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addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

Bros, my wife dey worry me Wella but she doesn't joke with our sex life. Meanwhile,I still get side chick. Make yourself happy, go get a sidechick. Life is too short and happiness is free!

eglobalcafe:
Good evening guys, please I need some advice, my wife had pcos then that she couldn't get pregnant and now it's almost our 4th year in the marriage, after doing 2 ivf I told myself not to do it again because the money was not there and adoption is not my thing. So I was worried because am not the kind of man that like polygamy.

Now after we stop the ivf my wife started taking supliments and now she's pregnant after 7 months of taking the supliment and now because of my wife condition I decided to have a side chic who I can marry for the sake of children because it's not easy after 6 years between me and my wife and we are 4 years in marriage, so now as am talking to you my wife and my girl friend are both pregnant same month and from the scan results my wife might likely give birth to twins because two sack was found in her.

AND now I love both of them so much and I don't know what to do now. My girl friend is two weeks pregnant. Am not a bad person but I feel bad hurting my wife but the condition is not easy for both of us that is why I went out for another woman. Does it make any sense to abort my girlfriend pregnancy. Because even if I want to keep both of them it won't be easy for me to have two women pregnant for me at the same time. I wish it's different time I would have allow my girlfriend keep the pregnancy and my girlfriend really loves me ans she said she needs the pregnancy too.

Atleast am doing financially okay because I can feed both if them but how do I handle this kind of situation.

I have been having sleepless night because my wife can nit give me children at that time and now the blessings are here please advise me.

It's won't be easy to keep two women and it's not my thing but what do I know. Guys help me no insult please, if you ask me why can't I be patient the I will say am my mum is old and am the one taking care of my mum. And am 35, years now but if I don't what I did when I grow old who will take care if me? This are the quei asked myself daily before going ahead to impregnated my girl friend. Please advise me

Should my girlfriend abort the pregnancy?

Bros, pls don't try the abortion option. Pray for directives from God, Na temptation but you'd conquer!

OloYeOfEgbE:
Calabar doings...

Always different....hahahahahahaha..I need me some calabar babe

You're just dumb; else you should have known the difference between Akwa Ibom and Cross River! Calabar doings, kee you there!

GanagiBitrus:
Moral of the story: Never Mix Business With Pleasure.

Savage!

TemplarLandry:
An idol worshipping an idol.

Another damaged brain!

TemplarLandry:
Last time I checked, Nigeria was still a sovereign state. Someone should tell this European bloc to stop pokenosing into our internal affairs. You want to criticize us, do it constructively. Anything African is never good enough in their eyes.

Same you would would be singing that Nigeria is the giant of Africa, giant to who?? You're just madt!

Mokole2023:
Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?

I for like make we talk. I have something similar to this but not as worse.

Printerscanner:
And this one na journalist, abi jaundice

Na your father, him be. Odé!

Nation1:
Hello people,

Am married for 6 years with two kids. Some months ago, my wife started denying sex so much that we hardly have 2 times in a month. Because of this, I no longer disturb her this days cos it's better to let her be than to be rejected since most times I expected her to say no or give an excuse or the other which am always about 90 percent right about.

This days, I don't feel attracted to her sexually anymore. I have never cheated on her but this days, the thought of doing so is gradually creeping in. Have tried talking to her about this but no change. I don't want to start what extra marital affair but am tempted to.

I need your advise guys.

The choice is yours, to make. But if you'd take my advice, get a lady for yourself and for your sanity.

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

I bet, you're still a kid.

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This life sef.

Shehu Sani the unfuntunate one time Senator insulting a former Head of State, Minister for Petroleum, two terms President of being unlucky


How do you feel after writing this thrash?

Hatrick01:
Fanless Club smh

Is it because we're not as lousy as you guys? I've been a fan since 2002!

Iamgrey5:
Lai Is suppose to take money meant for ministry of information to finance primary schools in his constituency.

I mean by passing the state and local government with original jurisdiction over the projects.

When I see posts and sense of reasoning, of this nature, I'm just left with no option than to give up on the future of this country!

Mr, how do you justify the fact that a whopping N440M, was stupidly put into another country's coffers for the betterment of her people? You're just too dumb for my liking!

I didn't read from @righteousness!

Patrioticman007:
They should allow the woman to wail for her loss in peace. She fought a great battle & lost to an incumbent PDP governor, with Atiku the Cameroonian as the political god father of Adamawa state.

Childish and thoughtless post.

Dada4me:
I was about sleeping at about 10.30pm when I heard my layers struggling. I went to check with stick in my hand only to see this Snake rush down from the cage. I was afraid initially seeing the size but I went closer when I saw that it was not as fast as I thought, I hit it thrice within a second and the thing started struggling.

Some say it's called Sebe in Yoruba language. What's this called in English please?

It's in my pot already and some doing my body good.

Even when you no know the name of the snake, you still prepare am for chop! Tweh!

LeonSaab:
oga how far? How market 😁

Market is fine my brother. Only that a thief, found his way through crook and bloodletting, to Aso Rock, and is asking us all, to go to court!

1. She claims to be a church girl; but she is not!
2. Her parent knows you, but look the other way when the guy comes to Bleep her!
3. She gets jealous for crime she commits more than you!
4. You're aware of all these, you're loosing weight, you're sick, you're mentally unstable! But you still LOVE her!
My brother,I don't know the advice I'm to give to you o! She is not worth it! Show her this post and tell her I said she is not worth it! Do not be a simp!

Zonefree:

A girl and her wretched family are using you to play ludo and you're trying everything possible to forgive her

I love that you're losing weight and falling sick day by day. It's a good sign for others to learn not to be like you. You're a disgrace to humanity and a waste of space.

A bandit is valuable than you! Tueh!

Guy, that was too harsh na. I just feel sorry for the young man cos, the babe would do worst things if they finally marry.

GeneralPulal:
You Dey mind ham ..

He actually embezzled the money! Who has heard of Nigeria's digitization of her tv channels, again? But the money was released.

Throwback:
Oseni take his partisanship to a new low.

Did the acceptance speech come out of thin air?

Was it not premised on the declaration that she won, for which INEC later cancelled?

Or was the acceptance speech after the annulment of the declaration?

Oseni is obviously a dull one who only found a job as journalist without training?



I swear that Oseni just amplified his dull reasoning and his partisanship.

Hahahahahaha... The most useless and brainless post I've read, this month! I used to think our aboki brothers are the dullest but you've broken the record with this nonsense, you spewed here! Take heart, bro.

Fiscus105:
I don't blame you, if you have told to approach court as usual,you wouldn't have be bragging now.

Another failed and demented brain! I weep for Nigeria.

JASONjnr:
Fintiri should just shut up, he's one of the governors with no major project attached to his name......


He has no reason to return to the office.....


APC made a mistake to fill up a woman in their space. If it was a good contender, Fintiri would've been a goner.....

Who exactly is your father? I know you've never read nor heard anything about Fintiri.

micellgevity:
This Rufai to s something else. What will governors say the fg has done or has not done. This guy just has a journalistic opportunity. Anyway, not everybody on screen is intelligent.

e no go better for the person wey do you. But Oseni Rufai, is better than your entire generation, put together

Bluesea76:
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Scamming no dey tire una?

Country that works. Not shitholes!

Yamiriflathead:

Although disappointing
Tinubu tried to hold Lagos with the figures he pulled so far. Lagos is the Capital of Southern Nigeria, so what were you expecting?
This was a fight between ibos+SS+woke yorubas against Tinubu supporters in Lagos who are mainly yorubas and maybe Hausas in Lagos.

I hope Tinubu and yorubas have learnt a bitter lesson from Lagos Elections not to befriend and feed a cub because it is homeless, hopeless, and dying. It will grow up and eat u up someday.

I'm happy yorubas can now sit down and ask qtns as to how they got everything wrong and redress it with BAT as President.

The take home from this defeat is..

Yorubas need to stop drafting non yorubas into the civil service and stop giving them prominent appointments. There are always technocrats who can always fit into any political office from the SW

Yorubas need to stop selling their lands to non yorubas in Lagos and SW

Yorubas need to stop giving out local government of origins to non yorubas in Lagos

Yorubas need to stop allowing non-yorubas contest for Elections in Lagos or SW

Yorubas need limit the numbers of voters registration of non yorubas going on in Lagos, they care so much about Lagos and don't care if their homes rot, Henceforth let them go home and vote. They can't come and dictate to you on how to govern urselves after creating an enabling environment for them to thrive.

Contain them politically, Period!

Congratulations to the incoming President of Nigeria BAT the ASIWAJU of Lagos for winning the most Free and fair Elections since our Nascent Democracy nothwitstanding

Ethnic bigotted goooat. You are so pained and Las las, you go hug transformer.

[quote author= post=121135793]JAGABAN.

GOD BLESS JAGABAN

The Man for the job.

JAGABAN , Our incoming President.

JAGABAN OF AFRICA.

From Leadership and Experience perspective,
He stands head and shoulders above the rest

Dogara, JAGABAN no be your mate o
Lol 😀, u sef know Dogora...[/quote]Behold, the drug lord!

UncommonLogic:
Idiotic loaer. After Sunday no one will even interview your dumb ass anymore.

E pain you ehn!

LeonSaab:
and when he wins will your people and generation yet unborn finally settle and learn how politics is to be played?

Only in your dreams!

madridguy:
Many of them know what is at stake. Jagaban soldiers need him to be in that position than how Tinubu want to be there.

APC is a family, they worked hard to build the team so they are ready to fight to finish than to see people ( Buhari relatives/friends ) that didn't know how the party was formed to scatter the party.

You are so shameless and stewpid. So all of a sudden, your darling Buhari, has become an enemy? Tinubu's defeat would be a kind that generations yet unborn, would study as a course!

brightebe:
How old are you?

You are sounding premature. Are you not seeing and hearing the situation all over the place? People are hungry, banks are being attacked, and businesses are bleeding. Please, wake up, and don't be childish, the new/old naira notes policy is becoming a rising agitation similar to ENDSAS.

If we don't stop this thing, democracy might elude us once again.

Forget about my age. Those protesting are being bankrolled by same persons that wanted them, dead; during #endsars! This would certainly normalize after February 25th!