₦airaland Forum

Graxie:
The people that needs this write up are not here, you know where to find them.

They are here. More Nigerians are connected to the internet more than ever—except the Islamic north.

The majority of Nigerians are poor & mostly uneducated—so it’s foolhardy to advocate for deregulation of family planning preferences. Government needs to step in to save poor Nigerians from themselves (reproductive regulation).

We would continue to advocate for population control because we cannot trust uneducated people to decide for themselves. Most of you insulting those of us agitating for family planning are not richer or more educated than us. The fact that we are Africans doesn’t give us the license to be careless & destroy the earth for other races on planet earth.

Whether you like it or not, population control & eugenics has come to stay. We are going into 2020 with full drive to control the unproductive population of Nigeria—and Nigerians like me will be at the forefront of that.

Charleys:
You do not have the powers to decide the number of kids a person should have... That's the truth. No one has that powers.

Having a big family is one of the greatest thing a grown man should be happy about.

The rich are having kids but expect the poor not to have kids because the poor can't take care of them.

That's utter foolishness. Self fulfillment is different for each person.

What you consider as wealth is worth some other person will consider as poverty.

You don't know what it means, you are too young.

I am too young, cause you’re my parent to know my age?

OP, I like your article. Do not mind that most people will gloss over the article because they are intellectually lazy to read the message to the end.

I commend you for articulating your points in the article, lacing it with well researched statistics to show the dire situation Nigeria finds herself regarding overpopulation.

Well done & do not be deterred if you do not get the positive response you envisage from this thread. We sane ones copy your message clearly.

Happy New Year in advance.

Charleys:
What powers do you have to tell people the number of children they should have?


Some NGO's have been paid to bring up all this fake stories about having kids and not able to feed them.

Why are you like this? Why do you hug poverty so tightly? What’s the fun in having many children anyways? Don’t you like to enjoy the small money you make with your small tight knit family?

We are going into 2020 in a few hours. Rethink your family planning preferences.

Germi9:
Shutup which development?all our leaders are thieves

The man is the best democratically elected President in Nigeria’a history.

He has his faults but his wonderful strides to truly developing Nigeria can never be underestimated.

BluntBoy:
I am sure there would be more than enough women who would marry you for less.

Where are they?

Fxwarrior:
You are talking as if you live in space.

They can start with self con then rent a 2 bedroom flat later on.

If the man earns #30 000 and wife earns #45 000.
Its #75 000 monthly which will carry them comfortably provided there's love and understanding.

Its better to soak garri where there's peace than to eat chicken not knowing where and when the next slap will come from.

And that’s where you are getting it wrong!!! Where are the women who have love & understanding? Is it these women who have been brainwashed by social media to see salary earning guys as lazy? Nigerian women only respect yahoo guys or guys that work in Oil company.

And that’s why I advice that guys should forget about chasing women until they have enough money to engage in the modern dating game. You think it’s easy using your hard earned money to chase a Nigerian soma with all the insults?

Abeg, make una free these girls jaree.

BluntBoy:
What are you saying?

If 100k is not enough, then nothing else can be enough.

100k is enough.

What really is marriage sef

Is it that capital intensive? If you can't keep a marriage with 100k, then you can't keep a marriage even with 1 billion naira.

If the 100k is stable, and you live in a modest neighborhood, 100k is just enough.

The truth is many people continue to put off marriage (even they want to get married) because they are scared to start. They want 200k. They start earning 200k but it is still not enough. They earn 300k but it is still not enough. In their mind, they will be like "Maybe, I should just wait till it is 500k".

Marriages can be just the right thing to make you even more focus.

How many women will agree to marry you with a 100k salary in Lagos, Nigeria?

Unless of course you want to keep petting & begging a woman to be with you for the rest of the marriage.

Marriage will manageable for a family in Lagos, Nigeria if the man earns from 250 and above & they plan well. Anything else will be a struggle if you marry a normal Lagos girl. Unless you want to import a wife from the village.

Baba is getting old but he’s still active & contributing to national development.

The man is a nationalist to the core & an asset to Ogun State & Nigeria at large.

Regardless of the attitude of our women, I think a man earning 100k doesn’t have any business with marriage, let alone 30k. If any guy earning 30k comes to my family asking for my sister’s hand in marriage, it’s pepper water I will use to pursue him.

Who wan die for Nigerian poverty? Guys should leave Nigerian girls alone & try to seek enjoyment & fulfillment outside women. You can enjoy your life without women in it. When you have enough money, you will realize that the urge for marriage will reduce & it’s women that will be begging you to marry them instead.

A man never gets too old for marriage, it’s women that get old. It’s a man’s world after all. There’s no need to rush.

Please guys should stop spamming Naira land with wailing threads about women not wanting broke guys. How many times are we going to tackle these kind of topics? We have had almost 1000+ wailing threads by broke guys this year & I have never seen where Nigerian girls have shown pity. Is it not time to realize our women have made UK their minds?

The constant crying is becoming embarrassing & it depicts Nigerian guys as losers. What is so hard in locking up on women matters & enjoying your small money by yourself? If you are a guy that drinks, you will feel fulfilled after two bottles of any premium Nigerian lager & if you don’t drink, we have various cool spots where you can go eat your money in peace. We know the situation on ground is that most guys are not broke but our women have grown unreasonable in their demands so why not seek fun with something else other than women? Is it by force to be a relationship?

Please, all these wailing about girls should stop with this year. If a guy wants fun, there are a million and one ways to seek fun than relying on women to be the source of your happiness. Guys should get a life in the new year & stop spamming cyberspace with wailing threads about girls who will never have pity on you. If and when you feel you have enough money, you can then re-enter the dating game with Nigerian women.

We don’t need wailing threads in 2020. Leave women alone!!!

The mods should NEVER bring threads like this to the front page again as we enter the new year.

It’s a wailing thread for poor men who want to further immerse themselves in poverty.

Why should a man be in a hurry to assume serious responsibilities anyway? This is part of the issues why this country is filled with poor people. Let’s be better in the new year oo.

tartarus:
Many NL guys want to die on top this topic cos many of them are broke
Abeg I can't advice my sisters, daughters, female friends etc to settle down with a man that earns 30k as salary. Suffer head
Why would a man earning 30k think about starting a family?? Wicked people

I can’t imagine why they keep repeating this topic? Our women will never budge so why bother with them?

Is it by force for men to marry? I drink as a man & as long as I feed myself & drink my beer, I don’t care about any woman.

I think the mods should watch out for stupid threads like this which make it look like it’s men that are at disadvantage of they don’t marry. A man can wait & marry at anytime so why should threads like this proliferate on our cyberspace?

The girls that want rich guys should go out there & look for rich men. I am sure they will see.

Jacobx007:
You have no idea the LUCK a woman brings to her husband's house, I will tell you my story...

I was a teacher earning 40k per month, I was to get married in December 2015, n I was a bit worried about my income n whether we could actually survive on it, bt my fiancee encouraged me and said we would manage, lo and behold, November 2015 I got another job(200k+)

Never look down on a struggling(focused) man, cos its just a matter of time, my advice to ladies

You were lucky to see a good woman. How many good women do we have now?

I think we should stop bringing up threads like this as it doesn’t change the attitude of Nigerian women. Men should face their struggles squarely in the new year. No girl is ready to pity any broke man so men too should stop seeking for pity. Enough with The Whining & wailing jareee.

How many men need to be desperate for marriage sef? Marriage is the exclusive preserve of women & it’s their shield from poverty so men should free women to look for rich men.

Nice contributions so far.

Each person can choose to have as much children as they want. We would all face the consequences individually.

Selah.

ebullient19:
The point here is for us to reduce overpopulation at all cost. To do this, the decision must begin with us.
It mustn't be about your small family but the world at large. How do we reduce the number of people in Nigeria if you decide to have many children even if you can take care of them.
If we all decide to have one child, it will go a long way

Of course some regions of the country will never allow that. Only sane Nigerians will take the lessons derivable from this thread.

thunderbabs:
Our third leg just don't care about economic situations. Once it rises, it's a call to duty.

What about family planning?

Kokoebapluse:
Root of Europe are not Christian they re athies they have nothing to do with Christianity they re just using christainty to steal from our forefathers in Africa, now that they have achieved their aim they start to drop down the bitch back to athies or Islam, in US Muhammad is one of the most popular name, they are now following Islam because they have known the truth that Christianity is a scam. And Bible is a dundun, bro among all those country that claiming christain, it's only some country in Africa still carry christainty for head, if you go to some part of the western world if you make noise and call it worship Jesus you may end up in jail. They are now athies or Islam, take it or leave it

Ok. We have heard. So when will you launch Sharia in the US, Nigeria & all over the world?

We can’t wait for you to bring a war against all other religions in the world. We are waiting.

dankol:
I do not intent to say anything on this thread, but this I can't ignore.. and I intend to do this. I don't know why in this part of the world we value stupid things like the number children you have. Our resources are over-utilized, universities and other educational institutions are chiming out graduates like birds laying eggs. Some employable, most unemployable.. what is wrong with us and the way we think.. to make matter worse..you see people hinging poverty, riches on fucking faith.. in the words of Paul, who has Bewitched you oh ye Nigerians? You don't have to sire a child before you can be a father or.mother... and u don't have to be one of you don't have the capacity to do so. The intense over population is the reason why employers are ruthless and demeaning. Pathetic.. having a child in this kind of environment without necessary succor to help the child overcome is waste of fucking life.. it's gambling. I would rather help the living than sire one in this unstable environment with little or no resources. Utter madness

May God Almighty bless you abundantly.

LZAA:
Same here
But in fertility issues there is no one route or method
It's very complex
Some want one,some three,some five
I know a woman who left her marriage cuz the husband said 3 kids were enough
It's all a matter of choice

The woma must be a wicked woman. Will she be the one to pay the school fees of those kids? So why forcing the man to have more than 3? It’s rather unfair.

Personally, I won’t like to go beyond 2 if I still reside in 9ja by then.

Kokoebapluse:
You can't be odua son, maybe you re one of omo ale living among us, because if you read history well, Islam come into Yoruba kingdom before Christianity. If Yoruba Muslim re terrorist no body will be call Christian today in Yoruba, upon that Yoruba have good relation with Christian it's only Christian bring problem into Yoruba kingdom. Pls get brain before you say rubbish next time.

Oloshi ni yin sir.

Kosi lakaye ninu oro yin rara.

You have not made any sense with what you have said & may God grant you wisdom.

I won’t respond to you again.

LZAA:
You keep missing the point
Brazil alone has a higher birth rate than nigeria
U won't say brazil is totally backward would you
Also u have to factor in the fact that in south america and africa homosexuality is an anomaly hence man and wife
Also last time i checked china alone still has a billion plus population excluding immigrants
Are they backwards too?

I am surprised to find you at this side of the aisle given your political leanings but I respect your right to hold an opinion.

plainol:
Aside Buhari, nothing is wrong with Nigeria.

Nigeria will be fine without Buhari.

Only that unfortunate fellow took us 100 years back.

Such a cursed fellow.

The damage & division he has engendered in his regime will take decades to erase if Nigeria still remains one nation.

I love sex more than life itself but I never joke or kid myself about it’s consequences. I also abhor poverty so I watch my every step.

I rather not have kids than bring them on earth to suffer. Life is not so hard.

sacx:
I don't know what you guys are talking about here. Me, I'm planning to have 7. God will provide

Your business actually.

pannyman:
You just reminded me of a child I had to carry in church today. A boy of about 6 months old. He happens to be the fifth child of his parents and looks obviously malnourished.

The dad said the family planning method failed and that the child was determined to come. The other four kids also look malnourished. The man offered me the child to carry and I almost declined. People should please stop bringing innocent children into this world that they know they cannot cater for. Is it so hard to understand?

Can you imagine the nonsense they caused the baby?

I hate not being able to carry a baby that looks malnourished but I can’t help but resist carrying them.

This is a lesson to recalcitrant Nigerians who want to have plenty children in the midst of an economic strangulation led by a modern day pharaoh.

God will direct his children.

God bless you for contributing poster.

KennieKingOba:
we are talking about serious family issue here, these ones are alreasy taking to nairabet staking.... Shiorr

I conceptualized the thread. You cannot take the subject more seriously than me.

Relax, life is not that hard.

Trybes:
Uninspired don't you think this is too sensitive a topic. We are talking about bringing children to life. Be optimistic man, agreed Nigeria is tough but it could change to the better.
Now tell me what happens after giving birth to tha maximum two children you are advocating. Should the man go tie up his penis? Or are you also advocating for family planning. Look my brother I think we should allow natural process prevail. Family planning or whatever means to negate conception in my view may not be Biblical.
Simply my view.

I am as much a Christian as you but I do not subscribe to having unplanned reproduction which plunges families & nations into poverty.

God is not an author of confusion & he could not have meant uncontrolled child birth when he commanded that we should go forth & multiply.

Wisdom is profitable to direct especially for Christians living among murderous islamists.

emmynku:
Economic reason(s) may not necessarily define the size of one's family. If going by how bleak the economic outlook is,we may not even bother to raise families.

Is it by force to raise families?

Are you trying to justify uncontrolled child birth in a shithole country?

Kokoebapluse:
You must come from flat head trib?

Before you start fighting here in Nigeria you have to first tell Christina that living in, malyasia, Qatar, Dubai, to leave then you can start your war with Boko Haram not Muslims, muslim re peace maker

I am an omoluabi from Ogun State.

What are you saying? I can’t make sense of it. Kindly rephrase.

Saltybear:
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If war starts you will.be consumed trust me

You see everyone sees Muslim terrorists and is used to their modus operandi

Wait till.you see a Christian terrorist before you start chest beating

It's not who starts a fight that wins it

I ought to follow you. I have seen most of your comments & we think alike.

Kudos bro.