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Happy birthday grandma

realtalk19:
It is well with you. God will surely see you through

Amen thanks

Happy birthday to him

Topleague:
i understand your situation and you just have to accept your son and give him the joy that he is being deprive of. God will see you through

Thank you my brother you are a true man

LadySarah:
You are a good woman. Pls stand up for him no matter what. He needs a home and the love of a mother. Do all you can

Me, my children comes first no matter what.

Thanks my dear my children comes first too no matter what . I taught getting married will bring more happiness for us but since things are not working according to plans, it’s better for me to protect my children

samguru:
You goofed by telling him that you are bringing your son to your new home.
Your husband was aware of your children before you married him, therefore if he truly loves you he would not have declined to have your son live with you.

Going forward,go and get the boy and move him home ASAP and if he pushes your son out,pack your loads and go look for another accommodation and start living your life with your children.

You need to act fast now before that boy becomes hardened criminal.

Thanks am going to pick him up this Sunday I will bring him to the house and let him do his worst. I pay the rent if he is not happy then he has to leave me with my children . This thing has been stressing me my bp is already high which is not good for my pregnancy I need to be alive for my children and I won’t let him stress me anymore

justnock:
Ma'am, kindly take him to his biological father's family or better still, involve your church elders... that's if you're a dedicated church member. The leaders in the church can adopt and take care of him.

I will not take him anywhere why does he have to live like an orphan whyle im alive ? To be honest My son is more important than my marriage and it’s my responsibilities to protect him

Oyindidi:
Which can stingy man be this?
My sister follow your heart, it seems you're not enjoying your marriage.

Test water before you dive inside, this man no be here o

Thank you my dear for understanding my life but I decided to keep calm because not everything is good to say on this social media

sweetdude001:
You didn't answer my question.. Aw is ur husband with ur oda daughter?

He treats her very nice they are best friend , she is free with him and like him a lot. Financially he doesn’t buy anything for her but their relationship is perfectly fine

sweetdude001:
Well I think its ur boy attitude ur husband is scared of, I mean ur own blood/brother want him out. U r looking out for your own he also is looking for his own daughter... There is a possibility ur son in ur home backfires.. A possibility I said.. I av feeling u r acting like he must coz he said he d accept he the first place, besides how is his relationship with ur other daughter? Pls be honest.

My son has turned bad because of the way my sister in law has being treating him , a child who used to eat 3 square meal a day , now he is being deprived of foods and what do you expect him to apart from steeling ? I know what he did was wrong but he did it because he was hungry and his not a bad boy , that’s why I want him back with him because with me he will have his happy life back and he won’t go out there and steel

sweetdude001:
Madam I am really sorry for what u r going through, I feel for u n ur boy, but I want u to swap places with ur husband and think about it can u accept anoda woman's children in ur home, u av to undastand, he loves u so he must love ur boy is easier said than done, him accepting 1 of your kids is an effort on his part, he his probably thinking he is too old for him to handle, listen meet him half way here, with social media n all u can't tell me u cant contact d boys dad or relatives, all d effort u r using begging ur husband, channel d energy in get ur boys relatives... Ur husband is not a bad man.. He is jus bin human..ur own siblings failed u, think more abt that

He met me when I was living in a room self contain with my 2 children he accepted them and has agreed that we will be together after marriage. I have suffered all alone with my children I wasn’t desperate for marriage and if I knew he would change his mind after marriage then I wouldn’t even be with him in the first place. Like I said earlier as long I’m alive none of my children will be living with relatives it was the difficult circumstances we had faced after marriage that was why I had to send my son to my brother or else I wouldn’t do it , nobody can look after my children better than me if my own brother and his wife are maltreating and do you think he will be better with his father relatives ? My children are my responsibilities they are not my relatives or their father relatives responsibilities

cococandy:
OP if not that you guys already have kids together I’d tell to divorce that man. It might be too much for your kids.

However in all honestly (unless he has a change of heart) you’re better honestly of without that man. How you want to achieve that is up to you.

I better be dead and rotten before a man comes between me and my child.

Thanks I will rather be alone with my children . I’m thinking of going there on Sunday to pick him up from my brother and I will let him do his worst. If he denied him access to the house then I’m ready to quit

Pusyiter:
Put him in a boarding school
Where to stay during holidays will not be a problem
He can stay with a priest/pastor during hols
My cent.

I cannot do it I rather become a single mother with 4 children than abandoning him

James289:
Take him to the orphanage

You want me to take my child to the orphanage whyle I’m still alive and in good health? You must be joking . I rather be a single mother and suffer with my 4 children than rejecting my son.

Saintmary:
Very simple, travel to your brother's place, pick up your son, bring him home.
If your husband is a sensible man, he will only leave your child's upkeep to you without raising hell. Good luck.

Thanks am thinking of going there this Sunday

Oyindidi:
Na Allien you born with?

He traveled to Italy and abandoned me with the children I shouldn’t waste my time waiting for him because he had move on and I’m also free to move on with my life

janvier27:
Your son is not a thief. He's a small child who found himself in an unfortunate situation, and he'll surely get over it. He needs love and attention. It's difficult not to place blames. I think you should have allowed those kids to get older before marriage. Your elder brother has failed you. So also your husband. Keep appealing to your husband or take a break off to live with your kids and show them love so that they can grow properly. Marriage is not all about keeping a woman at home and raising biological children from her.

Thanks for nice advice. You are right my son has become a thief due to the way my sister in law has being treating him , depriving him from food and many bad things the boy had no other choice than to steel. Since I’m alive I want him to be with me and I will take good care of him

Richy4:
I don't really understand this story.. Ok let me get the picture correct

------You got married 3 year ago right?
---- You got 2 kids from your previous marriage/ Relationship; one is living with U while the other was living with your relatives.

---- You don't have any kid for your present husband right?

----So which Kids was he afraid of your son corrupting or According to you "damaging" ?

Yes I got married 3 years ago and I had 2 children from previous relationship , one with my husband and I’m pregnant with another

movement2020:
How old is your son?

How old is your daughter?

How many kids do you have for your new husband?

Where is the father of the other kids?

Are you still in touch? If NO, what about his siblings? Are they much around?

Have you improved financially to accommodate your son?

He will be 12 years in August , my daughter is 6 years, I have one daughter for my husband she is 2 years and I’m pregnant with another one. Their father is not in Nigeria and I don’t have his contact or his siblings. Yes I have a grocery shop I foot 70% bills in my house

Shifi1:
take him to his father na

He is not in Nigeria

Davash222:
Your siblings that are your relatives doesn't want the boy but you want your husband that is not your relative to accept the boy
You should learn to attend to your responsibilities and mistakes. Don't drag your mistakes to that innocent man. He has done more than enough for you.

Marrying a Nigerian girl with two children(not even one) is not what every man can do. That man deserves peace and respect from you.

I foot 70% of the bills , I pay my daughter school fee including my first child with my husband I pay half of her school fee ,all my son need is a place to stay, my husband won’t be the one paying his school fee

I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.