₦airaland Forum

Dpsychologist:
Ladies, if you are going to tell men they are beneath your level because they do not have money, at least be honest about whose money is creating the lifestyle you are using to establish that level.

There is nothing wrong with dating a wealthy man. Enjoying what your partner provides is not a crime, and nobody should shame you for it. The problem is when you start wearing somebody else's wealth as though it is evidence of your own financial achievement.

You are driving his car, living in his house, travelling with his money and enjoying a lifestyle his income created, then looking at a man who is still struggling to build himself and saying he is beneath you.

Beneath you based on what?

If the relationship ended tomorrow, what would remain that is actually yours?

Your education, your career, your business, your savings, your investments, your property and your ability to generate income are yours. Your boyfriend's bank account is not.

This is where some of the “I am above his level” talk becomes ridiculous. A man can be broke and still be building his way out of it. A woman can have access to a very wealthy man and still have little personal wealth of her own. Financially, those two people may have far more in common than she wants to admit.

The fact that someone wealthy chooses to spend money on you changes your lifestyle. It does not automatically change your financial position.

This applies to men too. A man dating a wealthy woman does not become wealthy simply because he drives her car and enjoys her money. Access is not ownership.

So have your standards. Date whoever you want. Reject whoever you want. Nobody is entitled to your relationship.

Just do not confuse being connected to wealth with creating wealth.

If you want to tell a struggling man that he is beneath your financial level, make sure you actually have a financial level of your own.

Because wealth is not sexually transmitted.

An husband and wife are one, whatever a man owns is for the benefit of his family, in which his wife and children are integral part of. You don't separate husband wealth from his wife because she is also part of his empire and existence.

Men works hard, not only for themselves but their families ( both nuclear and extended). A wife has every right to represent his husband wealth, because she is his natural next of kin.

Lamasta:
The question is are the young ones performing The legend has retired bit the coach brought him back so he should turn down his country request or what

That was why I said the coaches are the problem. The young ones are performing better withiout him, he creates a lot of disunity and distraction for the team and the coaches. The team lacks coordinations seeing him on the pitch. Besides, no Portuguese players will genuinely loves seeing someone who has been taking the glory since they were small and still taking theirs when they should be at the center of attention themselves.

He should have honorably hanged the boots after the world cup.

The problem is not only Ronaldo but those coaches who are still inviting him to the national team. The worse part of it all is that, he would always want to play 90mins, while some young vibrant players are rusting in the bench.

Jo

OlaOfLagos:
Once +234 girl bill you at the early stage of your relationship, just know the relationship is going to be transactional, nothing is going to work. Once you start communicating, they already know where the whole thing is heading and how to bill, milk you dry and jump to the next Client.

Dating/romantic relationships are not meant for +234 girls some of them are OS in disguise they just use relationship to cover up.

Those girls that quick to bill men knows how to quickly return the favour in kind, and that is what majority of men want. The fastest girls to sleep with are those that bill you. Except you are a complete mugu, you will sleep with them multiple times withiout spending much.

Sometimes, you spend less getting them to bed than those that don't bill. Except those ones that truly want you or above their primes, you will spend through your nose on calls, outings and many other things you think are not money.

Racoon:
Graphic video please. Just imagine! The crave of easy money, filthy riches and get-rich-quick syndrome is something else. It is increasingly becoming fearful what morality has became in our world today especially with the teenagers.

This trend will continue, until society start questioning people source of income, especially these underage children.

We are all the same anyway, because whenever someone question their source of income, it is the same us that will defend them by telling the person to mind his/her business or jealousy.

anonimi:
Was our country better off in the eight years of Atiku’s tenure with Obasanjo than what we have now under renewed hopelessness by the master strategist of A-looter Propaganda Conmen, APC? In what way?

Don't ever say Atiku tenure again because he has no tenure, he was only a non ceremonial vice president. Besides, the aspect of economy they gave him to oversee, he mismanaged it. If he is such a good leader, his boss would not be saying those negative stuffs about him, infact he would be the one to make a references to by now.

anonimi:
Why would a sensible Nigerian leave Atiku and vote for the worst rogue politician Tinubu

Did you see where they mentioned Atiku Beaure de change business in the write up?

These are the set of people Nigeria state subsidize Dollar for with our scarce resources. They go to CBN, bring out millions of dollar for their boys to sell at exorbitant rate. If you are acknowledged of the fact and economy, you will never pray for the like of Atiku to rule this country ever again.

By the time Mourinho is done with this team, they will be begging for top 4.

Players plays with fear and extreme cautious under him to avoid being blacklisted or criticized by him. The man is no longer an ideal coach for a modern team.

Fuckyoumod:
See this man just dey deceive gullible people. What has smuggling got to do with the fact that crude prices fell, but Dangote kept increasing fuel prices?

Mtchww... Gullible People who don't understand monopoly and somebody taking advantage of a corrupt country like Nigeria will say yes to this fallacy.

Was this not the same refinery you Nigerians prayed, waited and clamored for? How has it improved your life's and your personal economics?

Ok he should tell us why cement is so expensive, a commodity that has all raw materials here in Nigeria. Sorry Nigerians, our leaders are very wicked people.

And he quickly introduce IPO to the common man in order to compel them into taking whatever he throws at us.

No matter what he did now, the 10 millions Nigerians expected to invest in his refinery are more than enough to defend him. He is just a smart man using monopoly advantage to increase his empire for his generations to come. How on earth will you be comparing the price you sell in Nigeria to far away neighbouring countries. Well, I don't blame him, I blame the useless government that couldn't outrightly acquired 40% stake in the refinery when it took off, instead, the idiots in power then were busy giving him subsidise dollars at the expenses of our common wealth to build his private company.

Kriximpecable:
What will make you meet girls for the first time on the road on different places and engage in discussion with them(like 3 of them) which they happily gave you their numbers with so much joy and lot of vibe inclusive and promise to respond to your messages when you get home. Only to get home and message these girls and they all snub me and I even tried calling and immediately they heard I’m the one they dropped the calls.

These girls are just so weird . I’m thinking why will a girl give you much conviction of wanting you for the first time and refuse to respond to your texts and calls?

Is there something I need to know here or I’m not getting here? Pls guys with OT shud help out

You sounds very immatured to them, hence the snubbing.

How on earth will you meet 3 girls and collect all their numbers? Do you want to date them all? Next time, excuse the one you like and collect her number,it is as simple as ABC. Don't start a prolong conversation with a girl you just meet,it usually resulted into see finish, and she won't have anything to anticipate for in your next meeting.

Seyi8750:
This must be script. How come they go for DNA

Not scripted, their adopted parents must have told them some informations about their origin.

callmeDDD:
They have 2 loyal factions loyal to adeleke. Hope he is not trying to impose his own candidate too? Cos every political thugs has his own candidate and if they are not in good terms, it will cause ripples. Life of a political thug. That's how most of them rose to power and became political force.

He is probably one of them tout before being appointed as governor aid. Union fight are usually between two factions, they rarely kill or beat anyone outside of these groups. Despite their madness, they usually respect government or government officials during their animalistic fights.

He is just a political thug as you rightly put it because no sensible educated politician would be caught in that madness, let alone getting killed by them

HacheNoire:
I think we can all agree at this point that Ayodele has a mental problem.

His church members should check him into a psychiatric facility.

No, he is only playing game, he want the attention of both government and opposition parties.

1. If he is ,arrested by DSS, opposition parties can use it to score point and offer him role with huge pays.

2. Government can decide to shut him up by giving him contract or role to change mouth.

The guy man want one of the two, so he is not stupid or mad.

ZabiraECP:
I used it for 2 weeks

I sent you a mail but no response, where can I find your whatsapp number Sir?

I've replied your mail with my number, just say hi to me to me one WhatsApp be added into the group.

ZabiraECP:
PE Has Turned Me Into a Professional Avoider of Women

Good day, guys.

I have a severe case of premature ejaculation (PE). It's so bad that I barely last 5 seconds during sex. I used to masturbate heavily years ago, but I stopped completely over 4 years ago. Even back then, I could last around 20 minutes in the first round.

I'm physically fit too. I exercise every week and can comfortably run 10 laps of a standard football pitch, so I don't think it's simply a fitness issue.

I've tried pelvic floor exercises, watermelon, and the ginger + garlic + honey remedy shared by Yemmit90 here on Nairaland, but none has helped (I dont know if I did it wrongly).

To be honest, this has affected my confidence so much that I now avoid women. Imagine chasing a girl who's been forming hard to get for over 5 weeks, only to finally get the chance and finish in less than 5 seconds. It's honestly embarrassing.

If anyone has genuinely overcome this whether through medication, a doctor's treatment, or something that actually works, please share your experience. I really need help.

For how long did you use my recipe. How often did you take it. Did you take it first thing in the morning?

The recipe should work for you like others, it is the best thing any man can lay his hands on, not only for sexual performances but for overall wellbeing.

From your narratives here, you don't have problem with your health but a serious anxiety. Message me on WhatsApp if you have number, you will definitely overcome this.

Kalatium:
Nairalanders, what have you actually observed? Have you seen a woman with a wild reputation eventually marry an exceptional man? Have you also seen the quiet “good girl” marry an exceptional man? Which pattern seems more common from what you have personally witnessed?

A lady can be baddest and still have a touch of home training in her. Those are the ones getting married to good men.

The rest are married to their likes who maltreated them and eventually turn them to single mothers.

The third category are the ones chosen Olosho as work and failed to retire when their mate are getting married. No body marry those ones again, and they end up being single or single mother till rest of their lives.

The best a man can do for himself is to marry a woman that his children can see as a role model.

Kelvinnchucks:
Imagine being the first wife and seeing your husband talk about another woman like this.
No shame. Men would salivate is a very nonsense statement from an old man.

Funny how marriages didn't work then I wonder how it's working now.

You are calling someone who had a son for him another woman? Do you know that if Odegbami dies today, she will also perform traditional ritual like legally married wife?

Like one Yoruba adage, any woman that bore a child for you is no longer a concubine.

Fuel would've been around 500/litres if not for the floating policy, that was the biggest mistake Tinubu made so far. You don't remove fuel subsidy and float your currency at the same time withiout brutal consequences on inflation and hardship.

Politicians promising 600 per litre know what they are doing, they are not going to remove fuel subsidy, they will simply subsidy dollar through the back door withiout much notice.

Under a brutal military administration, this guy should've been compel to join the military and lead the fight against terrorists in the forest.

We are good at criticizing our military men by forgotten that they're humans like us who chose to defend their mother's land with their precious lives against all odds for you and I to be saved.

phr0nesis:
So no African country can afford a minimum wage that is good enough to buy the iPhone in 5 months. Who do us like this?

Those who control the world market. Those who created world economic policies and apply terms and conditions to it. Those who stopped slaves trade that gave them cheap labour or free natural resources are not daft for abandoning the method.

Whatever you think or studies about economy today were created by proponents of this theories to advance their courses. Now,the perceived poor or Africa countries can't buy or sell anything at own their prices without being hindered by these theories.

Uniqueteco:
God help me, if I can secure a good job in Osun State, I will leave this Ogun State. Expenses very chocking

Stay where you are o,Osun is not cheap either, especially Osogbo, Ile -ife,Ede, Ilesha and Ikirun. Those are their cities and towns, and cost of living there are the same or even more expensive than Ogun state.

Winnerrrr:
i’ve been indulging in this despicable act since i was a teenager and i just turned 25 this year but i was able to quit completely from the root, currently, i have zero urges and i can stay with myself as long as i want without reaching out for it.

FIND A GIRL YOU REALLY LOVE (NOT LIMERENCE OR INFATUATION)

find a girl that motivate you to become a better man, make sure she is worth it (vet and observe her before you commit) also make sure it is mutual.

A girl will change you and make you want to do better for yourself, before i met my girl, i would goon and go to work or will do it the first thing in the money, i was always low energy and can’t keep a conversation going, what broke the camel back was one day, immediately i finished gooning she called me, even though she was not there i felt so guilty, i was like imagine being with a girl and you still watch porn and masturbating, is that the type of boyfriend you want to be.

i don’t know what happened but ever since that day i felt free and never had the urge to do it.

this can’t work with any girl, it has to be a girl you truly desire, not a lashing mate, the desire to be the best for her will overcome the desire to goon.

this is my own personal experience.

You are very funny, nothing on earth can stop masturbation urge except constant access to a real sex.

Once you have unrestricted access to sex, you will see masturbation as needless activities and go for a real test even if you desires varieties.

casualobserver:
The thing with Atiku and his promises is that he knows he isn’t seeking a second term. He will promise to bring your loved ones back from the dead if that is what you need to hear to vote for him.

He knows he won’t have to deliver on any promise and there will be no electoral consequences if he becomes president and fail to fulfill them.

Lolz,who tell you Atiku won't seek for a second term?

I can bet with anything that no politician alive will promise a term and step down when he is constitutionally empowered to continue. All he needs to do is to quickly chase out those he made promise with from his party, that is all.

Present administration is corrupt no doubt but ADC that 100% of its members are epitome of corruption telling Nigerians that someone is corrupt is one of the wonders of the world.

This can only happen in a country that 99% of her citizens have little or no knowledge about the affairs of their country.

givedemwotowoto:
So being in APC was protecting him from prosecution?

Don't trust these useless politicians,he might have been serving an invitation letter long ago but quickly leave APC to appeal to people sentiments as if he is being witch hunt for leaving the rulling party.

AMINDA:
If the 2027 elections become regionalised as you all are desperate to make it become, Atiku will be the candidate with the most advantage, but he is still the only one currently running an issue-based campaign. Atiku won Osun, Bayelsa, and Akwa Ibom in 2023. If the South are now "wiser" and will no longer vote for him because he suddenly turned a Northerner in 2027, what makes you think Northerners are still "foolish?". Abi una think say Atiku na orphan? Na person born Atiku too na.

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You no really get the logic of the matter, how would he be declared winner if he failed to secured 25% from entire southern states and his opponents in APC with a magnificent structure in the North comfortably secure 25% in entire North? The margins will never favour him if that happened, because northern votes will be share among 3 leading candidates, while the south would probably be share by Tinubu and Obi. The only way Atiku can win is to share good numbers southern votes with other two candidates.

As for your last sentence, it is not about Northerners being foolish, those eying 2031 presidency will not fold their arms and allow Atiku to take over and kill their ambitions. Party members waiting for various opportunities, their families members and associates who benefits from them won't vote for Atiku and block their daily breads. Same way some southern politicians are working to be president despite having a president from the south, is the same way those in APC, who are 90% of entire northern politicians will never throw away their chances away for Atiku (for what na). This thing is common sense for those who care to listen.

I don't even know what is wrong with this club, Luke shaw, Maguire and Dalot should no longer be in the first team after several seasons of poor performances. Aside weak backlines, this team need a natutal hungry striker.

Just take a look at their bench, is there any player there bettter than an average player in Fulham team, not to talk of top four teams.

Tinubu
Atiku
Kwankwaso
Obasanjo
Sule lamido

Only a formidable united opposition force with a serious backing of the entire masses and INEC can remove any of the above names from presidency power. These men understand power, and how to use weapons within their authority to their advantage.

To remove a president from power in Africa, almost entire state structures must be against him.

Ok movement is better off under the leadership of NDC for a proper mobilization and direction towards 2027 general election.

You cant have a two bodies chasing the same goal with a different approach to achieve a better result. That was mistake Obi made in Labour party that they end up not having party agents at majority of polling units across the federation. Maybe someone is using this movement to advance their political pursuit in 2031,because I don't see any reason they cant match with a platform under which their principals are seeking for presidency.

RichDad1:
This one na insider job. The more you look the less you see

I thought as much, his biggest mistake is being single after 18 years withiout a son. His reign will be too long for majority of those looking up to ascend the throne, so the perfect time to delete me is now since he is yet to have any son to inherits the throne.

Omalicious1:

A wealthy woman once told me that money only attracts broken women, and a broken woman would drain and ruin you without you even knowing, and she won't be sorry about it.

Then tell her to settle for a poor man and let see her reply.

Buy

Babatunjo:
Bro, that's exactly the point of the thread. 😂

If you're asking how much to spend so you can "pipe her immediately", you're still trying to buy with money what you should be building in yourself.

Balls and backbone cost nothing. Just knowledge, practice and self-respect.

Spend because you genuinely want to spend. If she already likes you and the attraction is mutual, you don't need to purchase the outcome.

And trust me, when she genuinely wants you too, e sweet pass the one wey you negotiate with your wallet. 😂

Not every woman you want that will want you no matter how you carried yourself. Majoriy of men that spend on woman don't look for love but girls they can quickly sleep with. The fastest way to sleep with a woman is to show caring, so if your intention is to just sleep with her, and you notice she doesn't want you, the best way to go about it is by attracting her with what they all want.