₦airaland Forum

ElevationD:
The reasons terrorism continues in the north of the country can be found in corruption and sabotage. The leaders have been accused severally of using terrorism and banditry and means to achieving wealth.

The country needs a very strong and determined leader to move the country forward.

Nigeria dont need strong and determine leader as he will never function in this current arrangements. Nigeria need restructuring (true federalism) to move forward.

Tribalists everywhere, cant we just call it made in Nigeria. What about other things invented by other ethnic groups, must everything be tribslize while we call ourselves Nigerians.

True federalism is the only solution anyway.

Nostalemate:
Drop evidence(s)...I can link you to a help.



Shout-out to all chess players on nairaland earning big bucks via the game.

How do you earned via the game, can you explain.

Stephen0mozzy:
Items 14 and 16 under List of Marriage Goods - they have She-Goat and One Whole Cow.

I think that buying of matching clothes for parents is general. We have that in most Edo tribes too.

Na family wey go easy on the groom naim dem dey buy goat for on for Christmas.

Lolz, trust me, you will forget about it if you get money wey no be say na manage manage.

capetownboyz:
I’m currently dealing with post-separation anxiety because I no longer live with my family, and my child is quite far away from me. I still cover her bills and take care of her needs.
The main issues that led to our separation were our fundamental differences, which are still present, along with accommodation problems that I’m trying to resolve. My goal is to bring my child closer so I can visit her easily and be more involved in her life.
The reason I’m venting is that marriage or a long-term union isn’t the flex I thought it would be. Having another person constantly in your face—questioning your choices, your thoughts, and your processes, putting you on the spot and demanding instant answers like you’re some magician, acting like they know you better than you know yourself, doubting you, showing no patience, yet constantly seeking gratification to feel good while you walk on eggshells—is that what they call the sacrifices men are expected to make?
I’m stepping back for a while. I feel deeply for my child. I fought hard to keep her under my care, but her mother fought against it and took her away. Now I have to live with the reality of watching her move from one place to another—places I know nothing about. It’s an unbalanced situation that I hate. I never envisioned raising a child this way, and if I had the chance, I would definitely reconsider my choices—especially who I chose to have a child with.Time will tell 💲🚶🏾‍♂️‍➡️

Sorry for what you are passing through, i could deduced from your narratives that your marriage would've be a good one but poverty strike, which made some little normal marriage issues became unresolved occurrences between you and your wife.

Focus on your development for now and seek for reconciliation with your wife and daughter as soon as you can.

Stephen0mozzy:
Congratulations to her, and well done to the family if they really modified the list 🤗 - but she no trust the guy to buy her stuff after the marriage? You know how much the wife items section go cost? 🤣

One whole maluu and iya goat don near or pass 1.5m

I think the South South still has the cheapest bride list - God bless my babe family 😁

Cow is not included in bride list items, but he will still buy it for the bride family and get the hall for the event. He will also buy matching clothes for bride parent. These are traditions in Yoruba land. If the bride family are rich,they can forgone it on their side but if they are not, he will pay for all the expenses of the wedding on bride family.

ChizzyBuna:
What I found out is that if you simply tell a girl that you want sex and will pay her

97% of the time, they feel offended and want to be seen as a girl with value

The interesting part is that they want it
But the will say No and reject your advances

3% will say yes and agree
So that is to tell you that women do not like honesty and straightforwardness
They shout that they love honest man
But once they see one they reject him

If all you want from a woman is sex withiout having to pass through relationship waiting stress, you need to offer something she can't reject. Dont just walk to a woman and say you want sex, even a sex worker on a nautral ground will reject such advance.

Just say, you are really a nice and attractive woman, if you can spend quality fun time with me, and can keep it as a secrete between us, I will give you ####. Value her worth before you call the amount, them no born her well if she no gree. This method is 99% success rate. Make sure you do that where she won't be seen or notice by anyone.

BlackPantherxXx:
He has been writing these dry pathetic jokes even before I joined Nairaland in 2017....

This is someone pushing 40 or even more

Cork has been around on Nairaland with the same line of jokes since the day of Mobo444, Eleshin, Dayo Kanu, etc around 2006/2008. He came up with Mr. Cork much later.

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laiperi:
DUTY OF CHILDREN TO CARE FOR PARENTS MAY ENDS WITH THIS GENERATION

Situations between parents, children and grandchildren have become so tenuous, the amicable relationships suffered more or less because of financial strains. Even children that still live in family homes, find it difficult to contribute enough rent to subsidize the bills coming in. One would expect that in Africa where some of these children hardly pay rent, enough money would go to their aged parents to live adequately in their old age.

Africans are not the only ones who long for loving and caring children as they age. Today, any parent waiting for that prayer in their old age will be disappointed. These children have more responsibilities weighing them down more than they can handle, making it more difficult to take what they consider extra responsibilities of their parents. Even the care provided by some responsible governments outside Africa is not the same as that of loving children.

As parents age, there are certain extra expenses to take care of because of deteriorating health. Though older parents have reduced appetite, they must be cautious, eat special nutritious food high in fiber, fruits and vegetables to prevent more health problems. Medications and vitamins supplements are also essential with regular exercise. But with reduced income and limited social security abroad, paying rent, bills and eating well may become a balancing act.

Those parents that have spoiled their children and spent everything they had on them may end up with the greatest shock of their life if their expectation of children taking care of them fall short or are not satisfactorily met. Even worse, are children who think their parents have money after they lavish everything on them but only become stingy in their old age. The false assumptions have created enmity and bad relationships within parents, children and relatives.

Many children do not know what their parents have to go through to put food on the table; pay bills, mortgage or rent. There must be cash available each day of school for children and mothers who take care of everything else. While hard times and a bad economy may affect the fathers’ income, regular responsibilities do not stop. The family must eat, live somewhere, pay school fees despite bleak economic prospects.

Most Africans have family compounds or houses before this generation of children. Those families and children without, have moved out of their communities into cities in search of better life. This generation struggles to build their own houses as they pay rent. The additional burden of providing for their wives and children has driven them to concentrate on their immediate families while their parents’ care is ignored.

African large compounds that used to accommodate everyone in the past, no longer do. Reduced purchasing power and the high cost of new homes have made life more difficult for the new generation. Many of these children have not been able to leave home and some of those ....

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It won't end in the next tenth generations, even the Europeans, Asians and Americans don't joke with the welfare of their aged parents.

No matter the circumstances or economic reality, a child will still care for his parent. Though it is important for everyone to plan for old age and not rely on children.

malcom1X:
You are entitled to 6 months' notice before a tenancy can be terminated. The 3-week notice your landlord gave you is far too short and is legally invalid.

Also, a landlord cannot issue a valid quit notice simply because a tenant demands necessary repairs. The requirement for a 6-month notice is absolute, and his failure to follow this procedure renders the notice you received effectively worthless.
Even though the quit notice expires, the landlord can not evict you. Only the courts can evict you.

If he brings police to your house, keep repeating that this is a civil case. Don't reply to any policeman's questions.

Let's see if he will take you to court. Only reply to the court not a policeman.

Only the courts can evict you.

Changing locks, removing your belongings, or cutting off utilities without a court order is illegal and you can sue for damages.

He has an option, to reduce house rent which he is not willing to do. So relax yourself.

Lastly don't sign anything.

6 months quit notice is not applicable if tenant refuse to pay his/her rent. If tenant had paid in part, lost his source of income or offer to pay half payment, the law can still reason with him. But in this case, he blatantly refuse to pay and keep using the facility. He is only within his right to demand repair of the house that is affecting him when he is still within his renting period. During the period,he has the right to sue the landlord for immediate repair, demand for returning rent and move or force him to pay for the demage.

Olajumoke459:
My house rent expires in December 2025.The landlord agreed that he will repair the house before another rent payment but he refused and he insisted that the rent must be paid.Meanwhile,he said same thing last year but he refused.He brought a quit notice on May 9 indicating that we should vacate the house on May 31, please what's the position of the law on this.

It is very ok you tell the landlord to repair the house to justify the rent you are paying but everything is wrong if you refuse to pay your rent because of that. You should've simply find another house and move out. You don't have power to force him to repair his house, when he did not force you to remain there.

As for the quit notice, he can actually evict you with few weeks notice if what he stated in that quit notice is about your refusal to pay rent.

Super eagle would've performed wonderfully in this world cup. Seem the so called big teams in this tournament are no longer what they use to be.

These days that alot of men sees marriage as old fashion arrangements, and you are talking about polygamy?

Is like you come to this world to work for others to rip. You can always get sex from different women whenever you want, so why putting unnecessary baggage on your head because you want to enjoy different psssy in the name of polygamy.

Brazil, the most pressure is on acelloti to be better than previous Brazilians coaches.

Another pressure is on Portugal and Ronaldo to deliver with their golden generation team.

The last pressure is on Mexico to prove that they are the best among the host nations.

Mastersure:
Great Nairalanders,
May the new year be good to everyone here.

Please, i have a problem i need to share with us all here, with the hope of sound counsels on how to manage the situation.

Now the thing is, i am in a serious relationship that is leading to marriage with a lady. But this lady is an ulcer patient. This condition makes her to fall sick almost every week. Stomach upsets and general body weakness, but she still works.
Monies are spent in the hospitals steady and in addition, my plan is after wedding, when we would have been married, i will ensure that those products that eases/relief the ailment like, Milk and Yoghurt together with the normal drugs will always be available at home. (She takes Milk and yoghurt steady for reliefs).

Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues.

True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.

Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue?

Thanks and God bless you all.

There is always a man for every woman and vise visa, whether you marry her or not, someone will still marry her without minding her condition.

If you are the one with such condition, will you be happy if everyone is rejecting you? If people could marry HIV patient, I wonder your fear about an ulcer. She need proper medical care and avoid the triggers, that is all. Besides, ulcer can be cure with herbs if you follow the due process.

Sirchiboy:
Victor Osimhen reveals that when he made money , HE TOOK ALL HIS DAY ONE FRIENDS to Turkey 🇹🇷. He sponsored everything and got them accommodation and jobs there , today they are doing extremely well too .

Victor didn’t tell them to keep hustling and praying , he simply showed them the way .

Many of you have made it but you can’t even help family . Shame on you

Moral lesson : Stop telling your friends to work harder , just help them
If you can

It all depends on individual involves, and in case of siblings not helping one another, it could be the way they were brought up by their parents. If the parents always preach love, humility and kindness to one another in the family from inception, things like this hardly happened.

As for friends, you need to chose the people you called friends wisely, if you are the generous type, please don't make a selfish stingy person as friend. A smart person should be able to know a friend who can stand by him in times of need withing six months of being friends. Also check yourself well, do you also lend a helping hands to others from the little you have,if the answer is no, then you don't deserves help from others too.

Edusouls:
USA don tire for the war high oil prices in the states Is grinding their citizens, and other nations are crying,midterm is fast approaching, the closure of the straits which Iran controls is a nightmare to USA, 25 billion dollars of Iranian assets would be unfozen, Iran would never give up their enriched uranium or ballistic missile program, its just a matter of time blockade of the Hormuz would happen again, I don clear for una eyes say Iran no be walk over, they gave America serious bloody nose and nearly strangled isreal, make trump try any rubbish again make I see…

It was a tactical war played by USA, Iran is no match to Isreal, let alone mighty US. America avoided ascalation as much as they could, reason you think Iran has a chance. If US were to make a direct attack on them, it might turn to another world war as some countries will join them in the war.

If you play chess game, you will understand that Iran has been defeated long ago. Regime change that will finally turn Iran to liberal state they once were is around the corner.

ChizzyBuna:
There is a POS babe I have been toasting for 1 week. This morning I was in her shop toasting her when Taskforce people came and grab her POS signpost and seized it
Me personally didn't stand up only her stood up and confront them. They ended up tearing and destroying the signpost and I was just there sitting and did nothing.

Now I'm thinking if I should have acted and try restrain taskforce since I'm the guy toasting her to prove my masculinity
Or
Did I do the right thing. Buy sitting down and just watching them wreck her sign post

P.S
Her offence was that the post was on the road but it didn't look like it . Anyways did I do right or wrong by not reacting and staying calm

P.S again

See these white knights telling me to man up to 10 taskforce agberos only me??
If na one on one I'm capable but me against 10 hefty agberos. You dey craze??
This is a babe that told me she has a BF/fiance so me dey try play side nigga role chop and clean mouth. I no come this life to die for any banny

A smart guy would've used the opportunity to finally win her over. Not that you will start fighting them, all you need to do is to appease them, they will understand you better than the poor girl. If she is sensible enough, she will turn down your advance because you don't seem to have an instinct to defend vulnerable people around you.

grandstar:
I am thinking of going into farming.

How much would it cost to build a mud fence for a 10,000 sqm of land which is a hectare of farm land

I am trying to cut costs. I will use cement to plaster the walls eventually. Using cement bricks for fencing would be too expensive.

Lolz, don't waste your money, mud blocks cannot sustain heavy rain for 3 years. To fence an hectre of land with cement blocks, you will still need a lot of strong concrete pillars for demarcation, not to talk of clay blocks. It can only be use to build houses and not fence.

gidgiddy:
Don't hope on Tinubu to restructure Nigeria, he will never do it. The simple reason to know that Tinubu has no intentions of restructuring Nigeria is that if he did not do it in his first term, or at least start the process in his first term, he won't do it in his second term

Anyone who is serious about restructuring Nigeria will not wait for second term to do it

Tax reform

State police

Decentralization of power generation.

Decentralization of NDA and barracks.

Decentralization of CBN

Development commissions for each zone.

Coaster networks roads to link the regions.

Local government autonomy

Are all antecedents of true federalism. I think he stopped because of the way Northerners reacted to tax reform, which could jeopardize his second term ambition.

WizardOfNG:
My point is simple. ND region suffer the brunt of oil exploration and commercial extraction that has negatives for oil-rich communities.

They should receive more to deal with how their communities have become Nigeria's transactional asset.

Also, it is condemnable a nation claiming to host many brilliant and educated people is focused mainly on oil and gas when we have so much to utilise becoming rich and privileged.

Blame the Niger delta leaders who has for ages been embezzled what meant for the development of the region. 13% derivative is more than monthly alocation of many states, yet you keep crying that you don't benefit more from the oil exploitation in your region.

Regionalism is better because it will make your leaders to look inward and develop their cities. And contrary to your believe, only an inland oil facilities can be awarded 100% to the producing states, offshore oils are federal government property, which can be used as intervention fund, foreign affair and national armies.

Haydens:
Remove rigging, Tinubu can not even match Obi's footstep.

He is a master rigger so don't even x-ray him with obi.

If you go out to vote in elections days or have experience about Nigeria politics, you would've understand that as bad as APC is, they don't need to rig to win 2027 presidential election. Their structure is too massive compare to 2023, all they need to do is to mobilize party members and key players to share money to voters on election day. People don't vote or work for political party base on performances, they do so as a result of what they could gain from them. For instance, if you are one of the ward leaders and you has been promise a Keke worth about 4m or Camry 8m, won't you mobilize all your families, friends, neighbor's and associates to win your ward? That is how structure works.

Atiku/Obi ticket would've be a strong opponent to remove APC but personal greed for power dismantled their structure.

AdisGlobal01:
SHE_NEEDS_YOUR_ADVICE

My wedding was scheduled for March this year, but everything changed after my fiancé's father passed away unexpectedly in November.

His funeral was held just three weeks later, in December. I genuinely wanted to attend, but there was one major problem: my employer had a strict policy against granting leave during the December holiday period. When I accepted the job, this condition was clearly stated. Despite explaining my situation and pleading for an exception, my request was denied.

I informed my fiancé immediately. At first, he appeared understanding. I even contributed financially to support the funeral arrangements.

Then his mother called.

She told me that if I truly wanted to become part of their family, I had to be physically present at her husband's funeral. I tried explaining my circumstances, but she ended the call before I could finish.

When I called my fiancé afterward, I expected him to stand by me. Instead, he asked:

"If it were your own father, wouldn't you find a way to attend?"

I explained that the situations were different because my employer might make an exception if it were my immediate family member.

That was when he dropped the bombshell:

"No presence. No wedding."

I thought grief was speaking. I thought time would calm him down.

I was wrong.

The wedding was officially cancelled.

My family tried everything to reconcile the situation, but his family refused every attempt. Eventually, my father advised me to accept the loss and move forward with my life.

It broke me, but I did.

Months passed.

Then, on May 20th, my ex-fiancé called me.

What he said left me speechless.

According to him, I had failed the test of being a good wife because I stopped trying to convince his family after the wedding was cancelled. He said a "real wife" would have kept begging until she was accepted.

Then he announced that he had "forgiven" me.

Not only that, he had already chosen a new wedding date in August and expected me to start preparing immediately.

As if the breakup had never happened.

As if my feelings didn't matter.

As if he alone had the authority to decide when a relationship ends—and when it resumes.

Without hesitation, I told him I was no longer interested.

His response shocked me even more.

He said:

"I'm not done. You don't have the right to be done."

I blocked his number immediately.

But that wasn't the end.

A few days later, he appeared at my father's house carrying the bride price and all the marriage items he had previously rejected.

My father told him clearly:

"My daughter has moved on. As far as this family is concerned, she is no longer available."

Still, he refused to accept it.

Since then, he and his mother have continued calling, visiting, and pressuring both me and my family despite my repeated refusal.

Now I'm beginning to wonder:

Is this really about love, or is there something deeper behind their sudden determination?

What troubles me most is the mindset that someone can cancel a wedding, disappear for months, return when it suits them, and expect another person to simply obey.

I am now considering legal action because the constant calls, visits, and refusal to respect my decision are becoming disturbing.

My question is:

If someone ends a relationship, then later decides to "forgive" you and resume the wedding without your consent, would you see that as love... or as a dangerous sense of entitlement?

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Perhaps you didn't explain the situation to your employers very well because I don't see any reason they will denied you of attending such sensitive occasions like your dear fiance father burial. The father of the person you had fixed date of wedding with? The father of the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with? You ought to have treated it as if it was your own father.

Well, maybe you are just one unserious girl in the office they don't expect to have a serious guy to marry. Even at that, you could have just given your boss some excuses.

My takes; if you truly wants to attend, you will surely do so regardless of your office rules. Just learn from this and move on with your life.

No

idahme:
Instead of you to own a building own a business what do I mean. If you have 20million, don't go buy a land and start building rather take a chunk of it and start up a business and the grow it. As long as your business is growing you can conveniently pay your rent and subsequently use the interest generated from the business to build.

You are only building for yourself to enjoy a complete aesthetics in your home and not because you want to keep it for someone. Rather than keeping a house for the next generation, keep a business that could maintain and keep your next generation.

Business can failed but your land and housing investment cannot fail. I used to think this way before but later realize that a house you built is also an asset that could generate money, and still save you millions that could be spent on rents. A house you built with 20m at a good location can still be sold at 50m or more in few years. Also, you can obtain a good loan to improve your business using your house as a collateral.

With my experience and many more I have leant from people, I will advise a young man with 20m to build small bungalow first with 15m and use the rest for business. By the time you must have been very sure of your business or knows all the basics to Excel, you can use your house to obtain loan amd easily expand. The most hardest challenges that a lot of married men are facing today is to combine house rent with family expenses and children school fees.

ukfootwear:
I don’t believe there’s any inheritance in habit , do you know why ? Because there are some attitudes or let’s say character you thought you inherited until someone tamper with your space , you thought you inherited calmness until you’re frustrated and you broke a bottle to fight back and your father never did that. Character is inbuilt , that’s what you are even if you pretend someday it will reveal itself

You are 100% wrong, I am so pragmatic to the core but you see these inheritance trait or character is very real. The mind of a child is plain, noil and void, but these innate traits or character influence a child approach or encounter to the outside world.

There are some traits or character you copied from your parents by carrying their DNA. Taking your example as a case studies, every human can fight back but there are some people that can never break a bottle no matter how bad you offended them.

My little boy has inherited a trait from me that is so astonished to me too, and nobody thought him that.

Majority of them don't realize because they roll with rich men kids as well.

The ones that found themselves among the poor children became more arrogant by their non chalant attitudes.

Smart guys, these two matches could obviously influence their market values. If they perform poorly, big clubs may have a rethink but if they don't play any match before transfer window closed, clubs will only judge them by last season performances.

Politics is not a do or die affair, that you are not on the same page should not make somene your enemy. There should be freedom of choice and opinion from everyone.

What if the person you think will perform better get there and everything turn upside down. How will you confrong the person you had made your enemy because of that?

Everyone is suffering from Tinubu policies including insecurity but let not make enemy with one another because of that. Let allow people to make their choices withiout any form of intimidation.

Adblg0610:
Before Tinubu became our President
:
1. 2 Nigerian former military generals and Heads of State, later ruled as civilian Presidents for a total of 16 years, without solving insecurity.
2. During GEJ’s Administration, Nigerian troops fled the battlefield in droves, due to lack of sophisticated weapons to fight.
3. During that period, insurgents had conquered and hoisted their flags in 17 local governments in Borno, Yobe and Adamawa states. They had even extended the battle to Abuja.
But now, American troops have been around for about 3 months. Tinubu has fortified the military, made Christians to head the Ministry of Defence and the military, to ensure transparency, because it was thought that the Muslims were treating them with kid gloves. When insecurity initially started, Atiku was too busy with privatization to mind it’s consequences.

With the way banditry has been turned to a big business in Northern Nigeria, no president can solve the issue as long as he depends on Nigeria Military or police. And how many thousands of machinery fighters you want ti hire from outside to defeat those riff raff blood sucking demons in the northern desert.

Only North and its leaders can solve this problem, divide the country into regions and let each zone take care of its security. North will not fold their arms and allow these criminal elements to ruin their region while their neighbors are fastly progressing. You see those young amajiris they dont want to educate, by the time they have no one to blame again for their woes, no one will teach them to train them.

Banditry in Nigeria has come to stay, you can defeat terrorism but not banditry that those who are meant to defeat them are part of it for business.