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SpencerForbes:
Yes, there are men who sponge off women, but in the Nigerian context, how many homes can survive that dynamic? How many women can realistically shoulder the full responsibility of a household for more than two years without the man eventually feeling the heat or the home becoming uncomfortable?

Lol...You talk like this because you have no idea of what is happening in most Nigerian homes. If women cannot realistically shoulder full responsibility, why do I see many women hawking all day just to put food on the table, while their lazy husbands drink themselves to stupor or idle away at football centres?

Truth be told, any man who is genuinely happy and comfortable with his wife paying all the bills indefinitely is likely a man who has lost his ambition or purpose.

I like to think that when you describe 'men', you are referring to all categories of men, and not just successful, comfortable or educated men. If not for the few successful men who act responsibly, I hope you know there are many others who have switched roles with their wives.

We need to make a clear distinction here

Basically, a gold digger is someone who gets into a romantic relationship primarily for money or material gain, rather than for love or a genuine connection.

Though your definition of a gold digger is correct , it is broader than you think. A gold digger is someone who relies on another for financial gains without genuine affection for them. So, you can have friends, spouses or even neighbours who are gold diggers.



Most of the men people drag in these conversations didn’t enter the marriage for money.

How would you know that? Did they tell you their intentions while dating? Nowadays, many men marry girls because of their family's status. A girl may come from a modest background, but a guy may marry her because one of her siblings is based abroad. I have seen that play out on many occasions.

They were struck by misfortune—job loss, failed business, or economic downturn.

Being struck by misfortune is not an excuse to become financially dependent on your wife who may also be struggling. The truth is, take away the white collar jobs most Nigerian men have, and watch them amount to nothing. This is because, they are so used to their comfort zones, that they find it difficult to survive after the loss of a job.


So, while male gold diggers definitely exist, we must differentiate them from responsible family men who are just going through a hard season. Lumping them together is unfair.

Have you considered the fact that my post was referring to the irresponsible family men who are lazy, unambitious, and see nothing wrong in depending on their wives?

Like I said earlier, even in marriages, there are men who are gold diggers.

Britishcoins:
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Is it not your customer that should contact his bank to see if the transaction can be reversed? Why are you getting worked up over it?

I'm sure more men are waiting for their turn to abuse her. Someone is in a bad situation, and the only thing you can think of is raping her.

Most of the posters who dropped some comments above me are dumber than I thought. Instead of them to analyse the issue from an unbiased point of view, they have already started throwing insults and calling Toke old just because she made a salient observation.

NB: How to know if someone is dumb: By mocking an old person forgetting that old age is inevitable.

Back to the discussion. Even among married couples, men are becoming gold diggers. How else can you describe a situation when a man refuses to contribute to the upkeep of the family, and expects the wife to shoulder majority of the bills?

So, to all the katagelasticists above me, I hope you know that katagelasticism is a psychological disorder that can degenerate into something serious. Y'all should get some help cos you are already losing it since mocking others give you intense pleasure.

Lol... Wahala be like bicycle.

Sucolee:
7am-7pm....no be small thing o.....body go tell

They run shift.

ajalawole:
It make me remember 2000 Sharia clash in Kaduna... That thing fucking ruined my childhood. Our house burnt, naugbour burnt alive.

Oh! It must have been traumatic for you guys. Incidents like that will hunt you forever. I don't know why fellow human beings derive joy in hurting others.

Samantha125:
Their father is the same man who shot my husband two times last year, murdered his little niece, and made an attempt on my life...

It must have been very traumatic for you guys to experience such a dangerous incident. Do you mind sharing why he behaved that way?

excessmon:
Thank you for your point, but looking at it from a tribal side, do you not think it was to promote a culture from the eastern region?

I can't answer that because I couldn't even watch it for 5 minutes.

No problem, as long as you don't impose your yeye laws on non Muslims.

excessmon:
What’s ur definition about a product being overhyped? The movie made the mark and passed all standards of being voted as the best in the year

When bandwagons are majorly the ones hyping the product and not connoisseurs. As for this movie, many girls helped pushed the movie into limelight because they were looking for their 'odogwus', which was the main focus of the movie.

Will Nigerians ever learn? Why risk your funds with some of these mushroom investment platforms when there are other better alternatives?

Kemetian:
IF YOU ARE THE PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA AND YOU HAVE CHILDREN, WILL YOU LET THEM GO AROUND ALONE?

IT IS ALWAYS EASY TO CRITICISE UNTIL YOU FIND YOURSELF IN THAT POSITION, THEN YOUR LEVELS GO CHANGE OVERNIGHT..

LOUD HYPOCRITES.

He can't go around alone because he has made himself the assistant president. Is he the only child Tinubu has, and must he go around with such a large number of security men?

Kobicove:
They really hyped that movie.

I just hope the lead actor Uzo got a good payout for his performance in the movie

Over hyped movie! I couldn't even watch past 5 scenes because the plot didn't resonate with me. I only liked the fact that my beautiful and charismatic Bambam was the lead actress and nothing more.

They shouldn't do that rubbish. CBN workers and politicians used COVID-19 loan to cash out. They gave people loans, and ask them to remit between 10 and 50 percent of the loan amount to them.

Instead of investigating how fraudulently the loan was disbursed, they are asking for a waiver to cover their tracks. No wonder Nigeria was described as a fantastically corrupt country. Smh...

everythingtall3:
Even in USA president children are well protected by CIA and other big forces even after presidential tenure is over. I'm not a big fan of Tinubu but na normal thing

So, children of US presidents get protected by up to 15 agents? It's the number at play here, and not whether it is within their rights or not. Nigerians are too excessive and just love to overdo.

People are too desperate. But some moves they make in trying to escape poverty is not worth it.

I don't believe you, unfortunately.

What a careless and annoying statement! Who trained those bandits and how did they become so powerful? Who supply them with arms and how do they bypass security to deliver those arms? These are some of the questions that demand answers.

Unfortunately, this Gumi man is trying to divert from the main issue, and asking the government to negotiate with terrorists. The government should declare war on them and stop treating them with kids gloves. Or better still,they should hire meceneries that will do the job. Saying that the Nigerian army cannot defeat bandits is like saying that we have lost the war against them.

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Double0h7:
Please name your village and leave Africa out of this. I’m African and we don’t believe in stories about dead bodies roaming the country and posing for pictures.

That you don't believe, doesn't mean it is not happening. Haven't you heard of people who died, then relocate to another state to start a second life?

That woman was a priestess, and even though I am not a traditional worshiper or a fan of it, I know those people possess some demonic powers that can scare you.

Nice article. I didn't know her mom was Hausa though. Such an elegant and beautiful woman she was.

No wonder, our legendary Bongos Ikwue couldn't resist her charms, but IBB used his military influence to win her over.

He was so in love that even after she got married to IBB, he dedicated his hit track, 'Oh Maryam' to her. It proved his love was real and not the fake type of love we see these days.

Image123:
When the topic says "There Are Over 600,000 Christians IDPs In Benue – US Congressman Moore" it implies that. There Are Over 600,000 IDPs In Benue takes on saner and grammatically correct meaning. If you insist on misunderstanding, i can also misunderstand you. There's no monopoly of misunderstanding. That Christian push will be pushed.

Chai...Who do you this thing? IDP means internally displaced persons. So because there are 600,000 IDP's living in various camps, it means they automatically have 600,000 IDP camps. That would be one person per camp. Does that sound right to you? Smh...

Create a WhatsApp group, hold meetings regularly, share jokes, gossips, news, memes...and ensure everyone participates actively in the group. That will keep the communication alive.

Nonetheless, I believe that as siblings grow older, the bond they shared usually wanes off, and this has nothing to do with busy schedules. No matter how busy you are, there is that one person you will always have time to call and chat with.

You people claim to be Africans, but are still doubting the story. Didn't you read the part where it was stated that she was a priestess?

If you know the type of mystery surrounding traditional worship, you will never doubt such a story.

Though they were not responsible for their father's crime, it's not a good idea to invite them over for now.

The former me would have welcomed them without any issues. But the new me would think that one of them might have inherited their father's bad traits. So, I can come up with a thousand reasons why they should be kept at arm's length until further notice.

Just tell them politely that you won't be available during the festive period. Don't make any promises to reschedule their visits. They will be disappointed, but it's not that serious to lose sleep over.

The most hated or the most deadly people?

Image123:
How can over 600,000 camps be in a so called genocide? That's more than 600,000 churches because usually an idp camp population exceeds the average church.
Kindly make it make sense. Are these IDPs protected? Are they there for Christianity? How does such a large number of group thrive in a reported genocide? And is the priest governor sleeping or what?

Do you guys read to comprehend at all or you just scan through an article, then rush to comment?

Ok, let me make it clearer. The IDP camps are many and spread across the state, and there are over 600,000 people living in the camps. Some primary schools were even converted to IDP camps.

People mostly regret marrying their spouses when they start having deep marital problems. I'm not a fan of marriage, but I believe there are people who are doing just fine and have never regretted marrying their partners. So, he should only speak for himself.

May God save unborn children, who will eventually come into this world through parents who are not prepared to have children.

I guess she wants to go viral or she has been drinking too much water.

There is a difference between a man abusing a minor and a woman doing the same: Since boys do not get pregnant, when abused, people don't usually consider it a big deal.