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Op, she want a break for some time or she doesn’t want sex anymore at all? Answer this ahbeg before i go know weytin i go talk.

michlins:
yes you can't discuss everything before getting married.

But you see genotype and career goals, those are what you must discuss

understandably, In as much as it is very important to discuss things like that in marriage… but I still firmly believe issues will still come up in a marriage about things not discussed too. I think the Op is the one trying to take too much risk here, he wanted a career woman and her woman holds a Bsc and a MSc certificate, she has tried enough… considering the fact that she doesn’t want to leave her kids behind too. That is a very valid reason not to go. He should let the woman be biko. If he wants her to go for a phd so she could explore her full potentials, Then he should tell us the essence of the said potentials when she hasn’t even explore out of the potentials with the Bsc and MSc certificate.

michlins:
Before you got married, you should have discussed career goals and know how ambitious each other is.

If she says she can't go, let her be and you should start working on some other job for her. Don't come and spoil the peace you have in your house. It's very hard to come by

you can’t discuss everything before you get married… not possible

ssogundele:
Any rule outside “husband love your wife and wife respect your husband “ is just epistle! That rule is God ordained. He is the originator of marriage and knows the best to it.

I noticed God didn’t say “Women! love your husband” instead he said “Husband! Love your wife” what does that mean, you have an answer to that?

Dark desire

Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.

This shit is hard asf, heard your mom later died… I bet she knew the reason why she came to live with you guys in the first place was to get proper care which she lacked when she was at her place being taken care of by an house help, and the proper care includes, eating less salt which your wife knowingly or unknowingly ignored. What i know is, if i did that much for my mother in law while she was sick and my own mom died due to my wife negligence omo, shit is going to break me, shattered my heart into pieces…, people are saying forgive and forget like it’s that easy, I know maybe that is the best thing to do but there’s a Yoruba adage that says “eni ija o de ba lo ma n pe ara e l’okunrin” sorry if you don’t understand Yoruba.

DispatcherLagos:
if protest couldn't change anything, I doubt if online wailing can even be noticed

That’s supposed to be a message to yourself

DispatcherLagos:
oga calm yourself down from all these ranting, 2face has always been two faced whenever national issue is at stake. Not like Falz or Mr macaroni

not like falz or mr macaroni my foot, yet i ask again, what has changed?

DispatcherLagos:
Ok. But lead a common protest against these sets of idiots, you go chicken out, only to come rant online. Really comedy continent. Meanwhile, see who is behind him in the post picture.

if they carry the man put am for gbaga, the only thing you’d do is stay cowardly behind your keypad and start ranting… go out there and lead protest too, you’re not excluded… the people wey don dey lead protest before we the young’s were born where are they now? What changed? Were you in another world during the end sars protest? Which of these celebrities no come out? What changed?

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

From your analysis let’s say she earns exactly 80k, she drop 10k monthly for the children welfare, let’s say she drop 5k for nepa bill, another 20k into joint account for vacation right? Let’s say 10k also goes for food supplements in a month which I’m sure cannot be enough… that makes it 45k, now let’s say she set aside 20k monthly to buy herself wares and other women needs like tampons and maybe make up kits… now she has just 15k left to her name, she has siblings and her parents are still alive… those people look up to her for financial assistance cos she works and earn money, now let’s say the rest of the 15k cover up for that. If you see this and you’re still not convinced you’re wicked and you’re only going to suffer the poor lady when she finally moved in with you then the whole problem lies with you. As I be man my blood dey boil as i dey read your post… damn it man.

Godmother:
The certificate in itself is worthless. but companies take it serious, almost more serious than the real certificate you struggled four years for and its really hard to get a job without one

Then with what you have said about the NYSC certificate, how is it useless? Lol

NwaAmaikpe:




Truly, I say unto you..our forefathers are wise. What they saw while lying on top of the concubine, we can't see even on top of our choppers.

This is why our bride price is extremely expensive in Igbo land.
It brings value to marriage because your wife becomes an asset not a partner.

After spending almost 4million naira to marry a woman properly, who born your father to give a miscreant 10k to kill her?

But in some places, just prostrate, say ekpele and give them bush meat to add in making dinner; they'd hand over their daughter to you.

That's why the average Igbo man treats his wife like a goddess because he earned her by sweating through his nose.

you forgot the part where they turn the wives to slave because they feel they have already bought her with the 4 million naira and the parts where your women get married at 40-45 because no man want to spend that much money they can use to buy a land and start building a house or money they can use to start up a business on bride price anymore … you can even make a decent comment without throwing jabs at other tribes, other tribes whose bride price ain’t expensive have their reasons too… make your dense and birdbrained comment and go.

Ykc2:
When ever a yoruba person wrote about best this best that please check well before you fall for his tricks,I remembered when they gave the man that featured in Yemi my lover a yoruba movie as the best actor of year both in yoruba, English , hausa and igbo, every one was shouting but then no Internet or social media ,they will choose one song from a fuji musician from Ibadan then tell you how is the best song in nigeria,please we Nigerians listen to songs according to our tribes

Why not make your own list and quit lamenting like Jeremiah

naptu2:
1) Sweet Mother - Prince Nico Mbarga

2) Sawale - Cardinal Rex Jim Lawson

3) Mo Fe Mu'Yan (Baby Jowo) - Dr Victor Olaiya

4) Omo Lanke - Dr Victor Olaiya

5) Nike Nike - E.C. Arinze

6) Eko O Gba Gbere - Chris Ajilo

7) Ariwo - Chris Ajilo

8 ) Love Adure - Cardinal Rex Jim Lawson

9) Erora Feso Jaiye - I.K. Dairo

10) Mo Sorire - I.K. Dairo

11) Salome - I.K. Dairo

12) Omo Laso - Odus And His Morning Star Orchestra

13) Money Trouble - Zeal Onyia

14) Joromi - Sir Victor Uwaifo

15) Guitar Boy - Sir Victor Uwaifo

16) Ketekete (The Donkey, The Man And His Son) - Chief Commander Ebenezer Obey

17) Board Members - Chief Commander Ebenezer Obey

18) Eni Ri Nkan He - Chief Commander Ebenezer Obey

19) Oni Dodo Oni Moin Moin - Fela

20) Viva Africa - Fela

21) Omo Pupa - Dr Victor Olaiya

22) Otanjele - Eddy Okonta

23) Taxi Driver - Bobby Benson

24) Ojo Monday/Monday Morning in Lagos - Fela

25) Alu Jon Jonki Jon - Fela

26) Fogo Fogo - Fela

27) Army Arrangement - Fela

28) Teacher Don't Teach Me Nonsense - Fela

29) Zombie - Fela

30) Beast Of No Nation - Fela

31) Look and Laugh - Fela

32) Eddie Quansa - Peacock's International Band

33) Gbeyo Gbeyo - King Sunny Ade

34) Syncro System - King Sunny Ade

35) That Hausa song whose name I still do not remember

36) Mamausa - Nelly Uchendu

37) Jesu Chelum - Nelly Uchendu

38) Waka About - Nelly Uchendu

39) Love Nwantintin - Nelly Uchendu

40) Aki Special - Prince Nico Mbarga

41) Nobody Fails - Ofege

42) Try And Love - Ofege

43) Wizzy Ilabo - Ofege

44) One Early Morning - Prof Y.S. & His B.B. Band

45) Shake Hands - Geraldo Pino

46) Come On Home - Lijadu Sisters

47)Orere Elejigbo - Lijadu Sisters

48)Life's Gone Down Low - Lijadu Sisters

49) Fuel For Love - Wrinkars Experience

50) Monkey Chop - Dan I

51) I Love My Country - Tunji Oyelana

52) Mo Lo Soko/Eniyan Bi Aparo - Tunji Oyelana

53) Alaru T' Onje Buredi - Tunji Oyelana

54) Good Morning Sir - Tunji Oyelana

55) Elu Uwa - Sir Warrior & His Oriental Brothers International Band

56) I Need Someone - Kris Okotie

57) I'm Going Now - Kris Okotie

58) Koko - Kris Okotie

59) Kill Me With Love - Jide Obi

60) Front Page News - Jide Obi

61) Fine Mama - Kris Okotie

62) Goodbye Teacher - Kris Okotie

63) CockCrow At Dawn - Bongos Ikwue

64) Eche Une - Bongos Ikwue

65) Larai - Bongos Ikwue

66) Country Boy - Harry Moscow

67) Sugarcane Baby - Harry Moscow

68) E Je Ka Jo - Xtasy (Murray-Bruce)

69) Isale Eko - Xtasy (Murray-Bruce)

70) When The Going Is Good - William Onyeabor

71) Loverboy - Felix Lebarty

72) The Way We Are - Dora Ifudu

73) Baby Kilode - Dizzy K Falola

74) Dance Afro-Beat - Orlando Julius

75) Identity - Oliver De Coque

76) Biri Ka Mbiri - Oliver De Coque

77) Osondi Owendi - Chief Stephen Osita Osadebe

78) Ore Ofe Ohun - CAC Choir

79) Odun Nlo Sopin - CAC Good Women Choir

80) Ikon Allah - Bala Miller

81) Sisi Jowo - Art Alade

82) Walk Right Back - Onyeka Onwenu

83) Alleluya - Onyeka Onwenu

84) Bia Nulu - Onyeka Onwenu

85) Nigeria Go Survive - Veno Marioghe

86) Seun Rere - Christy Essien Igbokwe

87) Ka Anyi Gba Egwu - Christy Essien Igbokwe

88) Teta Nu Na Ula - Christy Essien Igbokwe

89) One Love - Onyeka Onwenu

90) Akula Owu Onyeara - Charlie Boy

91) Ifeoma - Felix Lebarty

92) Ngozi - Felix Lebarty

93) Mother And Child - Sonny Okosun

94) Tire Ni Oluwa - Sonny Okosun

95) Fire In Soweto - Sonny Okosun

96) Which Way Nigeria? - Sonny Okosun

97) You And I - Onyeka Onwenu

98) Oko Mi Ye - Stella Monye

99) Free and Easy - Roseline Ogunro

100) Nnem O - Roseline Ogunro

101) Oro Re - Roseline Ogunro

102) Mother Africa - Jambos Express

103) Fuji Garbage - Sikiru Ayinde Barrister

104) Lamentation For Sodom - Tera Kota

105) Send Down The Rain - Majek Fashek

106) Redemption Song - Majek Fashek

107) Sugar For Mi Tea - Ras Kimono

108) Natty Get Jail - Ras Kimono

109) Rat Race - The Mandators

110) Obaro - Evi Edna Ogoli

111) Happy Birthday - Evi Edna Ogoli

112) Jealousy - Evi Edna Ogoli

113) Ten Commandments - Orits Wiliki

114) Immortality - Chief Commander Ebenezer Obey

115) Let Them Say - King Sunny Ade

116) Madawonlohun (Let Them Say) - Onyeka Onwenu ft King Sunny Ade

117) Wait For Me - King Sunny Ade and Onyeka Onwenu

118) Omo Laso - Funmi Adams

119) Bubble - Adewale Ayuba

120) Bonsue - Adewale Ayuba

121) Fuji Ropopo - General Kollington Ayinla

122) Ijo Yoyo - General Kollington Ayinla

123) 1990 - Charlie Boy

124) Big Bottom - Charlie Boy

125) Alagbon (Prison Experience) - Orlando Owoh

126) Kangaroo - Orlando Owoh

127) Majek Fashek In New York - Majek Fashek

128) Do It In The Name Of Love - Alex O

129) Banana - Alex O

130) Back To The Basics - Esse Agesse

131) Rosie - Blakky

132) Bang Belly - Blakky

133) Blakky's House - Blakky

134) Blakky Skank - Blakky

135) Tyna Onwudiwe - Lite Low

136) Tyna Onwudiwe - Black on Black

137) Nigeria My Beloved Country - Funmi Adams

138) All We Need Is Love - Funmi Adams

139) Ina Gizo Yake - Funmi Adams

140) Ahayye Yaro - Funmi Adams

141) Ace - Sir Shina Peters

142) Shinamania -Sir Shina Peters

143) Authority - King Sunny Ade

144) Baby Jowo - Lieutenant Shotgun

145) Tickle Me - Alex Zitto

146) Mr Ragamuffin - Danny Wilson

147) Fuel For Love - Zubby Enebeli

148) African Style - Bright Chimezie

149) Omoge - Mike Okri

150) Time Na Money - Mike Okri

151) Sawale - Feladey And Friends

152) Hello Africa - Dr Alban

153) Monica - Junior And Pretty

154) Which One You Dey - Emphasis

155) Wonder Wonder - Femi Anikulapo-Kuti

156) Africalypso - Lagbaja

157)Coolu Temper - Lagbaja

158) Scatta Head - Femi Anikulapo-Kuti

159) Consolidation (Show Colour) - KWAM 1

160) Loko Iya Won (Owole) - Lagbaja

161) Lift Up Nigeria - Sunny Ade

162) Congratulations - Daddy Showkey

163) Dyna - Daddy Showkey

164) Denge Pose - Baba Fryo

165) It's My Life - Dr Alban

166) Hallelujah Day - Dr Alban

167) Guess Who's Coming To Dinner ? (Carolina) - Dr Alban

168) Allen Avenue - Weird MC

169) Love Me Jeje - Seyi Sodimu

170) Shake Body - Trybesmen

171) Shako Mo - Remedies

172) Wishes For All - Inferno

173) Alo (Story) - Maintain

174) Maintain In India - Maintain

175) Catch Cold - Maintain

176) Suuru Lere - Lagbaja

177) Konko Below - Lagbaja

178) Nothing For You - Lagbaja

179) Let's Stay Together - Kush

180) Baraje - Ruggedman

181) Don't You Know - Plantashun Boiz

182) You And I - Plantashun Boiz

183) Knock Me Off - Plantashun Boiz

184) Plantashun Boiz - Plantashun Boiz

185) African Queen - 2Face

186) If Love Is A Crime - 2Face

187) Nfana Ibaga - 2Face

188) Ole - 2Face

189) Right Here - 2Face

190) U No Holy Pass - 2Face

191) Keep On Rocking - 2Face

192) Ijo Ya - Weird MC

193) Swo - Marvelous Benji

194) Olufunmi - Style Plus

195) Imagine That - Style Plus

196) Na Ba Ka - Jeremiah Gyang

197) Yahooze - Olu Maintain

198) Lorile - X-Project

199) Tongolo - D'Banj

200) Fall In Love - D'Banj

201) Olorun Maje - D'Banj

202) Eye Adaba - Asa

203) Jailer - Asa

204) Fire On The Mountain - Asa

205) Bibanke - Asa

206) Be My Man - Asa

207) Gongo Aso - 9ice

208) Kele Kele Love - Tiwa Savage

209) Love Me - Tiwa Savage

210) Champion (Remix) - General Pype

211) Umbrella - Banky W

212) Busy Body - PSquare

213) Temptation - PSquare

214) No One Like You - PSquare

215) See Me So - 2Face

216) True Love - 2Face

217) 4 Instance 2Face

218) E Be Like Say - 2Face

219) Ifunanya - PSquare

220) Stylee - DJ Jimmy Jatt

221) My P - Naeto C

222) Lagos Party - Banky W

223) Nwa Baby (Sawale) - Flavour

224) African Rapper Number 1 - M.I. ft Flavour

225) Golibe - Flavour

226) Dami Duro - Davido

227) Don't Dull - Wizkid

228) Holla At Your Boy - Wizkid

229) Like To Party - Burna Boy

230) First Of All - Olamide.

231) Oliver Twist - D'Banj

232) Top of the World - D'Banj

233) Mr Endowed Remix - D'Banj

234) Pere - Mo-Hits All Stars

235) Wind Am Well - Ikechukwu

236) Bobo - Olamide

237) Wo - Olamide

238) Anifowoshe - Olamide

239) Love My Baby - Wizkid

240) On Top Your Matter - Wizkid

241) Dorobuchi - Mavins All Stars

242) Joro - Wizkid

243) Ojuelegba - Wizkid

244) Essence - Wizkid

245) Mood - Wizkid

246) Ye - Burna Boy

247) Monsters You Made - Burna Boy

248) Anybody - Burna Boy

249) Kilometre - Burna Boy

250) Billionaire - Teni

Don’t know why people always confuse “great”with the word “best”… a song could be a good song and not be a great song

lomprico:
We will all die be you good or evil. The death mentioned is the spiritual death.

Spiritual death my foot

Dtruthspeaker:
Did you not hear that the wicked must eat the fruits of their wickedness?

So they have to live to see and eat their destruction before they Die!

So what about the good doers who die young? Do they not deserve to live long to eat their good deeds before they die?

lomprico:
The price to pay for your sins is death unless u repent.

won’t we all die whether you sin or not?

Kriss216:
Say Yes to his request, collect the laptop and find excuse to dump him weeks later.


Well, you're a Nigerian girl. Sense is always far from you people. No surprises here.

You are actually the senseless one here for not adding the part where the guy would come to her house and get his laptop back after she finds excuse to break up ahbi no be this life you dey? You no do again and boyfriend go collect weytin he don give you back shikena

Plantiff:
Whitemoney's Selense was a massive failure. It was highly anticipated by millions of Big Brother Naija viewers across Africa but wasn't well received. Yet another failed Big Brother Naija musician!

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Based on your compilation,

1. Burna Boy is a sucker for the Grammy Awards. His obsession with the American Music Award makes his pan-african stance an absolute joke. Angelique Kidjo who is definitely tired of winning in that Grammy category has never been regarded as a better musician than South African Lucky Dube and more importantly she does not go about downplaying more influential African legends because of the White Man's validation.

2. The Spice Girls sold out the 02 Arena in 38 seconds, Monty Python sold out the 02 Arena in 43 seconds, Gary Barlow sold out the 02 Arena in 6 minutes and The Rolling Stones sold out the 02 Arena in 7 minutes. Those aforementioned rank top 4 as the fastest 02 music show ticket sellers.

Wizkid came 7th when he sold out his tickets in 12 minutes.

Be honest , have you ever heard of the artistes/ musicians / or bands that rank as the top 4 fastest sellers of the 02 Arena? Not Drake, Ed Sheeran , Justin Bieber, Michael Jackson, Adele , Ariana Grande, Nicki Minaj, Cardi-B etc. The 02 Arena record is an inconsequential record that is only hyped by the Nigerian media. No one takes that shit seriously outside the shores of Nigeria.

3. Davido's gesture is definitely the most globally recognized act this year. His 250 million naira donation attracted the global media. He was interviewed by CNN and a lot of Americans commended his benevolence.

Verdict: Davido's selfless gesture touched his poorest and ordinary fans living in Nigeria. It was appreciated by music lovers across the world though it wasn't music.

It was definitely the biggest topic in the Nigerian music industry last year.

Happy New year!

all these gibberish for likes and shares?

nachisunday:
? it is the remaining that gives you little brain to use. comrade you are MUMU see question pchewwuee...

what is a question mark looking for just right at the front of your sentence? Illiterate.

Deborah98:
My people perish for lack of knowledge ... Happy dragging of towel oooo

Those people dragging towel might even be knowledgeable and successful than you… wait sef , what is your metrics for knowledge?