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Mercychen:
Let her go on her knees and settle it. Crying won't solve the problem. Just three days midnight prayers, he'll be the one to drop them at her doorstep.

This ugly old man though.. I wonder what she saw in him that made her ever go close to such a person.

She saw money aka kudi, owo!

kingsoncj:
A nairalander killed a snake and turned it to meat.

You guys had better stop eating venomous snakes. It it's python, that makes sense. Don't kill yourself o...

dodoatirice:
She that dirt thing behind him na house wey him buy?

You don't know what some widows are going through. That's why you are talking like this.

At least, they have a roof to their heads. I heard Ighalo gives them monthly allowance as well - go and check Ighalo's official instagram account. If all footballers and rich men are like this, would our society not be a better place?

Do you know Ighalo also has a motherless baby home, and send these children to school? He feeds them, and treats them well. And to be fair, the building for the motherless babies home is a very nice and well furnished.

Just appreciate the little people are doing, and don't make careless comments. God will bless Odion Ighalo mightily!

g4gerald:
A child whose hand is not firm on a sword yet, shud not ask who killed his father

This is the perfect interpretation! Fantastic!

Awol1:
"If pikin wey no reach to ask wetin kill him father, go ask wetin kill him father, wetin kill him father go kill am". (Izzi Proverb).

Fame should stop messing with Rema's head. He hasn't gotten the ground yet to fight the mafians in PDP, and some who may have defected to APC, who are responsible for his father's death.

Ti owo omode o ba ti te eku ida, ko Kin bere iku ti o pa baba re (Yoruba proverb)

If a youngster has no weapon/sword in custody, he shouldn’t ask for the cause of his father’s death!

Don’t allow him back. Someone left you for 8 good years, and you’re thinking of accepting him into your life? Don’t let love distort your reasoning. He is not worth it.

Once in a while, you may arrange for him to meet your baby, but that should be it. He is a betrayer! 8 years? It’s not justifiable!

MrBrownJay1:
whether you invite her for a date (or not) before she returns, it wont change her stand with the "hungry tigers" around her. unless you start dating this babe, you shouldnt expect this babe to refuse these "hungry tigers" because of you and/or the relationship you guys may possibly have in the future.

technically, you are still nothing to the babe, and she owes you no loyalty, whether you ask her out before she returns or not.

Good point. Until something romantic springs up, you are nothing but pencil to her.

Goalnaldo:
Alpha males like us don't ask girls out. We wait until there's enough signal then we strike. If there's no signal, make she dey her day. Ubunja have I spoken your mind?oh you miseducator of men

Nice one bro. You are on point. That’s the way to role in the 21st century. Only weak guys meet a girl in a few weeks and start declaring undying love.

shadrach77:
My guy don't mind all those who are saying you should wait till she returns . I'd say ask her out over the phone since
1. She already knows where you are heading to and waiting till she returns might be taken by her to mean that you are not bold enough

2. Like someone rightly pointed out there are other hungry lions waiting to pounce on her so the earlier you make the move the better

3. It doesn't matter where/when you make your move if she likes you she likes you and if she doesn't she doesn't

4. Most girls may even ask you why you didn't speak your mind over the phone.

So my guy just make your move and hope for the best. If she ends up saying "no" it won't be because you asked her out over the phone

Relationship is not a do or die affair. If she goes with another guy, there are millions of ladies in Nigeria! There is no reason for the guy to appear weak on phone. No guy should tell girl he loves her when they are just meeting. You don’t need to tell a girl you love her before you start dating and having sex.

yoursidenigga:
We graduated, and I traveled to another state for service. We kept talking and one night, she asked me the definition of our friendship... I defined it for her and asked her if I should ask her out on the phone. She said it is possible but not that time. I still asked her out on a phone call and she accepted.....

The babe clearly loves you and wanted you!

duality:
Before you ask her out what is your budget!

I'm serious with this question ooh

I will give you the best answer if you State your budget.

In case you don't know, some people it's when they are about to make progress, the devil will just give them a girlfriend.

Too much cash is not required to take a girl out. Just go on walk in a cool neighborhood or go grab drinks. DON’T do dinner or expensive dates. It’s waste of money. Make a lady fall in love with your personality NOT your money. Cheers!

duality:
Before you ask her out what is your budget!

I'm serious with this question ooh

I will give you the best answer if you State your budget.

In case you don't know, some people it's when they are about to make progress, the devil will just give them a girlfriend.

Too much cash is not required to take a girl out. Just go on walk in a cool neighborhood or go grab drinks. DON’T do dinner or expensive dates. It’s waste of money. Make a lady fall in love with your personality NOT your money

Mitocyan:
Lool depends on how soon you guys can meet. I have a friend that once went this route. It took him about 3 months to meet the girl in person and within that 3 months space another person had asked the girl out and she had agreed. When they later got to meet she said he should have made his intentions known over the phone within that period. I also have another friend that asked a girl out over the phone and she agreed before they met in person.

Above all, your suggestion is cool if they can meet in person soon enough.

She might just be giving excuses. If a girl loves you, she will keep other guys waiting and be dying to meet you!

Wait for her to return bro. You should only set up a date on phone. Never mention to her that you love her, even when you see face to face. To formalize your dating, go for the first kiss

Flairoqy:
First of all, this post shows that you have low self esteem.
G code is keep your self respect high, yes people call it pride, talk less, stay clean, ur English game should be clean, NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT flirt as much as u want, make them ur friends, they'll trip until u see bright green lights.
All the girls I've dated asked me out, no cap bro.

Exactly bro. You understand the dating game perfectly. You DON’T tell a girl you want to date her. It leads to awkwardness! Flirting and subtle touching is the way to go!!

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

Bro, when you have a girl that you are interested in, don’t tell her your feelings.

The problem is, all the girls you have been with didn’t feel any attraction for you.

Now, the solution is easy. When you are with a new girl, don’t take too long before you go physical. Touch her hair, Kiss her. This triggers attraction. Let things develop naturally. Don’t overspend on her, don’t chat or call. You only call to meet up!

Go and grab the ebook - Double your dating. It’s free on the internet. Cheers!

Kenturkey048:
my people ,,abeg make una fold hand,cross leg,put one glass of water in front of you for sipping sake,then read this advice ...

I am sure the lady (culprit) gave this advice. Guys you have to be strong and decisive. Otherwise, one small girl will be taking you for granted!

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........

I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things

I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends and hers at a lounge(paid all the bills).

So the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised to produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my accounts as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.

This new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.

On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).

So I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

My friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
They are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly

...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

You haven’t married the lady, yet you are dashing out money in this tough Buhari era. You serious so You had better forget about the money and the girl and move on! You have to be smart next time bro. You can’t buy love with money!!!

Kenturkey048:
my people ,,abeg make una fold hand,cross leg,put one glass of water in front of you for sipping sake,then read this advice ...

Kenturkey048:
my people ,,abeg make una fold hand,cross leg,put one glass of water in front of you for sipping sake,then read this advice ...

My brother, you did not make your intentions known earlier. You came as a friend and seems to have been friend-zoned. All the crap she said was just an excuse in order not to hurt you.

Just leave her for a while, don't call her. Maybe when she misses you, the situation might change.

If she gets back to you, don't say anything about love. Take her out on a date, hold her hands, get close to her, go for the kiss! Stop deceiving yourself that you only want friendship when you truly want more!

Brother, date other girls. When she notices that you have options, she will become jealous, and will most likely come back to you. To make a woman want you, psychology is involved. Cheers!

Timekeeper:
What does it mean when a lady you expressed your feelings to tells you that she is not ready emotionally. I asked emotional in what aspect? She was like she is this kind of free person and been in a relationship will restrict her freedom. To be sincere, since I have been close to this lady, I noticed that she is truly free (as in male friends and so on) but I'm not sure if she is dating anyone... But as a guy I reason am, can I cope with a lady that is so free ? I don't just want to rush and crush and I Wana take time to think about it... I told her that she has her freedom but as a decent lady, even freedom shud be limited.

Ladies, I know you must have felt this at one stage of your life. What do you expect a guy to do to convince you or make u ready? Seriously on campus, I don't really befriend ladies like that but this particular lady, I like her so much.. Within the space of 3 weeks, I have called her countless times on phone and she never gave me attitude. Most time we even meet in the night and talk for hours. Then I concluded in my mind that if this lady doesn't really like me, she wouldn't have given me all these attention... But her fear is her freedom, she doesn't want to lose her freedom... As a guy too, I respect her freedom but I expect a lady freedom shud be limited especially if she is in a relationship.

Ladies help me out, if God will do it for me like I want it, I want to know her parents and wife her in the few years to come but the only problem I have now is the freedom she talked about... I have read and experience so many things on nairaland and others too about ladies brouhaha Cox of freedom and so on but I don't Wana experience this...

Note: if a lady tells me that she can't date me Cox she is dating sumone else or doesn't feel for me, I know that as a man of value, I will walk away forever. But didn't say that, she just said emotionally n I asked to know if it was past experience, she said no.. Later she opened up to me that her freedom will be tampered with... Honestly, before me met yesternyt, my spirit told me that this lady will consider her freedom and she didn't disappoint me when I told her how I feel about her... I can't give up Cox of her freedom but I can give up if she is not interested at all. Ladies understand me...

Wonderful ladies of nairaland, I trust you that you can help me out.. What can I do pls?

Help me push to front page. God bless

Why be in a hurry to resign man? Some people have been on IP2 since Feb 27 remember. IP2 these days does not indicate much.

Ladies and gentlemen, please don't be in a hurry to resign and do not make any rash decision. In fact, before you decide to come to Canada, try and land a job! Don't leave your job in Nigeria until you get a job or very close to landing a job in Canada.

My people, cost of living in Canada is extremely high. It could be very frustrating to be in Canada without having a source of income. Don't be too excited about getting PR. Just relax and make the right choices.

Cheers!

Zeewirld:
Why not just hold on till the end?

You are not serious. Is it because you are not affected? What has the insensitive govenment done to stem the tide of violence in some parts of the country?

ItsMeAboki:
So called man of God always misusing the church to incite rather than to preach peace.

You guys should relax now. Some people are still waiting since last year, and early this year. Just enjoy life and stop worrying yourself. They will grant everybody PPR eventually!

Osaze007:
Same o

Mou is a bastard. He just sold a 22 prospect for a 29 year old, who is almost past his prime. Mou is a disgrace of a coach..very useless and clueless.

Albert0011:
It will be so stupid for mourinho to let this guy leave man united like that..i so much believe in this guy a lot,he was performing well at the beginning of last season, same way we lost Nani.

keep quiet. It could happen to anyone.

Nobally:
So Sad, but someone should be held for this negligence...

Congrats brother. Wish you resounding success in Canada! Please which visa office processed your application?

ferfer:
AOR - AUG 2 , 2017
IP2 - FEB 27, 2018
ADR - MED REQUEST - MAY 18, 2018
PPR - JUNE 18, 2018

Thanks to everyone on the forum, a wave of appreciation at @Dupyshoo

Why is Moses just diving up and down? Is he alright??

Vizzy4u:
62pages n counting...... Abeg una de watch d match de post for nland? Ayam not understanding

Whts Niyihia?

Mznaett:
My neighbour's son that is just a year plus has been shouting "Niyihia" "Niyihia" with his hands at his back since the match started.

I told him not to loose hope that the match would end in draw.

ITV , it's not a sport channel

Or TSN 1 or Aljazeera - both are sport channels

thatigboman:
Which station can I stream d match in modbro

Great advice!! Canada is a great country no doubt, but, it's not a bed of roses! It's not as easy as people think.

HarveySpecter1:
I see a lot of people who just submitted their applications, are so anxious to get to Canada.

Just relax. I hope you have your strategies all planned out. You would need as much money as you can get for accommodation, school or skill upgrade. Accommodation in Canada is quite expensive. What we know as a room and parlor is in the range of C$1400 to C$1500/month (that's about N450K/month) . You will need money for a lot of things and work may not come immediately.

So why don't you relax and make some more money instead of worrying over an application you just submitted. Its not always "how fast'' but how well.

Be patient and get prepared.

She might have genuinely underperformed in writing on that particular day. Stop these conjectures and unfound theories. With adequate preparations, you will score highly. People have had fantastic scores in Nigerian centres. If you write your IELTS test with this belief, it will be difficult to have a high grade.

The mistake people make is that they do not follow the expected writing partern expected by IELTS. It takes careful studying and preparation. Gather practice questions on writing, carefully study recommended solutions. Do some writing tests under exam condition and compare your answer with the recommended solution.

Ensure your writing has a good structure and pattern anf believe in yourself. I do not believe IELTS standard is different anywhere in the world. In fact, in some centers abroad, you are not allowed to use ear phones for your listening test. The audio passages are played out in the exam room. This is even more difficult.

All the best to all future IELTS takers.

DonTee07:
I have been reading a lot of IELTS story but I beg to differ that IELTS are doing this on purpose. How can someone score 8.5,9,8 in LRS and score 6.0 in writing? it happened to a friend...she was devastated and wanted to rewrite but got a trip to USA. I advised her to write it in NY and she followed my advice. Result is out and she got 8.5,9,8.5,8 in LRSW. Lest I forget, she said she didn't have chance to even read again but wrote the exam based on residual knowledge and from her previous study of IELTS. These people are deliberately puncturing scores cause they know the damage 6.0 or 6.5 can do.

How about Judas Is Karius' blunders.

oooduancalmdown:
Assuming salah had played the match till the end real Madrid would have been thrashed.
Pity

Exactly. That guy was just saying thrash. Does he even know how serious his crime is? Sane country ko, sh*t hole ni.

Xisnin:
In sane countries, he would be locked up for life.