₦airaland Forum

SweetCunt97:
So you think marriage would be any better with your selfish state of mind? Lolzzzz

AfroKnight:
It’s a good thing you broke up and didn’t extend her misery.

If you had stayed on, that would have been really toxic.

pansophist:
Finish your story na

The female lion will leave the pride lion if he is defeated, then mate with the defeating lion after the invading lion has ousted her previous partner, and got her cubs murdered right in her present by the invading mate. Nature is truly harsh. I believe that humans still largely have this primal instinct, though, it radical expression has being suppressed by morality, culture, tradition and religion. Even at that, in particular to this observed female trait, the female do not care about male struggles.

Men create the lifestyle, and women integrate into his lifestyle. The creation of his lifestyle (his pain, struggles, personal demons etc) are not of a concern to the female, they may rationalise your struggles, in an attempt to appear understanding, but they cannot, in its truest essence of it. When men talk about this things, it appears as bashing, but if you visit the redpill women page on reddit, they discuss and admit these things, these women are honest enough to see themselves and recognize their behaviours, unlike most women that operate from a position of perfection and see faults only in men.

Most importantly, this has to do with how men and women understand and express love. Men love sacrificially, while women love idealistically. Men love flows two step downwards, from him to his woman, and his children, for women, it's one step, which is from her to her children. The love women has for a man is basically an opportunistic love for the lifestyle he has created, that tickles down from him to her, which further tickles down from her to her children. The kind of love men have for their wife (sacrificial love) is the kind of love women have for their kids.

The maturity of a person can be judged by the intensity of truth he/she can take, and this sounds harsh, but it is the story of our primal (emphasize of primal) hardwiring. It is biblically required for men to love their women, but that women should respect their men. You think it is a coincidence? I think not. There was also a thread on nairaland last year (I'll try to find it and attached the link here), where the poster asked women what they wanted in a man, and most, if not all wanted something that has to do with the lifestyle he has created for himself (money mostly). So even though a woman has to "just be", and men will accept her as worthy, to women, a man has to "become", to be worthy as well.

When you hear buzzwords such as "a real man", "man up", "be a man", "to be a man is not a day job", etc, but not hearing the female version, it only goes to prove that the male has to become, and the female has to just be. It is what it is.

ken711:
Bro, your comment has truly touched a nerve in me. I'll listen to you bro..even though today she has been calling, even as I am writing.

I just have to move on.

xxxtedyxxx:
Forget about sex, nothing better pass money.

No matter how much he bleeps her, he can never get his money's worth. Even after he breaks up, his head will always be filled up with a thousand things he could have done with the money he wasted on her.

tommyken:
@op please follow this advice, the day you call her a make the first move is the day you will lose your manhood and honor in that relationship and I swear you will live to regret it....
Be a man and forget her matter, learn to have a strong guts and steel ball if you really want to survive and succeed in life.
Handle relationship the way you will handle a business and political office.

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ImaIma1:
You analyzed it well. She was wrong for switching off her phone especially as it is something she does often. He would have just ignored from then instead of sending that text to put her in the right.

So now she has the upper hand and she will do shakara. And she will feel it is ok to switch off her phone on him.

WhiteJacket this is a dicey one. If you can go see her, do that instead of calling. Tell her you are sorry for saying you are done. That it was out of anger.

After she has loosened up and warmed up, tell her that you think you guys need space to figure out if you really want to go ahead with the relationship. Her reaction will let you know how to proceed hopefully

Dacronym:
I stand with #Sowore







Any Sensible Nigerian Would

athaliya:
its not that oga, we were very close in naija, she has loaned me money before and same with me. If her value system didn't allow her collect the money from me, why didn't she tell me on time? Why did she block me on whatsapp ? Only for her to tell someone that i'm jealous of her since she went to the US.
As if i'm the one with a problem, she recently clashed with someone and told the person to outgrow her poverty mentality so she wont die in nigeria? Its a good thing she's still single in a liberal country whereas her mates are done with childbearing. If you love her so much, I can give u her id so birds of a feather can flock together

athaliya:
Had this friend who relocated to the USA, I also decided to relocate a year later, I needed to pay for a certain subscription that is restricted to North-Americans. I begged this friend to help with the payment ($35), I asked her for her details so I could send her $50 for her trouble. She refused saying we are too close for her to collect money for such a small thing. She said she'll do the payment by month end when she must have gotten her next salary. I waited till the next month, no show...
I offered her $70 thinking the hidden expenses are more than $15, she didn't help o. She eventually blocked me on whatsapp. An e-friend in Canada later helped me do the payment and I ensured I reimbursed the friend of course.
The friend visited Nigeria recently and was sharing scarf and body cream for her friends. Lol.....
The evil in some peoples heart though.

afroxyz:
But did he ask for money? Why didnt his cousin wait for him to demand for money before displaying madness. If he asks for money can the just say no. Why go about it childishly? Besides the man that went abroad, didn't people help him? After I years he wants to ask for money now? Nigerians are really demented

LegalOpinion:
Very correct.

Most Nigerians have this disgusting entitlement mentality.

I remember when I got a job and was given a new car (on loan). Some people started lamenting that I have forgotten them because I have made it. I quickly disconnected from them forever.

Such people are dangerously envious.

Alezy:
the behavior is cos of same reason some guys comments out there.

Its as if when u try to reach out, u automatically want something. Very wrong mentality

obailala:
But these guys pulled out of PACT before the selection process. He did no wrong.

Ventura1:
Nice one, but candidly only Sowore has the ability and attitude to wrestle this powerful godfathers and cabal!

On Sowore I Stand

Ventura1:
excluding you abi, you will vote for AAC?

josite:
this sowore guy gives me hope and I can assure him when he needs support most he will get it in jesus name.i don't know any Nigeria at this point in time who has done this much except GANI.we must all strengthen the likes of sowore.

olafolarin:
SOWORE IS A LEGEND!!!!!!

Thats a UNILAG product.
One of the best UNILAG SUG President.

DoTheNeedful:
Wetin Sowore do? You are just sensationalizing. There is nothing special in what I read there. He revealed their conservation. So? What more? The conversation wasn't even cordial afterall.
Besides, stfu about "withdrawing support for Sowore 2019". You never supported him. We know people like you, your sentiments and where your heart lies.