MONITORING DETECTORS

Who are they?
Why do they pester you?
How do you avoid them?

These and many more will be answered with the conversation I had with an old friend on Facebook most recently.

Detector: Hello Viv, congratulations, I am so happy for you.

Me : I read her message and ignored the first day.

Detector: (two days later, she chatted again, making reference to my picture)

Detector : beautiful bride indeed, your husband must be a lucky man.

Me : I just read and ignored her for the second time

Detector continued) Viv, talk to me, is he igbo, is he a Catholic, babe he must be loaded for you to accept him.

Me : At this point, I almost replied to her but again I chose to ignore her antics.

One week later, I posted a picture of my boo and I to appreciate all who came and supported us.

Boom, madam detector surfaced as usual and this time I was so ready to give it to her.

Detector : Vivian, this one you are flaunting your hubby pictures like this stop intimidating us, we know he's fine.

Me : madam , "before nko'' if I don't, na you wan flunt am for me"

Detector : haba Vivian na compliments na she said

Me: sebi you get your own, you either hide him under bed or you flunt him or better still given another person the opportunity to help you appreciate him

Detector : mtchewww Vivian, what kind of insult is this?

Me : you should have thought about it before you started asking me baseless questions.

Me : When was the last time you spoke to me, I called you,yet you ignored my calls and never returned calls, I left you several messages at various occasions, you read my messages and never replied.

Me: I enquired if something was wrong and you never said a word, I took the pain to come visiting and was told you were not home, even when I heard your voice.

Me: now it's my season and you want to be relevant, in a space of seconds you want to know about all that has happened to me and you call yourself my friend.

Me: you go ahead and comment on other people's posts, but choose to ignore mine, pretending like you never saw them and yet you want me to applaud your detecting spirit over my pictures.

Detector : is that enough to reply to me in that manner?

Me: yes, since posting my hubby picture is intimidating you, I advised you to either hide your hubby under the bed or use various channels to showcase him.

Mind you, this is a friend who told me to my face that I don't have the right to post anything about marriage since I wasn't married then and I asked her about priests who aren't married yet they educate us about the principles in marriage.

Detector : started calling me on phone, I again rejected the call, she kept calling and got tired, she sent me a text, I didn't open it, I went ahead and deleted her text and then left her a message on Facebook before I finally blocked the nonsense she wanted to display.

It is rather too funny, how most people play god in our lives just because we gave them the room to turn us around.

Recall the questions I started with, I have the answers now.

Who are they? They are close ally who feel they have access to you at any time and can control your life.

Why do they pester you? They paster because they feel they can get you to do anything for them, they feel you are indebted to them.

How do you avoid them? You can avoid them by creating the lines straight, deleting or blocking them for your own sanity.

It isn't pride or isolation, it is called self worth, that is being able to know what you want, what works for you and how to go about the choices and decisions you make for your own sanity.

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WHY WE MARRY?

If we take a census and ask young people especially why we marry, I am certain that we would get different types of reasons for why we marry, but ordinarily it should be fit for a common goal.

Without any debate there are 3 major reasons why we get married and in this summary you can choose to add your reasons where they fall to, below are the highlights.

PURPOSE
PRO-CREATION
PLEASURE /PAIN

Again let's align the above with percentage and explain why its so.

PURPOSE is 60 percent, PRO-CREATION IS 30 percent, WHILE PLEASURE is 10 percent.

PURPOSE
It's so sad to know that many who get married don't know why they are getting married, so many feels that it's all about the fun and pleasure, more so society expects us to marry when we are of age and finally to have a partner at our old age and children who will take care of us then.

We marry to fulfil purpose, which is for compatibility, to help each other fulfil their destinies and more so to increase and multiply.

PRO CREATION

We are expected to increase, multiply and dominate the earth, that's part of why we marry, i so wonder about those who engage in same sex marriage what their thoughts are on marriage, it's a big blow on the part of humanity as God laughed at them and sadly they will in turn get the judgement of God.

PLEASURE/PAIN

Apart from the joys and gains we enjoy in marriage, its also comes with its pains too, every marriage yuu encounter has its own wars too, many might never come to limelight to showcase them but truly every sincere couple is going through or has gone through series of pains that you never know of.

In conclusion PURPOSE, PROCREATION AND PLEASURE/PAIN are all important if given their special priorities. Don't marry only for sex, don't marry only for kids but marry for the fulfillment of your purpose and all the kids and sex will be added to your marriage

Its expected that before you say the final words *I do'' take our time alone and meditate about why you really want to marry, more so you can ask your spouse too and you both can enquire from each other why you want to marry him or her.

I suppose when a thing is defined and the purpose known, it gives better insight to what you are scared of or in doubt about, it also helps you talk about it, find solutions to it and become better in that aspect.

The institution of marriage is so special and holy that it shouldn't be soiled, it's the bedrock of everyone family and which in turn to the society at large, therefore its best we give it full attention and be solution providers to help create a better society for ourselves and the next generation but the decisions we make today.

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INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY

To all the correct, sensible, independent, strong, courageous, gorgeous generous, loving, caring, decent women, you are cherished

Dear woman,

Live for the now, hope for a better future, remain beautiful and admit all challenges of life.

Know that you are a diamond in the sun ,we can't thank you enough for the times and times you stood selfless to make sacrifices for us.

She never sacrifices the love of her husband , the sanity of her home for selfish interest, because these are what makes her a full woman whom the world admires.

She is the woman whom the girl she was wished for, indeed she signifies love and sacrifice

Honour a woman
Love a woman
Respect a woman
Bless a woman
Educate a woman
Polish a woman
Secure a woman
Give a woman
Believe a good woman
Celebrate a woman

To bring out to the best in a woman, doing the listed above makes her a goddess, she can cross the oceans for you and make life worth living for you, she can echo a silent voice and you hear it a thousand times, she can channel resource for you and you earn the fruits for a lifetime, she is an amazon for bliss and an advocate for goodwill.


Diane M said, "A woman is the full circle, within her is the ability to create,nurture & transform.

To the unsung heroine of the world, the strength that pushed us out, the sweet voices that sang to us, the hands that nurtured us and the glory that covered us, indeed the saying that "train a woman, train a nation is beyond these words, you are indeed amazons, a horizon of praise, a radiant shield.

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APPRECIATE PEOPLE

If I ask you the number of people in the whole world, you would say there are over a billion people in the world today.

The good news is that you have many close to you and the sad news is that you can't reach out to all in a life's time.

Oftentimes we keep malice and grudge with the living while we cry over people who are no more, so sad a reality.

We are so quick to slander and fight the living while we send flowers to the dead and even wish we could write them letters

Now we distance ourselves from the living just because of a misunderstanding while we go to the cemetery to have a moment with the dead on regrets of the past.

It hurts so much that we hardly regard others because we feel we are better than them. Recently I watched a young lad who has a disability with cerebral palsy and he shared how he was treated at various occasions.

There you will find us wailing over a sick fellow who eventually died, truth be told, how did you impact on the living when you have the time to, oftentimes we are so carried away by the selfishness that clouds us.

There are so many places to offer love and impact souls, the orphanage, the old peoples homes, the schools of the blind, the home of the deaf, the hospitals, the prisons and homes where we feel they are rejected in the society.

Again, what you hear we do, is that we run to the morgue to visit the dead, these are people you never visited when they were alive, you cared less to know if they existed, now you easily contribute to their burial and you desire to give them a befitting burial.

I wonder when the wickedness we applaud will stop, I crave for a day without pain and the evil we worship cease to exist, a day when peace will be our watchword, a time when we all embrace love and togetherness, a phase when a common goal of humanity is what we employ.

When will humanity be free from the fear of another man, when will we all appreciate each other and strive to see that others win against all odds, when will we all sing a song after our common goals and vision?

We encourage war and applaud violence, we instigate fight and slander at the slightest provocations, how do we now practice the love we proclaim?

It's high time we renounce evil and embrace the warmth of the stranger, the fellowship of a brother and the joy of a neighbour.

The world needs your hug, the next fellow awaits your smile, indeed someone needs your handshake, a touch can heal a brown heart, a soft tone can break a spell, all we need is each other to make a gloomy day brighter.

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SOCIAL MEDIA USERS

Dear social media users,

I hope this piece meets you well, take this as an updated reminder and be very conscious about it, honestly it should be kept in your entire being.

It has really come to my notice that a lot of these users take an opinion of others as an avenue to insult people, what i don't understand is the fact that when someone makes an opinion either contrary to a post or in support to a post, it is not and enough reason to either bully them or insults them for airing their thoughts.

Oftentimes the kind and type of insults and abuses you get is so annoying, you wonder if they know themselves before now and possibly if they have had a fight in their previous lives.

Again, let's learn to mind our business, if you aren't tagged, mentioned and no link to your personal identity, don't attack anyone's post or comments, it's so absurd how most adults lose their respect because they meddle words on subjects that isn't their concern

The social media handles we all use is an interface to express our thoughts and opinions, if someone's post doesn't argue well with yours it's not the time to insult the fellow.

We mustn't all agree at the same time, we mustn't all have the same views, seeing things differently is the main reason why we are human and diverse in nature, appreciate opinions no matter how silly, it might expose you to learn something new.

There are words so humiliating, most especially when a man has any kind of disagreement with a lady on a post, they are quick to call her a prostitute and when a woman has a fuss with a man, they call him a thief, i still can't fathom why, these are people who haven't seen themselves and might never see ever.

If a post isn't your business to comment, skip or scroll along, if you want to come on a topic, do so with all sincerity and move on, like an institution, the social media platforms is wide and accommodates diverse set of people, race, mindset, professions, culture and beliefs, so while you are here be on your best behavior because you never know who is watching.

Finally, I crave your indulgence on this, when you have a fuss with someone it's better you stop commenting or you block the person if you can't handle the spill, often times most people will sync your person based on what you have on your wall and come back to use your own words against you, if you decide to give them back their own coins they will still call you names.

In a world full of unlimited events and activated mindset, know that you can't always be right and you can't always be wrong either. Just be yourself and project who you really are, don't allow people's mentality to outshine the real you.

Watch your actions here, be mindful of your words and mind your business if you know it will erupt into abuse, just avoid such posts, if you know the way anyone would address you isn't going to be what you like then learn to avoid what will trigger it.

It's high time we learn to use our heads on social media and stop playing games with people's opinions just because we feel we know how to talk them down or because we feel we are well placed, if you go ahead to insults or abuse someone on this media be ready to take and receive your own dose of it too in quantum.

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BUT WHY, MARRIED WOMEN.

She started by narrating how her sister inlaw insulted the hell at her just because she isn't married, she went further to say how she welcomed this young lady when her brother was making his choice in choosing a life partner.

Amina is the elder sister to Luke who married Lucy, Amina welcomed Lucy like a sister and mother and advices Luke so keenly on why she felt Lucy was the rigth woman for him, even after three years of dating, Luke considered her and left the other ladies.

Four years after, Amina got a job in Kogi where her brother and his family resides, she thought it fit that she can stay with his brothers family prior to when she gets a place of her own amd since the brother also has extra room to accommodate her.

She called the brother and told him about the offer, he said he would discuss with his wife and get back to her, few days later, Luke discussed with his wife and she vehemently objected, Luke was shocked at her reaction and wondered why, somehow they agreed she can stay a while and leave, finally Luke called Amina and informed her.

Excited, she relocated and got busy with work as she came down, she works from Sunday to Sunday, comes back late and leaves very early, you will hardly know she resides there because her absence is so glaring.

Lucy became so hostile to Amina because she hates the fact that she has to go and open the door and also shut the door when she arrives and leaves, it got so bad that she doesn't keep food for her or indulge her because Luke works outside the state but comes home once in a month.

This continued and Amina couldn't understand why Lucy was hostile to her, she makes sure she drops money and assist where necessary financially but it wasn't enough for Lucy, on one of the occasions when Amina came back home late as usual, she was very famished and tried, she knocked and Lucy didn't open the door for her, she called her cell phone, no response, she called the brother to call his wife, he did but Lucy decided not to respond.

Since it was late, she slept at her neighbours place, the next morning she was going to work again, she came to the door and knocked, she didn't open, she left for work with the same cloth she wore the previous day.

She decided to take out time from the office and went home much earlier, Lucy didn't expect her at that time, so she opened the door, Amina decided to ask her why she behaved at such to her, rather than explaining, Lucy rained all manner of insult on Amina and told her to go and marry and stop pursuing career.

Amina couldn't hold the pains of the insult, she packed her things and left the house to a nearby hotel, where she lodged and go to work from there for some weeks before she got her own apartment.

Months later Luke came back and asked his wife to apologise to his sister she refused, hence he became cold to her, meanwhile there was a family function where all the family was to assemble at an event at they end of the year, Amina was there too, Lucy reported her husband to the family members but none gave listening ears to her because of how she treated Amina.

There are lots of questions I wonder about on why some married women feel they are better than you because they are married.

Why do some few they are older than you because they are married and expects you to respect them beyond imagination?

Again, why do some of them feel they are much responsible or better than you and feel all singles are not responsible?

Why do most of them become marriage counsellor even after few months of being married?

It's high time we allow people to make their choice in life, the race isn't for the swift and certainly destinies are not the same.

We should understand that we all came into this world at various times and that why you can see a young woman of 20 getting married while an older woman of 50 isn't married or just living her life, we all mustn't follow a pattern,life happens to all at various times.

Sadly, it is in this part of the world we compell people to follow a norm ans when they refuse for whatsoever reasons or challenges they go through, we consider them failures.

Marriage isn't a criteria to a better life, its isn't not the assurance to get all you desire, it also not the passport to heaven, it is but a choice to those who decide to indulge and follow the precepts it entails.

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AFTER VALENTINES DAY

Valentines day comes with so much expectations ranging from various activities and moods, validations and accommodations yet its a fact that it isn't limited to showing love to your loved ones alone.

Most lovers exhibited their A-romance game to the fullest, while some remain dormant and so unborthered, the moods varies.

Most singles were eventually hooked, while some didn't have an iota of what was going on, while some entered depression.

I saw a lot happened yesterday, some where fully dressed in the colors of love and they went all the way to express love, again we saw some who were just doing their normal norm and going about their business.

Just yesterday, there was lots of dramas that happened online, some ladies fought over a married man, another guy caught his girlfriend with another man while she told him she was home, the man displayed lots of fury, some were proposed to while some people received a massive heart break and the aftermath effect lies in their hearts.

Oh, did I forget to add this, most ladies would lose their virginity while some will do all it takes to satisfy a man in the name of valentine and to the men those who couldn't meet up with taking their ladies out and getting them a gift, they are probably at the verge of losing their relationship.

Valentine is more than this, valentine is all about others and adding a great smile on their faces, it is beyond self, rather it is selfless, I saw a video of a lady who went ahead to share some cash to some hawkers on the road and the smile on their faces was so bold and endearing, such love.

To the many who life hasn't shown love or to the many who don't know what love is all about, its okay but be reminded that we all have time and turns and hence just remain stead and wait for it, certainly it would come.

Love has no definition, it's is selfless and it goes out of its way to bring untold smiles.

If you didn't receive a gift yesterday or after, it is okay.

If no one called, text or took you out yesterday or after therein, it is okay.

If you haven't ever experienced love at any point, it is okay

If love hasn't found you, it is still okay

You can't give what you don't have, it is sometimes better to check your self too, to know why, try and share and extend friendship and fellowship to others, spread and care for others and go out of your way to impact souls positively, sponsor a soul and bring smile to someone, that's love and certainly it will come back to you when you least expected.

Know this too, valentine isn't just a day affair, it's is a continual affair, it entails showing love and care daily to the strangers and neighbours around us.

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LIFE STAGES

I saw a video recently that was showing various life's stages and the joys and wars it brings.

Friendzone, single, in a relationship, engaged, married, separated, divorced, widowed and not interested, these and even many others not listed therein.

Life comes with these inevitable stages and we either choose to live by them or they blow us out with its challenges or wars, yet these life stages also have its benefits and joy, as they come, take them and live by them.

Many times we are told to accept the things we can't control and manage the things we can't change, if we must live by the rules of life before us.

Life is a battle, the world is your arena, to face the darkness the world brings, you must be pure in your heart to overcome the fears and its challenges as they come.

In all these stages, learn not to do anything hastily, else you will have yourself to blame, an ideal is the most precious yearning and zeal in life.

Someone once said "do not for one setback, give up on the purpose that you resolve to effect, honestly, there is no chance, no fate, no destiny that can hinder the resolution of a determined soul.

Don't just dream just be your dream, rather recall that dreams are one of those things that keeps you going no matter the stage in which you are, know that memories are wonderful things if you don't have to live in the past.

Keep your hope alive and never lose your faith, live life with all diligence and decode your epic story, honestly, life doesn't get easier, you get stronger or weaker. The choice is yours to play, indeed play your role and do what has to be done.

Knowing this piece, people cry not just because they are weak and feeble but because they have been strong enough for too long that it hurts badly.

Titles, status, fame and glory isn't what we look up to but courage is what assures us for a difference, it's not who you are underneath but what you do that defines you.,we function to live, not just to exist.

If you are not courageous enough, no one will support you, beauty is all around but you have to open your eyes to see, the difference in winning and losing is often not quitting on life's stages, as there is no key to happiness, the door is always open to those who desire to come in.

Life is like a beautiful melody, only the lyrics can be messed up, we all have our stories to share, the pains and the joy there in, yet, its only the courageous who knows how to explain the process life stages brings to them.


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WHEN YOU STOP CARING

I have come to realise that we have this attitude of castigating or sending the wrong signals on people when they fail to do our bidding, illrespective of the fact that they have their own problems to deal with.

We are quick to know who has changed but we dont care to know why they changed, we are hesitant to judge them while we keep our own short comings to the back, we slander and even go ahead to inflict pain because they chose to be themselves.

He was always there for them, he has no life of his own, he became a shadow of himself to satisfy the other's desires and needs yet he was taken for granted and used like a tool without maintenance.

He then changed and became more conscious, he allowed himself to be free and made himself a priority, he took care of himself and cared less, he had a life of his own, set goals and lived out his dreams, he became happier than ever.

When they saw he was happier they felt bad, they waged war against him and fought him to the knees, they wanted to limit him and make him a subject of scorn but he refused them, oh, because he stop caring, he is now declared the enemy.

Often times, we just want to Lord and rule over some other people's life, we feel we are in charge of their lives, we want them to always do our bidding and take instructions from us yet we subject them to emotional torture so unbearable to accept, but the very moment when they revolt we want to nail them to the spike and even make a show of them.

Learn to allow people be themselves, learn to accept changes you effected or not in the life's of people you feel you have control over, stop being to judgemental and bossy in the life of any one, even a little baby has access to privacy and respect, hence even animals too, how you want to be treated is how you should learn to treat people always.

Eveyone wants to be served and pampered, many find it so easy to label others bad and project them as wicked because they fail to align with our thoughts and actions, how so convinent do we take others opinions are nothing even when they are making sence but support or project negativity as a trophy.

There are so many factors that makes some who was a care giver, a peace maker, a goal getter, a sacrifice addict and a servant to all, decides to stop all these and become more intensional about his actions, its is because he learnt in the hard way and became carefree about what others think about him and do just whatsoever pleases him without giving a thought to what people would say and do.

His actions has be prompted by pains, regerts, slander, insults, worry and fear of the unknown, he has been ambushed by the wars people dish to him for being a servant to all, but alas we see a changed man and we all wonder what happened and why did he change?

Hear this, befor you take a stone and cast on any one make sure you are better of than them on all sides, make sure you are in the best position to judge them and enjoin you have the guts to proffer better solutions.

Don't be the reason someone changed from bad to worse, from good to bad and when they see you to aviod you, then you tag them evil and wicked, never let the pains of others be the reason why you rejoice, rather be the object of a postive change.


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THE EVIL IN OUR TIMES

The realities are within us and its so clear that we are at the mercy of what we believe in to help us all get away form this wickedness in our times.

A Certain man, lured two young boys between 11 and 13 to help him carry some load in a near by provision store and promised to give them each one thousand naira each.

Now one of these boys was sent on an errand by the sick mum before he met this dubious man on his way, for whatsoever reasons he didn't decline the offer of cause because of the monetary value, he forgot about the errand and followed the stranger, when the two boys got to the shop, the man bought goods worth 70, 000 and told the shop owner to let his children stay in his shop while he withdraws money to bring to him and then carted away with the goods.

Now, the shop owner waited for this man's return and he was no where to be found, he then asked the two boys if they know the man, both of them said yes, funny enough they remained there untill evening, untill when their folks started looking for them.

When they eventually saw them, the shop owner insisted that he won't let the boys go untill he has collected his complete money.

Trouble ensued, it was at this point that the spell casted on both boys and even the shop owner disappeared from there reasoning, meanwhile the man is gone, the parents of these boys had to pay for a goods they never bought.

Again, a certain young man approached a lady at a POS stand to transfer money so she could give him the equivalent, he kept asking the lady if she has received the transfer, but she kept saying no, that its her boss that receives transfer alert and when he does he will call her to inform her.

Several minutes passed yet no trace of the money transferred, so the young man insisted that she puts a call across to her boss so that he can speak to him directly, which she did, while the lady was busy attending to other customers, the young man pretended to still be talking to her boss and succeeded in changing her boss's number to his own number and later gave the phone to the lady and promised to come back later.

After 30 minuues, he came back and asked the lady if she has received the alert for the transfer and she said yes, meanwhile, when he stepped out for 30 minutes, he sent a text to that number which he saved with his own name on the lady's phone as her boss , telling her that he has received the credit alert and also instructed her to transfer some certain amount of money to the account numbers he sent as text.

She didn't need to call the number again to comfirm since she saw that the boss already sent a text, she did as instructed and gave the man the money he claimed he transferred and we know the rest of the story, when they found out excatly what happened at the close of business it was regerts and pain all the way.

We have seen situations where, some one seated beside you on a bus or airplane, some even happens at the bus stop, they ask that you help them take care of their kids, bags or even less important wares only to abscond from a situation that would implicate them and rather tarnish your own reputation for trying to be a nice person.

Our world is full of evil and the wickedness keeps increasing daily, ever nook and cranny you hear or look into there is one bad news lurking around, hence its adviced we all pray, be conscious and learn to open up the ill of the society so that others can learn from it.

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FERNANDEZISBACK:
Haha you think your country is gonna change for good anytime soon... Ask yourself are people even working towards peace?

Every single day you guys either kill your fellow being all in the name of ritual.. insecurity and different horrible act..

Look your country won't get any better if each and everyone of you ain't questioning himself tho just as you said..

so sad but the truth, yet it takes one person to make a difference even when we feel its insignificant, it starts from you and I.. Be positive at least for your children

So true

vivsravine:
YOUR MARRIAGE

Sometime ago, i had a chat with a friend and as I listened to all that was said, I made my pionts written, so as to share with my beloved..

Marriage is not for scattered people, it is for people who have assembled themselves in the following ways:

Mentally
Financially
Physically
Emotionally
Sciologically
Academically
Sexuallly
Spiritually

If you find your partner boring  or scared to be with or relate with or you feels he or she has taken advantage over you, please leave quietly.

Relationships has to be with friendship, if you are not committed or in communication to your partner.. Stay away from them than hurting them.

The quality and content of your person is what makes the substance of who you are.

Oh, if you have love  in your heart  and you cant communicate it to your partner, then you are dead.

Why you do have to condem someone who is making efforts

Hmm,People might even tell you, that you are crazy  for communicating, set your goals, ignore the naysayers and plan your ways.

Marriage isa lot work, a hard one at that, make sure you communicate, commit and concentrate to make it work, if you don't someone else will do the things you failed to do..

HARD TRUTH.. dont love  someone who isnt ready..
Don't say you love someone and keep them hanging.
Don't give out green ligths when you know don't have a future with them.

... We will have a enough time to sleep when we are dead, but for no,invest in your marriage, make it work by doing all you can, above all make God your number one.

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so true

BELIEVE SYSTEM AND RELIGION

I was on a chat recently with this big brother of mine and we got talking extensively, we talked about why Christians should stop making it look like God is only for them and other people who aren't Christian can't have access to God.

There are so many people in the world, who seeks God in various ways and methods and as such they can't limit God only to themselves.

Muslims to the Arabs, Hindu to the Indians, Judaism to the Jews, Buddhist to the Chinese, Olisa chineke to the Igbos, Oluwa to the yorubas, Ubagiji to the hausas, etc.

We have so many traditional worshippers, atheist, marine worshippers, various religion of the world so unlimited to count, yet everyone of them claims to seek God, know God and serving God in their own way.

It's so sad, religion has caused alot in our present day life, Let's respect other people's belief system, stop assuming that the way you serve God is the best way, rather just believe that there is God and everyone has a way to reach him.

You wonder why we have so many churches, yet we all claim to know Christ and seek him yet our doctrines are different, its so sad to know that catholics won't accept the way other pentecostals worship, jehovah witness considers other Christians as alien, oh, what do we say of other orthodox churches with the new generation churches, don't dare see them when they argue about christendom.

I often wonder if its not the same heaven we are talking about even though we have different doctrines, it's high time we understand that God is too big and migth to be served in just one way hence why we have various religion on how to seek him.

Do you also know that, we have different types of Muslim, sharia, shittes, jidahist etc, yet they all claim to worship the same Allah, the only difference here is the belief system.

God is too migth to serve him in one way, know this and know peace, stop making it look like heaven is made for your church members alone or just for a set of people,rather, allow God to exhibit his judgement on all.

Catholics honour Mary, Jehovah witness can't accept blood transfusion, deeper lifers believes others will go to hell for wearing trousers, sabbath maintains holy day as Saturday, pentecostals say you must be born again, oh, all traditional worshippers have automatic ticket to hell they say, Buddhist, Jews, Hindus and all others won't see God, ha, why are we quick to judge and assume?

God layed in our hearts the will to either do the good things or the bad things, he can't force you to do anything, even though his God and that's why on the day of judgment he will judge us all based on our conscience.

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WHAT LOVE IS...


Often times we say we are in love but fail to truly realise what love is all about, anyways its February and its known as the month of love, again love should be practiced always and dully, it's not subjected to a month alone

Sometimes in our lives we either fall in love or fall out of love, but it's best to truly know how to and how not to, no matter the type of relationship you indulge with a person, love has a common goal.

Even if there is a mistake involved, love endures for the higher good and it is boundless in nature

True love, does not suspect rivals, or does not Fear or distrust, it is not jealous to kill, its totally selfless

Love is sensitive to human feelings, it respect the dignity of human hood, or simple and approachable, truly its blessing all the way.

Most times what we call correction is humiliation truly, what we call a mistake is shamefully castigating a fello, and whet we call a secret is rumour, but love sees all as an avenue to make all things rigth and better.

Know this and know peace, love can be angry, but keeps no malice,no grudge,no greed and strife, rather it seeks forgiveness always ,it's self sacrificing untill the last.

Love is perfect Love seeks to promote Love doesn't not justify itself and its is always forgiving

Let me say this love doesn't exposes sin, it is open to the truth and rejoices in the good of others, Love is simple,it bears no pretence.

Loves believes in human imperfections, it gives people the room to be themselves and it honors all.

Love is really all that matters because everyone comes into this world with nothing other than love and leaves with nothing other than love.

Think about this with all our professions, careers, bank account, our goods works and even evil we indulge , nothing is compared to love, certainly everything stays here.

Love, as if there was nothing more important in your life, sometimes it's hard to considering the wickedness placed before us, but the goodnews is that love conquers all.

Love is a verb and action word and also loving too is a continuous word, we all keep learning as long as life has us.

No one came from heaven knowing how to do everything instantly on earth, everything we do we learnt here and keep learning till death.

Check your love rate and see how you relate with those who hate you, those who hurt you and even those who are strangers, hard as it seems, learn to love all, pray for them and extend a hand of fellowship to all.

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REALISTIC LIFE ISSUES

Currently, we are all facing and experiencing unimaginable things, our world is now filled with haze and so much uncertainties, seems the devil has relocated into the very hearts of the human race and as such we hear of acidic things happening in split seconds.

A young man in his twenties macheted and burnt his elder brother to death over a land dispute in Ekwulobia Anambra state, yesterday,he was badly beaten,a man rescued him from the angry villagers by locking him up at the village hall and called the police to come and take him.

The same yesterday, just at 3rd mainland bridge, a young lady in her late twenties wanted to jump into the ocean, just because she was owning someone but luckily she was rescued by some men who stopped to appeal to her.

I wonder what is about January 30th, we heard about the painful demise of Cheslie Kryst (Miss Universe USA 2019) who alone knows why she committed suicide by jumping down from her apartment.

Let me limit these sad realities to a few, everyone you come across is facing one probelm or the other, how you deal with yours differs and as such you either hear of some one overcoming them all or resulting to the realities mentioned above.

There is a lot going on already, many are passing through what they can't explain, depression is lurking in the minds of many, the afterwards effect is either suicidal or they launch at people around them.

How do we combat what we can't see with our naked eyes, how do we figth a shadow, a mirage of pains and sorrow, we all assume that we are all fine and doing well because, we see ourselves smiling at the camera, wearing decent clothes and interacting, yet we can't imagine the next news we hear about these people.

Its high time we really check on those around us, take out time to know what's going on in their lives, spend quality time with them, share fond memories, do the things they love, encourage and support them, pray with them and for them and never stop being there.

The year is just starting and we are recording acidic and repressed reports of depression already, all over the world there is inflation on pratically everything we consume and utilise yet life most go on.

At this point we are all enjoined to go back to the traditional way of doing things, let's incorporate patience and perseverance in all we do, let's support family reunion and affirm morality as a virtue in our lives, let's activate hope and love, share what we have with each other and grant peace a chance.

Actually, its our world against the aliens of evil that have borrowed a space on our planet, lets drive them away by being conscious to the realities of the now and purge our world from these miscreants who invade it with wickedness.

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SILENTandSMART2:
Directly or indirectly we all caused what we're facing. ... We are meant to keep on risking and gambling into life challenges day by day.

i agree with you

Aww my person... Been very busy

Truvelisback:
U are back

It's so sad

helinues:
Morality of Nigeria society is questionable.

We now see wrong things as norm

What could have tempted those teenagers to be desperate of having money?

There is actually an oppression from some rich people, people in higher position or political power

Hmm, I still find it so shocking to write about this, based on the most recent news about 4 boys who killed a young lady of about 20 years for money ritual.

It's so sad that we failed ourselves, parents, guidance, religious bodies, government, celebrities, entertainment bodies,security agents, politicians and all the general public involved.

Its still baffles me on how can teenagers between age 17 to 19 could have such thoughts and also implement their hellious mindset in the name of making quick money.

These days all we hear from religious bodies is on prosperity and enlargement and increase , when you enter such edifice, 70 percent of what happens on such occasions is more of money and how to increase the account of the church and most prayers are centered on wealth and prosperity.

Why won't such lads be drawn to the fact that money rules the world even in the church, money makes noise, collections are so endless, one project or the other and yet, we hardly hear of good living, salvation messages and morality.

Back home, a child comes back with something a parent didn't give their kids yet they just side line the reality, they start stealing little things and they just chose to ignore and pamper these kids.

Gone are the days when, you are been checked for everything and anything you do, you say excatly what happened in school and who you had encounter with, the days when we fear to ever lie, days when we are been punished massively for misbaving, days when the side eye your mother looks at you makes you readjust the nonsence you are doing immediately.

Artistes now sing songs that promotes only quick access to wealth, where are the songs that project hard works and patience even dignity in labor, now all we hear is how to woo a woman, make more money and most times they display these acts by throwing money around even in their videos with naked women dancing.

Our entertainment industry is even worst and they are not setting standard at all, they are always seen making films that promotes quick access to making money, their films are centered on ritual and sacrifice of human beings in that context to hasten riches.

How about politicians and government personnel who lives so lavishly in the names of enjoying the national cake, you need to see how they spend money without worry of where the next one is coming from because they are certain that the well never runs dry.

How do we slove these issues that generates lots of concern, its a big shame on eveyone concerned, where is the morals that made us wait in patience and dignity, where is the perseverance we adhere to so keenly knowing that we will reach our goals someday, now you ask where is tolerance that allows us to accept all situations we face as temporary.

Make out time to ask them questions
Know who they hang out with
Know what they are doing when they are together.
Trail them and make your findings especially when you notice some suspicious.
Don't take no for an answer, don't assume any, don't accept silence attitude.
Check their belongings, show up in school without informing them.
Wake them up in the middle of the nigth to pray with them and admonish them.
Dont pamper their bad behaviours, scold them when they are faulty and, appreciate them when they are doing well.
Be the exemples you want to see in them and project ligth to them always.
Be there for them when they need you,

We all need to look inward and return back to the days where morality is accessed and praised, days where we are rewarded with reference for standing tall admits all trials of life.

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THE VALENTINES DAY STORY

Its February, its indeed the month of love, let's take out time to spread love always not only subjected to this month, but the goal is to extend these love to every nook and cranny life brings us to.

I heard a story about a man who lost his wife in the cold hands of death some few years ago, he found it so difficult to adjust to the realities that she is no more and she found rest beyond the skies.

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RELATIONSHIP SAGA

In our generation most especially, we hear alot of sad news about couples and how they handled their martial issues.

It's so sad, we are all quick up judge them and backlash them because one person decided to voice out, even without knowing the full facts as to what transpired.

We have more relationships counsellors, advisers and coaches who can't even manage their life, pin pointing to the wrongs of others.

When a couple is in disarray, most times we hear from one side and chose to make our deductions from what so ever we heard.

The Okoye's, the Idibia'a and even most recently Alex and Fancy we are all anticipating to see the wedding of the year between them before we heard the most beautiful story of the year.

There is alot that happens in any given relationship, we all can't see and can never know of no matter how much we keep our ears to the grounds.

No one is filled with perfection of character hence we accept the imperfections of each other to stay in the union, for God, our children and even the society most times we forget why we got married in the first place.

Many couple are so close but far from each other, there is nothing spicing up the relationship again, we are carried away with our carrier, society and distractions we chose for ourselves and hence hurt our relationship.

Divorce and abject separation has indeed become the norm of our times, we hardly can tolerate each other's flaws and so we are all out to showcase the faults of our partner to the whole world for what gains excatly?

Many of us grew in good homes, had beautiful backgrounds and orientation as to family life, honestly we know the truth but we all chose to do what is our bidding, no one cares any longer.

It's high time we stop and tell ourselves the truth marriage is not for everyone, keeping a relationship you know won't yield any result is a slam on your self, if you must marry stay married and align yourself with your responsibilities.

Pray for the many married couple, alot is going on, wait to get it rigth if you are single now, don't hurt yourself because you want to stay in an abusive relationship, if you must end it, do so amicably.

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