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She's not lying. Some men are like that.

They even give more, 500k is just for warm up


She's lucky.

Confusedgirl869:
Thanks Vic, our Nigerian chinese. I don receive sense this night.

Thank God.

And please cut off from him. He doesn't deserve you. There are good men out there who desires marriage and family.. Forget what guys here on nairaland talk about not getting married and debasing women. Most of them are broke and jobless with no hope in sight.
So they pour their frustrations talking trash about women.

Your unborn kids will love, adore And always pray for you, if you can give them a home with a complete family circuit.
You are still young. I'm in my 30s and no way will I settle for less and become baby mama! God forbid.

Dont dull for any man.. Pls.

May God see you through your life decisions successfully in Jesus name Amen.



Lol @ the Nigerian Chinese .

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

My dear, use your brains


Don't end like other baby mama's with different kids from different dads.

With all the true life stories u hear around u. Increasing number of ladies in their 20s with kids Upandan without father or husband figure in their lives and kids lifes, do u still want to open. Your eyes wide and fall into that category?

Sho fe gbo!


Any child born without the parents married is labelled as ILLEGITIMATE CHILD!


is that what u want for. Your kids?

Your parents didn't get married, you remember what u faced growing up. So
Why do this sacrilege to your unborn kids.

Jeez!

LINTUNE:
just as i thought..madam..hustle and make ur own money, that should be ur ultimate goal, dont rely on any rich guy to change ur life, cos no matter how u see it, his money is his money...change ur entitlement mentality, cos being broke is a very terrible thing for both gender, its not just a terrible thing for men alone ok...

Check my profile on Google and facebook. Then ask yourself if I'm broke? Or better still check my profile page and adverts I made about my fashion school and ask yourself is this lady broke?

Do u think I'm broke like you? Lol

Better go and make money before saying anything on my mentions.

LINTUNE:
answer the previous person question na..since u have been dating rich guys , why haven't any of them propose to u yet, are u not desirable for rich guys?, or they u are not simply in their class?..how many of those rich guys uve dated so far has bought u a car or a house?..please i need ur answer asap, i want to check something..lol

Keep checking .

Love and respect.

eni4real:
Who will take care of the bride price and the other amazing liste?

Who will pay for the wedding??

Who will pay the House rent(Especially if it is in Lagos)??

Women can't handle all that!!

The guys will still get confused Las Las!!

That's true sha

philip0906:
Werey, she say na "willing bride"! You get option before?

You have "nothing" to offer the rich bachelor, don't you think? I mean, this rich bachelor has options and a barage of young beautiful women to choose from the litter, why would he go for your old a55??

Dey deceive yourself

Na you be babanla werey

Ekpa!

Asin win werey!

Amotolongbo:
Dear OP,

You aren’t wrong with your decision staying alone.
There is nothing wrong with staying alone, though it makes you vulnerable as a young lady.

It is actually the situation of things that makes it seem bad for a lady of your age deciding to stay alone. In saner clime, though there aren’t saner clime but saner people, at age 18, you should have left home to be on your own.

If you are happy staying alone, continue living alone. You can as well look for a partner to live with you to share the burden of house rent and relieve your loneliness.

My advice to you is that, never tell any man you don’t trust so much that you live alone, men actually love preying on young girls living alone due to their vulnerability

Men love preying on any woman who says she lives alone.

Op live alone, there is nothing wrong with it.

Than to be a rape victim to your friends husbands and extended families. Or househelps to people u live with.

Just live alone and make yourself happy.

Then be disciplined.

philip0906:
You've been dealing with elusive rich and accomplished guys for years, when will you finally get hitched by one? Or don't they find you desirable to hitch you?

I'm not eager to get married, that's y.

Abi will they marry themselves? Wont the rich guy need a Willing bride?

I'm not ready for marriage or to get hitched. Im happy Dating one of the richest bachelor's in south south region

eni4real:
Sound like a movie
Single ladies are not that rich

Some are desperate enough to go get loan.

While majority ignores such guys and just use them as sex tools.

But the amazing thing guys thinking such and feeling no shame saying it.

No sense of shame.
Anyways that's their problem. I wish them best of luck.

Las las na divorce dey end am.

eni4real:
Where do you see young men looking for ladies who will pay their 'groom price'? Are you for real??

Ha! They are increasing in numbers. The broke and hustling guys.

They are all over.
So nauseating.

They always catch magas on ladies who are desperate for marriage, wey their ears no dEy here I wan marry u. And you know I love you. Lol

That's why I only deal with the rich and accomplished guys.
I can't shout!

Honestly parents and human beings matter Taya me.

I'm really tired about people and their Brains.


Sighs God end this world already abeg.

The height of foolishness and wickedness is getting too much.

The whole system is so messed up!

Young men looking for women that will feed, cloth,give them allowance and marry them , while their job is to sex all day and night.
Women loosing their senses over men
Parents giving birth to kids they can't even be around to train and protects
Students having sex as if their lives depends on it, instead of thinking : how can I be useful to mankind and be prosperous in life at least.

Sighs the list continues. Honestly Nigerians mindsets Taya me.

It's clear David won't marry her..
She's now after one in her twenties. No degree, no business, no job

What a foolish way of living her life. She loved a guy and completely forgot she herself exist and she's a life thats meant to nurture and grow alongside her man.

Welcome to the reigning trends : Baby mama.
Her parents failed her
She herself also failed herself.
What a mess!



She should have taken a cue off Davido elder brother's wife,a calabar gurl who insisted on marriage before dropping babies.

Don't get lost dating a guy , it's not worth it on the long run. Save some prestige and sense for yourself and unborn children.

macho44:
Sure thing Baby!!!! Imma buzz u on WhatsApp

Ok dear

macho44:
Fine Gal, Long Time, No CHAT , Abeg share the LOVE reach my side oooo

Wow!

Where have u been?

I lost my phone. But bought a new one during Lockdown. I misplaced most of my contacts.

Biko send me a message on Whatsapp.

Do u still have my number?

oshaosha2014:
At age 45 she won’t be of any value again.

Don't be too fast to judge.

God is so mysterious in His ways.

She may become born again at that 45! Seek for forgiveness and pray for a husband.
And at the other hand, there maybe a widower who might have lost his whole family in a fire accident years back and viola their paths cross and the lonely widower may find love and care in her arms then next thing is marriage
or she meets a divorcee Or single dad with a kid whose searching for a companion and he could be in his 50s. He may see her , like her matured look and wish she marries him.

Or she may meet a die hard bachelor who vows never to marry but as the bachelor clocks 48? He thinking, all I need is someone with compatible ideas and sexual gratification to spend his life with. And he knows majority of women Wil only take him serious if hes ready for marriage. So he throws in the trowel and sighs then make up his mind. I Wil. Only Marry a lady who Wil be like my best friend and Viola their paths cross and he's thinking of settling down asap.

There are many instances, that can make a man marry an older woman of 45,50 even 60 years.

Look at simi's mom she got married again in her 60s or 50s.

This life ehn? Nothing is impossible. No woman is useless likewise no man is too. Until they meet the right partners destined for them. They Wil say to their companions :where have u been all my life.

Things happen.

Op you are not serious.

All these grammar on top , two babes are waiting to spend the night with you on your birthday.

Rada Rada! Nonsense!

Smhhh!



Inbetween nairalnders thats a refurbished storyline from someone last year. He simply used grammar to confuse y'all .

And the bottom line is meant to be, how can I play these two ladies on my birthday, cos I need Only one on that day.

Smhhh.

...

*yawns*


It's expected.

It's well.

adeboi1:
So how have you been managing this covid 19 period.

Have been coping well. I had to watch my weight o.

But Bf has been very helpful.


How about u? How are u coping?

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Candyness:
Boo fix your face. Fix your teeth. Fix your hair.
Boo i can take your man and I don't like ya

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adeboi1:
Hello dear it's been a while.

Hi dear


Yes o! A very long while.

How are u doing

Zita55:
Na sex be this one problem

Hahahahahahahah

Dont mind her.. Let her keep fucv.. King and forget there are bills to be paid in the real-world.

I can bet the guy doesn't have a job, or a website developer.

Who for Godsakes use all his time fucv... King all day? And he hopes to be rich one day abi?

Smhhhhh.

Jobless guys and sex! Smhhhh

Op keep servicing him o. Cos thats what u came to this life to do.

*picks teeth and watches with one corner eye*

lefulefu:
politicians are irresitible to date nau .they have money and power.tell me wich woman dont want to marry a man who has money and power irrigardless if his profession is dangerious.

Me o!

I have turned down some politicians.. I'm. Not ready to die a dreadful death yet. No matter the money.

My peace of mind is key and my number one priority.

No. Money on earth can buy my life. God forbid! I date or marry a politician.

I'm perfectly fine dating big boiz in the corporate world. Total peace #

lefulefu:
u cant blame the husband nau .can two or three wives live under the same roof?
thats calling for trouble
anyway women involved in polygamous marriages and living far away from their husbands are trying oo
i can wonder how lonely some can get
no wonder many ladies in polygamous marriages hire toyboys to service them
as for the murder of the lady i am very sure they did it to get at the husband since election time don almost near in benin

You are right.
Women marrying married men ,staying away from his home are really trying. And the ones who force their way into his home beforce by destroying his home, are also trying as well. They all get mind and are basically ready for anything. They've already signed their death warrant.

The worst decision a woman will blindly take is marrying a man in politics.
Death is inevitable and waiting patiently by the corner. Most times their death is gruesome.

When I see terrible things happening these days, I just stay calm especially when it's about man matter. This life ehn? It's nothing.

Na just God Dey save us.
Assuming she had remained single and kept away from men, serve God in truth and spirit. Wont she be alive today? Will anyone even think of raping her to death?

Life

Op wants to explore her sexual fantasies.

It's OK. It's not a crime but remember to breakup with your bf, before going on sexual spree with this new guy.

It's bound to happen anyways. If you don't cut yourself loose and explore now but explore with sense and protection, so u don't recieve any deadly disease or unwanted pregnancy.

But please breakup from your bf, let him date someone meant for him.

Let the sexual fetishes and exploration begins.

By the time u get to 45years, your raging hormones should be calm by then and ready to have a stable lovelife and possibly marriage.

Youth and sex! Na wa!