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dayokanu: OP can you also do that kain planning for me for 10 day wey I go dey shone your Kongo non stop?

Imagine! Infact I will allow her stay the whole month and plan evil and revenge for me while I phuck as I like.

Look at a brothel, find a pros.titute you like and change her life, she will love you for life.

BluIvy: Why are you dead set at being a dumbo. She stayed the for ten days becouse she had decided she wanted to ruin the guy. She had to stay to pretend that she is working at forgiving him. So he can believe that she is forgiving him. If she left he was going to know that things are going to be bad for him. It was all in the plan. Ha, do you even have a girlfriend or life? 10 days, 10 days, 10 day? Get a life!

And all those days she was pretending she was forgiving him, was the man not "chopping her abunna?"

This guy really enjoyed himself, I dey envy the guy.

kulyie: while it is a grave sin and an abomination of the highest order for a man to insert his dck into the mouth of an innocent toddler

Because her mother abandoned her, money is her priority.

kulyie: first of all who is mike and what buisness does mike have to do with the death of a precious soul,secondly how on earth is the woman supposed to do two things at the same time?if she doesnt work,there will be no money to take care of the baby so it is not a crime,3rdly i refuse to believe the man is a lunatic,because if he was a lunatic,he will not have taken the time to wear a condom,at least a sane man's senses will tell him where to wear the condom,abi who told him where to wear the condom and after he finished his ignoble act,he still went ahead to frame up a lie.please stop giving excuses for the man's stewpeed behaviour except if that is what you are capable of doing and you see nothing wrong in what the man did

The only thing I dont like about debating with you is that you attack the poster and leave the topic. Face the points I raised and not me, if you noticed, I have never attacked you since we began debating here. Its nothing personal, face the topic.

Lets continue, any man that inserts his dykk into the mouth of an infant is a raving lunatic, even worse than those on chains. I agree the woman should work sometimes, but not when there are more important things like taking care of a defenceless infant. If the worst comes and she cannot feed except with the work, she should hire a nanny, take the child to a creche or offer her for adoption. Leaving her in the hands of a jobless man is the only reason why this happened, Oh Lord, where is the soft kindness of the mother's love? Taken away by the love of MONEY, which is the root of all evil.

[quote author=Ijele-igbo]Imagine this scenario.
You are a married man and each time you have sex
with your woman, you don’t ejaculate, therefore
you don’t reach orgasm. And you know that
reaching climax refreshes and satisfy the true need
for sexual intimacy.
If it happens that you continue to have sex for ten years without ejaculation or reaching orgasm, what
would you do if you suddenly meet a woman who
makes you ejaculate within 5 minutes?
No doubt as a man, you will go for it. Yet, that is
the pain some married women go through their
entire life without the “sweetness” that comes with
sexual release.
Would you blame a woman who becomes unfaithful
because you simply can’t satisfy her?
While I don’t condone such badness, I think it’s
imperative that every man married or single should
learn how to satisfy a woman to avoid the
associated problems that comes with it.
Now, the question you may have in mind is:
But how do I satisfy my woman in bed?
If you are a man who cannot last longer, you
should know that you can still satisfy or give your
woman orgasm notwithstanding.

Here are some facts men should know.

1. Sexual Penetration doesn’t give a woman
immediate climax. It should be the very last thing a
man should do after about 15 – 20 minutes of love
making.

2. Clitoral stimulation is the fastest way to get a
woman to reach an orgasm. You can do this with
your fingers, or tongue.

3. Unlike men, once a woman reaches the first
orgasm (Clitoral), she can reach multiple orgasms
thereafter and that is when she loves your
penetration which may give her vaginal orgasm.
However, if you learn how to give your woman
orgasm each time you make love to her, then you
will become her obsession. She will never think of
another man in her life.
She will become addicted to you and practically
initiate or beg you for love making. She will satisfy
every of your fantasy as long as you are giving her
regular orgasm...........[/quote]The number of heavenly feelings in this write up can send the woman straight to heaven even before she dies. Please post this in the religious section.

deandavid: thats a gamble sir, in gambling u either laff or cry at the end of d day. So is this ur type of marriage . A wise saying, he who fails to plan, plans to fail.

Is life itself not a gamble

[quote author=sammie-d]..this is big lie..u are only stating ur own experience..in the old days..people are given to each other right from a young age and eventually get married,they never got tired of each other..so U SAYING DAT THE MORE ONE STAY WITH OPPOSITE SEX THE MORE HATE COMES is totally rubbish..I and my fiancée have been together for 6years and we getting married soon dis year..and am yet to meet two people who loves and care for each other like we do..as far as marriage is concern those questions are important....[/quote]6 years! Wetin you wan sabi again, the marriage is like 6 years old now.

But, wait for it. Some people (guys and gurls) can hide thier real characters till after marriage. When it is time to release them, you will know what I mean.

kulyie: lol nigerians and bad belle spirit chai why are you always unhappy whenever you see a happy family and by the way of couse in every family they have their ups and downs and when they fight,thats perfectly normal,couples have disagreemement and they settle it so is it possible for a spouse to be having internal issues with each other yet do wedding anniversary,haba,you to think am na.if a husband and wife is always at loggerheads with each other and never at peace,will they have time and emotional bond to do wedding anniversary

Fights and disagreements perfectly normal in a marriage? would you wish to be in constant fight with your spouse? YES or NO?

komek: Nigerian men do, just that we don't have confident women in Nigeria. What we have are bunch of disrepectful women who are after women empowerment in order to take over from the men. Which I deduce from the OP as not being the defination of confidence

Sure, those qualities up there are those of arrogant women. You dont hear confidence, you see it in action.

tpia1: Also, its important to realize values have changed, and what held in the past doesnt necessarily apply now.

For example, majority of the youths now sag their pants and aim to be like their role models in the entertainment world - six pack, sunshades, fancy rides, prefering their women to dress revealingly, etc.

At some point in time, these men may want to get married as well, either sooner or later. They'll definitely have nothing in common with a traditionally minded type who doesnt even understand rap music.

So, whoever they decide to marry, might need to share the same mindset as them, and be into their lingo, habits, lifestyle and so on.

You are correct, and thats why I was telling them there is no list needed for successful marriage, it can happen anyway, anyhow, anytime.

kulyie: the way some men think is mind boggling.so it is a crime for a father to babysit his own daughter (not someone else's daughter o) while the mother is at work,moreso who will ever think a mentally ok man will insert his cursed dck into an infants mouth abi did she go and play,is it not work she went to do so she can bring in money to take care of the baby,if the man was not jobless,he wont be babysitting talkless of raping an infant.i wonder where he got such insane idea from.by the way are you sure you cannot do such this one that you are siding the man

It is a crime for a woman to go to work while abandoning her most precious gift, her 3 months old child! If this woman was single, working would have made more sense. But she has a 3 month old baby for the love of mike! And do you think this woman does not know the mental history of the lunatic man? She is the prime cause of this and if am the judge, I will sentence her to death as well!

kulyie: so because she went to work,that justifies the animal sticking his dck into an infants mouth.he should have inserted his dck into my dogs (matilda's mouth) whether she will not castrate him asap or insert it into her anus.beast abi it is now a crime for a mother to live an infant in care of the father

It is a mortal crime for a mother with milk on her chest to abandon her primary constituency and allow her child killed by a mentally challenged beast all in the name of working.

byvan: Well on the contrary,I think most two timing human trash are actually very dumb.If he was smart,he won't be threading a ground that might be disastrous for his finance.The way this disgusting cookies eventually crumble,mehn I myself wonder if they can boast of any brain at all.You can go on and envy him all you want,am glad women don't sit around and wait for Karma any more.An eye for an eye is really a fair game.

Dumb? Any man who has the flow to kepp a babe under his spell for 10 days is nearly a genius.

kulyie: i am giving an example of a confident woman yet humble.dont be mistaken,it is very possible for a woman to be sucessful yet confident and at the same time humble,i was replying the earlier poste1 who asked me whether i have gone to her house before and i said i have only gone for her wedding anniversary so for her to do that,i know she has the virtues of what i call a REAL SUCCESSFUL woman,i dont know why you guys thinks its impossible for a woman to be successful,confident yet humble

You summarized the whole marriage by attending just one anniversary and maybe believing all the lies they tell to save face? They may have a big fight at night after you visitors have left.

doofanc: Of course its very possible - in the highly fantasized world of Mills and Boon romance, that is.

Get a grip on reality

It is you who is very far from reality. The reality is that before you finish answering all those questions, the serious ones are already married and having kids.

Joythah: Two total strangers can meet from a one night stand and later marry one week later and stay happily married till death. No long thingz...... can you give an example of such marriages? I dont think so. Think before you post.

Can you give an example of two people who have implemented all those long list of rules and made a good marriage? I dont think so either!

stagger: The questions are too vague. They should be more specific to our Naija setting.

1) Is the lady/guy the type of person who easily gets provoked?
2) How are quarrels and disagreements handled?
3) Is the lady submissive?
4) Does the guy love his wife to the point where he can die for her? Is he sacrificial? Can he decide to trek under hot sun so his wife can have the only car to enjoy the A/c, or is he the type that colonizes the car while his wife jumps around town in public transport?
5) Can the woman take correction or is she the type that is forever shouting back at her man and putting him down publicly?
6) Does the man treat the woman as his help mate or as his subordinate or an article of property?
7) Is the man clean? SOme guys throw their underwear and socks everywhere and expect the jackey horse of a wife to always pick up after him.
Is the man a provider? Will his attitude change if his wife starts to earn more than himself or will he still measure up to standard? Will the woman become heady and uncontrollable when her earning power supersedes that of the man?
9) Can the woman cook and do basic domestic stuff in the house?
10) Is the man a stingy fellow?
11) What is the attitude of the man to his mother and what is the attitude of the wife to her father? This will determine how they relate to the opposing inlaws and to themselves.
12) What is the spiritual story behind both the man and wife? Does untimely death, poverty or some other negative stuff run in the family line?

There are too many important questions to ask. Forget all those stupid janded questions that have no meaning in the real modern day marriage setting in Naija.

See what I mean, there are more questions turning up every second and by the time you finish asking yourself all these JAMB questions, you must have turned 45 years. There is no single proven route to successful marriages, just be yourself and choose wisely, too much of choosing will land you with a holy devil who had hidden his/her bad characters very craftily, only to turn to a monster later.

adewal15: Your comment is just like, entering a bus at a garage blindly and hoping to get to your destination.... Pls be practical when you think... Ignorance has a great effect hope you know?

Marriage is not like a bus, dont get it twisted.

adewal15: Yours I think a load of rubbish... Love at first sight only seems true because you've got a certain criteria and picture of, then the Indian movie comes in when meeting a girl you'd like to be with... that when getting to see her, the picture of whom you'd choose to marry appears.. dceive yourself not.... Imagine marrying a stranger who maybe dropped from Mars...

Let me educate you, the more you stay to learn about the opposite sex, the more you hate them, the more you meet other more pretty, younger, richer, more educated and cool opposites. Better close your eyes and marry and develop your love than hoping you have met an angel only to discover you have been duped, the person you thought you knew will soon show her true colours.

I better be surprised by marrying a total stranger than finding out I have been taken an a ride by the person I thought I knew very well.

Ability to "cane" her for a long time.

kulyie: hehehehehhe wonderful,how can you be seeing your wife's success,confidence and high status as a threat to you and think she will be doing that to you.anyway all this boils down to the reason why you got married to her in the first place.if you married for the right reasons you will be proud of her confidence but if you marry for the wrong reasons you will see her as a competitor,rival and her confidence will be a threat to your ego and manhood.meanwhile all those fears are figments of your own imaginations or what you are capable of doing

Have you ever seen a successful and yet humble woman? Name her?

greatgod2012: Nice one there, but, unfortunately, some people are too desperate and too eager to ask these necessary questions b4 settling down, hence, their future regrets.
May God help us all.

Some people still look, watch, wait and learn for many years and still fight everyday for the rest of the marriage.

[quote author=Mynd_44]If it was the girl who cheated on him would you be making the same silly comment?[/quote]Guys are most likely to be forgiven than girls for this same offense.

Load of rubbish, marriage have no defined formular. Two total strangers can meet from a one night stand and later marry one week later and stay happily married till death. No long thingz......

kulyie: if a man is not suffering from insecurity,inferiority or superiority complex,a wife's confidence,progress and sucess in her field is supposed to make him proud of her and himself and not having headache,the headache indicates a sign of jealousy,anger in her confidence and fear,so....fill in the gap yourself :p

Na lie, the success will bring out the beast in the woman, and she will come to see her husband as slow and stuupid. Next she will keep the man at home to be feeding the babies and washing her panties.

kulyie: i dont agree so all not to confident women at work are excellent wives at home abi.if that is the case the likes of ibukun awosika should have been a single woman or single mother for life na

You don go her house?

kulyie: so getting violent is a 'brute's' way of displaying confidence.hahahaha the brute is one lucky guy,you know why?because he didnt marry any of my female relatives because if he did and had violent and aggresive tendencies like you stated here,he will most likely have been locked in the guard room with heavily built soildiers beating the living day light out of him for a long time,at least that one will make him experience raw,first hand violence and like yorubas will say every mad man has his own oga,he will meet them plenty for guardroom

You are forgetting something, the guy could be an army colonel, sorry.

Girls will also readily sell their eggs, abi them no be Nigerians also?

BluIvy: You do not make sense and i did not spread legs read the first post well first. Besides whether one spreads legs or not have you had about humans perogative to spread legs if they want to, revenge if they want to. How is that contradicting each other? Okay, now I am getting they high school pitle boys i did not want. Ignored!

I still blame you for all these, if you have walked out and not allowed yourself be talked into spending 10 nights like a homeless street girl, this would not have happened. And now you want to ruin him for something the two of you enjoyed? Its not fair!

byvan: Dear please let me know when this guy is ruined.Waiting for Karma is usually a long wait and patience is not an easy virtue.I feel no single pity for decietful men,hit him until he falls to rise no more.Though the voice of reason will want me to wait for Karma,I feel much better after a sweeeet revenge.Becareful and make sure it won't backfire.Forgive if you can but if you can't,you aint wrong either(atleast from the human point of view not biblical).

Please I will need the situation report if you don't mind.

For where? Most two timing men are very smart, they know what you might do and plan ahead of you. Did you notice the quick switch for him to send his family out of the way to phuck this babe for 10 whole days (I dey envy the lucky guy) now do you think this lady will be faster that him? he will bleep her again and again and run before the babe has a chance of hurting him.

BluIvy: I will not argue with that, totally true. So its all to hell from here right? According to your poetic justice? Ncccccccccc, Christians and their anger induced by their "hollier than thou" attitude. I bet you do not sin and have never sinned. Cast all the stones for I doubt we will find another sinless soul out there except you. Pile' em up sister, hurry you have a lot of work to do.

Guilty conscience biting you sister. You spread your legs to him and now wants revenge, next time, look before you leap. The guy don chop clean mouth and nothing will ever change that fact.