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Your story get as e b
I really wish I kud giv an advice
But I don't even knw wat to say

Keep licking. So that emaka go sell him closeup

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blesseenE:
if ur made told u to quit using social media will u do it? Maybe it is his own way of being jealous

she definately hav to reduce it sshe has more responsibility then
Except if she is a house wife that she wil even hav time fr dat
But who will she b chatting with? Yu knw she still hav dos male frns hu wil stil b asking her out

This is how our nigeria of today is
Ruled by corrupt leaders, with high budget. But nothing to show
With our wealth we are still suffering





Ego beta my pipo

blesseenE:
yea. I believe it should be more of trust, love and understanding not rules

it even better that he gave her d rules b4 even thinking of marriage so dat not wen dey ar married he wil ask her to stop som tins she hav been doing

It is now upto her if she can cope wt it or not
For the guy to giv dos rules as u call it
He must have sighted som ish in her mode of dress nd watsoever
And also remember alll those cloth you wear as. A lady that you ar going to. Wear as a married lady
U need to b more decent. So that you wil bring up more decent kids
In case of socially media I dnt have much take on that but he know why he is giving out that law mayb she is. A media frick like me

1. You’re needy. You met him last weekend, he texted a few times, and now you just won’t leave the guy alone. You went from 0 to 60 in a few days. You’re already planning for next weekend. This is probably the #1 behavior that gets girls labeled psycho in the early days.

2. You like players. You say you want a nice guy, but you fall for the same lines again and again. You can’t resist the bad boys, the ones who have dumped on other women. You think that you will be different, that nabbing a player will validate your feminine powers. But the player always wins, because the player always walks.

3. You’re a princess. You want a man who will proclaim to the world that he is whipped as butter. He will worship the very ground you walk on. Trouble is, the only men who will happily inhabit a one-down position in a relationship have no balls. Do you really want a guy who will eagerly go to a bunch of chick flicks with you? Wouldn’t you rather accompany him to Transformers from time to time?

4. You flirt too much. Flirting is an essential skill in any woman’s toolkit. It is meant to indicate to a guy that you are singling him out for special attention because you are attracted to him. If you flirt like crazy with every Y chromosome you encounter, it loses its effectiveness, and makes you seem “not very choosy.” Also, if you are spending time with a guy but can’t stand the idea of hiding your light under a bushel, he is not going to appreciate your flirting with other men. It makes him look and feel less manly, and awakens unwelcome feelings of jealousy.

5. You’re not in the game. If you’re shy, reserved, or aloof, you are not approachable. Many beautiful women are ignored by guys because the odds of rejection are too high. You also telegraph likely rejection if you hold back. If you find a guy attractive, meet him halfway by signaling your interest with eye contact and a smile. If you know him, pay him some attention.

6. You’re too picky. You want a guy who is well-educated, financially successful, handsome, funny, witty, generous, blah blah blah. You want a 10. Get realistic. How about well-educated, funny and generous? Or handsome and witty, but a poet, i.e. broke? Perhaps financially successful, generous and fun to be with, but never went to college? Keep an open mind when you’re sizing up men. Allow yourself to find the good.

7. You’re a Girl Gone Wild. Stop dancing on tabletops when you’re drunk. In fact, stop getting drunk. Drunk is ugly. No one, male or female, ever became more attractive when they got drunk (beer goggles just fool you into thinking they did). When you are drunk, you say and do foolish things. Step away from the beer pong table. If you wouldn’t do it sober…then you really don’t want to do it at all.

8. You’re ditzy. I once knew a very smart woman who exclaimed at a frat party that she thought Mt. Rushmore was a natural phenomenon. I don’t know why some women love to get all girly and giggly. I suppose it makes them feel sexier, a la Marilyn Monroe. If you’re with a guy who wants his women stupid, you need a new guy. Lose the simpering act.

9. You’re a Mean Girl. Seriously, stop being a bitch. I’ve heard guys speak in awe (and fear) of mean girls, but Chuck Bass is the only guy I’ve ever seen who really wanted to love one, and he’s fictitious. Sometimes, guys want to get with mean girls because they’re powerful, but that relationship isn’t about love.

10. You’re high maintenance. You always feel slighted. He’s always saying and doing the wrong thing. Your feelings are constantly hurt, and he is constantly apologizing. Fighting all the time can be rewarding in the short-term, because it amps up the sexual tension for makeup sex, but ultimately it’s a total boner-killer.

11. You’re aggressive. You act like one of the guys. You pursue, make moves, call the shots. You say that you’re a liberated woman, so you can grab whatever cock grabs your fancy. That will get you laid, but try to remember that it’s the male of the species that got the big dose of testosterone. That male is biologically programmed to seek his complementary opposite – which includes a much larger dose of estrogen. You can be strong, independent, and very, very female.

12. You’re self-absorbed. You talk about yourself all the time. You talk about your ex all the time. You cry on his shoulder all the time when you don’t get what you want. You’re not really giving. You’re not emotionally engaged in a caring and generous way. If you’re not curious about him; if you are not hungry for details about who he is and what he’s into, then maybe he’s the wrong guy. Or maybe you’re the wrong girl.

13. You’re a homebody. You’re not out there meeting new people every day. You are not going through each day looking to interact with and smile at attractive and approachable people. And by the way, get off the cell phone. The adorable guy behind you in line at Starbucks can’t say hi if you’re on your phone, plus he’s hearing you sound like a complete idiot with your BFF.

14. You’re too hard to get. Yes, everyone likes a challenge. No one likes eager or desperate. But employing “The Rules” or some other silly tactic is just going to leave you solo. If he asks you out spontaneously for tonight, that’s a real invitation. If you are interested, accept. A guy’s suggesting a plan on the spur of the moment is not him treating you badly. It’s him expressing an interest in spending time with you. (Obviously, do the opposite of what I say here if it’s a booty call situation.)

15. Your number is too high. OK, fine, you don’t want any guy who cares about how many people you’ve slept with. Problem is….that’s most guys. You don’t have to tell anyone your personal data. Just be aware that when you’re making the rounds within a certain community or group of friends, word gets out fast. I don’t think there has ever, ever been a guy who got laid and didn’t tell anyone about it afterwards. If your number is high and that fact is well known, you have every right to find a new pack of males and revirginate reinvent yourself.

16. You’re flaky. A plan is a commitment. Don’t blow someone off when something better comes along. Don’t ditch him because your friend “really needs you.” Don’t double book yourself. Don’t be late. Don’t get drunk and not show. Women constantly complain that men aren’t reliable, but I’ve seen plenty of women flake out on guys.

17. You’re materialistic. You know what? The best dates are cheap dates. In fact, I think the best dates I ever had were actually free dates. Cooking together. Hanging out. Taking a long walk. I met my husband in graduate school, and he was dead broke. He was paying his own way and had very little money. We’d only been together a month or so when my birthday rolled around. He gave me very inexpensive fun earrings, but what I remember is the card he made. All it said on it was: Head Over Heels. That was the best birthday gift ever.

18. You’re scared. You’ve been burned before. You are understandably wary. This leads you to be withholding. He puts it out there, lays it on the line, and you just can’t reciprocate. You really like him, but you just don’t want to get hurt again. This means he knows up front that he will be the one to get hurt. No guy will stick around to watch that happen. You’ve got to find a way forward. There is no love for any of us without considerable risk, so do what you need to do to work through it.

19. You’re rigid. You have plans for Saturday night, but his buddies are going to a game that night, would Friday be OK? You say, “No, you made plans with me first. And Saturday is date night.” He picks you up and mentions that one of his friends and his gf will be joining the two of you for dinner, if that’s OK. It’s not. You’re miffed that you two won’t be having a night alone. He wants to go to the party, you don’t. You grudgingly agree to go and stay for an hour. After an hour, you want to leave, he’s having a great time. You let him know that an hour’s up and it’s time to leave RIGHT NOW. Being rigid is largely about asserting control. That’s never a winning relationship tactic.

20. You’re a pushover. You put up with all kinds of crap. You allow yourself to be booty called and stood up. You allow him to tease you in a not-affectionate way (comments about your weight come to mind). You allow him to pick fights, and then forgive him for flirting or hooking up with another girl in the two hours you were broken up. If you do not respect yourself, he certainly isn’t going to respect you, and your value in his eyes will tank.

blesseenE:
Am learning @yahx, but really i was pissed off when the babe told me the rules... I was like after 5yrs+?, in this age?, are this rules feasible?. Some desperate babes might say yes though..lol

b4 u venture in marraige make sure yu both understand each oda

And if their is going to b an agreement betwenn you both b4 opening the vail

If they shld b any rule I tink it shld b agreed by both parties b4 d wedding
so that there won't b any rule dat will affect one party in order to sertisfy the oda

blesseenE:
Am learning @yahx, but really i was pissed off when the babe told me the rules... I was like after 5yrs+?, in this age?, are this rules feasible?. Some desperate babes might say yes though..lol

b4 u venture in marraige make sure yu both understand each oda

And if their is going to b an agreement betwenn you both b4 opening the vail

If they shld b any rule I tink it shld b agreed by both parties b4 d wedding so that there won't b any rules dat will affect one party in order to sertisfy the oda

Going to un invited parties
I saw a gal that we rocked in a club the next day that was on sunday leading praises fr skul
Remain smal my turn muslim

rudebouy:
Bros, na so I see am oh. I called her today and I cdnt believe I was giving her ideas, actually negotiating with her on when she can come see me. It was like I was trying to book an appointment with a celebrity. She kept saying 'Am so busy. Am so busy'.

Na wa oh!

mhen I told. Her today is d last day I wil call you dat was 3weeks. Ago RIP my love

2rhymestharap:
i know this is a question bothering females about why some guys date more than 20girls,, why some hit and run,, why some hit you n your friends... is it because you not good enough , is he just wicked?

no bae,, most girls unleash the bad sides cos every player got a good past ,,, but you girls are the main reason

WHY?

"I REMEMBERED WHEN I USE TO BE SWEET" is a common experience with guys to girls.. but due to frustration , peers , Heartbreaks , Friendzoning and all that everything fades and the devil within rises and one just turn off the sweet side and go bad...

take me for example.. im a grand player.. 2015 alone bleeped 18 different girls already.. in 3months... 2014 was worse ... but i used to be sweet.. like shy , quiet , and loved... i fell in love once and i waited 2years for her still didnt get a YES or NO .. she friendzoned me for 4yrs.. i got frustrated and let her go.. thanks to AMERICAN PIE 1-8 boosted my morale and made me realize .. being a grand mothaavuca rocks better than watching bollywood movies for a love , happy ending thingyy....

There are lota guys outthere who cant talk to a girl, nor express how he feels , can even sit with a girl alone in a room for 3hours without touching her .. after she gone friends turn up to ask how it went,, when you reply you didnt have sex they say things like

"chai, you be f.k up guy... you no bleep am"
"you be confirm mugun"

all those words will boost a guy up up to turn off your goodsides to turn on the devil... i was worse before in talking to a girl , as in worse ... but now if i colet babe number within 2days if we no bleep make i no no wetin cause am...

but every playboy , badboy got a normal boyboy life.. something unleashed the devil within em....

if you still dey fight heartbreaks , fall in love , its a matter of time... girls will come crawling when you change sides to a bad one..

so girls.... RESPECT OR REGRET..

like me ladies made me a player cous of som habit dey exhibit #pushes me to double nd triple date

blesseenE:
Hi pals, please help me analyze this issue if marriage is a contract or should be seen as one?
A girlfriend of mine explained to me that she is doubting whether to accept her boyfriend of 5yrs+ marriage proposal. Reason is because he gave her the following rules:
1) You must not wear trouser when we marry
2) You must exit from all social media (nairaland included)
3) You must dress decent at all times and not keep long nails etc.
The rules were much sha....she then ended by saying that the boyfriend told her if she agrees to all this, they will go ahead and wed.

Please what do you think? Abi marriage na contract? Or is the guy simply a traditionalist abi na Chauvinist? Comments pls..

marriage is a contract if ordained my God wen two pepz com to an agreement to be wt each oda as one#my on view sha o #dnt mention nd insult me abg

rudebouy:
I havent seen my gf dis year!

I deliberately didnt want to see her in January becos I was fasting doe we spoke on fone.

Den she travelled in february. She has been back for the past two weeks and I am yet to set my eyes on my gf. D funny tin is she lives just 15mins away from ma place. And she claims she is busy.

She is not working, she is waiting to go for service with badge A corpers. And I dont know wot she is doing dat makes her too busy to see me. She doesnt call anymore cos she says she's broke. Flash nko? For wia! Send mtn 'pls call me' text nko? For wia!

Funny enof, she says she is missing me. Do I still have a girlfriend?

bro like na same sickness dey wori us I just call but I don't think shez on my mind anymore
Do I still have a galfrnd no I dont

Nice move. Any how any means we just want to wipe bh off our nation. R IP the remaining bh in advance

Litttle explanation atlist

sinaj:
lol abeg o! na lie o!
my husband de nairaland o!

I hop nobbi seun b4 him block me

sinaj:
in the classroom during break huh

yea! D teacher almost caught us lol

OtunbaJega:
Dont know why. I often feel something so wrong doing the right things e.g loving a girl

aint kuk bro try your best nd show som love excpt if u dnt lov her

I guess this nigga has been heartbroken
Or he is a gay or a self servicer

Wow. Wow wow. Am speechless gurl
Niggaz dnt wnt to acpt d fact dat teddy mean alot

kevinberry:
We are both saying the same thing...all they know is to appreciate your effort with sex..at the same time blowing different colours of dic.k behind you...

I naturally hate sex...
Romance is enough for me


*Berry*

has ur gal fu*k u up b4 u sound like a broken record
Am not saying appreciate your gal cous of sex but bcaus of the love you hav 4 her

kevinberry:
And what will the babe do to show her love for me...only to open her rotten punanny...smh...
Teddy bear kor...teddy cow nii...

*Berry*

love is not all abt sex bro get that #is just an appreciation of love bro

The Torture Of Loving A Person Who Doesn’t Love You Back

The first woman I ever fell in love with didn’t feel the same way about me. This wasn’t some sort of crush either. I really did fall in love and she really didn’t care for me that much. Sure, we would see each other pretty regularly. She was happy to see me, but not exactly for the same reasons as I was. I was happy just hanging out with her.

She was happy when we were f*cking. Which, what can I say, worked for me – at first anyway. I basically chased after her for two years – two long emotional rollercoaster years. Thankfully, my patience paid off and she ended up falling for me. Sure, it took a lot of heartache, headache and boxes of condoms, but I got her to fall for me in the end. This taught me two things. One: There are people in this world worth chasing. And two: It is possible to make someone fall for you even if she refuses to do so for years.

Love is a very complicated thing because it requires two people – two individuals who are usually as different as they are similar. Love itself is not something that exists outside the people who feel that they are in love. If that were the case, then every time one person fell in love with another, the other would automatically fall in love as well.

I really wish it were that simple, but believe me when I tell you it isn’t. Many of you have probably been in a similar situation to the one I described above and can likewise vouch that being in love with someone does not guarantee that this person will love you back. However, like beauty exists in the eyes of the beholder, love exists in the mind of the lover. For this reason, it is possible to make someone fall in love with you.

I should probably first start by saying that sometimes you simply can’t and won’t make some people fall for you. Love isn’t purely rational and sometimes people fall for people that they will never have. This is the reality that we all live in. Just because you feel a certain way about a person does not guarantee that this person will or can feel the same way about you. In order to love people, they have to fill certain needs.

We have to be sexually attracted to them. We have to find their personality appealing. We have to somewhat understand the way they think and appreciate the way they think. There has to be a sort of physical chemistry as well that helps push those emotions from our minds into our bodies so that we literally feel that we are falling in love.

It gets even more complicated when you think about all the little things that we find that we don’t like about people – things that have become engrained in us, starting at a very young age. All of this leads to the reality of the situation. All these things about a person that bother us make it difficult for us to be happy and being happy is what love is all about.

It isn’t always the imperfections that people see in you that makes them not love you. It gets even more complicated because falling in love isn’t just about meeting the right person. It’s about meeting the right person at the right time – at a time when you are capable and willing to fall in love.

If the individual you love isn’t in the right state of mind to love you then that person won’t love you. If he or she is not willing to fall in love, if he or she isn’t willing to consider the possibility that he or she may love you, then he or she will never love you. It’s not about falling in love, it’s about letting yourself fall in love. It’s about opening yourself up and making yourself vulnerable – something that many people refuse to do.

However, things like this do change with time. In my case, it took two years. In other cases, it takes much less time. What it really depends on is how well you can fill that person’s needs. If you can make him or her happy, satisfied, make him or her feel safe with you and trust you, then in time there is a good chance that he or she will fall for you.

The happier you make that person, the more likely it is that he or she will fall in love with you. Why? Because love and happiness are very closely related. Being in love is being happy. Being capable of making someone happy is the most appealing quality a person can possess. If you are in love with someone and believe that this person can one day love you, but simply aren’t in the right place in his or her life, then just make that person happy every time that you see him or her.

After a while, the correlation of happiness with that person’s interaction with you will lead him or her to be happy every time that this person sees you – he or she will be happy with the anticipation of happiness. If you really love someone then I don’t recommend that you give up on that person.

But keep in mind one very important thing: If you love someone then your one and only job as a lover is to make that person happy. If you don’t believe you can make him or her happy then accept the fact that it will never work ! So go away and let him/her find love




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