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OSDD:
And to think you dey plan to Jp with her, that will be your greatest mistake..
Person Wey fit lie for 3 forking good years and still lying to you..

A liar can and will never change, he/she only gets smarter.

I dey tell you boss.. She go just kill the bros perfectly without leaving any trace

Mercychen:
Why would you date someone to the stage of marriage without getting to know her family? This is how you people marry ghost.

To me, if I will advise you as a sister, I'll say drop the idea of marriage with her. Someone who has the mind to hide such info about herself from you and still lied even when confronted on two occasions can kill you, hide your body neatly and move on and no one will ever know. That lying alone speaks volumes of her.

The dating stage is the right time to divulge everything about yourself or at least your current status to your partner. if they stay, fine if not, life goes on but trying to conceal such a past about you just to trap someone in marriage is criminal and deceit of the highest order therefore should never be overlooked. Forget the love you think you have for her now cos all those feelings ( infactuation) will soon go away. Then the reality of what she has done will become more visible and begin to haunt you badly.

Forget that trash talk of not wanting to lose you. If she truly loves you, she'll tell you the truth and she won't still be into her ex like you later found out. The only reason shes stuck with you is because her ex is out of the country and she needs to fill that gap with a man figure. If the ex comes back, like you already know, she'll have a fling with him and not feel any remorse because shes a hardened liar! Tufiakwa!

All these small girls of nowadays have very hard and bad minds. I wonder what kind of females we are breeding this days.

No matter what, relationship and marriage should never be built on deception. It always has it's repercussions later in life.
Let everyone come clean about some
important past about themselves so every one can make an informed decision.
Imagine if you found this out after marriage, na for ICU you for dey by now dey battle with Oxygen cylinder.

Abeg drop the monster woman.

Mehn!!!
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Amiralord:
Hard knock on my head

I understand how you feel bro I know how much emotion you've invested but please remember your people need you more.
Look at the future in front of you, look at your plans, look at your goals, you want to throw them away because of a woman that is going to kill you if she gets the chance to?

It might look like you feel betrayed by love but I Swear there will always be someone prettier, someone finer, someone more caring, someone more understanding, someone with more goals.. I mean there are over several millions of ladies with virtue out there.. Come on. You can see I'm carrying your matter on my head, it's not like I know you from anywhere I've experienced it too.
Believe me you don't want to be tortured for ever because the scene will never leave your head.
Well, you can decide to carry on, God be with you.

abdullahi45:
Wa iyyaka bikhayr. Aameen

Aameen and you too, brother.

I understand your loyalty and obsession with her, but it clearly appears that you have been in a situationship and not a relationship.

You should be grateful to Allah (SWT) that you got to know all this before embarking on marriage. If it was after marriage, it could cause you a complete breakdown.

Yes, I understand. May Allah heal you and grant you a spouse that you deserve. Aameen

May Allah be with you for this.. It's obvious that she wants to use him and he has been blackmailed emotionally by the Lady.
That's why I said either he's just seeking for attention or what.. Because the red flags are written all over the place.

That Girl does not deserve him. He shouldn't settle for less.

Marriage is not Childs play at all, the emotions, mental and psychological well-being should not be taken for granted.

abdullahi45:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/istikhara-the-prayer-of-seeking-guidance/

Thanks bro. Jazakumulahu khairan

Amiralord:
Am not an attention seeker,let me tell you why I'm in a state of confusion.
I've been on relocating to USA for a while naw,I was told one of the surest way is to apply as someone with family,this led me into getting her all necessary documents,from Dob,to NIN,to change of name and to International passport all with my surname.

The money is not the problem,I will recover it, inshallah. Am almost done with the whole process just to apply and wait for interview date be4 my friend arrived and begin telling me same old story. Reason this brother

2, Sincerely speaking,her mother died 3 month after her birth,her dad died when she was just 10,since then,things has not been easy for her.
When I met her,I gave her hope, life and assurance that I will wipe her tears.staying with one elder brother today and tomorrow with another.No place to call a home of her own

My mind Is totally out of her,but the humanist part of me makes me cry, that who's going to wipe her tears,who's gonna Stand by her when am gone,who she's ganna talk to when she need some.

Bros, I've been in your shoes, infact I'm planning to relocate to America too and almost did all this change of names, bla bla bla but thank God I didn't.

Bros, her humanist part did not think about how Hurt you'll be if you find out she has lied to you from the onset. Why was she denying when you confronted her??

And besides is that your first relationship? You seem not to know how cunny women can be.

I know you love her but she does not love you bros, she after what she can gain from you. Let her talk to her Ex if she needs someone to talk to. As situation be like this ehn, if you proceed IF NO BE HER GO KILL YOU CALL ME BASTARD, you'd be dead, gone and smelling anyway.
Person wey never enter yankee Don dey keep grave secrets as una never even marry, carry am enter yankee first make you see..

I repeat, either you die misrably or you end up going to jail or end up going mad. Be like woman never torture you mentally before abi??

Carry on bro, go and marry your death.

Bros..

You dey fall hand.. Na person leftover na him you Wan die ontop?? You no get levels at all.
My advice is, this woman no be for you.. She's for the streets. Instead, focus on your American dream and marry someone over there and get your passport.

My current girl is still seeing her Ex but I'm just playing along, she blocked me from seeing her status, blocked me from IG but she does not know I still know everything she posts. The moment I told her I got admitted for my master's and I'd be in USA early next year she has been forming loving and all but me get my own plans too.. For her mind I Wan her carry go America.


If you've read 48 laws of power, you'll understand why you should not leave a man half dead, kill him once and for all.

Wuenglishepp03:
nd with all dis, u still need our advise? Ogbeni stop confusing urself, u knw what to do.

Na attention seeker

abdullahi45:
Alhamdulilah, I am also a Muslim, and I understand that supporting an orphan is an important part of our Deen. However, if you will need to proceed to marriage introduction, you must be sure that she has/had completely repented and dissociated from her past life and lies, if not you will be seating on a time-bomb that can explode at any time. If she sincerely repents and lets go of her ill-ways, then Allah is the most forgiving. If you believe she had truly turned a new leaf, then please accept her wholeheartedly. But for now, set your boundary, make her understand your stance, and encourage her towards good, and nothing but good.

Also, before marriage in Islam, we are advised to be consistent with Istiharah prayer to seek guidance from Allah (SWT). We are also highly encouraged to make findings (Instisharoh) about our prospective spouse's background, personality, family, etc., this is important to detect any deceits and/or red flags.

Try what is within your capacity and leave the rest to Allah, indeed he has promised to aid his servants. May Allah grant you peaceful and blessed marriage and household. Aameen

Hello bro, how does someone do Istihoroh?

yourshopkwikguy:
My choice of course is international business and my budget for tuition fees is 2 million per year at most, please which University do you think I can apply for?? I have searched around and I've not seen a better one really.

What do you mean by a better one though?

yourshopkwikguy:
Hi sir, what about if it's an undergraduate??

same procedures bro, different schools different requirements.

lilyheaven:
Is Ietls not needed ?

you might get it waived. The school i applied for waived it for me because English is the official language of nigeria where i am applying from.

Blastedholligan:
please, I have an hnd and I have just 1m. How can I process it biko

if your cgpa is high, get a program and send an email to the coordinator and explain to him or her, the person will tell you what to do

StayMotivated:
Boss is there any hope for someone who graduated with a 2.2?

sure, get a school of your choice, contact the program coordinator and ask if your result will fly for that program.

Newton2024:
Please, I also need to further guidance. Thanks.

alright.

OlawaleBammie:
pls give me more expo

like? i think ive said everything already.

Nichotivity1:
Deferment?
I thought you'll always pay your school fees before applying for visa interview

In this case,I'm talking about bsc

different schools, different mode of operation.

yourshopkwikguy:
please I'll love to contact you personally boss

ask your question here bro

[quote author=Kakadinho247 post=108015607][/quote]dont know bro.

lookingfly:
I am looking for how to japa to USA too, but there school fee for there to much. If i can get a job there especially in the livestock industry pending when person safe enough to further msc or right other exams.

dont know bro

NOETHNICITY:
You can't secure admission for MSC without the required school fees

And if i show you an admission letter without paying school fees, will you accept that you know nothing and write a 1000 words apology to me?

StayMotivated:
Boss is there any hope for someone who graduated with a 2.2?

Contact a school and ask them if your result will fly or better still apply for a post graduate certificate course.

yourshopkwikguy:
Hi sir, what about if it's an undergraduate??

same procedure, evaluate your result with WES, apply and pay application fee. after admission, pay sevis fee, provide sponsor for POF, pass interview and youre in

indadi:
Hell everyone

So I decided to relocate to either the UK or US or any better country. I have my degree certificate and other certificates I think I may need but my problem is that I don't how to begin, where to start and I have nobody close to me that i can ask questions from please you answers are needed...


Lalasticlala please do the needful...

Bros.. Apply for MSc in USA, admission takes 2 weeks max. Get a sponsor. Go for visa interview, pass and boom! You in America. If you never get money for school fees, defer admission or just forget about going to school once you're in if you don't mind doing menial jobs. America is too big for someone to be looking for who is illegal or not as long as you don't get into trouble. If you need further guidance let me know.



MODIFIED

I got a whole lot of mentions from people who don't even have a passport.
1. There are universities which gives out admission without you paying for school fees upfront.
2. I still stand on my words that if you provide the right documents, admission takes 2 weeks or 3 max.
3. I just applied to a university two weeks ago and i have submitted all documents, should have gotten feedbacks but last week was thanksgiving holiday so hopefully if i get a response on Monday I'll post it here. Funny enough a friend applied with HND and got the admission.
4. I have not forced anybody to apply, i only said what i am very sure of.
5. Apart from the OP i didn't ask anybody to contact me for any service.
6. I wont entertain any questions, do your researches by yourselves. I am supposed to drop names of about 3 schools you can apply to and they'll waive things like application fee, GRE, IELTS if you message your course coordinators to tell them this is so so so requirements you dont have and give them reasons why they should waive them for you, but since some of you are just bent on bringing others down and saying things you dont know, i wont drop any name, do your researches too, afterall it took me months of intensive research to get the information i have.

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Timekeeper:
Maybe 100 to 150k

ontop bathroom wey no get door? you dey whine me?

Timekeeper:
Advice Needed. I Have An Issue Bothering My Soul And Life..

I am based on the mainland and I recently came back from akwa Ibom where I did my youth service... I stay with my brother on mainland hoping to get a job and move out..

By God grace, there is possibility of me getting a Job on the island even though it is not yet concluded... Meanwhile the job will be on probation as I am currently being trained on it.

I have a lady Frnd Dt I met since last year, no sexual stuff btw us. We have just been friends. She stays on the island (ajah) and her rent is expired, though she didn't plan to continue living in That house. Our plan is Dt she is moving out and I will pay but recently she had some financial issues and wunt be able to move out again. So she suggested that we should pay another 1 year rent.

My concerns:
1. She is not really troublesome but sumtyms she is very stubborn. Anyway she is a Good lady sha.

2. Possibility Dt her sis will stay with us. I don't know much abt her sis and I don't want trouble.

3. a. The house is located in a ghetto like area in Ajah where the bathroom has no door and even the next person bathroom and people outside will know u r the one bathing. (bathroom fence not tall and no roof)

3.b. The toilet fence are so short that the next person can see u and u can see him/her while pooing . I love privacy and this kind life is not what I wished for..

4. The environment is notin to write about but I can cope...
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What should I do? I don't intend rejecting this job due to lack of a good place to stay and I can't stay In mainland to be working in island which of course is still a probatory stuff.

Nairaland family, I am so confused right now......

i no know say ghetto dey for ajah na.. abeg na like how much? been planning to move to lagos.

sheanzy:
price idiot

if na me be op, i go just play along accept any price you call, make God help ypu we meet.... if i no beat prosperity commot for you life ehn..

YNWA

FactBoyz:

What's funny bruh?