₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
1. You don't know much about kids, do you? I understand this mentality that a lot of Nigerians have when it comes to judging their own parents.

2. Oh wow! You have never met the man, but you are already sure that his reason for cutting contact is his wife. Way to go! You are a true Nigerian to your core!

I don't just say things withiout having alot of experiences or evidences, I have grown past that stage in my life. You can equally do the same, try to talk to alot of people in this situation and hear the reason they treated their parents badly or abandoned them.

As for the guy in question, cultural change and bad influence usually made people to abandoned their root. He is not the first, and he won't be the last person who will travel abroad and totally forgot their families in Nigeria. He must have been manipulated to believe he is Russian, and has nothing to do with black race.

budaatum:
One thing I've learnt is, siblings can assume they all got the same good treatment, when the truth might be that some are not treated as well as some. And though some may claim someone "was well treated as a kid", they don't know how the kid felt about its treatment.

I say the above to add rationality to the actions of this "kid". It is also possible that the kid's action might be irrational, and that he truly was treated well as a kid and now just does not care about his parent's no more, or it can be that his new location has its on hardships that have caused issues for him so his thinking is bent.

If we don't walk in his shoes we'd never know his journey, basically, and any judgement might be ill informed and hasty, and is definitely a "million dollar question", and "life".

Kids don't use their treatment from the parents to act when they grow up, they only see it as discipline needed to become better person in future. Kids only remember or act when parents neglect or abandoned them and not taking care of their needs when they needed them the most.

This guy is purely manipulated by Rassian wife and culture, and like you had rightly said, his reasons were irrational. His decision to abandoned his people might not be what he wanted but forced to do so by circumstances beyond his power.

simpleseyi:
Southerners including President Tinubu should stop interfering in Northern family affairs

That is why i laugh when I see some people saying these jihadists or terrorists can be easily defeated.

The only solution left now is to decentralise the security architecture. Let there be state police, and when state take up the full responsibility of security within their jurisdictions, they will definitely sit up or see it as a serious threat to their states.

Dtruthspeaker:
What a garbage field. You must be sufaring from erectile not-function for your divck to not stand when you see a woman like the ones seen in gyms.

Also, women rape men by getting the unwilling man or boy to bleep them. That is how they usually get it done.

And this is what I call "consent rape" or "rape by consent".

And this is where you see why men are always afraid of women and must be because, you don't know how she may choose to end this sex inducement game.

As she can end it with you bleeping her and she letting it slide or she may play it the you-raping- her way.

So this is where you see women make you (sex inducement) commit the crime, while they play anyway they want eg sitting looking like they are no where near the scene of the crime exactly like what the friend in this case did or the other one in which f00. ssh men celebrate the score.

Not knowing that it is them who have been played and rather she is the one who did the most scoring.

After seeing something like "consent rape" in your writeup, I have concluded you might not really understand the meaning of subject matter being discussed here.

If I am to go by your claim, it means you can practically have sex with your mum (my apology), female family members or mad women if they play inducement game on you?

Well, you may still be a teenage boy, reason you think a divck must response to every female bodies.

Harddiskng:
There are so many illiterates on Nairaland.

Just look at this comment

How do i start to educate this one now

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/712588k4/

Lolz, if you and your likes are eduucated, you won't be arguing with the law or saying what is practically impossible by nature.

Tell me why you feel a woman can forcefully rape you withiout your full consent instead of embarrassing yourself with derogatory remarks here.

What do some of you know other than reading nonsense assumptions writting by weak men. You're a giver during sex, while women are receiver, your instrument determine the extent of sex, if it doesn't response, then there is no sex. No man get arose under an intensive or dreadful circumstances that is usually accompany by act of rape, that is why women cant be charge for rape, because they are not capable or doing so.

If the law says women can't forcefully rape a man, I wonder what kind of experience you had that is more quality or qualified than the law itself or those sages that wrote it. And if you are that intelligent or literate as you claim, you won't argue with the law.

TechBaron:
Na person wey no get pikin this one go dey vex.

I have never visited a new born baby empty handed.. And as much as I love giving, there are plenty of times that I had to use my last card in buying diapers and clothes...

If these rules would stop me from visiting... I'll gladly pocket my money and enjoy my day with my own children.

Better still, use the money in buying Hollandia for my kids. We'll be watching "Baby Shark" or "Paw Patrol" while sipping the yoghurt.

Simple!

No dey stress yourself, people post rubbish to trend these days. People live fantasy life on Internet, don't be surprise the person that posted it and all those supporting her can't do that in real life.

Women don't rape and can't rape. Penis works with your psychology than physical touch, no amount of bodily touch can arose you if your feelings are not connected. You can put it to test, if your mind is not on sex or under a very sad situation, a naked sexy girl can sit on your naked divck and still not move you a bit.

Only a delude person will think a woman can rape a man withoout his consent, reason the law don't recognise such.

The chances that an hard working serious woman will succeed in life is almost 100%, while that of a man is 50/50.

Salewa97:
The president is making sense.

Those mercenaries, their loyalty is to money not to any country

But they will do their job effectively than Nigerian army. The war against insurgency won't stop as long as we keep trusting our highly compromises solders.

Their sponsors and supporters only want one thing for them as always confirmed by Gumi, "Financial induced amnesty like Niger Delta militants". They will eventually push Tinubu to do this, except he borrow himself brain and bring capable mercenaries to clear out these terrorists at once.

The number of VIP in this country cannot less than 100,000 people, and some have 2 or 3 police men attached to them. We are talking about 100,000 or more policemen who are guiding just 100,000 citizens, making over 200m others vulnerable to social vices and criminality.

This figure doesn't suggest anything, people only conduct DNA test on children they have strong feelings might not be theirs. So, it is completely logical for 98% of such test to be negative.

You probably bought a spoit meat, abattoirs rarely open on Sunday, so whatever the meat you buy on Sunday morning to afternoon is Saturday or Friday meat.

Next time, don't buy meat that is not looking bright/sharp.

We4all:
Abegi! Why not relocate the people to a different vicinity or ask them to leave the bandits enclaves? The bandits are in war with Nigerians and in times of war, the government ensure that citizens receive maximum protection.

But come to think of it, why are the locals living with these bandits knowing full well who they are? This proves that these people are not ready to be liberated.

They are just giving unnecessary excuses, what happens if they mobilize the civilians and farmers among them and go after the rest.

Tinubu is only playing national politic with this war against terrorists up north. He doesn't want to offend terrorists apologists of leaders that can mobilize votes for him in 2027.

No Nigeria president can order massive clearing out of these criminals in Northern forest withiout considering these factors. The best and only solution is "state policing " let each state handle security within their domain. The issue of insecurity aided by Northern leaders should not be national problem or what we spend most of our resources on. It is only North that can apply appropriate solution to its problem, let the likes of Hamed Gumi team up with governors over there and provide a solution in their own way.

Every right thinking person knows this, infact, majority of those going to the religions places to pray and fasting also knows this.

One thing you don't know about religions or prayers is that, they gives peace, hopes and consolations in the faces of uncertainty and hopelessness.

Withiout religion and prayers, humans would've lost hope and value in nature and humanity. Prayer is not only peculiar to Africans, people pray in Europe, America and other developed countries in the world too. The only difference are the subjects of the prayers.

I think winning the AFCON is better than going to the world cup.

The glory is more appreciated and well documented in history than just a qualification for world cup.

NOETHNICITY:
Here’s a refined, clearer version while keeping your tone and message intact:

You people can be funny sometimes.

Many years ago, my best friend and I applied for a federal government job. When it was time for the screening, interviews, and tests, he refused to go because he believed it was impossible to get an FG job without connections. I did everything I could to convince him to at least make an effort before drawing conclusions. He even promised to show up—but he never did.

Ironically, he had a better chance than I did, with his BSc and his brilliance.

Lo and behold, I got the job, and he has remained jobless to this day.

So please, stop discouraging people from trying things that could lead to positive outcomes.

Let him write an anonymous letter describing the location and the people involved.

If you’d like it more formal, more persuasive, or more concise, I can adjust it!

Ok.

NOETHNICITY:
@Op, follow this advice. I know a very wise advice when I see one. You can also report discreetly on Twitter. You can create a fake account just for that purpose.

You had never face a brutal reality in Nigeria, reason you are talking like this. Who tell you police don't know them or has never arrested them before?

Dont be surprise that it is the same police ( my apology to Good ones among them) that will expose your identity to them and even give them tip to deal with you. And let assume you did that anonymously, they won't act on it, except it is highly notorious joint that have been reported before or the boys commited another crime.

He made a mistake by starting what he couldn't afford to finish. He behaved like a rich guy to them, reason they keep asking him for money. If he had refuse or give them just #100 at first time, they would've tag him idiot and let him be for good. Now, the only escape route for him is to relocate, otherwise, they will soon invite him to join them because they had seen him as a financial backer.

Kobojunkie:
. She says she deserves better. So, yes, let her go, and you, too, can move on to finding yourself a woman well within your range. Work on getting a woman you can afford, or better still, put all of your energy into building your financial capacity and strength so you don't run up against the same issue again.

For the very first time, I agree with you.

They would be following up and down the ladies they can't afford, and when they drop bills for them, they will run to the social medias to lament. Some men will even pretend to be rich, so that she can date them. Rubbish!

faceland:
A landlocked country will fall by January. How did they get in?
If far away Libya can bring in weapons, Mali can bring in something worst (experienced, well equipped radicals).

Traore has stepped on many toes he should not have. He created enemy with France that have been protecting his region for a long time. He pull out of ecowas, and told US to go to hell.

This is simply an international game by big boys. The main focus is to remove military junta headed by Traore from power and chase the insurgents out of that enclave to pave way for a loyal civilian government.

obataokenwa:
Tinubu is not wise at all. North arrested Nnamdi Kanu and refuse to sentence him, but pressured Tinubu to be the one to do the dirty job. Life is turn by turn
Buhari and his cabinet were wise since 2015 to have avoided sentencing him but were doing of and on with him even though all the judges then were northerners. But Tinubu thinks life ends after yoruba rule finish. He has shown that the leaders and people of SE doesnt matter upon all the appeal.

You don't know anything, withiout sentencing him, there is no way South leaders can negotiate for presidential pardon.

I am very sure it was the same government that appeal to the judge not to sentence him to death. Kanu won't remain in prison for life, if Tinubu not release him, the next government after him will do so.

Dreal1247:
The Fulani has compromised the Nigerian Army. All the repellent Boko Haram members who have been inducted into the Nigerian Military should be first removed. That is first step to be taken if they really wish to fight this terrorists. This is terrorists attack and not bandits.

What about the ones who are not repentant terrorists but possessed jihadish mentality?

Where are Muslim leaders headed by sultan of sokoto? Have they for once appeal to these jihadists to sheld their swords? Have any of their leaders/politicians openly call them to order? What are they doing with money going to their states to solve amajiri problem where these terrorists recruits young boys at will?

Nigeria must go back to regionalism to solve this problem, North will know how to solve this jihadish problem when there is no one to blame or tax payer money to waste again.

A whole 9 straight slots were giving to Africa, and Nigeria and Cameron could not qualify.

No one should even talk about this team again, too shameful.

okoIYAyin:
Explain true federalism, sir.

A true federalism is when each region are independently governed but under a unique federation. In this system, federal government only control national armies and foreign policy.

Resources are control and proceed are retain by regional government. They will only be mandated to pay tax to federal government to mentain few institutions under its jurisdiction.

ShoeMarket:
The sad part is if you put Atiku there today, the situation will even worsen. That has been the pattern, a sad trajectory indeed.

I don't even know what is Nigeria solution, aswear.

Nigeria solution is true federalism or total disintegration. Anything short of that is like fetching water into an empty basket.

neyop85:
Oshimen's exit is having the expected result. Tolu's imposing presence can help restrict the Congolese from being too adventurous.

I am not watching the game, was he injured or what?

haggai247:
Patriot I salute you comrade continue being patriotic more grease to your elbow.

I guess patriotism simply means turning away from reality...I refuse that kind of patriotism.

I've waited and delayed living thinking things will get better but it will not wake up and smell the coffee.

I'd had to let my wife and kids go make I dey wait...but it seems it's a fools dream waiting for Nigeria to be great again.

Your politicians all have their kids there and patriots want me to stay and change what exactly.

I can't abeg and the fool's want to start taxing my hard earned money come 2026 that was the last straw.

You're a patriot please continue working and praying.

They are going on a borrowing spree for you and your unborn children's you'll hide your head in the sand and say things will get better.

Kudos to you I've the resources I can't stay, or wait and pray.

I'm checking out.

I'm not going there to hustle ooo no already has everything figured out.

Patriot see you when your prayer for a better Nigeria get answered.

You all don't get the point, it is normal to criticise government or leaders, you can even call them a disgrace or any name you want but when you called your country a disgraceful, you are practically insulting both living and dead, you are insulting the land, and everything occupied or walking on it. Reality is not when you insult your country, it is when you identify your problem and provide solution to it. Nigeria need solution to progress, and one of the best solution is "true federalism or total disintegration'. Go and check many of my posts on political threads on Nairaland, I have no business with nonsense Peter Obi, Tinubu, APC, PDP, ADC, etc you guys use to fight about, I had even stop voting since 2011, because I believes no man born in a woman can fix Nigeria with this present arrangement. The problem with you all is the fact that you believe "PETER OBI" is the solution, when in actual sense he is not.

It simply a law of nature, you can't be cursing the land that produce you and expect the same land to yield or add value to you.

For instance, how would you feel, if a foreigner meet you and say, ohhh, this is a man from a disgraceful country? Will that add value to you despite the fact that you are not part of corrupt leaders that spoil it?

SpencerForbes:
Honestly, if you think women just have a lower sex drive than men, you’re missing the point. Sometimes you’ll hear things like ‘“ men love sex than women” and it’s really funny

It's not about how much they want it—it’s about strategy and survival.
Think about the reality:

•The Stakes Are Way Higher: The consequences of a casual encounter are just different for a woman and it poses more risks. We're talking pregnancy, higher risk of STIs like HIV, and getting completely strung along by men they thought had good intentions and dumped. They are the gatekeepers because they literally have the most to lose. Their caution is just smart self-preservation.

• They Know Their Power: Women figure out pretty early on that sex is currency. Even though they try to hide it by acting ignorant, when they see how many guys act like total simps (sorry, not sorry!) sugar zaddies , married men and young guys lacking game, just to get access, they learn that careful control is power. They have to be super choosy about who gets through the door if they want to control the dynamic.

So, it boils down to two things: genuine attraction and safety.

When a girl is truly turned on by a guy, and she's certain she can avoid those major consequences, honestly? Her drive will probably scare you. Don't confuse strategy with a lack of desire.

Naturally, women have lower sexual drives than men, women can enjoy or like sex but don't always have desire or urge to do it like men, which gave them natural ability to control their urge.

The gender that always want sex or enjoy it the most pay or do anything to have it. You can't pay or go extras miles to do what you're not the one enjoying the most, likewise you don't necessarily have to play hard to do what you know you enjoy the most. This simple analogy is more than enough to put this incessant argument to rest.

And contrary to some believes, women don't see anything special about good sex, they may enjoy it at that moment but that is where it ended. That is why a woman may prefer a man who can take care of her needs than the one who can fully satisfy her sexually. Some may say, they will cheat with the one that can satisfy them but that is not always the case. Majority of them may rather contented with good living and moderate sex than good sex and uncomfortable life.

haggai247:
You sef don dey chop corn you sef don dey do abadomania good grief.
You're on a sinking ship jump ship now why you can and if you have the courage to.
Stop giving yourself false hope the politicians you're busy defending all have their families in Europe and abroad.
You think they care about you?

Now I understand you well, same problem affecting majority of you guys since 2023 general election. Being oppose to a rulling party shouldn't affect your patriotism toward your country. How will you be able to change the narrative if all you do is to talk down on your country. Your country should come first before any politician or political party. That is the problem we are all battling with till this moment. We are too selfish, we only care about ourselves and where we belong. Elections has been won and lose since inception of Democracy in Nigeria with no much disunity among us, why is post 2023 election losers became enemy of their own country?

I was actually talking about my country, I don't even like the same APC government, because their policies affected me too, then you suddenly turn it being supporting rulling party and politicians. Did you see me mentioning any politician or politics in my write up? Why is it that anyone not agree with your believe is automatically an APC follower or member?

Arguing with some of you here is a waste of time I swear.

cucumbar:
if you like , honor your country as much as you want. SANE people see the country for what it is and are objective about it.

Your honoring does not change the reality.

Keep deceiving yourself, those you think they care cannot come and fix your country for you, you can only rant and make them see you in a more ridiculous ways.

Will you call a Pig a cat just because it appears neat? If you tell me your home is disgraceful home, it mean you are not a product of good home, and nothing good would never come or expected from you.

Will you respect, trust or love your friend who insulted his/her parents, called them evil, and eventually sold his/her parents house.

Will you trust that kind of friend with your parents or house?

You wont know how illogical you sounds to rational minds by downgrading anything you are part of, until those you are appeasing start calling you out like this.

Using bybit as a case study, the safest and the best time to buy crypto is when bitcoin 24hrs turnover is below 500m.

Shawarmagirl:
Let him wait let me get mine next month I will celebrate it to high heaven. He will not understand because he did not witness the disgraceful country called Nigeria.

Keep calling it a disgraceful country, one of the result is what you see the man doing by call you out.

I wonder how on earth a rational being will be calling his home a disgraceful one. No one will respect your country, your identity or even you as long as you don't honour your country.

With the way this party is managing their crisis, I don't think any serious person will carry his money to contest under it.