₦airaland Forum

Lamanii22:
He is not a loser... He is a man who would not judge a woman... Who would love her for who she is and not what the society thinks of her... I call that kind of man brave, a hero...

Ok.

Aarenasbaba:
love in d air

Na so oooo

Lamanii22:
And so... Is it a crime to be a single mom... There are guys out there that will kill to marry a single mom... Op.. Don't mind this person... Don't ruin your sister's life... Let her give birth to that baby.. She should go back to school.. Get a good job.. And thank me later.... Her life would be ruined if you give her hand in marriage...

Show me a single guy that will kill to marry a Babymama & I will show you a loser & a simp.

YorubaPrince:
Good job... send her ass home! You can't go to another man's country and wanna be claiming nonsense. She can go to Saudi or Somalia if she wants to cover up like terrorists. Nonsense!

Nice.

Legendher0, this is a fellow Yoruba man like us that calls it out as it is & isnt islamophobic or Igbo. It’s all all Yorubas that call out the ills of Islam that is Igbo. We have many Christians in Yorubaland that are not comfortable with the excesses of Islam.

As for the main story, they will sort it out themselves.

We have all reached a consensus based on conclusive evidence that cannibalism is still being practiced in Igbo land so there’s no need to argue any further.

We can now move to the next topic, please.

youngsahito:
you are d**b for saying this about Muslim...are there no xtain thug? I Neva support what the guy did but don't bring Muslim to this.

It would have been better were the thug a Christian.

It’s unfortunate the girl fell for a Muslim. That’s part of the reason the OP is pained & it’s justifiable.

My first love are my mother & money respectively. After my children come, the equation will be slightly readjusted.

Women should never feature in the equation as they only love my money anyway.

Any man that can live his life by this code will not have a problem.

OP, better be guided

Aarenasbaba:
Did she complete the 40k or u let go??

You can be sure that she didn’t complete it. Can’t you see how in love OP is?

Uniquekriss:
remember he mentioned that d girl opened up.to him that she fell for him d first day she saw him and vowed to do all within her powers to get his attention, this same guy also is d one who stayed celibate for 1year, meaning he wasn't even carried away by anything d girl had to offer buh for d fact that he now begins to fall in love means that the feelings they have is mutual and should be consummated sir. People can meet anywhere and anyhow. *my humble submission*

I am not saying people cannot meet anywhere. What I am saying is that the OP is not the “prize” in the relationship, she is. And that is symptomatic of a defect in the relationship because, in my view, a man should always seek for the least risky partner to marry. Women are too fickle to build your life around. A woman should only compliment what you’ve made of your life & not form the bedrock of it.

The OP seems smitten by the girl & it’s a dangerous sign as the girl has better options. She may decide to leave tomorrow & OP’s life comes crashing down.

Conversely, the abroad based guy has built his life up to a level whereby the girl’s exit will not affect him much. The abroad guy can easily get another more beautiful girl but I don’t think the OP can.

On the whole, the OP should go lower to pick a more reserved & conservative girl that he can control & retain her affection.

Love is very dangerous for men & we should do as much as we can to avoid it.

Lamanii22:
What a world! Never ever release your sister to 'em... She would suffer... They would treat her like shit... The guy will now start beating her again.... Let your sister give birth safely and she should go back to school afterwards....


Front page please

Then she turns an after 1/baby mama with an even slimmer chance of getting a responsible man.

I would never advice my male friends or family members to marry such a lady.

She has laid her bed, so she should lie on it.

Thug + Muslim = Agbero (lout)

chukzyfcbb:
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He already revelaed to the girl that he needed marriage after a few visits, now the babe is using him to play ball....She heard the word marriage and put up the good girl mode and now a brother can't think clearly.

I am sure he can't identify her flaws and see if it's something he can live with, he saw a lady who shares the same interest with him in Tech and felt he had seen an angel.

It will end in tears, lol

He should run away. He shouldn’t even try to sleep with the girl. He should just run & go secure the bag while looking for a less beautiful & more homely girl. Unless, he wants to keep fighting for her love the rest of their marriage.

safarigirl:
NL is filled with children, premature boys that think everybwoman is out to get them and their imaginary money.

Most people on this romance section especially, are teenagers. Anybody looking for petty advice on Romance Section multiple times, is not old enough to be in a relationship. So, he does not have anyone offline he can confide in, it is strangers that barely know the intricacies of the relationship that will tell him what to do?

I did not even read most of his rubbish, and woe betide me I waste advice on such a clueless person. The rest of you can keep forming Dr. Phil, he obviously needs all the attention he can get

While you might be right in some of your submissions, it is undoubtedly true that what most Nigerian women look out for in relationship is money. We can’t shy away from that.

And contrary to your beliefs, it’s not all members of the romance section that are teenagers or young people.

Uniquekriss:
Bros leave all those yarnings, there's no crime in loving another person's gf, after all, u don't know or have any relationship with d supposed Yankee bf, no girl is single, if she's not in a relationship, she must have someone she admires or one who makes her happy without responsibilities. If ur feelings for her is genuine all u need do is dissuade her from further communications with d other guy, who knows if he even has her in his plans. Go and do introduction first if u can afford it, when she graduates in less than 1yr u tie d knots, by then your finances should have soared high like u want, I'm sure her parents would prefer u to d other 'invisible' bros and u have prospects that wouldn't take long to materialize. I've a pastor who is celebrating 14years of blissful marriage to a lady who was engaged to another man when he met her. He "disengaged and reengaged" her. Lol. Invite me to your wedding bros.

Will the OP will be able to cope when the girl starts disturbing him or acting funny after she finds out that OP is not as rich as her abroad based bobo?

The issue with these girls do not end even after marriage. They will keep tormenting men till we die. The only marriage you can enjoy is one where your woman surrenders to & respects you naturally, not one where you had to fight for her attention before marriage. That means you will be fighting for the rest of your life.

The lifespan of men is short when he has to keep living up to the expectations of his wife.

safarigirl:
You came to seek advice on NL to break up with your ex, now you are back for more advice on whether you should move ahead with a new girl

You will still return for advice when you want to break up with this one, and furthermore when you want to get engaged, and even more advice when you want to get married, it is still NLers that will tell you when to impregnate your wife and when to enroll your child in school

If you are not mature enough to think for yourself, without seeking the advice of total strangers on your life decisions, then you are not mature enough to date at all.

Like someone said, grow a pair and stop running to the internet for validation. Your Ex doesn't know what God did for her to remove such an adult baby from her life. When she finds a real man that doesn't need validation from virtual people, she will be thankful.

You completely avoided the subject at hand & adviced him not to seek advice on NL from his brothers who will never lead him astray. Why now? Is it because you know that guys here will not lead him the slaughter house that you girls always want guys to go to?

Men are not robots who derive pleasure in getting hurt by women all the time. Let us all advice the OP objectively.

NL is the best place to get advice on matters of the heart—excluding of course, delicate marital matters.

chukzyfcbb:
You my friend is one desperate Fella!

There is no way you will win over a guy who
- agrees to a no sex relationship
- has houses and cars
- lives abroad
- who has already captured her attention and that of her Mom & Sisters (Dads no get problem)

Bro even your own sister cannot leave such guy, you are fighting a lost cause!

Your emotions are getting a hold of you because you come in contact with her at the office daily.

That abroad guy will beat you to this game bruh, Your heart break is coming soon

I can’t even date any girl in the same place I work.

How do people do that sh!t?

The OP is playing a losing game as that girl will smash his heart. OP is just an option. I can never give anybody the pleasure to have me as an option, I must always be the “prize”—even if the girl is from the village.

If I sense I am falling for a girl too much, I run because that means I would be at her mercy.

I always prefer for the balance of power to me in my favor always. Chase money, never chase a bitch.

Women will fvck you up if they sense that you love them.

OP, run away from that relationship & hug your hustle.

DexterousOne:
Favour women as how tho


After being married for that long
And he left you for another
She deserves some settlement

It may not be 50/50

But she does deserve something


A lot of women in Nigeria don dey wise up sha

This cant happen to these women coming up

And yes, I believe in some Feminist ideals

Ok. It’s good for you.

Goodluck.

DexterousOne:
Lol

I don't understand u


What wrong did he do?

Are you a lawyer? If you’re not, you won’t understand what he did.

OP, never compete for or marry any girl if you’re not the “prize” in the relationship.

It’s so obvious that you’re struggling to hold on to her affection & that’s not a good sign.

If I were you, I will run as far as my legs can carry me & secure my bag first.

I prefer money to any woman because my money will never disappoint me.

The affection of women is very fickle because they put themselves first & are more interested in money than men.

A word is enough for the wise.

BigJoe19:
You have called the man a thug but you have refused to call your sister a hoe, how wonderful!!!

Exactly. I know the kind of girl his sister is.

She would have been asked out by “nice”, “responsible” guys but she refused & fell in love with this street thug of a guy.

My only worry is that the guy is a Muslim. I don’t like that.

OP has to bear with them & leave them to live their lives. The fault lies with OP’s sister.

lopsoj:
are you not aware of guys who take advantage of girls because they are friendly, and i state it clearly that she can be cynical too.

What do you mean by cynical? Sorry bro, but your sister loves this Islamic thug so she’s now his wife.

I know the kind of girl your sister is so there’s no need for you to insult her husband online.

She’s laid & bed & will lie on it for life.

lopsoj:
humm, we are christain and we don't encourage abortion. thanks though, will look into " seeking a better future for her"

You’re a avoiding my questions because you’re not comfortable with the answers. You & your people better go give your sister to the Islamic thug she had a baby for.

All these smear campaign on the Islamic thug on NL is an afterthought. Your sister’s upbringing has landed her where she rightfully belongs.

CorperKola:
Then its not hard to see divorce within 3 years
M not an alfa o but somethings you can see from a mile away

Unfortunately, this is true. Unless she marries a very liberal or soft.

One doesn’t need to be a pastor to see that.

DexterousOne:
A man

Why you asking?

The are advancing ideas that favor women.

Are you a feminist? Some men are feminists.

I still don’t understand what Op means by thug & he has not given us information about what kind of girl his sister is.

He’s intentionally avoiding those questions.

Don’t come & lambast an innocent guy while absolving your own sister of blame.

Who — in your estimation—is a thug? And what kind of girl is your sister. Give us a honest assessment so we can help you.

Me I don’t understand what OP is yapping about oo. It doesn’t mean anything special. OP, have you considered leaving that your Yoruba girlfriend & dating someone from your own tribe who won’t say “who born you well”?

2special:
If they wants the child, pls let them have him/her but don't let your sister go, if l was in your shoes that's what I will do but here l don't know much details about the other family that you're trying to paint bad... Sometimes very difficult to advise until you know the full details and hear from the other party....I'm sure your sister won't love/like the guy.

Na lie oooo. His sister loves the guy to have bleeped him to the extent of getting pregnant.

The OP has not really given us enough facts. He’s jus calling the guy a thug & he has defined what a thug is.

His sister must be one of those young confused girls who like rough guys. The OP still needs to give us more facts for us to advice him.

lopsoj:
not i called him, thats how he is, for privacy sake his picture should have followed the post. and his behaviour is annoying.

Be more explicit please. Is he rough & with no ambition or what?

There are levels to this thug thing.

And why didn’t your family abort the baby when you realized the guy is a Muslim? That’s the only sticky part ooo—Muslim guy.

The blame is all on your sister.

What do you mean by thug? And what kind of girl is your sister?

Does she like tough men & hate nice, educated men who treat her well?

A lot of girls don’t like responsible, nice but predictable guys.

Cholls:
my brother interesting! And what do they like?

She may like her fellow women/girls.

A lot of these our young women are closet lesbians ooo. That’s why they are so difficult to be with.