomzyJust:
And here I am looking for a wife.

. At Nomzy let us Chat now

toffyz:
The guy could be a scammer
He knew the lady has a good work, and earned well. He's into her because of that.
The guy seems a gold digger.
He's obviously after the lady's money.
The red flags are:
Sharing to pay the hotel lodge
Not allowing her to know his place
A relationship of just 2 months, and the guy has told her so much about his family wealth.(which I assume is fake)
Na confirm player

. Gbam d Guy Could be a Gigolo though Him Lodging Her For 3 Night Paying 25K a day may be a way of enticing and Luring Her to think He is well to do and Can take Care of Her Bla bla bla that is how they Starts and will Collect triple that amount Spent on Her later in d relationship Some Gigolos they Spend to Obtain their Maga too imagine a Guy that is a Landlord in Festac,Sells Trucks Yet Couldn't take the Op to His House? He fit no get all those things Self.

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

Sister I feel you should Calm down at ur age range you are still not that very Old to now Seem very desperate to get married I know their is d thing of Biological Clock ticking but Stop Sleeping with this Guy Please!! the more you sleep with a Guy not Committed to you,nor engaged to or even married to the Less weakened ur Chances of Picking other Choices of Men outside your relationship bcs at d Long run you Will feel Cheated if you 2 don't end Up together You Can still stay wit Him for Like 8/months and gauge His feelings and reactions He might Not even be Serious about not wanting to Settle down Soon might just want to Pull ur Legs to ascertain ur reactions.

More so when u start denying Him access to ur Body u may quickly know where u both are heading to as His true Colour will then Show.But for Someone being a Landlord of One of His Fathers house Selling Trucks and Trailers Yet Couldn't take you Home to Keep Him Company and Buy Air Conditioning devices to Keep His House Cool,even when Guys not even making up to that Could afford to. But gives an excuse of His house not being ventilated ain't that a Red Flag? Bcs the Guy Could be a Scam!!
That is if the Story isn't just made up though.

SarutobiEky:
you're even gloating.. lol. No worry.. pride goeth before the fall. Remember that. You sound like a very proud human being. I wish you good luck.

I didn't See anywhere She gloated in Her write Up don't I See Clearly again?but Somehow Some Frustrated not well to do Guys must stl blame Her even if its a member of their Sex that is at fault that is how One was even Saying it is d Guys Financial Capability that She Craves for as if She aint doing well for Herself. So bcs She is earning high She should lower Her Preferences and standards So that She wud b deemed a Wife material? ask those Hypocritic Guys on Nairaland to choose btw a Loving,Kind,Respectful Lady that is stl Hunting for Jobs and One earning close 2 a Million who lacks Home training, Saucy,mannerless etc and even still will Obtain them Like they won't Choose d latter.
And Yet will blame the Op for having Her Choices.

MufasaLion:
Congratulations. She's ugly.

Na Wa O How is this Chocolate naturally beautiful Singer Ugly now?As if any of ur Sisters Can match Her in Looks this Face less forum gives many People Liver Though!!

LifestyleTonite:
Quickly check the picture below before reading this short piece.

Welcome back.

Laughing out so aloud in red pill language.

It's time for guys to sit down and tell themselves the truth too and not just sit around and slam girls.

Guys have issues too. Many of them look shapeless or out of shape, yet they want a damsel in their life. When a damsel turns them down because they don't look attractive, they start to pour out their frustration on all girls.

Some think everything has to do with money. They think once they get money, they can get any girl for themselves. That's true to some extent, but you cant get love with just money, just sex which is not as good as knowing you are loved to pieces by the opposite sex.

Money is a tool you use to walk up to love. You use money to hit the gym, eat good food and look fit. But some guys think just buying expensive clothes is what matters, disregarding the fact that they need the right physique to accentuate the clothes.

Look at Wizkid and Tems. Wizkid was snubbed on stage by Tems. Why? Man's too short and boyish. Place Trey Songs or Drake on stage with her, which is clearly a match, and watch her fall over them.

Half the time, some rich men are dating or married to women who don't find them sexually attractive, but they don't know. They think all that matters is giving her money. That they do until they realise that one jobless dude is not only sleeping with their woman but also using the money they give their woman to level up.

Guys, lack of money is not the only reason why you can't find a damsel to love you sincerely. The reason why girls don't love you or even notice you passing by is because you don't love yourself. Imagine guys between 20 and 40 already having potbelly with fat body like a woman. I bet you that the expensive clothes you will rock with that kind of body will look normal or abnormal on you, instead of having that dashing effect it had on the model that rocked it on the runway.

So, guys, instead of joining the gang of guys that bash girls on social media, why not join the click of guys that would rather spend that moment working on themselves financially, spiritually, physically and emotionally?

Hit the gym today. A sexy and fit body will cover up your 'ugly face'. Once you start to work out with visible result, bet it that compliments will start to come your way. I'm a living example. I've always had a cute and handsome face, but I thought that was all I needed until I graduated and saw a decline in advances from ladies. That was when I decided to hit the gym and stay fit. Today, female colleagues, both single and married, do compliment me loudly. Male colleagues see me as an inspiration because I stand out from among them. Guess what I've become? I've become the kind of guy both men and women love. Such is whom ladies love, because ladies flock around who others flock around.

So, red pill guys, enough of female bashing, because to be honest, they owe you nothing. A they want in life is a high value man, not necessarily a rich man, but a man others admire without money attached to him.

The day I decided to love myself was the day I went to meet a carpenter and told him to make a local bench for me to use for bench press exercise. I worked out at home for two months before discovering that there was a gym close to my house, which I later registered in. Then I proceeded to get some workout suppliments. The day I stepped out to Ikeja City Mall to get one was the day I met the love of my life, a gorgeous light-skinned lady that looks like she got cropped out of a magazine. Did I mention that she loves me to pieces and calls me thrice a day with each calls lasting over an hour? She exhausts her airtime and immediately converts to Whatsapp call. The day I met her at ICM, I remember I was getting advances from ladies at the mall that day. Did I look rich? No. Did I look attractive? Yes.

Don't get me wrong, I don't look bulked up like Arnold Schwarzenegger, but I look fit and elegant with tones in the right places. I wish I could post pictures but it's not my style. Right now, I'm working on my finances and about to buy a landed property and work towards marriage next year. I'm also thinking about trippling my hustle next year.

Simply put, I spent my little money on myself by hitting the gym and enjoying myself. Same money would have gone into simping for a girl all in a bid to get her attention. These days, I don't hesitate to lavish on myself, buy nice and expensive shoes. So, I don't see it as a big deal to give my chick nice trips.

It's time for boys to learn to be men and stop whining like sissies. Work on yourself and the love you desire will be yours. Don't forget to pray to God too.

Start in this order:

Spiritually - read the Bible
Financially - work and save
Physically - hit the gym
Emotionally - don't let a lady's rejection or anything get on your nerves.

Peace guys

. I have been reading the Replies to this thread from d beginning till the end Page some Phrases from d Ops Write Up struck out and I had 2 log in.
I have never Seen a Simpleton like this Op in my Life Such a deluded Guy I am a Woman but who told you that ur Woman that is below 30 and u Said She is stl with Her Usefulness doesn't get Rods inserted in2 Her Hole outside? U never Could hide your real Colours for Long your real intention was to Slam and mock Women above 30 who aren't married terming them as Evening Newspapers as u were replying to CSTRR Comments up there.
As d Guy replied to you Men have different Choices as Some Men prefers Women above 30 So do Some prefer below 30s na ur type Women they use their Head Clean hand Nansense!!! If after improving urself Physically(Gyming,Buying Expensive Clothes etc) Yet ur Light Skinned Wife will still Sleep with ur not so Physically fit Men Outside for more money so wy shud Men kill their selves as if u fit Satisfy all Women?Look Most Women Wants are insatiable and theirs is not all size fits all though that is no to remove the Fact Men have to Keep Fit for their Health and Confidence Sake and so should Women too but not for acceding to Women Consents who Cares?
Being Over 30 for a Woman and not being married Yet No b Disease,They are trying to Just that they haven't found an hubby and they won't marry their self now will they? Una no Send Women Yet One day won't pass without una Creating thread bashing Women up and down Most Men even Prefer Women Older than them to marry after all getting Married to a Younger Woman may not guarantee a Lasting and Happy Marriage Dare Art Alade,Peter of P Square Governor Rotimi Akeredolu,are good examples of Men married to Older Women and they are stl staying Strong.
That a Woman is married is by Luck not even bcs of Her good attitudes after all their are many ill mannered Women in Marriages around me.

pocohantas:
Hahahahaha! Serious pain! A girlfriend o! How many Nigerian gfs do all this? Anyway, give people an inch and you know the rest.

. Abi o I must Say Nigerian families deserves the Kind of Saucy Daughter in-laws they have that was how my Uncles Wife was overly Respectful,Friendly and Generous to both my immediate,and extended Family to d extent She would Genuflect to greet even d Smallest of my Cousins call them Aunty and Uncle then now She don enter their House She dey Show them Pepper.
Even then I knew She was deceitful,But I had to play along Since She was who they wanted Nigerians love Pretenders no wonder Buhari is their President.

All of you saying She should be traveling back and forth 2 Her In-laws so as to show She is an extrovert I think your head dey Pain You with the High Cost of Transport and Fuel now and the Insecurity (Kidnapping Banditry etc)Someone Living in a far Place to them o and will it be Her Fiance Funding those Trips?
My Younger Brothers Wife that lived Just 4 towns to my Parents Town How many times did She Come visit us b4 She gt married? to my Bro talk more of Caling Or Sending gifts and Cash on my Birthday? then my Mum will even Call and Chat Her Self the Op still Sends Gifts and Cash on dia Birthdays Yet them no Happy which kind Spoilt and entitlement mentality be that self?
My Mum that has been married for 33 Years now how many times has She gone to grace Her In-laws Ceremonies? The Op that isn't even a Wife Yet has gone for their Ceremonies 2wice Spending money and time Yet they are not Satisfied. It is Not as if She is Saucy or Rude what is dia Problem? How is it even Possible to be Cozy wit Pps She wont be Living with everyday of Her Life my Siblings Wife they Call me?
Na wetin See finish they Cause be that when u dye a Guy for many Years it will be as if all ur Hopes are on Him and you don't have other Options So if He lives you you will die The Uncle is already getting tired and He get other Options if not He wouldn't want you bending ur back over for His In-laws b4 marrying Him Him Suppose defend you self.

Kingsley123456:
I met my first love when I was driving from ikole Ekiti to Osogbo osun State in early 2012, we started dating and we loved each other, she always sing it to my hear that she was lucky to have me, but after about 3years in the relationship which I had relaxed and believed that I have found the mother of my children, she came up with a story that, her pastor said we are not compatible and that we will regret if we dare marry each other, I didn't force or persuade her, she left in 2015.

I got into another relationship in 2016 March, this one was really ready to marry cuz she advised me to rent a 2bedroom apartment she even gave me money to get a set of chair and put in the living room for us to start living together... She came back home with the same story in 2017 Feb on her birthday that her pastor said, I'm not the man for her, she left without looking back.

To cut the story short, I did an admission for a girl in 2018, and we ended up dating, I gave her close marking until she had to travel back home cuz of the Corona outbreak, she called me from home and told me that her pastor said, she should not marry me cuz it may not augur well, I begged and persuaded for about one month but she insisted...

I still didn't see it as anything untill last night when the girl I've been dating after Corona break, we met at the teaching practice, we spend most of our time together she literally lived with me ...but she went to Abuja, her parents place last week Saturday, she's been giving me attitudes until last night when she came out blu Lets ntly with same story, that her Mom saw it in the dream that her current boyfriend is not the person she should marry, that cries await her if she dares to..

What is going on with me... I'm confused, this one is affecting me.

. You are an Indigene of which State? and reside where? Because I am Ekiti based and even lives in Ikole Ekiti right now Can you E-mail me? Let's talk

1forall:
In order to be able to deal with the situation, you should consider and analyze it from the following different perspectives:

1. Your father-in-law (FIL) demonstrated irresponsibility by his actions. He may have his reasons such as being single and lonely, and was possibly getting more attention from the maid than from anyone else before the romance kicked in, but it doesn't justify him sleeping with his son's maid in his son's matrimonial home. But unfortunately, he owns the house and probably doesn't see it so much as his son's matrimonial home, but rather as his house where his son is living with his wife and so feels he can do whatever he wants.

2. It appears you married a Daddy's boy for him to tolerate, accept and even defend his Dad's wrongdoing in his own home. Again, unfortunately, the house belongs to his Dad so it will be difficult; if not impossible, for him to see the situation objectively because he compromised already by living in his father's house. Him asking you to show respect to a staff you hired and who has worked for you for some time tells me that he is trying to please his Dad (maybe he has inheritance somewhere on his mind?). However, a concern this should present to you is that if it is acceptable to him (your husband), then maybe there is a slight chance that he could do something similar in the future.

3. The maid is an opportunist but it is difficult to blame her because in Nigeria, most people are looking for ways to improve their lives and escape poverty. From living under your roof, she saw an opportunity and grabbed it with both hands but put you in an awkward situation in the process.

4. You did not tell us the position of your husband's siblings on this matter.

5. You did not share with us how you may have contributed to the situation; deliberately or otherwise, which is another perspective to view things from.

Having said all that, I should add that I understand and empathize with you on the situation you find yourself. However I believe your living situation (living with your husband and your FIL, in your FIL's house) is mainly responsible for this because:
- if your father lived elsewhere and impregnated his own maid it wouldn't be such a big problem to you,
- if the house was your husband's, either owned or rented, your FIL may have been reluctant to move in with you in the first place and if he did, he may have been more cautious with his affairs in YOUR house.

My advise:
There is no solution to this, you can only try to minimize the effects it has on you/your home since they have already paid dowry. The best mitigation step will be to separate both homes now that Papa has found a wife and loneliness is no longer a problem, and it is left to you to find a way to make that happen.

My suggestions:
1. Since your FIL has many houses all over, he should move with his new wife into one of them so they can 'have their own privacy' and the new wife can 'have her own home'; afterall, they're expecting a baby. You should do all you can to prevent the baby being born into your own place though.

2. Move your home elsewhere. Encourage your husband to build/buy his own house, although I feel he may think it's unnecessary since his father has many, which is a immature mindset. And someone like him won't even be open to the idea of renting a place and being a tenant, so I wish you luck in trying to convince him to buy or build.

3. Get to terms with the situation and find ways to manage your new step-MIL because she's not going anywhere; unfortunately for you, she has become a part of your family. Your husband's compromises will force you to compromise too and the sooner you accept and deal with it, the better for you and your home. Decide on what to call her that will neither upset you, nor offend your husband and FIL. Something neutral like 'our wife', or 'iyawo', or something. Use local language.

PS:
I think your husband is (ignorantly) setting himself up for future problems in his own nuclear family because when Papa's time comes and God calls him home, I foresee your husband and his siblings having problems with their step-mother over inheritance. You say the family is very wealthy - will they be able to handle it when she tries to claim her husband's estate? When your FIL whom your husband is doing everything to please now is no more, that's typically when he will remember that his step-mother was only a maid who his father took from the gutter. And by that time she would have been established in the home with a grown child or children.opefully the Papa writes a will that meets every family. member's expectations. But it won't be easy.

PS2:
Majority of the comments I have read here show just low how values have sunk as a people, and it is so very unfortunate. I dare say virtually every single one of those saying it's OK will react in pretty much the same way as the OP, or even worse, if they find themselves in similar shoes.

. See Entitlement Mentality Abeg!!!She should tell Her Husband to move out of his Dad House and go buy His own or build His own as if She will Contribute to d Cost of Building it?Like U don't knw Nigeria Inflation and Cost of Living now? If Her Husby Can't afford another House She shud Pressure Him 2 go enter debt nah if its d Woman who will shoulder d Cost then not my Palaver.

What is even d wisdom in Erecting Houses Up and down Nigeria when u wont live in more than One? His Dad Already has numerous Houses He should still go build another One So He Can Choke Nigerian Environment More?Yet we complain of Food Scarcity and Low Agricultural Productivity when we av already used all the available Land which shd have been used for Agriculture to build Plenty Houses of which One Can't live in Two of them at Once in His /Her Lifetime.
U even Said The Father-inlaw shd move to another House to live with His Pregnant Nanny Since He has Several Houses as if its the DIL who built the House See if anyone is to leave that House for another One the Father-inlaw built,it should be the aggrieved Lady.bcs,d FIL worked for His Money and He Can do anything with It.We all knw the Woman's grouse isn't about Her formal Nanny being Preggy 4 Her FIL but bcs Women hates anything that didn't Spring Out frm them,are bitchy,Envious and detest anyone getting elevated to their Status too that is why they maltreat anyone not frm dia Loins I am also a woman so I knw better.
Don't Call d Nanny an Opportunist bcs d DIL won't also be better as we weren't involved in Her Thought Process.and the DIL isn't even the Mans Biological Daughter so who is She 2 dictate who Her FIL is to marry?Even Her Husband Siblings aren't Complaining See Gbege O As She was Brought in2 dt House to enjoy wealth so is that Nanny also brought in too.
I don't know how to quote a little Section if ur Post that is why I had to reply after ur whole Comment

Biglittlelois:
See ehn, the hypocrisy of people especially men on this form ehn

Once a narrative doesn't conform with their responses on a thread, they forget all they supported or their previous idealogy, see all of them coming to my mentions forming saints and do-gooders, same people that preach against dating broke girls, class mixing, or marrying someone of lesser level of education as you said, it's the double mouth hypocrisy for me, I got over 70 mentions because of my comment, you can imagine.

. See I am a Woman too even If I may not av Preferred d Father-inlaw to have impregnated the Nanny But Shit happens!!!and So We shud get over it Besides who is she 2 dictate for Her Father-inlaw or Her Husby na Her House or Property? Love Can be found frm any Body be it a Gardener,Nanny or a Maid.The Woman dey very Selfish .
The Yoruba adage will say 'Eni ti a ba Sun ti ni a n jarunpa lu' at that Her Father-in-laws age I don't think He will b that Highly mobile to Scout for other Lady's outside 2 marry So He Used the Opportunity that was Closer to Him.We should Put ourselves in His Shoes too(E je ka fi Oran to ara eni wo) and this is not about following d Crowd if u Check my Past Comments on this forum even As I don't make many,U will see that I don't Subscribe to Public Opinion I am a Deviant not A Conformist. So I Use my thinking Faculty b4 Commenting.

The Daughter in-law is even heartless So She want Her Father-inlaw to be miserable and Lonely till He dies because His Wife died 12 Years ago?as if Body be wood? She no even Happy say no b Her Husby impregnate d Nanny and Him wan marry am.

She no fit Keep Her Father-in-laws Company and She won't allow Him Seek Solace and Comfort in d Bossom of another Woman no be Witchcraft be that?if d Gold digger of a Woman wasn't too indolent She wouldn't hv hired a Nanny in d first place

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need a. dvice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

. Even Though I am a Lady I see no Problem here at all to be Candid Your Father-inlaw deserves to be Happy and not be lonely as you and your Husband are .Ur Father in-law even Owns the House You and ur Husby resides in and if u aren't Okay with it u Can go build ur own House with ur Husband so u Can live in it after all, No law states that a Wife Can't also Join Hand to Build a House wit Her Man.

Are you frm a Wealthy background urself? dt u looked dwn on another Person?maybe You were picked from d Gutter also who knws?Her background may even be more favoured than yours or is it bcs She came to work as a Nanny instead of looking for a wealthy Man to leech on as u did?So ur Husby didn't stoop down 2 marry You as u weren't of d same Social Class wit Him? U are a typical Case Of d Yoruba adage"Omo aijobe ri ti oun wa iru sowo" bcs ur Status has Changed as u hv hooked urself 2 a Rich Man's Son u felt House Chores are beneath you dt u had to hire a Help?
Some of the Mistakes Some Women make is hiring house help that Lives wit them if u must use a help Can't u employ those that won't live with you Like Laundry Man,Cleaners,Chef that will Just Come do their work and go,then get paid monthly or weekly? If God Can butter ur Bread He Can also butter ur Nanny's own after all U are both bloody Opportunist so take am like It ain't even ur Husby House so you can't dictate what goes on there IRe O!!.

ThunderSwitch:
[s]Una dey see thunder for every moniker

nonsense Imbe!!!

Na you be the imbe now Mentally deranged ding bat with Multiple Personality disorder

Pinklygul:
It's the way he put Ashawo21worker to rest so he could focus when he was receiving the heat

Just to bring it back after the fight
Who will be Willing to cure this mental illness?
Odumeje is overwhelmed

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Both Ashawo21 worker and Ashawo 21no be work are the same Person and it is KiddCat/thunder switch Can't u See they have d same manner of typing? Even d Same manner of typing with very dark fonts and Capital Letters Check Thunder switch Old Comments on this BBN Thread ever wondered u haven't been seen Thunder switch Comments since that Ashawo 21 worker Moniker appeared on this thread?
It isn't as if GbegiriSoup Can't Pull off that Stunt too but that isn't Gbegirisoup or Jadentica.in fact that Ashawo21 no be work Moniker was Created Solely for trolling Angel.

All this Weakling of a Men Parents now breed now is very baffling!! even I as a Woman no body can tell me how to spend my money or Spend on my Parents not even my Hubby .
I think it is this Concept of Monogamy foisted on Africans by the Colonial Masters making men weak. in the Olden days when Our Ancestors married many Wives who born Monkey Banana? My Grandpa had 3 Wives yet none of them dared Challenge Him on His State of Finances not as if He didn't provide for His home in His Capacity though.

That's how One Man too Complained on a thread weeks ago that His Wife Burns all His Clothes whenever He Suggested that His Wife siblings leave His House as they were draining His Resources and this was even a Wife who had no source of income o not as if She Contributes to the House Upkeep even I as a Lady no One will burn my Cloth and See if d Person won't be admitted into ICU let alone a Man.
See as a Man you should love ur Wife not to d extent of u making Her See u finish!! d Bible even said D Woman should be Submissive and respectful not d other way round Wisdom is Profitable to direction I rest my Case!!!

[quote author=DOptical post=106454495]My Nini could have hit a jackpot with Whitemoney too but Saga wasn't in between

She almost did tbh.

I mean even though Nini was a friend of Whitemoney and had severally defended him, they weren't always together, she was rather with Saga most of the times. There was even a time she was dancing with Whitemoney yet Saga kept cutting in between them

At times, I had selfishly wanted out Saga in order to ensure Nini would have more time with the likes of Whitemoney and Cross which would have helped her game

But then again, man proposes but God disposes

That being said, I'm happy for Nini. I loved how she played the game regardless. She was transparent, loyal and a stand up beautiful funny girl. I couldn't have asked for more! She is a phenomenal talented natural actress too![/quote.
I woke Up and you are still Crying?

DOptical:
Na you sabi

Keep crying, ultraviolet or is it infrared?

See my beautiful Nini and her friends. She don kolobi Saga's friend, Moshi

Best in beauty. I love her natural look so much!

See flawless shiny skin.

See har natural curly hair

See her fashion look.. Her shoe game!

She's so down to earth too

Overall in beauty

. Where d Beauty She Resemble Scare Crow self

DOptical:
This one keeps crying..

My point is kitchen strategy has always existed and no one complained as far as the person managing it was managing it well. That happened with Rico in the kitchen. Did it make him win? Nah! I mentioned Lilo as an example because no one complained with her whereas they did to Ka3na.

Hence the housemates should always be the determinants, not you the viewers who know next to nothing about what's happening in the house. If the housemates were okay with Whitemoney managing the affairs of the kitchen, then I don't see why Pere should be causing chaos. Funny thing was pere was even eating Whitemoney's food and was enjoying it, so what's the point? Abegi.

The kitchen affair only became an issue because Pere made it an issue! It has always been in existence.

. Who dey Cry? Eediat Na you nah Since the Beginning of This Season till the end that's how u always do and eventually if their is stl another Season of BBN next Year Na so u go stl do I have never Seen a Bigger Nuisance Like You Egbere!!!

DOptical:
This one keeps crying..

My point is kitchen strategy has always existed and no one complained as far as the person managing it was managing it well. That happened with Rico in the kitchen. Did it make him win? Nah! I mentioned Lilo as an example because no one complained with her whereas they did to Ka3na.

Hence the housemates should always be the determinants, not you the viewers who know next to nothing about what's happening in the house. If the housemates were okay with Whitemoney managing the affairs of the kitchen, then I don't see why Pere should be causing chaos. Funny thing was pere was even eating Whitemoney's food and was enjoying it, so what's the point? Abegi.

The kitchen affair only became an issue because Pere made it an issue! It has always been in existence.

. Who dey Cry? Eediat Na you nah Since the Beginning of This Season till the end that's how u always do and eventually if their is stl another Season of BBN next Year Na so u go stl do I have never Seen a Bigger Nuisance Like You Egbere!!!

Teddybliss:
Wrong person ooo

Na doptical you suppose quote

.I am Sorry!! I Rushed to Quote It was meant for that Obsessed Doptical More so my Phone was acting Up Yesterday

ultraviolet27:
. And you had to bring Lilo into this Like the Housemate Knows whether She dey exist?So the Housemate hated Lucy and Katrina Cooking bcs of Monopoly but not Lilos?Everything that involves ur Fave u must bindly and lyingly defend them. I like Lilo and I won't drag Her but this yur Lies u spew every Year to favour ur Fave Something we all watched?
Since you won't rest on Peres Case I wont let you rest too Na so Witch Craft dey start o Since d Beginning of this thread u have been on Peres Case Person wey no even knw if u dey exist

. Sorry this Quote wasn't meant for you it was meant for Doptical that Pere Hater

Teddybliss:
At this point you are obsessed with pere

You must always mention his name even when his character wasn't called out

I am even happy you didn't bring the part where you wish Nini brought Nengi game to the show

Madam/sir rest,the pere you are hating on is a finalist and your Nini is out

. And you had to bring Lilo into this Like the Housemate Knows whether She dey exist?So the Housemate hated Lucy and Katrina Cooking bcs of Monopoly but not Lilos?Everything that involves ur Fave u must bindly and lyingly defend them. I like Lilo and I won't drag Her but this yur Lies u spew every Year to favour ur Fave Something we all watched?
Since you won't rest on Peres Case I wont let you rest too Na so Witch Craft dey start o Since d Beginning of this thread u have been on Peres Case Person wey no even knw if u dey exist

DOptical:
He picked Queen, not Saskay in the previous week.

Pere had a fight with Queen before picking Queen.

Queen was an obvious option for him.

Admittedly Nini disagreed with him but they didn't fight. It wasn't only Nini who disagreed with him on that particular topic sef. Cross', Whitemoney, Angel all did! Hence you can't use that to judge. If you wanna use that to judge, then one of Cross, Angel, Whitemoney, Peace apart from Nini could have been put up.

On the contrary, he was at war with both Nini and Saga after the Sunday eviction revelation. That was before Nini won the veto. He was the obvious option!

. Doptical Zukwanike nah nawah o