kulyie: i am giving an example of a confident woman yet humble.dont be mistaken,it is very possible for a woman to be sucessful yet confident and at the same time humble,i was replying the earlier poste1 who asked me whether i have gone to her house before and i said i have only gone for her wedding anniversary so for her to do that,i know she has the virtues of what i call a REAL SUCCESSFUL woman,i dont know why you guys thinks its impossible for a woman to be successful,confident yet humble

kenex4ever: .

U r so funny, makes me wanna keep laughing

van bonattel:

You summarized the whole marriage by attending just one anniversary and maybe believing all the lies they tell to save face? They may have a big fight at night after you visitors have left.

pleep: Then the 'confident' ladies should go for the shy men.... that way the equation would balance.

However, yall would rather get with confident men and complain. Confident men generally want submissive women...thats not our fault. You have a million shy men who are dying for some play, why dont u get with them?

There is a solution to every problem if you would just stop complaining and take it

Angel_7:
Yes there is, but ur analysis may nt wrk because its the shy man dat will have to woo the confident woman and nt d other way round. Our confidence get levels.

pleep: When people talk about confident women (and men) its usually a euphamism for something else, and that is an overbearing personality.

The vast majority of people have a natural level of self-confidence, its nothing to brag about. I'm sure 90% of the posters here would describe themselves as confident. The people that overly identify with their confidence are better off with more docile partners. Its a character trait that does not clash well, w/e yall want to say.

If you are an overbearing woman and you are "intimidating guys," do the logical thing and date shy men. Don't just sit around complaining when the solution is all around you

AjanleKoko: I'm not so sure Nigerian men like confident women, to be honest

komek:
Nigerian men do, just that we don't have confident women in Nigeria. What we have are bunch of disrepectful women who are after women empowerment in order to take over from the men. Which I deduce from the OP as not being the defination of confidence

tintingz: A ''shy'' and confident woman hmmm...i love em

pleep: Exactly, if i were to name the top most confident women on this forum it would be; African1 (i miss you ), oguagua88 and Nayah

female confidence is usually very subtle and every decent man can appreciate it.

♥Royal♥Charm♥:



....Why?

komek:
Nigerian men do, just that we don't have confident women in Nigeria. What we have are bunch of disrepectful women who are after women empowerment in order to take over from the men. Which I deduce from the OP as not being the defination of confidence

komek:
Nigerian men do, just that we don't have confident women in Nigeria. What we have are bunch of disrepectful women who are after women empowerment in order to take over from the men. Which I deduce from the OP as not being the defination of confidence

kulyie: lol nigerians and bad belle spirit chai why are you always unhappy whenever you see a happy family and by the way of couse in every family they have their ups and downs and when they fight,thats perfectly normal,couples have disagreemement and they settle it so is it possible for a spouse to be having internal issues with each other yet do wedding anniversary,haba,you to think am na.if a husband and wife is always at loggerheads with each other and never at peace,will they have time and emotional bond to do wedding anniversary

van bonattel:

Fights and disagreements perfectly normal in a marriage? would you wish to be in constant fight with your spouse? YES or NO?

van bonattel:

Fights and disagreements perfectly normal in a marriage? would you wish to be in constant fight with your spouse? YES or NO?

Matthew briggs: I respect the choices of others especially those that are afraid or detest confident women.
But I would like us not to confuse confidence for stubbornness or pride. once again I respect your taste and choices.

Personally I love women with a fine blend of confidence & humility. A woman that believes in herself, her ideas , convictions and dreams, she's hardly swayed by public opinions. A woman that is very comfortable in her own skin. She is goal driven and takes initiative.

Confident women are smart. They engage your mind, They bring ideas to the table, They add value to a relationship instead of taking it, they make you sit up as a man. They are have strong character and will.

She will be a Michelle to your Obama, she can hardly fall your hand any place but instead take you higher.

When a confident woman loves you, She truly does, Because in the first place she can do without you, but chooses not.

Blessed is the man that can Tame them. Moreover if you are not a very confident, intelligent and of strong character you can't handle or tame them.

Three core things that I find attractive in a woman is Confidence, intelligence and sex-appeal with her being God fearing by default.

NB:- The sad thing is that majority of people (men and women) mistake proud, stubborn and assertive women as confident women which should not be so.
#Mathew Briggs.

pleep: See thats the issue... you 'confident' ladies are not actually confident you are just overbearing.

If you were really "confident" you would not have a problem asking a submissive man out. We confident men ask girls out all the time. The main thing that will prevent a person from making the first move is fear, not 'levels'. You are scared of looking bad.

Believe me a real assertive/confident woman is not sitting around at a bar waiting for some dude to buy her a drink.

k2039: [size=13pt] I agree with you in all totality.
I was just about to right the same about bolded.
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Angel_7:

In d first place, "submisiveness" is meant for a women not men. I personally get irritate by a man dat can't stand for who he is. I think u guys r misinterpreting dis confident thing a bit. No matter how confident a woman if it's not to the advantage of a man(patner) den its zero. That a woman is confident does nt mean she lost her pride. It our pride for man to go all the way for us, dats the fun. My understanding of a confident woman is a virtuous woman. Yes, a confident woman can walk into a bar have fun and pay bills. What I'm against is dat some men take undue advantage of women with this quality.