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[quote author=s.depanace]WHAT IS LOVE?
‘Love is love only when it affects both sides’ (Kiswahili)

Have you ever been in love with someone who doesn't really care about you or love you as much as you do? Really, I must confess that it hurts, it’s killing, it’s crazy and disheartening to see someone you love, loving someone else.
Love is not love until it’s mutual. Don’t be deceived, there is no way you can entice, seduce or force someone to love you. You can’t buy love, you can only build it. If it is not love, it may only look like it, it can never be lovely. If you love someone so much and he/she does not reciprocate your love, it is better for you to step up, take heart and move on with your life. The longer you keep holding yourself down in a relationship without love, the greater your chances of getting hurt or misbehaving.

You can’t fake love, you can’t act it and you can’t even hide it, but you can create it. Love comes naturally. The first step to creating love, loving someone or being lovely is your ability to love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how would other people see reasons to love you? As from today, take time to love yourself for whom you are (irrespective of your physical, social and psychological challenges or deformity), if there is anything you need to change about yourself in other for you to love yourself, please start working on it now.

After loving yourself, the next step is to love other people around you genuinely. Don’t condemn people because they think and look differently; appreciate them for whom they are. Instead of focusing on people’s weaknesses or shortcoming, try to concentrate on the good qualities that they possess. In whatever you do today, always remember that ‘love is love when it affects both sides’. Have a lovely day!

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you can get more of this directly from the source: www.wordsofourancestors..com[/quote]Please help me out
How can I love myself
Need tips

Moyola: if u kant cater to such basics, leave her naa! no b u 1st talk say u luf her?!
This is wat guyz get wen they go for gurls they cant afford. . .
jus go for gurls ur pocket size kuz if u dont u'll defin8ly struggle, lyk he is.

How can I know a girl I can and can't afford without going for her?

MY POEM GOES
I love you
I love you
I love you
I love you
I love you

I want to grow old with you
I want to grow old with you
I want to grow old with you
I want to grow old with you
I want to grow old with you

Please be my queen, the love of my life
Please be my queen, the love of my life
Please be my queen, the love of my life
Please be my queen, the love of my life
Please be my queen, the love of my life

I want to grow old with you
Please be my queen, the love of my life
I love you

I think the answer is a big YES
The present salvage value of a partner(mostly girls) determine the quality of who get married to them
For example the possibility of an ex runz girl or some1 with history of abortions getting hooked to a legible and responsible man is very low because the man (or his family members) will always dig deep into the girls history. That is why bad girls (girls with history of irresponsibility) always end up marrying a widower or divorcee or a poor man or villager or handicapped man or ex-con or ex-kidnapper or ex-armrobber or as a 2nd/3rd wife
One thing is for sure, Every responsible family will always dig deep into the history of the external person coming into the family
Keep wondering why young people (esp girls) wanna screw up their future for the sake of having fun

lrguru: This OP is pathetic

Ok

Ucheosefoh: @op I can see u want to get notice on this section dats gud keep it up but u need 2 get urself busy offline

Word of advice
Learn to be respectful to people in furum because you don't really know who dey are in real life. I am capable of becoming your boss 2mro. Be focused on ur career too
Remb be humble too

[quote author=baibijay@yahoo.]guy u self no b good prson, u for no de ask ds kin qst[/quote]If I know d correct moral answer, I wouldn't be asking the question

oketoyinbofatim: u are very wrong both should L♥√E equally, bible said men should L♥√E there wivies more, wives should be summisive to there husband

I agree with you..Both should love each other but what I mean is whose love should be more??

binger: Smh

Hahahahahah
Dude We are in a free world
Check the Nigeria/Nairaland/USA constitution, there is something called 'freedom of speech/comment'

tashanja: Too bad, doubt you'll meet her criteria.

Anyway, if you had followed her thread, you for know say she no de send for guy wey get bed, but only for one wey dey plan to buy one and not in a hurry to bed am - hope you no too confuse

Ur comment is way too complex and complicated. I don't have bed and I'm not in a hurry to buy bed

Waiting for d 3alphabet answer

Just discovered my best friend in the university happens to fall in love with my secondary skul classmate
This girl I know in secondary is a chronic maniser and slept with almost all the guys in my ss3 class excluding me
Now My guy is asking me what I think about this girl
Should I talk or keep quiet??
And incase of any future relationship failure, hope I won't be held responsible

Real christians I mean practicing christians aka 'those whose follow Bible teachings' don't have time for sex due to their way of life.
Only wayward, unbelievers and unconcerned church followers find it 'no big deal' to sleep around
When you follow Christ in your everyday life and activities, you observe that sex don't even have time in your life because you don't have time to commit fornication

Since the man/boyfriend is the head of the family, bread winner, decision maker and the one paying the bride price, I feel the wife/girlfriend should love her man more than he love her
If it happens the other way round, then the man is bound to have problems with his extended family, friends and might even lose control of the relationship
Correct me if I'm wrong

onila:

Is it that you are a virgin on purpose or you are lacking opportunity

@op
Your comments is on point and true for 90percent of Nigerian girls
To all des guys saying sorry, its either you are with the 10percent good girls or you are on waiting list to be used as scapegoat or you just deceiving yourself on this forum
The poster have a good point here

I think the best way to test your GF commitment remains using an undercover guy to toast your GF and check her response

Nextworldnx: LMAOoooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maga don pay... Shout halleluyah....!!!!

My sister is Available too.

Funny enough I didn't spend more than 2000 on her
I keep postponing the other expenses and see if her demand will reduce instead it keep increasing

apache77: u met a girl on facebook and in real life she is supergorgoeus??
hmmm.....i have met several girls from facebook and bbm and none of them loooks half as good as their pictures so am sure you have low tate (no pun intended)
but WTF I dont believe any supergorgoeus Nigerian girl will meet you today and be talking marriage except you are Paddy Adenuga or a Dangote look alike.
And is she says she wanst to marry you and you say she is supergorgoeus, what are you waiting for? Put a ring on it and hit the pum. You can collect back your ring later

Are you serious??
Nigerian girls in general are hustlers not only facebook girls

specialguest: Use your descretion to determine if she is takes you for a fool or she genuinely needs the financial assistance.. If your instincts says she is taking you for a ride then she probably is.

Nice one lady
My instinct tells me she is playing me
Whenever we are together chatting, 70percent of the words that comes out of her mouth is either I am hungry, can I get a shawarma, lemme take d ice cream home, wanna change my hair do, I haven't been paid my IT stipend, I don't have transport money, I wanna rent my own house, can you send me recharge card, what will you buy me for valentine, I want to change my phone, I need a laptop, I havnt completed my computer training fees
Gusssh!!!!! I hate dis chick right now
Na me carry dis girl come lifeI be her papa??
INFACT THE RELATIONSHIP ENDS RIGHT NOW
Back to Single status

[quote author=baibijay@yahoo.]lmao..... u wan cry??[/quote]Ok