This guy and whomever is supporting him are utterly selfish and not ready to get married. What nonsense.

You are sharing your core duties as a provider to a woman who's nature is to nuture and support. A duty that made you worthy to be called a husband.
You are indirectly " simpinizing" your sorry ass with this godforsaken sharing of your main responsibility as a provider. When she rose up to challenge it now and ask you " who's the man'" you will come crying to nairaland

All I see here, is you covering your side of the responsibility without recuse to hers.
I ain't see where you budgeted how much the cooks, cleaners, lesson teachers, nannies, home nurses etc will costs even surrogate mothers that will bear the damn kids ...since you guys are making plans.



Anyway, humans are selfish.. everyone trying so damn hard to outwit the other.
I'd be surprised if she agreed to stay back then she must have an ulterior motive

Babsojimjim:



That's not the case, brother. What transpired was that while they were dating before marriage, she found out that the man had a child in previous relationship which was later known by family members before the wedding, the man broke up because the former lady took in for another guy.

Also in the cause of this current relationship before marriage there had been one or two abortions. These were effectively handled before marriage and she accepted the marriage, only to be bringing up this issues at the slightest misunderstanding using it to blackmail my friend and using it as his weak points. The so called wife was not even married as a virgin. These are the issues which both families resolved before the marriage wedding so why should it be brought up after been resolved.

I think I understand where she is coming from.

I bet she was not given enough time to process the whole thing before marriage and it has been coming up now and again. Building up resentment.

Only one daughter of 6 years in how many years of marriage.?
Infertility issues noted. The fingers are being pointed to Oga as the cause of the infertility perhaps.
She may want to have more kids. So with the husband and his "2" abortions, if that's truth


Guess there is more to this ya story.

Munzy14:
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Nigerian couples no dey reason vacations at all...I mean mention that to them, what you will hear is in this buhari time?

I wonder if it was yaradua's era or the weak Tinubu time ahead..

There are affordable and serene places couples can go and spend days together...just be free a bit in their own world..Give the body and brain a treat.

Anyway, i forgot it is only for couples who see themselves first, before the kids...And not like the ones who claim the kid is theirs, leaving me to wonder if the other partner donated sperm or eggs..

Ndi woke

Quite sad and we will keep loosing marriages.

Everybody has a breaking point and if care is not taken, boom....the marriage goes and spectators applauds maniacally as always

Munzy14:

Hmmm!!! My brother lets not go there, mothers have their special places in the heart of every member of the family including her hubby..

As long their is life, mothers enjoy more...I mean we shouldn't argue this..

It enjoyment embedded in the fruit of their labour in a marriage that worked.

Minus our woke generation of sisters who lie to themselves online, Every correct decent and intelligent woman knows she has more to gain as a natural binder in the marital institution.

This is not about arguments.

"Enjoying in life" is different from "enjoying in marriages".

Your perspective is saying that "women" enjoys most in marriage and I said no, generally women enjoys most in life not in marriage.

Your distinction should be "mothers enjoys at the later stage of their life due to their children". Which is predominantly accepted.

As an academic, it is good to make this distinction for clarity.

The only thing the OP needed from the write-up was a nice vacation. An opportunity to be away from the bustling to relax and unwind for at least 6 weeks.
She never had any for 13 years. It would have changed a lot of things but being Africans, we like sufferhead and it has caused both you and your husband a relatively stable marriage.

Other women should take heed, when it becomes overwhelming instead of bickering and tantrum, request for a vacation. Visit your families without the kids. Go somewhere nice and sightsee.

Munzy14:

Hmmmmm...Smh

But most of us have comfortably employed mothers who still took care of the kids even more than 5kids and bigger home.

Something is totally wrong with this our generation of mothers and fathers...Smh..My mother created time to teach her kids then, same with my Dad.

How do you complain a mother spent 2hrs teaching her own kid, isn't that something she will enjoy later in life? . A little secret is, women enjoy most in marriage...The early sacrifice and stress on them, pay off later in life for them.

We all must go back to our parents and ask them how they did it..If not divorce cases will be on the high.

Marriage is a place of lifetime sacrifice..Anyone who isn't willing, should stay away from marriage.

You have valid points sir, except the " women enjoy most in marriage". In life maybe ..in marriages, naaaa....there is no statistical data to back it up.
We only see the enjoyments from our own perspectives.

Exceed15:



Hmm.. my sister. I had an issue with my wife that left us separated for 7 months. Thank God we came back together and I tell you that we are enjoying the best of time ever since. Now this is my point: My wife said ,she now realized that the advice her twin sister & friends were giving her are what they cannot apply in their marriages. Thank God she came back by herself with my son and I received her with the whole of my heart.. Today we are doing well together

The reason why I don't give anyone advise. I don't want to be referenced as a badguy when the going gets good again.

Solidkay:
It's the husband's death that got me,
Even after his death, the wife lived more yrs and even remarried and had children.
Moral of the story,
No kill yourself because of any woman, if you die, nah you lose.

;Dthis your moral of story sef.

He didn't kill himself for her, boss. He died of heart attack out of shock

The writer can write walahi

zanebaddo:
Niger delta avengers biko, Mbok, ejoo, chineke!!! !!! I'm currently in the north o! Oh my goodness! This better be a joke.. I even de bank now de try deposit money for my oga... Abi make I carry am run?

Buhari don run comot early this morning. Make your plans.

Sorry for your loss bro.

Sentiments aside...
This is defamation and it is better to err on the side of caution when addressing sensitive issues like this.
A nurse is saddled with the responsible to care for the sick and the healthy, deviating from that is unprofessional. Do you bother to get the details of the said nurse to ensure who you are dealing with ..whether a quack aka auxiliary or a qualified nurse who knows what close monitoring means. A diagnosis that includes seizures may explain the falling off from the bed and her breathing didn't change because she fell rather it changed because of the seizures she was having and its associated complications.
She was admitted not less than 12 hours before she gave up, what investigations were carried out and was she a known hypertensive patient?
[b][/b]I ask after nurse Tabhi, she came, I asked her what happened, she said she just left her now IMAGINE, I felt like strangled her,i asked her what's she doing on the floor, why is she Unclad,why,why why, who removed her clothes, she said she's not the one
I won't hold brief for this nurse but who knows whether she may be the only nurse on duty covering the shift. You saw her at 2.30pm and saw her again at 11.15 pm after afternoon shift has ended, what sort of short staffed personnel are they running at that hospital. Afternoon duty closes by 8pm, why is she still there if they are not short staffed?
She was employed by the hospital to take care of all their admitted patients irrespective of how many they are and so, she is not exclusively for your wife. So I suggest you sue the hospital management for running a shortstaffed clinics so that both the doctor and the nurse will tell their own side of the story instead of this social media defamation.

Rip Adeola.

Sorry for your loss bro.

Sentiments aside...
This is defamation and it is better to err on the side of caution when addressing sensitive issues like this.
A nurse is saddled with the responsible to care for the sick and the healthy, deviating from that is unprofessional. Do you bother to get the details of the said nurse to ensure who you are dealing with ..whether a quack aka auxiliary or a qualified nurse who knows what close monitoring means. A diagnosis that includes seizures may explain the falling off from the bed and her breathing didn't change because she fell rather it changed because of the seizures she was having and its associated complications.
She was admitted not less than 12 hours before she gave up, what investigations were carried out and was she a known hypertensive patient?
[b][/b]I ask after nurse Tabhi, she came, I asked her what happened, she said she just left her now IMAGINE, I felt like strangled her,i asked her what's she doing on the floor, why is she Unclad,why,why why, who removed her clothes, she said she's not the one
I won't hold brief for this nurse but who knows whether she may be the only nurse on duty covering the shift. You saw her at 2.30pm and saw her again at 11.15 pm after afternoon shift has ended, what sort of short staffed personnel are they running at that hospital. Afternoon duty closes by 8pm, why is she still there if they are not short staffed?
She was employed by the hospital to take care of all their admitted patients irrespective of how many they are and so, she is not exclusively for your wife. So I suggest you sue the hospital management for running a shortstaffed clinics so that both the doctor and the nurse will tell their own side of the story instead of this social media defamation.

Rip Adeola.

alakaloko:
B.Sc Ed: Political Science Education 2:1 EKSU

M.Ed: Educational Administration and Planning (NOUN)

Phd: Educational Planning EKSU (Prospective)

Sir, I have been trying to contact any alumni of NOUN to ascertain how acceptable NOUN certificate is by other universities for higher degrees.

Anyone with Info's on universities that accepts NOUN certificate should please mention me. Thanks.

Emeraldaycare:


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1. Attend to the non-emergency medical needs of children on a daily basis.

2. Responsible for teaching daycare staff proper hygiene and safety procedures such as hand washing, diaper disposal and sanitation.

3. Responsible for administering medication to children who need it, and for closely monitoring children with allergies.

4. Help to prevent the spread of infectious diseases and encouraging cleanliness in the Daycare Centre etc.

Trust this answers your questions

Daycare or school Nurse will be palatable to the ear for interested applicants. One may think you are looking for some maids, or over bloated nanny or something which may invariably deter nurses from applying.

I will go to supermarket , shoprite or malls but haggling the prices of foodstuffs with market women in an open markets gives me headaches. I lose my bargaining power whenever I am confronted by those market cougars and I end up being a " how much, bring it and take the money kinda guy". I try to save the little we have by letting the expert do her thing, I only go to dash them money when madam is indisposed.

Emeraldaycare:
Looking for a nurse in a start up Creche / Daycare Centre at Peter Odili Rd, Port Harcourt, Rivers State. If interested, please send your CV to emeralddaycare@gmail.com. Thanks.

You need a nurse to work in a day care centre As what exactly if I may ask Does it have a clinic, hospital, health facility, or medical centre attached to it so the Nurse can serve as their daycare nurse
Please, I hope it is not what I am thinking
I believe you are looking for nanny's or early education teachers or minders not professional nurses.

Derogatory No wonder some men dies before their time.
Having learnt from my big brother that your happiness depends solely on you, I do everything to satisfy and keep myself happy in my home. I don't have time to be miserable over common house chores...facking house chores that won't take you time to finish except you are a lazy grown ass m'fucker.
My elder brother was our mum and Dad while those parents of ours will be out there hustling. It made my brother a jack of all trade and master of all....he cooks, clean, wash etc which invariably made his wife nothing short of our incubator, and she had to buckle up as she felt worthless in the home.
A female cousin of mine no sabi cook or have flair for anythng that has to do with a home but she is a hustler, her husband started a business for and jejely withdraw to their home to take care of the kids and home. It is working out for them ...guy is happy, my cousin is happy.
The problems we face is the stereotypes and roles attached to the genders which we pull out when it suits us and neglects wen it work against us.
What's more unfair in this world than someone taking a greater role at home and is also being expected to contribute equal while another person does little at home and still contributes the other equal. No wonder we have less happy marriages in the world today because at any point in time someone is cheating or scamming someone else irrespective of who .

Judas2013:
God healed amputees in the bible tho. That's enough evidence

Guy is looking for evidence not based on your vague response.

[b][/b]Never seen anything like this before or is it a typo.

I think it's commendable.


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Women will always outnumber men because they are " smarter" abeg

..more men are drafted into the army to be killed off.
..more men are encouraged to do risky jobs or attempts risky behaviors to be killed off early. How many women can change a burst tyre, light bulb, start their generators, do some repair works on their homes. Women has been jobbing men for centuries and Isaiah's instead of facing it head on decides to dream about it and now even modern guys won't let person hear word.
..more men commits suicide successfully while women attempts to without succeeding by four times or so. Meaning if you and your girl decides to commit suicide the chances of you dying on the first try is high while your girl will attempts up to four times without succeeding. It is a proven fact in psychiatry.
..then when the guy managed to get the seven women at once , his life will be snuffed outta him by the bloodhounds while his fellow men cheers him on thinking he has won a lottery not knowing he is playing an endgame refereed by this women.
At the end, women will be playing both end either by being bisexual or outright lesbian and a poor fellow out there will be waiting for the fulfillment of Isaiah's prophecies.

Pennywise:


It seems to me that you have an incomplete intestinal obstruction caused by adhesions with spurious diarrhoea.

Before u start blaming the doctor, understand that a ruptured appendix is a serious medical condition that is invariably fatal unattended. Inevitably there will be infection of the entire lining of the abdomen doctors call peritonitis. Following an appendix rupture and surgery, the doctor will make a separate stab wound and leave a drain. Without this drain the diagnosis of a ruptured appendix is dubious.

Adhesions are like cobwebs which result from hardened secretions of infections arising from the rupture. It can also occur where there has been no rupture in situations where asceptic conditions are not met during and after surgery. With time these adhesions become very strong taking up loops of bowel and causing obstruction especially with certain food times initially. The reduced movement of fecal matter tend to increase bacterial load and liquefaction of feces leading to what is known as spurious (not true) diarrhoea.

In time an incomplete obstruction may become complete as these adhesions harden further requiring further surgical intervention.

Bros, you need to see a good doctor who understands these things well or your problem is just beginning. A complete laparotomy to correct this problem will cost u 3-4times what u paid for appendectomy.
And there is no guarantee that further adhesions will not form consequent upon this surgery.

Surgery is not always necessary when appendicitis is diagnosed. This is not 1980. There are useful drugs with excellent pharmacokinetics which when taken long enough can stop it, therefore it is not a reason to run away from your doctor until it ruptures.

Op, contact this guy, he seems to know what you're talking about.
He understands what is going on.

Sir, please point Op in the right direction.

The days of the jackals.

I was born in the days of Buhari,
when dollar was equal to 320naira
when investors were leaving in droves
when a litre of fuel sells at 200 or 400 depending on your location
when David Mark and Saraki were named on the panama paper.
when a bag of pure waters sells at 150
when ................I was told the list was endless.


I was at the mercy of my fellow Nigerians queuing for fuel and also Anthony bus stop food sellers.

lofty900:
I thought women have some kind of warning signs whenever they are going into labor. Why wait until the baby comes out by himself in public thereby causing huge embarrassment? I know women who carry their delivery bag to the hospital and give birth.

It may be a precipitate labour. A wan bang kinda labour. Slight waist pain and the woman may feel like shitting and the precious m'fucker will come stumbling out.
It is an abnormal labour though cos it might cause complications for both mother and baby.

kizyalex10:
The priority of a man in a marriage is to make sure that his family don't lack the basics.den he is free to do any other tin,having concubines inclusive.a woman's priority is to take care of the kids nd also satisfy. D husband.alone.both of them don't hav equal power.if a woman cheats on a man who is nt man enough to take care of his family.then d man is nt fit enough to shout for the lady.because he himself is lacking

Yeah, and where is that written?

Deadlytruth:


The SS people have no problem with one another. Over time they have come to see themselves as one and the same people not necessarily because they are the same tribe but because they share the same spirit of mutual love and respect, tolerance for one another, live and let live attitude, non-domineering spirit, etc. Whenever I as a SS person meets another SS person from a state different from mine we just begin to flow in mutual respect and understanding as if we knew each other before then. But when I meet SE Igbos it is never the same experience.
Americans are of different races but have over time come to accept one another due to shared value systems and political philosophy, hence an Irish American can speak for the rest of Americans despite differences of origin. Same with the SS now. An Urhobo, Ogoja, itshekiri, etc can speak for any other SS tribe. It is just like how the former Bendelites were of diverse ethnicities yet had the same attitude, same value systems, etc.

No, you can't speak for them. They can speak for themselves. The "SS" tribes has Igbos listed as part of them, so pray tell, how you left out Igbos in the geographical expression of "_Niger Delta and SS" as if they are nonexistent. Who are the Bendelites?? The old Bendel state comprises of the Igbo speaking area of Anioma.
Hell, what are we even discussing?? We've been at peace with both our eastern and western neighbours east of the Niger for long too. So why the beef.
Stop roping the other minorities in. The same advice you gave Igbos is what i am giving back...Focus on your tribe.

Deadlytruth:


Exactly my point! Agreed that one Nigeria is a huge fraud. But a Biafra with SS in it will be a huger fraud in which the SS tribes will be totally subdued and quietened. That is why if we can't have a separate SS country without Igbos in it, then we stick to one Nigeria. After all an Igbo man, Zik, invented the "One Nigeria" rubbish at a time it was clear to even the blind that Nigeria was not one and could never become one in 100 years to come.

Why attach yourself to other "SS" tribes, why not form your own country The same thing you are accusing the Igbo's of. Doesn't make sense.

Isn't funny how Niger delta, SS, SE etc are classified as tribes and ethnic groups.? Guys get an education and stop sounding like ignorant illiterates. Those are geographical expression while Igbo, Ijaw, Ibibio, isoko, Erik, Urhobo, Annang, etc are ethnic groups. So when Igbos secedes, they are pulling out with their kiths and kin in whatever geographical expression they are found in.
for other minorities that lumps Niger Delta as ethnic group I think its time to think home whether to from a nation for your tribe or keep on lumping yourself to an entity whose dissolution will be a child's play

Gebbson007:


sir she is 16 n Nt maltreated

And how old are your sister's children.? You may not see any maltreatment but for a sixteen years old to utter such then there is surely fire on the mountain.
Getting her out of the house without solving the underlying problems is a recipe for disaster. Call her and ask her with an open mind, without joining sides what's the problem. A 16 years old is still a child. Who is she to you, a relation or someone picked from the street.

Tonyclems:

do u understand English, jus first day 8000 persons registered so wot happens wen it get to d last day, dat means over 200,000 will register. datz to tell u unemployment is high. n u re here commenting anyhow

I didn't have time to read the thesis, I just glanced through, was surfing the net fast for other job openings.