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MariaLavina:
Dear Op, I will advice you have a heart to heart talk with the lady. Ask her yes or no questions to avoid being manipulated because you sound like one whose brain can be easily fingered. What ever she says, respect and accept it. Although I would have suggested you steer clear off her because she seem like a player (a very good one at that) and you are of no match.
You are too responsible for her games, just move on.

Hmm, how will this work when ladies say no when they actually mean yes.

One new story must surface Sha,hope say all these things no be fictions.

In every friendship/relationship,either of the parties always have control over the other.

You had abinitio but you lost it to her the day you asked her out . She started the chase you could have played along, remain in charge, call the shots , act nicely and get her laid.

But we relinquished that power to her by acting like a learner and now the erstwhile chaser is now the chased.

Tell her about this your new nice female friend after which you cut all attention by half.then if she really wants you,she will start asking questions then you take back your place and do the needful ASAP.

Very soon, someone will come here to darail this very informative thread by saying Philippine is the poorest nation on earth.

Kindly disregard any such comments as we are following you bumper to bumper.

Nice one bro

SirWhiteFish:
Cc useku I had to quote you on a dead thread.
I intend choosing credit administration officer

Try to apply ASAP,. Age must be below 28 if you ain't got previous banking experience.


I just want to forward your stuff to my contact person

No promises baba,hope you get

They kneel ,empty bank account etc and for this your in charge.

I told you once that the mofos in this category are just about 5percent of guys and they are either low lifers or mugus with low self esteem.

We shine congos at will, we don't beg no woman for it,yeah at times we are benevolent to the loyal ones just by choice.

Only the loyal well behaved ladies get our full respect.

Change this mindset you this woman,which kind wahala be this,if this was WhatsApp chat I would have long blocked you haba.

It's no biggie,the officer must have been trying to run a cross-check if the hair was tinted or natural as the passport is a very sensitive identification document.

And in her post she didn't say she was told to dye her hair black.

The officer couldn't have possibly known if her hair was naturally blonde .No be everybody sabi her, abi na her picture dey on top one thousand naira note ni.

The immigration officer did a nice job.

Kudos.

lefulefu:
in nigeria?

I dey tell you baba.

The chaser has become the chased

Fountainofyouth:
Yes no one has control over their body type but preference is allowed, any lady that tells you size does not matter, have not seen or tasted a sizeable one before.

your very correct this time

If the coy is a cooperate organization, there will be set of documented codes of conduct signed yearly by all staff at all levels.

This document is binding on all staff members no matter your level in the coy.

You cannot be nailed by even the meanest boss if you don't flout any of the codes cuz disciplinary actions like query,notice of non compliance,warning letter etal must carry the offence and evidence that you breached a code.

So don't be a sissy, do your job well,cover up your tracks, ensure no loop holes and PUT YOUR FEET DOWN.Always document all your correspondences via mail and ensure you are not intimidated .

I have been there twice

The male mean boss was ordered by his own boss to promote me and he did cuz I was always on my A game.


The female boss aka Margret Thatcher fell and got laid.

In summary be your best avoid loop holes,let them see that you don't get intimidated and ultimately watch and pray.

Otan.


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carter009:
My dear, I have seen were this type of issue happened, they guy trained they babe in they university after she graduated , they babe told his boyfriend that she can't marry him, that she doesn't love him again,, OP don't ever try it, I know what am saying.

Seconded

Vengeful gals dey always worwor with very worwor heart

Mamagee, don't pay him back in his coin.

Just get more male friends and hang out more with them, when he schedules another outing just politely turn him down.

Do this for close to a month before seeing him.

The reason is, he's getting too much attention from you and prolly feels you will always be there.

Create an artificial competition, he'll sit up.

JOHNSONSOLAFUNMI:
Aye yin tita

Otita pkao

babyfaceafrica:
they get laid with olosho..no what is big deal there.

Oh dear, not all chicks that club are hookers,

I have lots of female colleagues that club at weekend just to unwind and prolly get big accounts from HNIs

Deleting the contact works wonders.

I like the feeling when they eventually attempt reaching you and discover you don't have their contact anymore.

Then the chaser becomes the chased

boban007:
if that's true all the night club bouncers for don collect all the girls.naija girls no even know they exist.money for hand back for ground is the only language naija babes understand.

Wrong!

They get laid like kilode.

Peckers comes to mind.

AmericanDad:
Bleep off

Seconded

LyfeJennings:
Ejo lo fe ro.
So cos U marry for 23 mean say u life perfect.
Oshi o da.
Uncle, U married cos U wanted to.
Don't use ur timeline or anybody
Cos U married today no mean say e no fit crash tomorrow

Seconded

Do you feel that way when you speak to your mail friends?
Am sure you don't,that feeling is an outburst of all your imagined sexual fantasies which is definitely a result of porn addiction, over blown image of sexual pleasure,lust etal.

Solution

First understand that sex is overrated,the porn you watch is just mere acting

stop watching porn cuz every time you are in front of a lady you always imagine yourself trying out stuff with them before you know it alaye don stand

Lastly get busy,engage your mind .

If this feeling is not checked you may end up having erectile dysfunction later.

LillyVal:
You cheated on your bae

Shebi useku say you should disregard that part nah.

Somebody cannot joke again on nairaland ni.

That you profile pix is dope.

There's is the part where you ask her out when your both in your early twenties and she turns you down and rather hang with the reigning happening boys at the time.

Ten years down the line , she's still single and all the beta wey dey the okra soup have been scooped,you guys cross paths and she starts reminding you of the old good days showing you green light.

Even though I still felt something,me just jejely collect my pension and stick to my loyal bae wey I no too
gbadun like that

the pension part na joke o!

TanyLoe:
Please ladies ,
Stop coming into this forum to make it look like women are jobless. That we don't bath and go out in the morning to work.
It's annoying really.
U think going for a night shift everyday makes me happy?
But I have to because I don't want to be a liability to any man that will come into my life!
Your no man's responsibility until you guys are married even after that.
your heart
Your emotions
Your time
It's his responsibility not your family issues and if he wants to help don't misuse that!
Go out and make yourself useful
Don't sit and wait for a man who has his own issues to come and deliver you.
Respect yourselves please.
Jeez
Even my 18yrs old kid sister while waiting for admission got herself Into making of clothes, shoes and now she's is earning not waiting for any man to make it his responsibility

Exactly the kind of lady that any real hommie will want to give his all.

God bless your parents ma'am.

Safitu:
I know the truth is a hard pill to swallow, but it’s better to accept it now. Hustle now and get the girl of your dreams. No woman is going to feed you or respect you if you ain’t got sshit. You will only attract desperate women who are willing to be sugar momas for a bit of love. Nobody is saying you must be dangote, but bring something to the table ahbeg.

Sure ,am on my A game and also believe that good ladies should be adored.

But the idea of being mandated is my ish..

Aaa ni siyan ooo

you can imagine a lady saying you must empty your purse on her or date a fellow man.

women also having cravings,it takes two to tango.

You sound like it's just the guy who wants to be with you ladies that's pretence.

Yes you can marry with parental consent for free., you don't pay a woman to marry her,all the paparazzi is just to fulfill all righteousness (custom and tradition).

where I come from dowry has long been abolished .

I read a line up there that says "you cant be in a relationship for Free" wake up woman real homies don't roll with people with such mindset


Your not doing any one any favour by being in a relationship with them .

Only starved dudes with low self esteem subscribe to that crap, if your happiness will be dependent on my pocket size,feel free to bounce.


Stay woke guys.

gaby:
I was born in Lagos an have a house in Lagos.

He dribbled himself into a corner an never played his cards well.

The number of voices that were against him due to his inability to be a people person out numbered those who could have tilted all in his favor perhaps due to his arrogancy.

Oh the people's person thingy is the reason naija is the way it is.

the people should be the masses and their interest should be priority.

I agree that political parties have rules of engagement but everything should be in measures

The people in your context I suppose are the powerful party men and women who wield influence.

Baba those guys always want more and had he listened to them he wouldn't have achieved nada

Las las posterity will be fair to him

gaby:
Akpu

Make e go learn work from Obaseki.

If he had works for the people of Lagos to have rooted for him, Tinubu wouldn't have had an easy run on him. Kpata kpata the state falls in the hands of the opposition and everybody go rest.

E go dey hold a not so well thought through world press conference dey yarn opata

Do you stay in Lagos?

Am sure you don't,cuz if you do you would know how much work he did for the people here.

He constructed lots of roads I n lag

Banished the shitty road extortionists(rubbish agency)

Built useful bridges

Created Agric yes(job/accomodation/land/capital)

Called lastma to order

Banished vio

And many more.

only if common man was allowed to vote at the primary...

As far as we lagosians are concerned, the guy na one of our best governors.

Note am not a politician not even an afonja descendant

since your interested,I could mail your cv to someone



wow, thanks. would give this a shot[/quote]

Does the guy work
Did your family approve of the union
is the guy responsible
Has he always been like that?

Truth is shits happen but if the guy hasn't been a lay about all the while I don't think assisting him is out of place.

We did for a sister and today everyone is cashing out big time.

To be man no easy, it's part of the journey ,you would understand some day

Give the guy all the support you can afford if he's legit

All will be well las las

Does the guy work
Did your family approve of the union
is the guy responsible
Has he always been like that?

Truth is shits happen but if the guy hasn't been a lay about all the while I don't think assisting him is out of place.

We did for a sister and today everyone is cashing out big time.

To be man no easy, it's part of the journey ,you would understand some day

Give the guy all th support you can afford if he's legit

All will be well las las

Take the following steps if your 30yrs and below .

Apply to any of these microfinance banks as a loan officer asap.

Accion
Abmfb
Lapo
Microcred/baoba
Primera
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none of these companies pay less than 50k.

You will gain valuable experience and be able to move to other bigger coys.But your teaching experience won't do you any good and you would get tired eventually

Nb, these companies recruit evey six months and staff turn over is very low in n that sector.

Ultimately,fast and pray

All will be well.