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Family / Re: Do You Know What A “family Scapegoat” Means? by Wittyglam(f): 9:44am |
Franklyspeakin:brother learn knowledge is key. I'm a counsellor and I hear traumatic experiences almost every day. |
Romance / Re: Men, Why Do You Find It Hard To Do This? by Wittyglam(f): 9:43am |
SporaD8:Most times it feels good to be complimented by your spouse. Those simple things matter. My husband looks good for me and I do for my husband too, there are some hairstyles my husband will request I make and I do them for him. It's very simple. |
Family / Do You Know What A “family Scapegoat” Means? by Wittyglam(f): 9:41am |
Do you know what a family “Scapegoat” means? The family scapegoat is a complex and often misunderstood role within family dynamics. This individual is typically assigned blame for various problems or conflicts within the family, regardless of whether they are responsible. The scapegoat becomes the target for criticism, negative attention, and sometimes even abuse from other family members. This pattern of behaviour can have profound psychological and emotional effects on the scapegoat, shaping their sense of self-worth, identity, and relationships both within and outside the family unit. This is the reality of a lady I'm counselling. Here are some key aspects to consider when examining the role of the family scapegoat: 1. Identification and Dynamics: The scapegoat is often identified early in life, sometimes even from childhood. They may be perceived as the “black sheep” of the family, the troublemaker, or the one who always seems to be causing problems. This perception can persist into adulthood, reinforcing the role and dynamic within the family structure. 2. Family System and Dysfunction: The scapegoat role is often a symptom of deeper issues within the family system. Dysfunctional families may use scapegoating as a way to avoid addressing their problems or taking responsibility for their actions. By blaming the scapegoat, family members can deflect attention away from their issues and maintain a sense of cohesion within the family unit. 3. Projection and Displacement: Scapegoating often involves the projection and displacement of emotions onto the scapegoat. Family members may unconsciously project their fears, insecurities, or unresolved conflicts onto the scapegoat, using them as a convenient target for their negative feelings. This can create a vicious cycle where the scapegoat is continually blamed and marginalized, regardless of their actual behaviour or intentions. 4. Impact on the Scapegoat: Being cast in the role of the family scapegoat can have profound psychological and emotional effects on the individual. They may experience feelings of shame, guilt, and worthlessness as a result of being constantly criticized and devalued by their family members. This can lead to low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and even self-destructive behaviours. 5. Coping Mechanisms: Scapegoats may develop various coping mechanisms to deal with their role within the family. This could include withdrawing from family interactions, seeking validation and acceptance from external sources, or even acting out in ways that confirm the negative perceptions others have of them. These coping mechanisms may provide temporary relief but can also perpetuate the cycle of scapegoating. 6. Breaking the Cycle: Breaking free from the role of the family scapegoat can be a challenging and painful process. It often requires the individual to set boundaries, challenge dysfunctional patterns, and seek support from outside sources such as therapy or support groups. Family therapy can also be beneficial in addressing underlying issues and promoting healthier communication and relationships within the family. 7. Healing and Recovery: Healing from the wounds inflicted by scapegoating takes time and effort. It involves acknowledging and processing the emotional pain, redefining one’s sense of self-worth and identity, and establishing healthier boundaries and relationships. While the scars may never fully disappear, with support and self-reflection, the scapegoat can reclaim their agency and rebuild their life on their terms. This was what I'm dealing with right now a young lady who has gone through rape, depression etc just because her parents made her the family “scapegoat” for being a girl instead of a boy. Subscribe to my YouTube channel. https://youtube.com/shorts/dd4eUZBpphY?si=3735jeVfmR_YzUQk |
Romance / Men, Why Do You Find It Hard To Do This? by Wittyglam(f): 9:41pm On May 06 |
Have you ever gotten a new haircut or done something different with your appearance, only to have your significant other not even notice? It can be frustrating, and even hurtful at times. I recently met a woman who was in tears because her husband never complimented her on her looks. It's the little things like this that can build up and cause problems in a relationship. So, let me ask you, do you feel appreciated by your partner? https://youtube.com/shorts/dd4eUZBpphY?si=KLVU61W2hczAi_Om |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:34pm On May 06 |
tochez24:k |
Romance / Re: Why Are Some People Attracted To Toxic Love? by Wittyglam(f): 9:33pm On May 06 |
Proserpina:Thank you. |
Romance / Re: Why Are Some People Attracted To Toxic Love? by Wittyglam(f): 9:33pm On May 06 |
Wesha:A young lady died because she refused to leave due to monetary gain. |
Romance / Re: Why Are Some People Attracted To Toxic Love? by Wittyglam(f): 9:32pm On May 06 |
MrBrownJay1:This is so true. |
Romance / Re: If Your Spouse Is Not Doing Well Report Them To Your EX. by Wittyglam(f): 4:19pm On Apr 29 |
immortalcrown:This is true. |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 4:19pm On Apr 29 |
tochez24:there are women who will build with a man and love him to the end of the world. I don't the type of women you meet and most times you attract your kind. Are you a good person? Are you Godly? Are you decent? |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 4:16pm On Apr 29 |
natedensel:I don't know the type of women you surround yourself with but I'm telling what I know. |
Romance / Why Are Some People Attracted To Toxic Love? by Wittyglam(f): 4:14pm On Apr 29 |
Maintaining a healthy relationship can have a positive impact on your work life in several ways. Firstly, it can provide emotional support, which can enhance your confidence and resilience, thus making it easier for you to tackle any workplace challenges. Moreover, having a secure relationship with your partner can help reduce stress levels, which in turn can help you focus more effectively on your tasks. Additionally, a supportive partner can offer valuable insights and advice, enabling you to navigate professional decisions more effectively. I do this with my partner and it's beautiful. Overall, a strong and healthy relationship can contribute to your overall well-being, which often translates into improved performance and productivity at work. Side Question: Why are you still in that toxic relationship? |
Health / Don't Go To The Gym. by Wittyglam(f): 9:13pm On Apr 22 |
If you're planning to hit the gym, there are three crucial things you need to do before you start pumping iron. Trust me, these tips will make your workout sessions more effective and enjoyable. So, watch the video to find out what they are! #gym https://youtube.com/shorts/8F0QiAikvV0?si=a7Ahc3O5a99yt_sB |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:11pm On Apr 22 |
Puss360:Please do, thank you. |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:10pm On Apr 22 |
Love800:very important. |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:10pm On Apr 22 |
natedensel:Different women have a different mindset, some interacting with those women. Some women want someone they can build with. |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:09pm On Apr 22 |
PerfectStranger:I am not from the 80s and this still works. |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:08pm On Apr 22 |
Gbadugbakun:It depends on the type of girls you are meaning. |
Romance / Re: The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:07pm On Apr 22 |
tochez24:Why is everything about money? This is why I advise money to stop buying women over with money, look for genuine love. |
Romance / The Easiest Way To Start A Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 11:28am On Apr 22 |
Starting a relationship involves building a connection with someone you’re interested in. Here are some steps to consider: 1. Get to know yourself: Understand your values, interests, and what you’re looking for in a relationship. 2. Meet new people: Socialize, join clubs or groups, and engage in activities where you can meet potential partners, I don't like going out this is for you. 3. Show genuine interest: Ask questions, listen actively, and show that you care about the other person’s thoughts and feelings. 4. Communicate openly: Be honest about your intentions and feelings, and encourage open communication from the other person as well. 5. Take it slow: Let the relationship develop naturally, without rushing into things, many people tend to fail here. 6. Build trust: Be reliable, respectful, and trustworthy in your interactions. 7. Be yourself: Authenticity is attractive, so don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Don't stop living to please the other person. Don't forget, that every relationship is unique, try not to compare your journey with that of Oluchi's, trust your instincts and enjoy the journey 😊 https://youtube.com/shorts/8F0QiAikvV0?si=a7Ahc3O5a99yt_sB 2 Likes |
Family / Re: This Is How Most Women Destroy Their Homes. by Wittyglam(f): 11:26am On Apr 22 |
Biglittlelois:This is bad. |
Family / This Is How Most Women Destroy Their Homes. by Wittyglam(f): 9:03pm On Apr 15 |
I have met a lot of women who say dangerous words in the heat of an argument with their spouse and this can destroy their marriage or break trust. It's important to be mindful of the words we use in the heat of an argument, especially when it comes to the father of your kids. Saying something that plants a seed of doubt can be really dangerous and hurtful. https://youtube.com/shorts/GFNMJNN5Bhk?si=-QeoN0cDsdGiju5h |
Family / If You’re Struggling To Bond With Your Kids Jump In Here. by Wittyglam(f): 9:54pm On Apr 12 |
Are you looking for ways to bond with your kids and create lasting memories together? Here are some fantastic tips that will help you build a strong connection with your children and have fun at the same time. 1. Quality Time Together: Do you enjoy playing board games, hiking, or having dinner together? Dedicate some uninterrupted time to engage in activities that you both love. The key is to be present and fully engaged during these moments, so turn off your phone and enjoy each other's company. 2. Shared Interests: Do you have common interests with your kids, such as sports, cooking, or gardening? Participating in activities together is an excellent way to bond and create a sense of connection. You'll have a great time while building unforgettable memories. 3. Open Communication: Do you create a safe environment for your kids to express themselves openly? Encourage them to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without judgment. Actively listen to what they have to say, and let them know that their emotions are valid. 4. Create Traditions: This is one of my favourites. Do you have any family traditions? Establishing them can strengthen the bond between you and your kids. Whether it's a weekly movie night, a monthly game tournament, or an annual camping trip, these traditions will create lasting memories that your kids will cherish forever. Try these tips, and you'll be amazed at how much closer you'll feel to your children. Have fun bonding. Don't forget to follow me. |
Family / Mistakes You Make As A Single Parent. by Wittyglam(f): 9:02pm On Apr 09 |
As a single parent, it's important to make the right choices when it comes to choosing a spouse. Unfortunately, many single parents make the mistake of not considering all the important factors, which can hurt their children. So, if you're a single parent looking for love, take some time to consider all the things that matter before taking the plunge. This video will open your eyes to those areas. https://youtube.com/shorts/IV-SATvhxM0?si=Knp4HOJuiBP2l8-r |
Romance / Re: If Your Spouse Is Not Doing Well Report Them To Your EX. by Wittyglam(f): 4:33pm On Apr 03 |
immortalcrown:Can you explain? |
Romance / If Your Spouse Is Not Doing Well Report Them To Your EX. by Wittyglam(f): 7:59pm On Apr 01 |
Hello everyone. So, I overheard a really interesting story the other day about a couple facing a particular issue, and I was so captivated by it that I decided to create a video about their experience. Do you think it's proper to keep informing your ex about things that are happening in your marriage? #marriage https://youtube.com/shorts/WktXDSb0QzY?si=skVEqPinbJGqeLV8 |
Romance / This Is How Most Men Destroy Their Relationships Before It Starts. by Wittyglam(f): 8:03pm On Mar 27 |
It's disheartening to see that many men still hold on to the belief that gifts alone can win over a woman's heart and that the absence of gifts will have no impact on the relationship. It's time we understand that relationships are built on love, care, and understanding, not material possessions. https://youtube.com/shorts/yfLVk2_Sr0Q?si=EW5qOecdAyeSF9OT |
Romance / Re: How Genotype Ruined My 3years Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 8:01pm On Mar 27 |
GOFRONT:I found out a lot of people lie about this. I feel the best is going to a lab. |
Romance / Re: How Genotype Ruined My 3years Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 8:00pm On Mar 27 |
immortalcrown:most people do even think to this part. |
Romance / How Genotype Ruined My 3years Relationship. by Wittyglam(f): 9:28pm On Mar 18 |
Have you ever imagined finding that one person who fills your life with love and happiness, who supports your dreams and helps you achieve them? Imagine finally falling in love after going through a series of heartbreaks and realizing you've found your true soulmate. But what happens when you're hit with unexpected news that shatters everything you've built together? That's exactly what happened to me. After three amazing years together, we decided to take the next big step and get tested for compatibility. And then it hit us hard - we were both AS. How could this happen again? My heart was shattered into a million pieces. Have you checked your Genotype? https://youtube.com/shorts/jWIfcd1YaqQ?si=IVgQJgrc3cT3HRKX |
Romance / Does It Make Sense To Ask For My Engagement Ring Back? by Wittyglam(f): 12:11pm On Mar 09 |
Hello, I have a question that's been on my mind lately. So, my ex-fiancé called off our engagement and now he's asking for the diamond ring back. But I'm not sure if I should return it since he gave it to me. What do you think? Should I give it back? Is it common practice to return the ring after a break-up? Let me know your thoughts. https://youtube.com/shorts/SQcMLTF3OLg?si=XIJZOUl2Wnt0orrc |
Family / You Can't Be Married And Want To Live Like You're Single. by Wittyglam(f): 6:58pm On Mar 04 |
Marriage is a beautiful bond that comes with its own set of responsibilities. It's not just about enjoying the perks of being married, but also about fulfilling the duties that come along with it. Ignoring these responsibilities is not an option if you want to maintain a healthy and happy marriage. Link to the full video below https://youtube.com/shorts/66Y9Yymq6YY?si=aduEUsJ-cUyU-RFP |
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