₦airaland Forum

hisgrace090:
HIV aids carriers are many today but they have learn to suppress it with antiviral medications.

Even at that, it is better to avoid it than to live on antiretroviral. Better to play carefully than risk one's entire life trying to suppress what is avoidable. Note - being +ve is not the end of the world, people can still live their life to the fullest BUT IT IS BETTER TO AVOID IT.

Angy55:
Yeah! Both parties should go for test immediately, and if even both results shows negative that shouldn't warranty having unprotected sex immediately. Maybe after six months when both parties have gone for a recheck then give it a go for those who don't enjoy it with condom on.

Exactly, this thing is more common than many people realise. PEOPLE SHOULD ENJOY WITH CAUTION

THIS EVENT HAPPENED A LITTLE OVER 2 YEARS AGO (Oct/Nov 2015).

I decided to share a personal experience from late 2015 in a Nigerian hospital. I was unwell as a result of an incident. I went to one hospital that was recommended by a friend, after seeing the doctor on duty, he got out a paper and wrote down a number of tests to be carried out. He gave me the paper and said, go to room XYZ and give this paper to the lab scientists, he will take blood samples and perform those tests. I knocked on the door and waited until a male voice from behind the door instructed me to come in.

I sat down with the man and while we were conversing and waiting for him to take blood samples, I noticed a big hard cover note (those long hard cover notes) not too far from where I was sitting, the note was open with a pen as if someone was writing just a few minutes before I got in, I was shocked and suddenly stoped talking when I noticed what was written boldly on the note "HIV REGISTER". I couldn't believe it because the note was large and had already gone past the middle with people's names and dates written on it. Apparently, they always write down names and date of test on the book (a register of positive people from their blood test). They were even careless with the register because at some point, he briefly left to an inner room. I was frequenting the hospital for about 4 days and became friendly with one of the nurses, when my results finally came, I had something less serious, then I used the opportunity to ask my nurse friend about their HIV REGISTER, she said, her exact words "hmmm my dear, you will be surprise at the level of positive results coming out everyday, we just have to be careful". - something along that line, not the exact words.

Though I sometimes talk dirty and I meet female friends every now and then but I can count how many times, I have had sex since then & UNPROTECTED SEX IS A COMPLETELY NO, NO FOR ME, NO MATTER HOW I FEEL ABOUT HER. I keep telling my friends that in my next serious relationship, we shall go for tests before sex.

Please guys, I am not making up stories & the hospital is still in existence. The point I am trying to make here is: PLEASE MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS, LET US BE MORE CAREFUL ABOUT OUR SEXUAL HEALTH, PLEASE I BEG YOU in the name of God. Say NO to quick sex, dickk/virgina sucking or deep kisses. If you must have SEX, use GOOD condoms, under no circumstance should you have unprotected sex, don't do deep kisses and licking of vigina and sucking peni.s, please don't. Fore play should be limited to running your hands all over, playing with nipples, clitories etc but don't EXCHANGE BODILY FLUID until you know each other's status. Dating is very good, I also date but we must be careful, use your head, simple. At the end of the day, abstinence/great restrain/being careful & using your head are the best strategies for protection.

THE DANGER HERE IS THAT THERE'S NO GUARANTEE WITH YOUR CURRENT BOYFRIEND. You really need to make a good and realistic judgement here. What if in 2 yrs time, he meets a 25 yr old sharp girl & fall for her? What if his feelings for you change in 2 yrs time? My sister there is no guarantee in that relationship, you have to be realistic, honestly. DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF PUTTING UR EGGS IN ONE BASKET O. At the same time, DO NOT rush into marrying that new guy. Date him SECRETLY without jeopadising ur current relationship. Before doing that stylishsly tell your bf that people are begining to introduce you to guys for marriage. You must tell him as a way of covering your self in future in case he finds out. Tell him abt ur age and ur family pressure, if he loves you so much, he will marry you right now.

Dont discard your long term relationship but also use ur head. Waiting 2 yrs for him is risky BUT DONT LEAVE HIM IN A HURRY

AloyalNigerian:
Where is d graphic?

Visit your doctor.

. Don't worry too much about money, just go to any government hospital and run a test, it shouldn't cost much. NO HOME REMEDIES O & don't be shy.

Optionally:
I don't think i can allow any doctor to see my privates

. Stop saying that, don't be shy. Go to a gov hospital and let them swipe u, it doesn't last for more than 5 min.

Optionally:
Here is the pics
REMOVED

Legend says Indian women are exceptionally beautiful but that's not really true. Over the years of my globetrotting India has never been on my list until I began looking for a partner and I considered India since I read the legends

After my experience with them, I have compiled 5 reasons you should not date an Indian. Leave the Indians to the Indians! Damn...

1) They are Unattractive:- Forget those you see in bollywood it's makeup. They don't shave especially their instrument region! They look older than their age in most cases.

2) They are prudes:- Many of them find Virginity a ticket to Odin's Disney Land! So they are very scared of taking off their clothes unless you are their husband so get ready for the "No sex before marriage"

3) Inferiority Complex :- They get offended and feel insulted when you are talking about a caucasian girl in an appreciating manner or having pics of Caucasian females on your mobile phone. They feel inferior and have low self esteem in that regard...

4) Your children will be BROWN AND UGLY!

5) They are feminists and Mentally Ill:- According to the legends, Indian females are sick and in the U.S 89.89% of Indian women are feminists. . Bullsh!t

India should be your last destination for a partner

This is seriously racist @ poster. You want to be more careful next time.

QueenSuccubus:
None of my offline (real world) friends nor my family knows about it.. I don't want any of them to know & worried about me.. But I will tell them once its all done.. For now I juz pretend nothing happened.

Lol, ok be safe.

QueenSuccubus:
@bolded, what do u mean by that?

You met the man through other people, have you told them?

QueenSuccubus, what have you done? any update? Have you told the people who introduced you

angelboy01 forgive and forget. You will be surprise to find that the new woman may not also be perfect. Think of your daughter who will end up having a part time or absentee father. It is good that you made a stand, she will always think twice in future, if you guys get together. Be patient.

Nobodys:
The topic though...would have been better without the emphasis on ladies.......

Ladies and Men are Carrier of these diseases......Lots of men have sex without condom, get infected and no symptoms shows up in them ....they go ahead and fuvk a clean babe and boom the next morning it's itching her and all the symptoms starts manifesting.....

Piece of advice, DONT EVER ENGAGE IN UNPROTECTED SEX..... . Na u go suffer pass and in most cases u risk the chance of passing it on to ur unborn babies....

Wash ur hands and vagina after sex..... viruses like HPV which cause genital warts can be contacted even with a Condom.....say a guy has d wart on his balls and u have sex with a Condom....my dear if u don't wash up then be ready to see warts on your perineum ......same goes to guys...u finger a girl with warts and use same hand to touch ur divk without proper wash expect the warts..... So many diseases and infection, pls you really don't wanna experience it...no matter what use a condom...............

Words of wisdom

sisisioge:
Where is my laptop

Lol

sisisioge:
He couldn't believe God had finally found him a good thing ni

My run away love

None is correct - got to be "so you don't know that I know you". "knew'' is a past tense, meaning that you use to know the person

Nigeria is only in the WCUP to complete the number

LivingFree:
FULL STORY

came across your blog on facebook and i like the way you handle issues and your advice to people on their problem that’s why am sharing mine.

I met my biological father for the first time in my life in 2012 being in my early twenties. Both of them were still in secondary school when i was conceived. My mum never told me anything about my dad not even his name when i was growing up. She was married out when i was 4years old so i have to stay with my maternal grandmother. When i started school, my surname was my grandfather’s name. At the age of 8 my mummy came for me and i have to stay with her and my stepfather and that’s when my suffering started. I suffered several form of abuse except sexual abuse. I also have to change my surname to that of my stepfather. Everyone wanted me to accept my stepfather as my real father but i didn’t like him at all because he treated me different from the way he treats my siblings. I will always tell my friends in school that my stepfather is not my biological father which everyone were made to believe and i will received scolding and sometimes beating when my mum finds out about it, still that didn’t stop me from not believing what they want me to believe. I was always praying to God make me see my biological father one day. When i finished secondary school, one of my senior cousins came to stay with us and one thing lead to the other she told me one day about my father and where i can locate his family. Unfortunately, we have relocated to a far away State, I had no means to travel down there and am also afraid of my mum and step father because my stepfather doesn’t even want to hear that i tell people that he is not my biological father.

*Note….* *My mum never mistreat me, infact she was my best and still is but i didn’t want to hurt her because i believe she might have been hurt by my father that’s why she never wanted to have anything to do with him* When my cousin told me my daddy’s name i went to search for him on Facebook but i couldn’t find him. One day i summon courage to tell my mum that am searching for my father and surprisingly, she told me if that is what i want i should go ahead. She then gave me his full details but still wouldn’t tell me what happened between two of them and i didn’t stretched it. I sent friend request to one of his brothers on facebook but he didn’t accept. I started opening up to my friends about my background and luck came to my side one day when one of my friends told me that he knows who can connect me to one of my father brother. That was the happiest day of my life. That day i knew God answer prayers even though it might take longer sometimes. I started praying that prayer from age 4.

My friend later send me my uncle no. which i texted immediately. I told him my mummy’s name and my father’s name which happen to be his brother. I told him to please connect me with his brother(my biological father). Within 5mins he called me and requested to speak to my mum. My mum wasn’t around at the time i received my uncle’s number so i haven’t told her about the new development. When she came back i told her that i have found my father and she was surprise because she has already told me to forget about it since we tried so many times without good result. She has been telling me that am a woman that when am married i wouldn’t need him again but my curious and desperate mind wouldn’t let me yield to that advice because i wanted to experience fatherly love which i never get from my stepfather.

My father siblings started calling me and requested to speak with my mother first. At the end of the day my father called and talked with my mum. We spoke regularly. I begged my mum not to let my stepdad knows about it because he won’t let me go and base on what i heard my dad is a very stubborn person so he won’t also come for me. My dad and i arrange to meet. I lied to my stepdad that am travelling to meet a friend and i will be staying with her for a while to search for work which he agreed and released my primary and secondary school credentials. I first met with my dad family which were close by and then proceed to a very long distance to meet my dad. I was so happy that my dream has finally come through. He apologized for not showing up in my life since i was born and told me that i was a forgotten issue and that words really Pierce my heart. He said he didn’t know i existed.

I forgave him instantly. I thought i will have a beautiful life that i always dream of not knowing that i just entered hell.
At the time i met him, he and his wife just divorced and i happen to be the only one that was with him. He has two other children which were also not with him at that time. Many people including some of his family members told me that i can’t stay with him for long because he is  very temperamental which I turned deaf ear to it all because i wanted to be loved by my father. My dad is what i called *Narcissist*, he is *egoistic*. Nothing i do pleases him. He will be acting nice and loving in one minute the next he will be lashing out at you for every little mistake you commit. He will abuse me physically and verbally. He will used my past that i told him to abuse me for hours, he will abuse my mum for every slightest chance he got. I saw hell but i can’t leave because i have nowhere to go as i have already told my stepdad that i have seen my biological dad. I felt so alone, i couldn’t tell my mum all am passing through because i didn’t want her to worry. My dad manipulated me into thinking the whole fault of me not meeting him earlier is my mum. He made me to start hating my mum to the point that i stopped talking to my mum for a whole year which i regretted later. He fought with all his sibling, i dare not report him to any of my Aunties and uncles. I endured it all after all am the one that look for him. He always reminded me that he didn’t look for me.

To the glory of God, after two years i got admission into Polytechnic, at least that lessen my suffering but he will still call and disturbed my peace. I pray for him day and night to marry so that he can divert his attention from me, he eventually did marry but the abuse never stop whether am in school or during holidays. He will make me apologise even when he is the offender. The wife too was not left out, he abuses the wife too regularly. I quickly became friends with the wife which didn’t go well with him. He will want me to support/side him when they have issues even when he is wrong but i can’t do that. I like and care for the wife as i do with my own mother. I thought the wife was my friend not knowing she has her own mission. She wanted to send me out of the house so she can bring in her own children. She will laugh and play with me in my present and at the back she will paint me black to my dad. My dad on the other hand if i tell him anything about the wife in confidential he will still tell the wife. To my foolishness, i trusted both of them like my own self. Soon, his second daughter(my half sister) joined us. We will never have peace in our house for a whole day. My dad will never go a day without quarrelling with one of us. The wife started taking side with the husband. My dad always made us feel like we have no life just because we were born out of wedlock. He will accuse me without letting me defend myself. Everything he say is final. But whenever we are outside, he will show us love that his friends will jealous him. He is a young man with grown up children. He will regularly reminds us of how privilege we are to have him as our father, meanwhile he didn’t have any child with the first wife that he married for many years. All three of us he has is from different women when he was in school. When the wife told him she was pregnant again after serious of miscarriages, hell let loose in the house. We became nothing in the house, name has already been given to the unborn child, he said he need a male child because we are three girls. The wife also became thorn on our flesh.

One day, as usual he was reminding us of how privilege we are to have him as our father, we playfully told him that he is also privilege to have us as his children and that he should be grateful to our mothers for taking care and training us to the level we are before we met him. We told him that it’s not easy for someone to just wake up one morning and have grown up children that he too should also be grateful to God just as we are. I jokingly told him that even when am married i will still be collecting allowance from him. All these we said playfully not knowing that our father has taking it personal. He told the wife and his family that we confess to him that we were the cause of his first wife barrenness, he called me 419 that i came to him so he can train me in school( it’s just National Diploma that i have). He painted us black to everyone that cares to listen. The wife also took advantage of the situation and make sure she throw us out of the house. Just that they came out for morning devotion before us, my dad ask to leave his house. He almost threw me out naked. He ceased my phone and lock our room so we were on only one cloth for there days and three nights. My half sister and i slept outside for 3nights. I have pictures and voice record to everything he had done to us, though i have not shown it to any member of the family yet. Am still trying to protect his image. He called our mother and gave them insult of their lives. He wrote to the care taker and the security not to allow us into the compound. After much begging from family, he asked us to write apology letter which we did before he let us into the house. Am sure the wife was very angry when we were allowed to enter the house so she plotted another plan.

Just after two days of the whole drama, i was in the kitchen sweeping and my sister was cooking, the gas finished, when my sister told her about the gas, she just called me rudely to go and fill the gas, i answered her that am coming because i wanted to throw the dirt that i packed after sweeping. Before i came back i just heard her reporting me to my dad that she called me five times and i refuse to answer. My dad asked my sister if she is saying the truth and she told daddy that i answered her even with the first call, before i could say anything my stepmum started abusing me and telling me that he will make the house hell for me, all this happen in my dad present. He didn’t stop her, he even told me to stay put and received every insult she give me when i wanted to step out so i won’t be tempted to reply her. She abused me to her satisfaction. She called every member of our family that she can no longer stay with us, she called my dad that has gone to work that when he comes back he should choose between us and her. To our greatest surprise, our Aunties started calling me # i quote her# She called my name* and said that child that the woman is carrying is so precious to me if anything happen to that child, i and the rest of the family will never forgive you# I was shocked, none of the family members wanted to listen to our own explanation. Anything my dad and stepmum said is final. When my dad came back in the evening he called my sister and i to parlour, after much abuse, he told us that he had a meeting with his family and they concluded that they don’t want us in their family anymore. He gave me two days to leave his house. My sister was still writing her NECO so he ask her to stay with his sister and finish her exam and after her exam he will send her back to her mother. I knew that was what i should have done since but because i was adviced to endure because of my marriage. I was ask to endure so he can give me his blessings for marriage.

I have a fiance which we were planning our introduction at the moment. I kept enduring because of marriage, unfortunately i was thrown out of the house. I wasn’t even allowed to pick my things myself, it was my sister and the security that packed my stuff outside after much begging because they wanted to ceased my belonging. My fiance came to pack my things to his place. I was hospitalized for a week because of the stress and severe beating that i received from my father. I rented my own apartment after one month. I also have to cancelled my introduction.

*To my main concern now*
When we later fix another date for my introduction. I still called my dad to inform him, he refuse to pick my calls. I call my Aunties, they ask me to write him apology letter which i did and way billed to him. I sent him several text messages and WhatsApp messages which he didn’t respond to any. The family sent a representative to come and help us settled the matter, My Aunty was just taking side with him and his wife calling us liars, she told us that it is a privilege for us to have a father, we were not even allowed to talk yet i still knelt and apologized for offense i know i didn’t commit. Maybe, I apologized for being born out of wedlock. My heart is bleeding as am writing this. When he started picking my calls, he gave condition that i must come back to the house before he can say anything about my marriage. We have been dragging this matter of introduction and marriage since September,2017. I was thrown out of the house April,2017.

*NOTE* The wife lost that their precious pregnancy and they are now divorced. I think he has gone back to staying alone.*The worst part is that up till now he still blame me for all that happen in his life. I don’t know what i have done for him to hate me that much. He said i cause all the trouble in his house yet he want me to come back to the house. I have pleaded with his elder brothers to conduct the introduction in their place but they said they can’t do it because my father will come after them later.

Please admin,
What should i do?
Can i do my marriage without him and how?

*NOTE* my fiance’s family are also insisting that my father must agree before they do anything since he is still alive. They even advice me to go back to the house if that is what he want before he agree to my marriage. After all i passed through, i don’t i can spend even a day with my dad. Am confuse.

All good advice will be welcome and appreciated.
Thanks a lot.

Wow, some Men are terrible. Going back there is a NO, NO

OritaIbadan:
This story get K-leg . There is no way a soldier can open fire on people who just sat outside their premises, even a drunk soldier may not do that. Lets avoid spreading lies

I am not an ibo man but don't talk as if you don't live in Nigeria where Police and Army personnel regularly shoot people at the slightest provocation. We pray that we should not see evil. Please don't defend them because they regularly do this. I AM PAINED AT WHAT THE MILITARY IS DOING IN IBO LAND AS REGARDS THIS BIAFRA PROTESTS.

I WISH THEIR GOVERNORS WERE BOLD ENOUGH TO SPEAK FOR THEIR PEOPLE. THIS STUPID IPOB MOVEMENT AND KANU HAVE CAUSED SO MUCH DEATHS IN IBO LAND, INNOCENT YOUTHS KEEP GETTING KILLED.

Ibo people should pursue their independence through the UN, this barbaric style is costing so much in terms of human lives. THESE YOUTHS SHOULD STOP WASTING THEIR LIVES PLS.

pocohantas:
Nah, he isn't nice. He is broke and it has obviously affected his self-esteem. Men are not magnanimous enough to forgive a cheat and not bring it up later. This is the reason I would break-up with him, if I were you. You're definitely not going to start a marriage with him, having that in mind. That's me assuming you guys will marry, which is highly unlikely, considering the pressure ladies face and how long it takes a young man to stand on his feet.

You both are definitely going to part ways, LATER.
So, why not now?


If you like the other guy, give it a shot(with your head). It's a vicious cycle. Some young guy has to lose his girlfriend for an older financially stable guy to get married

But this your title sha @ jobless boyfriend. Looks like his joblessness is a problem o. Try not to cheat on your next.

You seem matured and intelligent for ur age

Cynie42:
Fellow nairalanders. I am confused please, i own a supermarket and v been in a relationship with my current bf whoz not yet working after his Nysc, we v been dating for 3 years now and it has been going well even though I v cheated on him twice, but he forgave me, hez nice. My problem now is that I v a customer, we are extremely close to the extent that we do discuss everything together. am even now closer to him than my bf, hez like a bestie.

But hez now asking me out and pple are telling me to answer him saying its advisable to date ur best friend than anyone else and I don't want to hurt my bf anymore and I don't want to hurt this guy too, he has bin nice to me...pls what's ur take on this, what do you advice i should do?

No insult plz

Madam forget the no insult on Nairaland cos these guys here will deal with you big time . The truth is, if your customer is ready and thinking about marriage, surely you have to go with him but if his intention is to play football on that grass then I'll advice you remain where u r

Op, you will be surprise to know that married people don't have as much sex as single folks. It is soooo general, married people over time becomes roommate or neighbours. They have sex off and on, never consistent like single people.

I must say that I have learnt a lot from you guys, although I noticed very little participation from our sisters .

majorbravo:
Op I have a solution for you. But it won't work except you are really serious about her and want to take things further.

It's simple, find out her talent and become manager like davido, you'll be the one collecting bonus, but first give her assurance, if not another sharp guy can swoop her off you and you end up like teebillz

this one na talent you de use joke so. Better turn music writer lol

adetoroamos:
nawa Ooo, kid everywhere so na laptop be ur main problem. I get two in my office and one at home. smh, broke girls everywhere. op no b only u me self they do one thing now that I don't even have any interest in any girl if konji catch me then I go brothel.

@ I go brothel, GOD FORBID. I prefer demanding girls to prostitutes.

sisisioge:
Since you have three, give me one nau. May God continue strengthen your muscles!

This babe and her laptop lol. Abi you wan go into yahoo? What do u need a laptop for?

gonkin:
My dear what if that poor girl you dated later becomes richer than you.

I have dated girls, purchased so many phones i lost count, even my final nysc allowance that was 39600. I used 35k to buy phone for a girl. I have never bought a girl laptop though, if its school i have sponsored. I didn't feel bad about it. Dont let that make u feel bad also i know how u feel. Nobody wishes to be poor.
No matter how rich u are there's always someone richer than u that would think u are poor.
To u she may be poor but to some people she is wealthy.

Its fun to spend on a girl but when u dont have enough its horrible.

Any girl that deserves money from my pocket i will gladly spend on her whether she has or not.

What u should be scared of is a girl that demands without a conscience. Those are the girls i fear.

Funny i remembered one of my date. I purchased so much for her. She requests, i pay. Till one day i was up to the throat. She demanded some money to fix her hair. I just took off my rubber slippers dusted it on her face and walked away. It was so funny. Happened in Delta state. Those girls can hit you with so much bills.

A friend says they aint gold diggers cuz gold diggers digs for wealth. He said they are just DIGGERS cuz they keep digging and digging till there's nothing more to dig then the leave u

I didn't say that I am rich o, poor used here means broke. I'm just managing. I just wanted to get people's opinion on this issue cos I was wondering if it is a general problem or wether my won is a special case lol. But from my findings here, it seem normal for most guys so maybe we should just keep paying the bills and move on. Nothing spoil.

speedfreak:
Simple!! You like better thing but no wan spend. Women will always depend men, maybe you should up your hustle, so that you can date bigger girls. The 27 n 28 still ask just so you know,its recharge card and small change now with an older girl its house rent and upkeep her salary can't cover. There's nothing irresponsible about asking for assistance from time to time

. Ok, looks like guys just have to keep paying the bills then. All good.

All these boys joining cults in this Modern day, what a waste.

Elder001:
Most young girls are
still schooling
some don't have jobs
some are from poor families

how do you expect them not to demand from you?

if you can't date responsible matured 27/28 years + ladies then stop complaining.

please!

It's NATURAL FOR MEN TO LOVE YOUNGER WOMEN, ITS JUST NATURAL. That is why society always pressure girls to marry at 25, after that age, their families will start PRESSURING them to get a man ASAP, because the older you get as a lady, the more difficult it will be getting a husband. Female children are coming into this world every day and as time goes on, the competition will be too much for older ladies. Therefore, the pressure for girls to get married immediately after university education. Remember that the former CBN Governor, married an 18 year old girl about 2 years ago fresh blood. Who no like better thing? Firm breasts, body and pucsy cat way fresh, plenty Lagos Boyz never pass through. . Its only natural. But guys of these days no mind 30 or 32, personally I DONT MIND AT ALL.. They will come with experience and will be ready to settle down quietly.

Elder001:
LOL! it depends on the kind of people you roll with.


Date matured focused ladies that are above 28 and you'll agree with me.

So now you de spoil market for 23+ or younger ladies lol. No love for them?

@ Elder001 . You must be speaking from experience, I think you are right there, 23, 24, 25 are a MAJOR BURDEN LOL Give me this and give me that. I actually haven't dated anybody above 26 but will surely like to, though women will always be women. My Mum has a good job but still demand from my papa

Elder001:
you lie. try dating working class ladies that are above 27/28 years old.
They won't make unnecessary demands from you.

the problem with you guys is; the preference for young girls"
you guys should note that these young girls are still dependent and many are from poor homes.

WORD, I think you are right there. Its not about preference as such, I just think these younger girls are easily approachable and always ready to mingle so lots of guys drift towards them. I don't mind 28 or 30 but they are USUALLY MARRIED OR IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP.

jwals:
Sorry, just that from the beginning if has being so, even if they no demand, he should be worried ooooo lol, because anoder person fit dey help you service her needsooo, SO SEARCHING FOR A GIRL DAT DOES NOT DEMAND, MY FRIEND NA ULTIMATE SEARCH BE THAT!!!

NL guys too funny

Elder001:
lol... what makes you think so?
you think all guys are mugus?

LOL!

comshots:
One told me straight that i would spend on her.Another one was indirectly telling her friend in my present that she could only date a guy who would be giving her ₦5k every month after i had asked her out.The other one asked me to lend her ₦5k to help cater for her sick mother.I no say that ₦5k go enter voicemail lastly.Well,i dey avoid them after that statement.There are other mugu to extract money from.

So who's the mugu now? Its things u do for love so most times u won't mind. Just that people naturally get tired when its becoming excessive.

Also I observe that guys keep these expenses secret. But honestly this thing is getting out of hands, imagine, my very good friend who is doing well left a girl he was considering settling down with because of her selfish attitude of excessive demands, they had gone far but the guy still left.