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Goo0dHardDick:
Madness

Not madness, for every action, there is always reaction. We don't live with them, and I am very sure op too will have some shortcomings he won't tell us here in his narrative. Women became wise as they aged, as long as a woman doesn't sleep around, you can definitely manage her if you are smart enough.

Every woman on earth are intolerable especially if you are looking for perfection from them. The most viable way wise men used to address such situation is to become less available at home.

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

Please tolerate her a little more as long as she doesn't cheat on you.

Be less available at home, try to ignore her sometime. Just focus on yourself and the children, she will soon come back to her sense as she aged. And if you must date another girl, let it be casual and not make it to be obvious to her.

PDPdestroyer:
Lol. Do you need further evidence that those politicians in the opposition will do much worse than those in the ruling party? Just tell me one single thing these people have gotten right since they formed this coalition

No man born in a woman can fix Nigeria with this present arrangements. Anyone promise to fix Nigeria is only being sweet talk to gain power he/she can subsequently misused.

Until we go back to regionalism or a system that will allow elemination of states and give focus on central and 774 local government, we will keep taking those who just want to add president to their names as solutions.

States government are the major problems of Nigeria, this is where our resources are being recklessly threw into the ocean by semi illiterate or unqualified touts called themselves governors. If not madness, how do we even expect real development when local governments are not truly functioning in the country. We are all the same, and we behave like a cursed humans.

helinues:
Who invited the people killing you? during the herdsmen crisis when Buhari was the president, the question those who are just accusing anyhow didn't bother to ask is, whose cows are the herders protecting?

God bless you, I wrote about this on Nairaland some years ago. These dangerous herdsmen are only working for politicians, elites and some ordinary Nigerians. They don't own cows, they are only being giving shares or salaries. Majority of cows you see in southern Nigeria are owned by southerners. There was this professor back then who owns about 150 cows and employed Fulani boys to monitor them in the bush. I got to know this when his cow destroyed our plaintain farm, we were told that the owner is one of powerful professor at the senate, that even if we report the issue to the university authority, they will likely not do anything. That was how we lost over 3 acres of plantain farm as a young graduate that time.

Fast forward to around 2014, the incident of cattle rustles were rampant, and these investors bought sophisticated guns for these herders to protect their cows from cattle rustlers. I can boldly say that herders I knew since when I was young were mostly Fulani walking around with just stick and Cutlers to direct their cows.

These herders subsequently took advantage of these weapons and started raping women in the farm, until they graduated into kidnapping for ransome.

Just like you, I don't support independent security force establish by individual or group of people. Igboho should be directed to join already functioning state backing Amotekun and take the leadership role. He can be easily trial or remove that way should he start taking advantage giving to him for different purpose. We need local security force stronger than Amotekun in south west, we also need a great worrior like Igboho to lead the course, but we must be very careful giving such power to individual whose large numbers of people are directly answerable to.

Anuoluwa12345:
Good evening, pls I need help on something
I don't even know how to put it well, but I will try my best to explain a little..and I seek sincere advice from matured and experienced ppl on the forum.

I am a type that when I love ppl, I love them wholeheartedly..to the extent that I will give in all my best to them.. be it family members or non. When I tell you I gat your back, then I truly mean it. But the problem now is, when these ppl hurt me. I don't know how to handle it, I don't even know if I will call it unforgiving spirit or maybe cause I remember things alot, I will surely not forget.

It's not as if I won't forgive them o, I will but, to make that relationship between me and that person smooth back.. it's not possible.. the distance will always be there.. tho before I get angry or pick offence it takes long, but once it happens like this! I know I have lost relationship with that soul.

Some of my relatives (extended fam) offended me, and since about 3 yrs now, these ppl have been sending different ppl just to beg me and talk to me etc.. in order to make things back, but it's just not working!. Cuz I know myself.

And I am a type that, once I vex, I don't look back..even if the person has done a lot of things etc.. I have tried my best but it's just not working. And I understand the fact that there is no how there won't be argument among humans, it's not possible.

My greatest fear now is, what if I marry, is this how It will be towards my husband, someone I claim I love? Pls how do I tackle this problem before I reach that stage, pls I need sincere word of wisdom from elders, else why I come to a faceless forum to pour out my mind.

You will definitely stopped, marriage do humble women, and you won't be different from those that are there before you. When you start having kids, your goal and priority in marriage will change, and love might not even part of them. Besides, the more you get matured, the more your desires for peaceful home.

ednut1:
Children are not always blessings afterall

They were, just that this one failed to train his.

ZaddyJ:

This Bayern president mean oo.

He is only joking, if Madrid want him, they will get him. If they refuse to sell, they will manipulate the player or his agent and he would force an exit.

May be you are the type thet buys baby food 20k twice per week, unnecessary weekly shopping, use 50k to cook soup, use 150k for power units to enjoy 24/7 AC and other wastefulness at home. Sometimes, those who are clubbing or carrying women are even spending wisely than some men who don't

How can you be earning 1m naira per month and still be complaining with a family of 3. You better cut your expenses now before it too late for you.

ednut1:
Rubbish talk. No one flashes abroad as the calls are unlimited and most people used post paid plans

You can never tell, you can flash someone for different reasons. It is not always about not having a call card, sometimes you flash to remind someone about something.

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ElevationD:
I do not think so. Fubara knows that his hands are tied.

If he decamps, the house of assembly will find the excuse to impeach him finally. His continued stay is simply premised on the fact that he needs to protect his chances for a possible future attempt at returning to the seat.

I think APC moved too fast with the primaries. With the court ruling of yesterday, other parties have more time to secure more members and conduct their own primaries, particularly NDC and ADC, who need to get more national spread.

Fubara has the choice to run on the platform of another party, particularly NDC, which seems to have started gaining momentum in Rivers state. I do not foresee that happening. However, his name is already on the campaign council list of APC and I believe that in agreeing to step down for the APC candidate, he must have received some assurances from BAT.

The judgement could be a bate use by the same APC to score another political points. What if after the primary, they appeal the judgement and it is reverse? Imagine the number of people who think they have found another platform that will be affected. A smart politician will stay where he is and lobby for appointment.

All Nigeria politicians are the same, I wonder what people jubilate about the people that have stolen away their future. It irritate me the way nairalanders fought to defend these useless animals that are only after their selfish interests.

Every presidential appearant always have good manifesto, to implement it is the major problem.

Nigeria can only be better under true federalism where each region will tailor the affair of their people withiout any external influence.

osuofia2:
Fatty liver or hepatitis, all leads to cirrhosis of the liver.
Lime and lemon all have anti inflammatory oxidant.
Use it early In the morning with tea before breakfast

The combination of lemon, ginger, garlic in warm water before breakfast do the wonder.

I think Tottenham deserves to go down,they are just useless team playing with no serious passion.

West Ham will surely beat Leed, and I doubt this poor team can make even a draw against Everton.

What I passed through in the hands of FCMB and Access bank were too much to explain on social media.

But now that i longer get big money to keep with any of them again, na to stick with my Opay and Palmpay remain.

[quote author=Bluna post=139428168]If Carrick had started this season with Man United, they would've easily won the league ahead of arsenal and city.

This is not assumption; my opinion is based on the results he has delivered so far. [/quote)

Man united under him will do very well next season. I had always maintain the fact that only one of Alex Ferguson players can revived the team because united has identity and unique way of playing the game of football that made them the king of premier league.

No team can comfortably beat them now, if they can strengthen up their back line, find a capable replacement for Casemiro and a natural striker like Osihem, they can possibly win the league.

SmartPolician:
Nobody ever says that money is not important. People only say that money isn't everything, and that's a fact.

Money is everything guy, infact money is life. You don't have a single say or dignity without money, except you are among the broke people who keep deceiving you.

Money give freedom, open more opportunities and quality friends. Money give you respect withiout having to give one, and most time, peple help you genuinely withiout grunt or expectations. And most importantly, money prolong life and give you peaceful exist.

Nothing is good about poverty or lack of money.

When corruption is sweeten you,remember the same corruption can land you in everlasting pains. I can bet it he is actually 30, he obtain that passport for some reasons. Unfortunately, his enemies has found out what to use against him.

kolafolabi:
Run for Senate now. After all, that was your first attempt under the SDP in 2015 before contesting for Governor in 2019.

Politicians has totally destroyed this country and sit on its glory.

Can this man use his personal money to embark on already known fruitless mission. He feel less concerned because he is using stolen billions meant for development of his people from the state purse.

Democracy is a curse to black race.

Fiscus105:
Because of position they gave Wike, which is like gov of another powerful state, even if he waits for four years, he won't be able to buy them over, unlike other ex gov, who won't see anything to leverage on to bully the sitting gov.

In another dimension, Tinubu and Wike factors may still not save him, even if he had bought the law makers, they would have still used court to fight him in another way.

No one should pray to fight Wike and Tinubu in a combined fight, the two can go to any length to achieve whatever they want to achieve in a nation called Naija.

I don't think governor won't be able to buy them over, all he needs to do is to give them offer they cannot resist in a systematic manner. One thing in life is that, once people perceive they have alot to lose if they go against you, it will be difficult for them not to do your bidding. Another thing he should've done before starting a fight is to align with the central, just like his principal. Tinubu took Wike over him because he has seen what both can do and offer.

Have you checked the recent happening in Adamawa ADC? As big as Atiku is, his ward chairman announced his expulsion from the party. What about the guy that took entire ADC big boys to court? Do you think they just did that for nothing. Even if they could not succeeded in doing that, he would've had a good numbers to defect to another party and still go ahead to win withiout Wike. Check what happened in Osun and Kano state recently, their governors took entire state executives, legislation and at least 80% party structures to defect.

As for using court to silent him, that won't be possible if he command 80% of state political structure because they won't have anything to hook him with. Besides, he can always defect to another party with his structure.

Fiscus105:
Because of position they gave Wike, which is like gov of another powerful state, even if he waits for four years, he won't be able to buy them over, unlike other ex gov, who won't see anything to leverage on to bully the sitting gov.

In another dimension, Tinubu and Wike factors may still not save him, even if he had bought the law makers, they would have still used court to fight him in another way.

No one should pray to fight Wike and Tinubu in a combined fight, the two can go to any length to achieve whatever they want to achieve in a nation called Naija.

I don't think governor won't be able to buy them over, all he needs to do is to give them offer they cannot resist in a systematic manner. One thing in life is that, once people perceive they have alot to lose if they go against you, it will be difficult for them not to do your bidding. Another thing he should've done before starting a fight is to align with the central, just like his principal. Tinubu took Wike over him because he has seen what both can do and offer.

Have you checked the recent happening in Adamawa ADC? As big as Atiku is, his ward chairman announced his expulsion from the party. What about the guy that took entire ADC big boys to court? Do you think they just did that for nothing. Even if they could not succeeded in doing this, he would've had a good numbers to defect to another party and still go ahead to win withiout Wike. Check what happened in Osun and Kano state recently, their governors took entire state executives, legislation and at least 80% party structures to defect.

As for using court to silent him, that won't be possible if he command 80% of state political structure because they won't have anything to hook him with. Besides, he can always defect to another party with his structure.

blackgold2018:
I support you. But you are a dullard. A whole governor of an oil producing state is being controlled by Wike and Tinubu

This is not mlitary era but democratic setting, governor is not that powerful withiout the backing of his key worriors in his party and government. He become powerless, vulnerable and isolated once these key players are against him.

Fubara problem is not Wike or Tinubu but his impatient to buy the loyalty of key stake holders in his government and party before starting a fight with his godfather. He should've negotiate for senate or ministerial position during their so called agreement instead of trying to be smart after making such mumu agreement not to run again with them.

buygala:
The problem with this kind of overpriced apartments isn't getting tenants to pay the rent and park in...

The main problem is the tenants paying

You are damn right, and that is what many landlords don't know. People will pay your over priced rent to come in but getting the next rent from them might be a problem. They will frustrate you to the extent that you will be force to give them quit notice,and when you do that, you enter another long wait till they move out. At the end of the day, you would've lose 1 year or 6 months out 2 or 3 years rent period.

Samantha125:
What do you then have to say about the Amazonians who still walk around the forest naked? At least these ones are covered.

Those ones too should be integrated into modern ways of life by their government. People envolves, so as societies. You cant remain stagnant and barbaric in the name of obsolete culture or tradition. Those kind of cultures should be studies in the text books and not by reality.

If they refuse to evolve, they may one day be wipe out by nature.

James4358:
I inherited seven stems of Cocoa with a plot of land in the village that was only good for Agriculture from my dad about 5 years ago when he transion to the other side. I was struggling with a Para military job that the pay couldn't take me home.

I decided to look homeward. Applied for study leave, went back home to my father's land, cleared the only plot he had and extended the cocoa farm of seven stems to about 300 stems as at today.

I initially did 900 nursery for transplant but only about 300 survived.

Today my farm pays me more than what I spent 5years to study in school.

Perhaps there were some aspect you omitted.

1. 5 years old cocoa (even hybrid) could barely start fruiting well by 5th year.

2. Cocoa farm on just a plot of land cannot be giving you something reasonable at this moment.

3. You cannot plant 300 stands on a plot and expect good result, not to talk of 900. Or mayb you wanted to say 'an acre ' of land.

Please try to modify your post or make a clarification, so that it won't mislead people who will think they can make a living from a plot of cocoa farm and resign from their pay pay jobs.

Are they cursed or something? No human should live that way in 21st century. Even animals migrate from one place to another during dry season or if they don't have enough water to use.

Namibia government should not have allow such barbarism to stay in this era of civilization.

happney65:
When you say Govornors deliver votes with federal backing I just laugh. See it is a general election and not staggered elections. Staggered elections are easier to rig and manipulate not general.

As for so called Govornors delivering their states,that is another fallacy. Was okowa not Atiku's vice? What ended up with him? Lol. You make me laugh sha. It is the people that determine who wins not politicians. Politicians can determine tickets in their party,but the general election is the people and that is the FACT..

See elections are becoming far difficult to rig and you can even rig where you are popular. Not with a president that is the least popular since 99.

Today,most Tinubu supporters who are not politicians . Those that supported him are denying they ever did . . People I know one on one o.. No be say them say

If elections were held today, in the SW,there will be huge voter aparty and Tinubu will struggle to win. And that is the truth.

2027 elections will for the first time run into a run off. Because 2027 is going to be a referendum on the ruling party and not you claiming some so called politicians will win for Tinubu.and that is nothing but the truth

Except if things get better between now and 2027. Anything apart from that,will be tough for the APC and you can take that to the BANK!

Ok

You are still using 2023 to determine your prediction.

One thing is certain, the incumbent will rig massively in Lagos and Rivers to nullify whatever the millions votes any opposition could get elsewhere. It is also very certain they will get at least 30% from all South east states through the help of their governors. And if you think a governor can't deliver 30% votes with federal backing,then you don't have business with political discussion. They will definitely win Abuja this time around too, win south west, south south and North Central with a very wide margins. They will also secured 40% from North west and appropriate 45% from North East.

The reality we don't want to accept or pretended doesn't matter is that, APC is too big to lose to fragments oppositions. Masses are just an instruments on elections days, politicians determine who wins and not ordinary masses. The only viable way to win election in this part of the world is to have formidable machineries to work for you on election days. While an inexperience politician still hoping on average person like me or you, a single chancellor would've convince 50 people to vote for his/her candidates. The funniest thing is that, the same people will be among those abusing his candidate.

Atiku/Obi ticket would've a little bit matched the same energy but the experience incumbent party has successfully lure Obi away to slipt opposition votes. If you think they don't know about NDC or it quick approval and formations or Kwankwaso moves, you are only being ignorant.

ikeno:
Actually it's not that she was married in real sense, just got pregnant for the guy and they began cohabitating

It doesn't matter, as long as she is still living under a man and have children for him, you were not suppose to go that route. How would you feel if you marry tomorrow and someone else somewhere is still sleeping with your wife? To make the matter worse, you don't care to use condom.

You might even be the one responsible for her marital problems. Infact you practically ruin her life without knowing. If I were in your shoes, I will never bring this to the public.

1. Have a reasonable capital to kick off. This give you an edge and opportunity to compete with your competitors that have been in the business for long.

2. Create your own market channels even before you establish your business.

3. Hire a capable hands and be always present to monitor your business.

4. Location matter alot, it is much more better to pay millions at a location you will sell fast than paying few hundreds where sale will become a problem.

In addition, business registration is a must, as it give your business good reputation when dealing with quality clients.

Mercury12:
even as that they can't handle bayern or psg

Football finals are always different and it is 50/50 game. We have seen how Chelsea defeated them in the CWC final. Infact, alot of football finals has gone contrary to people expectations in so many occasions. If Arsena could defend well, they will have good chances against PSG or Bayern.

BlakKluKluxKlan:
Bravo !!!
I enjoyed reading that.
Very educative.
Now I know more about my extended family from Ile Ife.

But I thought 'Gbegiri' was popular with the Igbomina ?

No, ibadan people are the major 'Gbegiri' eaters.

Igbomina, especially Ila town loves ' Ekuru and Eko' , they also loves pounded yam with egungun soup.

Traditionally, they don't or hardly filter pap in ila orangun, they will just start cooking it directly after grinding. Also they don't normally remove bean rinds before using it for moimoi, Akara or Ekuru. Also there is a particular food called ' Ekuru Alaro'. They loves strong food in Ila orangun, especially their Eko' elewe. Their men loves palm wine die, and they can't joke with it.