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ebonyvibe:
i intentionally did not use most or some cos all u men will if given the opportunity.

you probaly have a strong woman who doesnt accept rubbish or dont have one but all men deep down are. I think its in your dna

HELL NO! Ma'am! That your HUSBAND treats you SO is NOT an IMPETUS for you to conclude your HYPOTHESIS! Seriously, if your HUSBAND is treating you this way, i'm sorry to say, but HE IS AN AS[b]S[/b]! Start ANOTHER THREAD and COMPLAIN about his MOST IRRITATING BEHAVIOURS, i'm sure you'll benefit from the ADVICE of "USEFUL MEN" on HERE! E.g MOI!!!

pendo89:
Let me give you a practical example.
If as a girl I grow up in a very abusive family,eg seeing my dad beat the hell out of my mum everyday,
And then I see the same happening to the other members of my family ie men mistreating the ladies.
What happens is that my mind adjusts and I start seeing women as objects to be abused and humiliated.
Chances of me dating an abusive partner are very high cz I will try holding on to the abusive relationship since I grew up seeing other females in my family getting subjected to that. Now that may not be the case always but in most.
My question to you therefore is 'did the male in my family set up a good standard? Of course No.
So how does it affect me now? It affects me because I will never tolerate an abusive partner since I grew up exposed to the low one set by my family and I would not want a continuation.
So if I meet a guy that insults and abuses me I will tell him,'Be a real man cz real men don't beat women'! or real men dont treat women like trash. How do I know?

1.Its against Bible as a believer ie
2.Its against the law.The society condemns it.

To summarise it all

If I was exposed to such low standards then my idea of a 'real man' may be the 'abuser' or the 'perfect gentleman'
But if I was exposed to good normal standards then my idea of a real man would definatley not be the abuser but the gentleman.


Now that did not come from a movie or romantic novel.Its part of that experience and exposure your talking about.

We are still saying tha SAME THING!!! YOU just ANALYZED how YOU SEE THINGS! This may NOT NECESSARILY be the SAME ANALYSIS for the NEXT LADY! How about ladies that WATCH too MUCH INDIAN MOVIES? Their IDEA of the REAL MAN would be DIFFERENT! EXPOSURE STILL MATTERS SHA!

ebonyvibe:
Men expect you to clean the house, wash the plates(yours and theirs), cook their food.

Look after the kids, go to work even though he might not be working, contribuite to the expenses of the house. All pay all if you are the only one working.


Help with the children's home work, be good in bed (not that am complaining about that). While he goes out with his friend 99% of the time.

Someone remind me why do we need them?

HELLO?? MUST YOU GENERALIZE? WHAT HAPPENED TO THE WORDS SOME, MOST, MAJORITY OF MEN?? What about the MEN that actually meet and exceed those standards you set up there? JOR O! i for one AM NOT LIKE THAT!!!

First killz I don't read romance novels.Well never have cz I don't leave in fantasy world.My interests are crazy.
Second when I say I have seen what real men do, c'mmon. What makes you think am referring to people that date us?
We have brothers,Fathers,Uncles,Cousins,Friends who are all male and we learn a few things from them.
Before I meet the male out there,I have met other males in my family from whom av learnt a thing or two on what is expected of a 'real man'
Now that also depends on the kind of men around you.Cz If you are sorrounded by male who set up a standard then you definately want to meet a man who does not fall below the already set standard you got exposed to.
Now listen,we are not talking 'material here' But CHARACTER!

THAT'S IT! RIGHT THERE! Exposure! And the last time i checked, EXPOSURE VARIES! So you cant JUDGE ANYONE by your own STANDARDS of EXPOSURE! Cos "EXPOSURE" to that person might be different!

wen d guys are so abusive, lettin ones guard down wld let u get d insult of your life.

Relax JOR! "Some GUYS" are abusive! What of those that are NOT? And Majority of GIRLS go about with this kinda face ( ) Why?

^^Or maybe her intellect was to much for him to comprehend

I'll say the opposite! That's why the guy had to drink, to forget his "PRESENT" Sorrow!

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Do you blame the girl?she too fine for that frog looking bosom sucker [/color]

LOL! I can Guess why! Her bosoms were DAMN TOO SMALL!

M M M:
op
it is tall and not tail
or
u have tail behind your back

pendo89:
Ok yeah at times esp when you start irritating and behaving like a girl

But its cz we have seen what 'real men' do and so when we meet 'sissys' they make us sick and they irritate.

I dont want a man who talks,thinks and acts like I do, no way! I want to feel the woman and him the man.There's must be a difference.

Some may manipulate as somebody said up there but others just want the man to stop acting like a woman and be a man.

This is why i always ask ladies to STOP WATCHING TOO MUCH MOVIES & KEEP OFF from READING ROMANCE BOOKS!. . . . . . HOW do you EXPECT ALL MEN to ACT out SCRIPTS in a MOVIE?   All MEN are not the SAME! ALL WOMEN are not the SAME TOO! Like Mynd 44 said "No woman can know what it really is to be a man and no man can know what it really is to be a woman"! Therefore it would be WRONG for ANYONE to JUDGE ANOTHER Based on Past experiences with other FOLKS!

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]^^You laff over anything.[/color]

I'm naturally easy going! But you have to agree that was funny!

Mygoldie:
Thanks!

i see you use that a defence mechanism,yes,but don't feel that people hate you,or are out to
insult you,just feel free to blend wherever you are,either on the internet or outside,be yourself.
Because the truth is the more you keep up with these e-fight,you sort of come across as ignorant and childish.

Be yourself and stop feeling inferior, am speaking in parables here,and i hope you'd understand.

and that adage of ''if you want my trouble,i will give it to you double'' doesn't always help matters,but rather,
it complicates issues.

LOL! that only works OFFLINE! Online it WORKS! I dont know why, but i dont CARE about online REPUTATION! Gives a FALSE SENSE OF EGO!!! You try sha! I'll JUST BE ME!!! I NO SABI HIDE!

lefulefu:
OP looks like a female version of OBasanjo and yet she keeps talking about naija men"s looks
who dash monkey banana?

Mygoldie:
i tire oh,but no qualms.

sexkillz its high time you bring back your sweet side,you come across as too quarrelsome,
yes you might be right sometimes but not all the time and its not as if am saying you shouldn't argue,
but 75% of your post is based on argument,while the other 25% is either your praising women and stuffs,
which is not bad.

Yes this is the internet,but common bruv,chill out, relax your nerve sometimes.
Am talking to you as my lil bruv,cause i got a bruv as same age as you.Chillax and allow your good side supersede the rest.(don't wanna say your bad side though).
and i simply don't wanna sound like yo mama either,but please.



sorry OP.

Thanks! Noted! People mistook that smiling face for a fool! I have a bad side and it is very easily provoked! I dont fight, but people easily pick on ME! FE WHAT? THAT LOCKED THREAD SERVES AS WARNING! Anyone giving me trouble, GETS DOUBLE!

Mygoldie:
You caused it,quarell quarell,i bind you.

I HATE BULLSHIT JARE!!! They tot i was joking about LOCKING THAT THREAD DOWN! I was PISSED OFF MEHN!!! Wetin you do na! E be like say them carry you for mind since!

Mygoldie:
Lol@new id^^

but Op,this is pretty long to read,please rephrase.cheers!

U were BANNED TOO! SMOOTH!

Cuddlemii:
Hi sexykillz

I am alright but I am switching roles for the week

your post inspired me. I will flirt like a guy for a week

Flirt Like a guy? Why? Under the Cuddlemii username or . . .