₦airaland Forum

Afriifa:
Why should an accomplished medical experts make such blunder in choice of spouse?

Dont judge because you dont know their journey.

Sonnobax15:
A happy wife builds a happy home. Your husband and home is blessed my dear sister

Lolz, could be sugar daddy or husband that comes home once in a while. Nigeria wives don't get time preparing two foods to be loaded by their husbands at the same time before billings.

That is mostly done by side chicks of rich sugar daddies to bill them.

Danandosky:
Misplaced priority... instead of them to think about regional security force, it's airline that only about 10% of their people can afford....the primary complaint of the people of that region is insecurity and poverty

Exactly, Electricity, agricultural, security, education, are there but these governors think airline that less than 5% people from the region can benefit is the next.

Seem quality leadership capacity is lacking in that region.

youngEmelex:
I have been following match making trends for years and this is my final conclusion.
No single lady in her prime will need the services of match makers and dating apps to get a spouse because at that stage of her life, she is the one selecting men.

I once went through a lady's messenger and the unread messages there were close to one thousand. All classes of men were in her dm or either trying to get her attention. Some were merely reacting to her status or just sending stickers.

Although social media is not reality, the truth remains that most of the single ladies get all the attention they needed and can settle down if they wish.

Whenever a lady is the one searching for a spouse by herself, it's either her prime is over or she is a single mother.
Even if she is the one searching, she can always find around her church, school, workplace etc.

The ones that are genuinely single will even have people meeting them on behalf of their sons, brothers and friends.

I was once at a place and a woman approached another woman. When I asked her why, she said her brother needs a wife.

So whenever you see any woman on any dating site or match making setup, know that she is either a retired hooker, an older woman or a single mother. People in her neighborhood know her too well and are tired of her so she is looking for a guy in diaspora.

This my observation is restricted to my tribe's setting in Africa because I haven't seen how things are done in other climes.

1. Retired hookup girls.

2. Older women above their prime.

3. Single mothers.

Bonus, the ones whose bad character, extravagant lifestyle and pride had kept single for long. Ironically, about 70% of men looking for love online are innocent simps.

This is reality and nothing to add again.

helinues:
It's easier to spend than saving. It takes dedication to be saving money

For you to be saving money regularly, you must be somehow wicked as we are too social in Nigeria

You can only save when your income exceed your basic needs. Nigeria is no longer a place where you can easily saved, except you earned well or in dollars.

Transportation alone will chop around 25%, not to talk of house rent and other utilities before foods. The quality of life has gone to the dogs, people earned but not enough to save for emergencies.

A country that 10% of your income can't feed you for a month is not worth to be call a progressive one. Let Tinubu work on making life easier for average Nigerians by ensuring autonomy of local government where huge fund should be sent to and not these useless governors to loot.

Princedapace:
A country where those whith 30m are not up to 2 percent is a completely shithole..
Do u know how much those abroad send to Nigeria that helps stabilize ur naira? Omo, without them, bro, ur naira would be hitting 2500 per dollar. Nigeria is extremely a poor country and dangerous country.
If u remove politicians, remove drug lords, remove ritual and organ harvesters, scammers, the country is practically broke. Those earning well outside the above listed are not up to 1.5 percent of the population.
Dont take my words for it, your data recently confirmed, to find Nigerians with 500k and above in their account or asset is not up to 4% of the population.

Maybe i will know how to reply you if you tell me your country.

Maybe

seppuku:
Bros most of those boyz no longer have the patriotism that lived in the hearts of our heros past. Nigeria is just an opportunity for them to participate at the world or continental phase.

except Iwobi and Bassey, those boyz don't bleed Naija blood and you can see it in their performance.

Same goes with Ghana. The era of the West African football giants is coming to an end.

It is not really about patriotism, the boys are simply not good enough. Our standard has gone so low that we started seeing Chille as a good coach. Someone that couldn't groom a single home base player successfully in Nigeria league since appointed as super eagle coach. Our over rely on foreign based players wont help us to win matches against African opponents.

ebubeson:
Some people are not good enough for marriage, they have bad character in them, but may still feel they are genuinely good or probably good in some areas for marriage. They also may not be good, but may have emotions and feelings of love for the person they want to marry. These people are not the most dangerous people in marriage.

Who is The Most Dangerous Person in Marriage?
The one that eagerly wants to marry you, knows that he or she is a bad person, has planned or thought of evil against you when the marriage happens, does not have feelings or emotions for you, is actively involved to see the marriage happen, makes the marriage process easy for you, pretends to love you, but has zero percent feeling of love for you, and may even want to kill you in the marriage.

You are very right, these set of people married their partners only for bad purpose. It is mostly for materials gains. Another dangerous person to marry is promiscuous woman who is also diabolical. Hot temper or unintelligent men are also dangerous to marry.

Family setting would've been great as it once were if we do as it being doing in olden days. Parents should be the ones to find a first partner for their children from reputable family. Infact, the best people to chose a partner for you are your parents. They may not go for the useless woman you want but a very good lady from a good family.

Aside that, it will be of great benefits to the society, because, if I knows that no reasonable parents will come for a waywards daughter, I will do everything to make sure she is well trained. Same apply to boys, if i knows that no good parents will give their daughter to a useless boy, I will make sure he turn out to be a great man.

Dpsychologist:
Ladies, if you are going to tell men they are beneath your level because they do not have money, at least be honest about whose money is creating the lifestyle you are using to establish that level.

There is nothing wrong with dating a wealthy man. Enjoying what your partner provides is not a crime, and nobody should shame you for it. The problem is when you start wearing somebody else's wealth as though it is evidence of your own financial achievement.

You are driving his car, living in his house, travelling with his money and enjoying a lifestyle his income created, then looking at a man who is still struggling to build himself and saying he is beneath you.

Beneath you based on what?

If the relationship ended tomorrow, what would remain that is actually yours?

Your education, your career, your business, your savings, your investments, your property and your ability to generate income are yours. Your boyfriend's bank account is not.

This is where some of the “I am above his level” talk becomes ridiculous. A man can be broke and still be building his way out of it. A woman can have access to a very wealthy man and still have little personal wealth of her own. Financially, those two people may have far more in common than she wants to admit.

The fact that someone wealthy chooses to spend money on you changes your lifestyle. It does not automatically change your financial position.

This applies to men too. A man dating a wealthy woman does not become wealthy simply because he drives her car and enjoys her money. Access is not ownership.

So have your standards. Date whoever you want. Reject whoever you want. Nobody is entitled to your relationship.

Just do not confuse being connected to wealth with creating wealth.

If you want to tell a struggling man that he is beneath your financial level, make sure you actually have a financial level of your own.

Because wealth is not sexually transmitted.

An husband and wife are one, whatever a man owns is for the benefit of his family, in which his wife and children are integral part of. You don't separate husband wealth from his wife because she is also part of his empire and existence.

Men works hard, not only for themselves but their families ( both nuclear and extended). A wife has every right to represent his husband wealth, because she is his natural next of kin.

Lamasta:
The question is are the young ones performing The legend has retired bit the coach brought him back so he should turn down his country request or what

That was why I said the coaches are the problem. The young ones are performing better withiout him, he creates a lot of disunity and distraction for the team and the coaches. The team lacks coordinations seeing him on the pitch. Besides, no Portuguese players will genuinely loves seeing someone who has been taking the glory since they were small and still taking theirs when they should be at the center of attention themselves.

He should have honorably hanged the boots after the world cup.

The problem is not only Ronaldo but those coaches who are still inviting him to the national team. The worse part of it all is that, he would always want to play 90mins, while some young vibrant players are rusting in the bench.

Jo

OlaOfLagos:
Once +234 girl bill you at the early stage of your relationship, just know the relationship is going to be transactional, nothing is going to work. Once you start communicating, they already know where the whole thing is heading and how to bill, milk you dry and jump to the next Client.

Dating/romantic relationships are not meant for +234 girls some of them are OS in disguise they just use relationship to cover up.

Those girls that quick to bill men knows how to quickly return the favour in kind, and that is what majority of men want. The fastest girls to sleep with are those that bill you. Except you are a complete mugu, you will sleep with them multiple times withiout spending much.

Sometimes, you spend less getting them to bed than those that don't bill. Except those ones that truly want you or above their primes, you will spend through your nose on calls, outings and many other things you think are not money.

Racoon:
Graphic video please. Just imagine! The crave of easy money, filthy riches and get-rich-quick syndrome is something else. It is increasingly becoming fearful what morality has became in our world today especially with the teenagers.

This trend will continue, until society start questioning people source of income, especially these underage children.

We are all the same anyway, because whenever someone question their source of income, it is the same us that will defend them by telling the person to mind his/her business or jealousy.

anonimi:
Was our country better off in the eight years of Atiku’s tenure with Obasanjo than what we have now under renewed hopelessness by the master strategist of A-looter Propaganda Conmen, APC? In what way?

Don't ever say Atiku tenure again because he has no tenure, he was only a non ceremonial vice president. Besides, the aspect of economy they gave him to oversee, he mismanaged it. If he is such a good leader, his boss would not be saying those negative stuffs about him, infact he would be the one to make a references to by now.

anonimi:
Why would a sensible Nigerian leave Atiku and vote for the worst rogue politician Tinubu

Did you see where they mentioned Atiku Beaure de change business in the write up?

These are the set of people Nigeria state subsidize Dollar for with our scarce resources. They go to CBN, bring out millions of dollar for their boys to sell at exorbitant rate. If you are acknowledged of the fact and economy, you will never pray for the like of Atiku to rule this country ever again.

By the time Mourinho is done with this team, they will be begging for top 4.

Players plays with fear and extreme cautious under him to avoid being blacklisted or criticized by him. The man is no longer an ideal coach for a modern team.

Fuckyoumod:
See this man just dey deceive gullible people. What has smuggling got to do with the fact that crude prices fell, but Dangote kept increasing fuel prices?

Mtchww... Gullible People who don't understand monopoly and somebody taking advantage of a corrupt country like Nigeria will say yes to this fallacy.

Was this not the same refinery you Nigerians prayed, waited and clamored for? How has it improved your life's and your personal economics?

Ok he should tell us why cement is so expensive, a commodity that has all raw materials here in Nigeria. Sorry Nigerians, our leaders are very wicked people.

And he quickly introduce IPO to the common man in order to compel them into taking whatever he throws at us.

No matter what he did now, the 10 millions Nigerians expected to invest in his refinery are more than enough to defend him. He is just a smart man using monopoly advantage to increase his empire for his generations to come. How on earth will you be comparing the price you sell in Nigeria to far away neighbouring countries. Well, I don't blame him, I blame the useless government that couldn't outrightly acquired 40% stake in the refinery when it took off, instead, the idiots in power then were busy giving him subsidise dollars at the expenses of our common wealth to build his private company.

Kriximpecable:
What will make you meet girls for the first time on the road on different places and engage in discussion with them(like 3 of them) which they happily gave you their numbers with so much joy and lot of vibe inclusive and promise to respond to your messages when you get home. Only to get home and message these girls and they all snub me and I even tried calling and immediately they heard I’m the one they dropped the calls.

These girls are just so weird . I’m thinking why will a girl give you much conviction of wanting you for the first time and refuse to respond to your texts and calls?

Is there something I need to know here or I’m not getting here? Pls guys with OT shud help out

You sounds very immatured to them, hence the snubbing.

How on earth will you meet 3 girls and collect all their numbers? Do you want to date them all? Next time, excuse the one you like and collect her number,it is as simple as ABC. Don't start a prolong conversation with a girl you just meet,it usually resulted into see finish, and she won't have anything to anticipate for in your next meeting.

Seyi8750:
This must be script. How come they go for DNA

Not scripted, their adopted parents must have told them some informations about their origin.

callmeDDD:
They have 2 loyal factions loyal to adeleke. Hope he is not trying to impose his own candidate too? Cos every political thugs has his own candidate and if they are not in good terms, it will cause ripples. Life of a political thug. That's how most of them rose to power and became political force.

He is probably one of them tout before being appointed as governor aid. Union fight are usually between two factions, they rarely kill or beat anyone outside of these groups. Despite their madness, they usually respect government or government officials during their animalistic fights.

He is just a political thug as you rightly put it because no sensible educated politician would be caught in that madness, let alone getting killed by them

HacheNoire:
I think we can all agree at this point that Ayodele has a mental problem.

His church members should check him into a psychiatric facility.

No, he is only playing game, he want the attention of both government and opposition parties.

1. If he is ,arrested by DSS, opposition parties can use it to score point and offer him role with huge pays.

2. Government can decide to shut him up by giving him contract or role to change mouth.

The guy man want one of the two, so he is not stupid or mad.

ZabiraECP:
I used it for 2 weeks

I sent you a mail but no response, where can I find your whatsapp number Sir?

I've replied your mail with my number, just say hi to me to me one WhatsApp be added into the group.

ZabiraECP:
PE Has Turned Me Into a Professional Avoider of Women

Good day, guys.

I have a severe case of premature ejaculation (PE). It's so bad that I barely last 5 seconds during sex. I used to masturbate heavily years ago, but I stopped completely over 4 years ago. Even back then, I could last around 20 minutes in the first round.

I'm physically fit too. I exercise every week and can comfortably run 10 laps of a standard football pitch, so I don't think it's simply a fitness issue.

I've tried pelvic floor exercises, watermelon, and the ginger + garlic + honey remedy shared by Yemmit90 here on Nairaland, but none has helped (I dont know if I did it wrongly).

To be honest, this has affected my confidence so much that I now avoid women. Imagine chasing a girl who's been forming hard to get for over 5 weeks, only to finally get the chance and finish in less than 5 seconds. It's honestly embarrassing.

If anyone has genuinely overcome this whether through medication, a doctor's treatment, or something that actually works, please share your experience. I really need help.

For how long did you use my recipe. How often did you take it. Did you take it first thing in the morning?

The recipe should work for you like others, it is the best thing any man can lay his hands on, not only for sexual performances but for overall wellbeing.

From your narratives here, you don't have problem with your health but a serious anxiety. Message me on WhatsApp if you have number, you will definitely overcome this.

Kalatium:
Nairalanders, what have you actually observed? Have you seen a woman with a wild reputation eventually marry an exceptional man? Have you also seen the quiet “good girl” marry an exceptional man? Which pattern seems more common from what you have personally witnessed?

A lady can be baddest and still have a touch of home training in her. Those are the ones getting married to good men.

The rest are married to their likes who maltreated them and eventually turn them to single mothers.

The third category are the ones chosen Olosho as work and failed to retire when their mate are getting married. No body marry those ones again, and they end up being single or single mother till rest of their lives.

The best a man can do for himself is to marry a woman that his children can see as a role model.

Kelvinnchucks:
Imagine being the first wife and seeing your husband talk about another woman like this.
No shame. Men would salivate is a very nonsense statement from an old man.

Funny how marriages didn't work then I wonder how it's working now.

You are calling someone who had a son for him another woman? Do you know that if Odegbami dies today, she will also perform traditional ritual like legally married wife?

Like one Yoruba adage, any woman that bore a child for you is no longer a concubine.

Fuel would've been around 500/litres if not for the floating policy, that was the biggest mistake Tinubu made so far. You don't remove fuel subsidy and float your currency at the same time withiout brutal consequences on inflation and hardship.

Politicians promising 600 per litre know what they are doing, they are not going to remove fuel subsidy, they will simply subsidy dollar through the back door withiout much notice.

Under a brutal military administration, this guy should've been compel to join the military and lead the fight against terrorists in the forest.

We are good at criticizing our military men by forgotten that they're humans like us who chose to defend their mother's land with their precious lives against all odds for you and I to be saved.

phr0nesis:
So no African country can afford a minimum wage that is good enough to buy the iPhone in 5 months. Who do us like this?

Those who control the world market. Those who created world economic policies and apply terms and conditions to it. Those who stopped slaves trade that gave them cheap labour or free natural resources are not daft for abandoning the method.

Whatever you think or studies about economy today were created by proponents of this theories to advance their courses. Now,the perceived poor or Africa countries can't buy or sell anything at own their prices without being hindered by these theories.

Uniqueteco:
God help me, if I can secure a good job in Osun State, I will leave this Ogun State. Expenses very chocking

Stay where you are o,Osun is not cheap either, especially Osogbo, Ile -ife,Ede, Ilesha and Ikirun. Those are their cities and towns, and cost of living there are the same or even more expensive than Ogun state.

Winnerrrr:
i’ve been indulging in this despicable act since i was a teenager and i just turned 25 this year but i was able to quit completely from the root, currently, i have zero urges and i can stay with myself as long as i want without reaching out for it.

FIND A GIRL YOU REALLY LOVE (NOT LIMERENCE OR INFATUATION)

find a girl that motivate you to become a better man, make sure she is worth it (vet and observe her before you commit) also make sure it is mutual.

A girl will change you and make you want to do better for yourself, before i met my girl, i would goon and go to work or will do it the first thing in the money, i was always low energy and can’t keep a conversation going, what broke the camel back was one day, immediately i finished gooning she called me, even though she was not there i felt so guilty, i was like imagine being with a girl and you still watch porn and masturbating, is that the type of boyfriend you want to be.

i don’t know what happened but ever since that day i felt free and never had the urge to do it.

this can’t work with any girl, it has to be a girl you truly desire, not a lashing mate, the desire to be the best for her will overcome the desire to goon.

this is my own personal experience.

You are very funny, nothing on earth can stop masturbation urge except constant access to a real sex.

Once you have unrestricted access to sex, you will see masturbation as needless activities and go for a real test even if you desires varieties.

casualobserver:
The thing with Atiku and his promises is that he knows he isn’t seeking a second term. He will promise to bring your loved ones back from the dead if that is what you need to hear to vote for him.

He knows he won’t have to deliver on any promise and there will be no electoral consequences if he becomes president and fail to fulfill them.

Lolz,who tell you Atiku won't seek for a second term?

I can bet with anything that no politician alive will promise a term and step down when he is constitutionally empowered to continue. All he needs to do is to quickly chase out those he made promise with from his party, that is all.