I was searching online and I stumbled upon their website for training. Please who has done any training with them and what was your experience with them?

I’m thinking of going through the data analysis course. I’ve heard stories about how these trainings can be trash. Please share your experience if you have done a training with them. Did you learn? Was it thorough and in-depth. Did you prefer to have learnt on your own. Please let me know make i no waste money.

@OP I guess u just come naija. Well you cannot withdraw your cash here. It is not allowed. But you can spend it. You can use it to buy stuffs and sell it here in Nigeria. I'll advise gadgets

I can't message u on WhatsApp. How much is it

My dad o. Even though we're not really close as he works all day. But I've seen the sacrifices he has done for us kids. He never flogs us. He has never for once insulted or belittled me before. He's funny and calm and outgoing. We never lacked while we were in school even if things were tough he still provided. He never demanded much from us, he does most of his things by himself. God grant him good health and wealth and long life. No body is perfect but part of my goal in this life is to always put a smile on his face. How do I tell him I love him though.

richdad24:
I am 21 years old, I had sex with my cousin sister six years ago. She was 12 then, I was 15 under the influence of porn twice. I feel remorse for the action since then and act as if it actually never happened, now the problem is she always with me, she do several seductive things with me but I guess I am of full age now but I don't know how to advise her. I don't really want to bring that issue up again

did u forcefully have sex with het?

richdad24:
I am 21 years old, I had sex with my cousin sister six years ago. She was 12 then, I was 15 under the influence of porn twice. I feel remorse for the action since then and act as if it actually never happened, now the problem is she always with me, she do several seductive things with me but I guess I am of full age now but I don't know how to advise her. I don't really want to bring that issue up again

hope she wont accuse u of rape in the future

starbuck:
I pity for the incoming generations

A time shall come when this institution called marriage will be a thing of the past

trust me. Very true. Our children generation, it will be so rampant. Marriage will be considered old fashioned and extinct

oviejere:
"My husband had an affair about two months ago. Eventually, I allowed him to come and see the kids, and little by little, we began talking again. I can tell that he feels very guilty and embarrassed. He goes out of his way to be accommodating and kind to me. He is basically saying that he wouldn't blame me if I refused to take him back. I've told him that I'm going to take my time in making a decision. Last weekend, the kids and I watched a movie with my husband and they fell asleep. When things were about to get intimate, my husband pulled away and said 'I just can't have sex with you right now.' I was stunned, so I asked, 'you can't or you won't?' He got up and said 'I just can't. I'm sorry.' I have no idea what to make of this. I have tried to ask him about this, but he always changes the subject. Is he not attracted to me? I want to have a healthy sex life again one day. Why would a man not be able to have sex with his wife after the affair?"
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he has HIV. Be thankful he still cares about u

royalfly:


Abeg shut up... abeg sorry o but u Dey talk rubbish.. what is enslave in just cooking and cleaning, the guy offer to help... I don’t understand o. Watch this woman will do worse things in future.. if she refuse to help the man wash his clothes no problem but to cook my dear even whites host friends all the time and just like the guy wanted to do help each other. You could see the man grilling the meat while the woman cuts the veggies as the case maybe.. onyinbo life nor go kill una.. even the onyinbo is retracing their steps while Nigerians are blindly running forward to nonsense.. now I know why this country is like this.

Get manners o. I never insulted anyone here so I won't take any insult. Drop your opinions and leave. I still keep my opinion. If you're not okay with it move on or ignore. I gave my opinion without insulting anyone, so get your acts together!.

futurewise11:


YOU ARE A WEAK MAN. You are really scared of your wife. War in the house u pay, wife u legally married, please grow some balls. Stand your ground and threaten her with whatever you have to....what nonsense..ordinary soup is wahala..your wife knows you are a weakling that's why hes playing you like ball.

Alpha and omega. So he should beat her. Or divorce her to marry a maid. Who will suffer at the long run?. That's why a lot of men are abandoned in their old age by their wife and children. With all the wickedness they did. Get sense o. Na wife u marry not slave. I pity any lady that will open her two eyes and marry u or even date u
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Gavorche:
I read every comment on this thread and I am very disappointed with how most women reason.Sorry Mr Op but ur wife is being inconsiderate and unreasonable not to assist in the cooking since you are willing to participate actively In the process.To even make it more irritating she is preventing you from inviting help from your church members who will assist.haba for something that will be done just once in a year.

Some posters are even suggesting you cancel or shift the meeting just to please your wife and be termed peace loving and family focused husband.Mr Op that will be the most stupid thing to do

That why am even scared of getting married because I can't take one quarter of all this bullshit I will just divorce you the next day.Imagine ordinary to cook fa with helping hands com turn issue the thing dey even vex me a swear especially those feminist posters above that are just running their mouth without even considering the ops condition.seriously if this is how girls nowadays reason and think marriage no be by force o

I remember growing up, my dad host this kind of meeting and my mom do the cooking with some of her friends and sometimes wives of Some of the members.My dad dont even know the location of kitchen talkless of helping in cooking( i think he considered it taboo)She never saw it as an issue intact we will be happy at home because there will be surplus food and drink at home

My advise is still talk to her and make her understand her duty for the cooking.You(op) will be responsible for buying the food stuff or you can do it together,you make the swallow,she makes the soup,and after the guest departure you two do the cleanup together and with the invitation of helping hands it will be easier for everyone.

If she still refuses you can now employ the service of caterers if you can afford it and if you can't u can explore other options like buying soft drinks and snacks.But you should make it clear to her that that you are not happy with her you too can revenge by declining some helps you render her or sacrifices you make for her so she will know how it pains.DONT just let it go make sure you express your displeasure by actions or at least words or both

NEVER you postpone the meeting to please her or due to lack of options or lack of adequate plan.if she refuses make sure you feed your guest in your house with at least snacks and .soft drinks or better by caterers,this will make you the winner and she will be ashame of her sef

I pity your wife o. I'm sure u don't know how to cook. The wife cooks for the family and takes care of the home. She even cooked the last one while pregnant. And she says she can't cook this for some reason. And u are saying u will divorce. Do u think women are not human beings. Cooking for 20 people. Cleaning up after them. u think it's easy. And she probably has a job that stresses her and even kids. I repeat if u want a maid, marry a maid. U cannot marry someone daughter and want to enslave her under the name of marriage. Have sense o. I'm 100% sure you're not married. Heck you can even be a kid. What you need is wisdom. Your own mother and your wife are not the same people. Do not expect your wife to act like your mother. Thank God they don't force marriage now. Imagine someone marrying u as u are

SirMichael1:


She listens to her parents. Thing is, I don't want to involve them.

The last time, I pounded the yam for over 20 guests but she recieved the compliments. I just don't want to look like a dictator forcing her. I just need her to assist me in making the soup and i even told her i'll get her an assitant from the church to help her out.

Lalasticlala, seun

she recieved the complaint. Ha. For your own 25 guests. 20k is not too much to me. Abeg try and negotiate. Nobody come life come slave away

SirMichael1:
Hello Good afternoon Familanders. This is very long, so please bear with me.

I’ll start from the root. Well, in my church, there’s usually a committee for the married men where most times we can proffer solution to the issues or need of the church members and other times organize get together monthly within us (married men) just to foster unity. Since we're like 20, different men host the get together. Therefore, it's spaced out for 1year and 8months.

It all began last Sunday when I was chosen to oversee the next get together which comes up this Sunday after church. When we (my wife and I) got home after church, I told her about it and she immediately asked, “who would do the cooking”? I was taken aback as the question sounded strange. I replied her saying, since she did the cooking the last time, I figured she’d do it this time.

She got angry and said there’s no way she’ll be going through the stress of cooking for 18 to 25 men and that I better know what to do concerning who’s going to handle the cooking. I tried to calm her down and reminded her of how I assisted her in the kitchen by pounding the yams while she made the soup -two soups actually and that I was going to help her this time. Yam is quite expensive so we’re not pounding this time, just Semo.

She remained adamant and said there was no way she would do anything, that the work stressed her so much and she won’t partake in any cooking and that I better go find anyone to do the cooking. Thing is, I understood the fact that the work was stressful for her because she was 5 months pregnant then and it was her first time.

Yesterday at work, I kept pondering about a solution and a thought struck me. I called her from work and asked her, "how about I get one of the women at church to offer you support?". She blatantly refused and still held on to her words.

My mind hasn’t been settled since morning because I got hold of a caterer and she told me that she’ll charge a thousand naira per head, that is approximately 20k. Truth is, the get together came at a wrong time and considering the prices of drinks, the cost of the food stuff, meat, ingredients, etc. I really can’t afford a caterer right now.

I’m at a cross road now. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing a rift between us. I thought of bringing a church member to assist on that day without informing her so she wouldn’t surprise me and leave the house but I fear that if she comes, my wife might not join her in the kitchen and the woman will begin to feel a certain way (thinking of how ungrateful we are). Then again, who will purchase the food items? I’ve just been confused. I really need insights.

Note: I said I'll help her make the swallow, she just needs to make the soup.

if she says she can't , don't try to force her cos it can lead to something else. U just have to understand her
She was 5 months pregnant and I asked her to cook for 20 people. That's insensitive to me. Nobody likes work now. Me myself cooking is a chore to me, I do it because I have to not because I enjoy. Reason with her pls she's not being wicked or something she's just tired and needs to rest. She knows if she does it this year, next time u will ask her to do it again. U can lovingly ask her to borrow you the 20k and make sure u give her back. It's not easy na. She's already managing a home that's enough stress. That is why there are ppl u can pay to do it.vlife is easier now.

Happyguy201:



shut up if you don't have anything better to say . did you read what the op said or you just decide to type rubbish . . how would you feel if you come home and there is no food they already have the basic stuffs at home 700 naira can get meat and small thing to add on the soup . yeye women everywhere

all the best to u o. In this 2020. Person go dey drop 700 naira. Mind u, someone cannot just wake up and react like that. She must have been enduring it a while and she finally lost it. If he were responsible right from time, she would've reasoned with him. But from the beginning, na so so suffer and u want her to be smiling and happy. I repeat myself. Op Hustle harder and make money. So that financial issues won't break your home. If u think that leaving her is the solution. Sorry to say you're looking for even bigger trouble. I'm 80% sure the second will give u the same issue if not more. The only solution to your problem is hustle harder and earn your money. And motivate her to do somethings too to assist. This is the truest comment here. If u move to another with this same brokeness I just laf u. Sit down make money, do side hustle. Encourage her to make her own money too. Op hope you read this

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

I don't blame u I blame the girl. Why girls no dey get sense. U like to be comfortable yet u get pregnant for a guy that cannot take care of u. And u as the guy is it fair. Imagine dropping peanuts for feeding. She can't work she's nursing baby. I'm sure she's already looking tattered. How can she save and buy small thing for her self with this peanuts. God help us o. The truth is bro. U can never have a happy home with those peanuts you're dropping. Even if she pretend it won't last. How u give her Belle without even planning. Up your game, hustle harder. She's low-key suffering is that fair. At her age. She will soon start looking like grandma now

Jannuxajj:

I will try but the truth be say woman no dey my mind but konji one kill man

then u will keep getting rejected and dejected. Why stress yourself if you're looking for friends with benefits. Why can't u just find friend with benefits. U can easily pick up girls at strategic locations. That's olosho. No decent girl will give u audience if they can smell you're all about sex. Na why u still dey single. Get sense

VictoriaGrace:
Good morning,

I seek your advice about how to get my son to STOP sagging his trousers. He is 23 years old now and I have always thought, okay when he gets older he gets more mature and he will want to pull his pants up, look smarter, get a job. But how long do I have to wait until he is mature?
For about 10 years he has acted and dressed just like he wants to be a thug, a gangster, which he bases on the American rappers he loves so much and listens to all day. He tries to talk only in American slang, and he says "nigga" and "bruh", at the start and end of every single sentence. Of course the drugs come into it, because that is seen as cool, and stupid crimes like making "gangs" and fighting, and vandalising, messing up shops, and houses in public and so on. But it is all a stupid game. He is from a very privileged background, always lived in a safe, happy environment here in a gated community on Banana Island. When he was growing up, we always encouraged education, saying whichever you choose, England or America, we will pay for your university and get you a house there while you study. But he has chosen no university, not even a job. Just lay around, pretending to be a gangster, and trying to be a rapper.

Okay, I have gone on into all different issues. But it is the sagging trousers that I can't believe he still does. He has just come down from his bedroom, and he has come down using the elevator. He always uses the elevator in our own home, because his trousers are so low that he cannot walk on stairs. He cannot walk properly anyway, with his legs so wide apart he looks like he is completely disabled, such a slow and sluggish walk. But because his trousers are just so low, he cannot lift his feet up enough to walk on stairs. He finds it easier just to use the elevator, even at home. So he is actually disabled, I think, by sagging his trousers. He also has the habit of wearing two underwears, so he can sag his trousers even lower. I complain it makes extra work for the laundry maid, at least think of her, with double the amount of work to do for you just so you can wear your trousers lower. He doesn't care, he just said it's her job.

There is no convincing him as he says it is cool, it is like a gangster, and only "poor ass niggas and old ass niggas" (in his exact words) wear trousers at the normal height these days. He especially thinks it is very poor to not show expensive underwear and always a very expensive belt, such as Gucci. The crazy thing is his girlfriend says she loves it and it because it makes him look like a gangster. So I ask, do all Nigerian girls like this, is it normal Because if the girls want it, then of course the boys will keep doing it. I'm not blaming the girls, but just saying it will keep happening. And I know his friends, who all think they are cool in their fake "gang" will go out to the shopping centres and cause trouble. I know my son and them use to knock over any kids that had their trousers at a normal level, because they say they are poor and dumb.

I still believe the sagging trousers is one of the first signs of disrespect and if i can fix it then maybe other things will start to improve for my son. For one, he won't look like a criminal anymore. Maybe then he can start to live a better life, get a real job and so on. It has to start somewhere.
PLEASE help me with your advice on fixing this.........THANK YOU

At 23 he's no longer a kid. He is a man, I think you were the one that spoilt him right from time. At a young age, a child needs to learn about responsibility. When a child has everything at his reach, there would be no zeal to strive for more. I mean he affords designer stuffs. Don't tell me you buy him these stuffs with your money. Infact sagging should be the least of your worries now. There are more underlying issues that needs to be solved.

He needs to know life is not always easy and rosy. What kind of father is he going to become. You need to cut his allowance drastically. Let him recieve stipends per month that would be barely enough. If he drives your car, ban him till further notice. Ask him to get a job and fund his lifestyle. Put your feet down and lay down the rules and regulations of your home. You're the parent here. Of he can't abide by it, tell him to start saving for his apartment.

You think you're pampering him by giving him everything he wants, but you're not doing the right thing. How is he going to face life if you're no more?. Even if he inherits a lot, how is he going to manage it?. You don't want him trading drugs as a means of survival. Sit down talk to him, advise him and give your rules that he must obey.

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See eh, any man that blatantly opposes court wedding is a red flag for me. How will I not be legally married to someone? I know I'm not interested in divorce, in fact I never pray for my enemy to experience it. I just want to be legally married to the love of my life what is there?. There are rules of the land and what's there to lose. In fact I'm thinking only court wedding sef and then honeymoon. The drama involved with all this traditional wedding is too much and expensive. You will need an evidence of marriage if u wanna apply for visa. In fact it even protects your children. God forbid if the husband dies how u want prove say u be the wife?. All this traditional marriage certificate is not valid. All his properties and everything would be taken and the wife and kids would be left with nothing. It's just funny why a lot of people oppose it. I mean as a wife I'm gonna do change of name and pick up his surname, so why wouldn't he wanna marry me the legal way. Men that would fornicate would fornicate whether they do court or not. So I don't understand why they oppose it. This is from my own perspective sha. It's just a wise thing to do. If my boo is refusing it, then it is a red flag oo

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Olorunnim:
She has been listening to bad advisers Nairaland So Called feminist have gotten to her


On a more serious Note Marriage is a Union and not Single person should foot the bills While the other get to keep theirs. She's just being selfish, Op sit her down and talk to her.

yes you want your wife to pay bills too right. But still want her to be totally submissive, cook, clean, give birth, raise children and go to work. While dropping part of her salary every month. Then you what do u do?. Your job is just to foot the bills and u still can't do that. Is it fair on her part.

ImaIma1:


Really extreme.

The first one to get married hid her relationship for a long time. This is a lady that had graduated and was working in a bank. She had to go through her brother's wife to even broach the topic.

OP needs to break free before she lives with regrets. The parents have good intentions but they are going about it the wrong way.

I don't think I'll ever understand this over protective behavior. Funny thing is I never knew it was an issue. I wasn't happy about it but I thought that's what all kids go through until I started mixing with people that I realised that things were different with others. I know deep down I'm not wayward and I don't have that teenage urge to explore. I never had them in my teenage years self.

NoToPile:
How about just doing what they want till you eventually leave the house.
You will not die if you don't wear trousers oo

Get the job first and your parents will see reason why you should live with that your friend or anywhere else for that matter.

Then you can do whatever you want / feel like doing.

I won't die I know. But this my prime. I'm aging by the day. It's not bad to want to look beautiful. Thanks though

ImaIma1:
OP you need to cut yourself off from them fast. If it means getting a job or leaving the house early and coming back in the evening.

Sometimes indulging over protective parents and guardians ends badly. An aunty of mine is close to 50 and still unmarried. She blamed her brother who they were living with because he was overly protective.

Her younger sisters who got married broke free even if it caused rifts then. But this one was calm and followed her brother's instructions to the letter. And she didn't really relate to men because of her brother and this greatly affected her. Now she says he should come and marry her...lol.

Please don't let them suppress you.

hahaha this one is extreme mehn

halogate:
What do I say?..I'm a dude and cannot compare myself to u
But assuming you are above 24yrs, then I suggest you better start making your parents understand that you are no longer a child.
..when my parents started making moves to cage me, I realized that if I didn't rebel and break free, I'd be tethered to them for a longer than necessary.
..you have trained me, u have groomed me, u have instilled moral values in me for more than 2 decades..

...wetin remain??...allow me to live na

I guess we just have to let them know.

mariahAngel:


Your mistake was returning home after your service year, knowing how strict they already are.
You should have planned ahead.
It's not too late though...

I planned to but mhen the calls immediately after my pop and the fact that I served in the village didn't encourage me..

Nuttella:
You are too calm for my liking, you need to revolt against them and stand your ground telling them that you cannot always do as they say. You need to be very stubborn about it. Tell them you will wear any cloth that fits you cause you are an adult, you will go out and meet your friends because you will need to marry and leave their house.

That's why its not always too good to be an overly obedient child, sometimes you have to be stubborn and fight for your rights and respect..


Throughout my secondary school, I never wore trouser for once cause of my parents, I entered university, in my 100L I didnt wear, I started wearing it from 200L when I found out that its more comfortable and the skirts available are not my taste, there are more designs of trousers and I can run easily for lectures when I wear trouser. So I used my money and bought 5 different trousers for starters, I enjoyed wearing it, I started posting the picture of me wearing trouser on Facebook, my dad saw it and didnt say anything, I came home for semester holidays and continued wearing the trouser, my dad was mad but I told him that I like wearing it, he gave a million advice but still I told him it makes me look smart and comfortable, that was how he overlooked it, I did the same thing when I started fixing nails and eyelashes at home, they just tell me to reduce the length which I will do out of respect for them but no one can stop me if I decide not to.

I'm too calm I know.. But I bet they can dis own me if i do things this way. My family is religious and care about public image a lot. Thanks though

mariahAngel:


You're advising her to rebel against her parents? Even to the point of rejecting their food? Haba!

Would that be fair to her parents? Not that I support their strictness
Why did she not reject the education they gave her?
Before we make any decisions in life, we should always remember we would that position someday
How would you feel as a mother if your own child rejected your food?
A child you saw through school all of a sudden feels she's to grown to listen to you, let alone eat your food, how would it make you feel?

see I get her point. You've probably not been in that situation that's why. Telling your parents what u actually want to do with your life is not rebellious. But to them they're going to take it as that. I didn't rant here that they don't allow me go to night parties or that they complain if I get home late. It's something a reasonable parent would do. Im not a teenager, some of my mates are married with kids. I have to let them know things have to change because if I continue to dance do their tune, ill be 30 and still be complaining about the same thing. When I mean freedom it's not jumping from men to men, but to be able to make my own decisions at times. I can seek their advice and they can also advice me. Not the authoritarian way. Yunno, don't question me, just obey as I say.

WhisperedNoise:
Hey OP,
I understand what you're going through. I've had many people, guys and ladies, come to me with complaints about their parents.
While we understand that they do what they do out of love, it might sometimes be a tad overwhelming. You're 23, done with NYSC. You're an adult in all spheres and for all purposes. You can be held for any decision you take from this point onwards.
I believe that the parents of a child should relax their hand of discipline a bit when a child gets started in college.
Why? Because they had 15, 16 years to train the child. The parents should believe they've done a good job and let the child spread his/her wings.

Now, to your vent:
- As much as possible, avoid anything that will cause trouble with you and your folks. They are still your parents, and as long as you live under their roof, you should dance to their tunes (no matter how unpleasant it might seem). Honor them, now and forever.

- Your parents are still viewing you through the "my baby" lens. It's up to you to change their perspective. Responsibility is the key to adulthood. Start small. Little by little. Pick a bill here; pay for petty things there; so it goes. They'll gradually admit that you're an adult, and that you won't stay with them forever.

- Sometimes, it might be necessary to tell your parents NO. Let them know, gently and with respect, that you're an adult capable of making decisions (either good or bad). Note that you must have done the former point to an extent before you can play this card.

- It might help if you aren't at home 24/7. If you go to work everyday and they see you for a few hours daily, they'll start respecting your time and decisions. Gradually, they'll start treating you like an adult.

- Don't part with bitrerness. It's not worth it. Love binds a family together. Refer to Point 1.

If you need to vent, kindly reach out to me or any mature Nairalander. We don't know you personally, fret not.

PS: Are you the only child??

I wish you well, sis.
Godspeed!

thank you ill try as much as possible to avoid the last point. I'm not the only child we're four and trust me we all complain to each other about this. They always say things like when I'm a parent ill understand. But I doubt that. I mean I wasn't allowed to study in UI my dream school because of this. We were all confined to study in our city (lag) thank you ill take baby steps

yettymuse:
Listen to me.. your parent cannot stop being AFRICAN. And so far, Majority of us have come to realize that African parents in their way of instilling discipline and morals, have stopped their children from growing.
Not their faults, they just didn’t know when to STOP!

At 23, after NYSC? You no be small pikin again But to an African parents, you still dey wear pampers lol.. infact if you’re not careful, your mom would serve you some breast milk for breakfast.
..Me and my mama fight tire! Being her only daughter, she was literally strapping me to her back... lol

The ball is in your court...
To be a Rebel and be in their bad book or to dance to their tune and be the good girl.

The only way to release the grip of an African parents is to stop eating from their pot. As long as you still dey chop mommy thank you, you’re still a child in an African Home.

You need to Start practicing an adult lifestyle right in their home.
Take up some bills as though you’re living by yourself.
Don’t eat whatever they cook.
Put some money down for groceries and don’t use it.

You won’t need to talk too much when you want to leave.
..

All the best!

thank u I will do that!