adanduka:
So your first wife has been used and is ready to be pushed aside.
I'll advice your wife to get a second husband too.

ROTFL....... He obviously is a Muslim nau

Osyxcel:



How is your sore throat now?

I feel a little relief. Started with crystal pen injection today and I can say it has worked like magic

Osyxcel:


Thank God. It's a relief to know that.

I'm glad too...thanks for your concern

Obinoscopy:
Zikkie, be strong for Dad. He will get better. We need to look for another hospital to attend to him. These incessant strikes sef, our health workers and the government are very self-centred and callous. I pray the strike ends soon.

@Candygosh dear, you are not alone. Our hearts are with you. Be strong my dear. We love you....always have.....always will.

Morning family.

Thanks Obinoscopy.... I hope and pray things get better as it has been in the past few days. I can't shout!

Odunharry:

God bless u....

In addition,something should be done on time no time wasting Zikkie

Thanks Odunharry. He is a lot better. Thanks to all for your prayers. I pray everything remains calm especially now that there is strike.

candygosh:
Hi everyone. Hope you all had a great day?

Zikkie, im so sorry about your father. Please is there a way you can transport him to lagos. Lasuth is not on strike and I'm sure they will do something.
If you consider it, I know a matron there (family) who can help you quick speed things.

Besides when did this start? This urine retention. I hate it when people are sick it makes it cry. I will remember you tonight in my prayers. God should keep me hanging

Candygosh darling..... I honestly do hope you are fine wherever you are My dad is a lot better again. I don't understand what happened that he suddenly had a relapse! He started taking that King's tonic you talked about and we also added this trevo drink (which he stopped taking at a point).. He's doing well but for the constant fatigue which is as a result of the surgery.
I pray God will give us all pleasant surprises!

[quote author=Christine01 post=28021270]Zikkie,

It is well with you dear. I pray God for more strength for you and your dad. God is touching and healing him even to the cells that

Amen to your prayers @Christine01...: thanks darling. I'm glad to know I have other Ibadan peeps in da house. Maybe we hook up some time

Osyxcel:


Well, it's quite difficult to accept so many things in our lives because we don't always get to choose what happens to us in life. But then, we have to live on, to fight on and make sure that we make something out of what life throws at us. It is well.

All these health workers sef, dem strike pass lightening. I just don't understand this country sef. I just hope the strike doesn't take long.
Try not to be scared. It's hard, I know, but you have to summon up courage and believe that all will be well. Hope and Pray for God to take control.

I'm based in Ibadan tho.

Lol @ 'strike pass lightening'... Thanks osyxcel.... Dad is a lot better and we hope things would be calm and also pray the strike gets called off soonest.

xcelsia:
Oh dear dear dear zikkie, please don't cry ok. Oh God please have mercy on her father, my heart is breaking here, we need strength Lord

As for the outing, the date is tentative, I'm sure the family can wait for everyone

Can you buy a straight urine catheter set from the medical equipment store? While the hospital is shut down, you can use the set to help empty his bladder so his kidneys won't get affected due to retention

I need to speak with you, let's make that happen soon okay, please smile for now

Thanks sweet 'mama'.... I'm sorry I've been away. Been down with a very terrible kind of sore throat that feels like a moderate sized pebble in my throat... Couldn't even swallow saliva! I'm much better now!
Dad says he is no longer having the retention. He is a lot better...
My number...

hephzi1991:
the lord is ur strength dearie. There is light at the end of the tunnel, just hold on stonr. Ur dad will be fine

Amen dearie. Hope you are good too? It is well with us.

Oh my goodness! Reading through this makes my heart melt! hammed, it is well with you IJN.

Good evening my sweet and wonderful family.. I hope we are all doing well? Candygosh, xcelsia, Christine, tollu, osyxel, obinoscopy, hephzi, odunharry, and the newbies (hope I didn't forget any name?).. Lol...

Okay I can't quote all posts but I hope to use this one stone to kill several birds.

Truth is, even when I come on nairaland, I get really scared and emotional opening this thread, probably I'm struggling to accept some things or whatever, but even as I have opened the thread today and I've read thrpugh , the show of love still makes tears roll down my cheeks. 2sexi's friend's case as well makes my heart beat so fast.. I just wish! I wish! I wish we never had such ailments as this *tears* it is well...... After all God says he wouldn't give us more than we can bear? #phew!

Like I told the family, we were to be at the hospital on Thursday, as we got there, the unionists were protesting and everywhere was locked! STRIKE!!!!! I wonder how long that is going to last? We ended up going back home. He told me he is having urine retention again? After the surgery Hmmm.. I'm so scared! The stress is much for him!

As for the hook-up, its a nice idea, but I plead to be excused, I'm running so many things now that I don't have a 'me' time. Shuttling to drop of my kids at school, attend to daddy (at least so my mum could get some rest) isn't as easy.

anyone in the house based in Ibadan?

Hephzi dearie, I can imagine when you talk about moods... Ur bald hair and all what not. Pls be strong for us and those who love you. Try and get anything at all that helps you to stay happy darling. Im giving u a bear hug now!!!!
Yesterday was my birthday but we spent the whole day at the hospital. Dad had a serious relapse, he was half away and half alive! To eat sef, he couldn't have the strength... He is said to have anaemia and needs blood transfusion but those 'blood Bank' staff are on strike in UCH. We are giving him ugwu aggressively as he can't take milk again. We would be back there on Thursday.

I pray God would heal all who feel pains in one way or the other.

Osyxcel:
Zikkie, how is dad now?

Tell him to fight on... let him know he still has so much to live for....and hopefully, everything will be fine...

osyxcel, thanks.... Dad is a lot better this morning. Yesterday was terrible as he was having hot flushes, the whole bed soaked with sweat then all of a sudden it changed to severe cold! #phew! Its not easy o!

xcelsia:
Hello hello hellooooo my darlings, I've missed you all!! So sorry I've been gone from nairaland for a while now but I'm back. My friend is still in the hospital, she's getting aggressive therapy still till next year and reconstruction after.

Osyxcel my half namesake, you're simply the best, love you!!
Candygosh, tollu, odunharry, hephzi1991, obinoscopy, Christine01, love you all loads

Candygosh sweetie, I'm sending you strength my love. I need to speak with you, let's make that happen soon

Christine01 so glad your test is fine, keep smiling

tollu and hephzi1991 what's the latest?

Zikkie welcome to the family, we love you

Many blessings everyone

Thanks for welcoming me xcelsia, I already feel so much love in this 'house'. I Luv you all. I feel so much for your friend and I pray that the good Lord wl strengthen her and also provide for her relations to meet up with the medical bills.
The devil has already been put to shame.

candygosh:


I'm so done with the Symptoms. Fatigue is constantly present but I take relief in typing or talking to anybody about anything. I can't stand 5 mins yet. I need to sit constantly.

About your old man, so sorry ehn. It must be serious taking care of him. Fear is normal so let him know it will be fine.
Chai I remembered when I was called into the doctors office. She triggered a tear oh. She just said, are u scared? B cos ur face has changed oh!
I managed to calm down and take all those stuff in my vein.

I pray for your father ehn, where ever he is right now, the greatest healer will visit him . The balm of gilead soothe his pains . The hands of God rest on him. Fear has no place in his life. And that cancer is a foreigner in his system and it will be gone in Jesus name.

Zikkie it's well with you and your pops soul.

Awww.... Amen my dear.... I can imagine how you felt then. #hugs. It is well my dear.

candygosh:



Sickening. I'm glad the side effects didn't start till I got home. I'm doing much better. The only side effect I have is the nausea and stomach ache. I'm a much paler version of myself now. It gets better

Hello dearie... Hope you are getting some relief from the symptoms? It will end in praise by God's grace. Keep being strong and prayerful.

Been busy taking care of popsie as hr has started vomitting and feels very cold towards evening. Got his biopsy result yesterday. It says 'adenocarcinoma of the prostate' Gleason grade 3 score 6. We are to see the doctor on monday too. I feel for him so much cos i see fear in his eyes.
It is well with all of us.
Shout out to everyone in da house!

killjoy:


lwkmd, u said u don't do e-fights Bt u cudnt resist d compulsion to call him a "black fowl" bwahahahahA. ladies will nt kill me in dis lyf. my dear a beg take it easy OK? u no wowo n he is nt a fowl, let alone a black one.

ROTFL... Omo mehn!!! I'm enjoying this thread no b small....heheheheheee

killjoy:


it amazes me wen pipl kip telling me one day, I wud find true love, or I wud be interested in women. I wish God wud open ur eyes to see d depth of my heart. I am a self sustaining realist. hv I ever been on lyf support because of d lack of a woman in my lyf? if at all der was such a tym I was at d brink of death, it was because of a woman in my lyf! I am nt searching for tru love ooooo, at least nt wer it doznt exist. any love beyond my immediate family is just a scheme to hook me. and Jay wud Neva be hooked. mark. my. words

[b][/b]I sense so much hurt in your voice! Hmmmm

candygosh:
And oh I forgot. Happy new month everyone

Happy new month to you too! Congrats on your graduation.... We go wash am ooo! Lol

Babe, I'm sorry but you know the truth and are probably living in denial. That man isn't your husband.... Are you living together? I guess NO!

Pls move on with your life and start up a fresh relationship if you can. Forget that man, if not, you'll obviously be fighting a battle you'ld never win...

ican2020:
Visiting the hospital to seek for medi help when one is sick is good and commendable.
Trusting in divine help, plus taken steps to remedy that sickness is great also.

But there are situations where hospitals will fail you.
This year (in LUTH) I lost an uncle who I was made to understand had diabetes.
Diabetes, Cancer, toothache are illnesses that the hospital cannot cure.

My wife had diabetes for more than solid 5 years, there is no hospital we did not visit to look for solution, including the so call herbal cures, all of then failed until we did something differently and she was cured in less than 2 weeks.
Apart from going to the hospital, we can still get cure by changing our unhealthy habits

With just simple substances, I silenced toothache for life and I have read countless of testimonies of people getting healed from cancer through alternatives sol.

So, friend, research, take advantage of what nature has offered us, stay away from harmful habits and enjoy your day

I'm interested in the 'alternatives' for cancer...pls share

Odunharry:

Everything is gonna be alryt...u have to be strong and pray also

Here we are like a big happy family..we will try our best and be there 4 u with words and prayers and try assist u in anyway we can.

Welcome to the Family



hephzi1991,candygosh,osyxcel,obinoscopy,xcelsia...Good work

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement odunharry. I appreciate!

2buff:
I am curious, has she always been like this?

When you were courting her, did you see anything that hinted to her being a proud disrespectful rude person?
Did you ever ALLOW her playfully disrespect you? e.g. "Shut up haha" or "I will break your head" etc etc.

All these things add up with womenfolk and before you know it, the next level is public embarrassment and beyond...
It sometimes pays to be a no nonsense man and go to certain depths to put an unruly woman in her place.

Train her well, and she will think twice before treating you how you don't want to be treated.

Being a 'no-no sense' man doesnt work for every woman! You study the woman you have to know how to treat her! Some women would even get more stubborn with a 'no-nonsense' man's attitude.

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Zikkie the lord will see ur family thru this trying times and ur dad will be fine

A big Amen!!!! Thanks hephzi... Hope you are good?

tollu:



Hang in there love, it is not an easy task seeing someone you love ill. Big hugs dear

Thanks dear #hugs

candygosh:


Thanks. Sorry about the stress life has thrown at you. You will get your reward with your kids too.

Amen! Thanks dear. Hope your exams are going on well... All d best

Wow! Its midnight....just stumbled on this and I find tears running down my eyes! @candygosh, u are a strong lady... Thanks for sharing your experience.. @hephzi.... The Lord is your strength, @xcelsia, could you pls give your friend a big warm hug for me
Though I'm not in this, but my dad was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer ... And its been a tough journey so far in UCH Ibadan... The anxiety and fear while waiting for the histology report after an orchiectomy is killing!

I may not have enough words, but pls know that I love you all. God will see us through this and most importantly, provide all our financial needs to fight this battle.

I'm in..... Married with two kids.

OP, please try and look inwards, almost every woman wants peace and love in her home... And would do everything within her reach to get it... But it gets to a point she feels the mab doesn't appreciate those things (maybe judging from his attitude) she reaches her elastic limit!

Now, you don't have kids yet? Is there any underlying medical issue with you which she feels you knew about but his from her before marriage?
Do you have sex regularly with her?

Have you been cheating in her despite the fact that you are not as bouyant now?

What restrictions have you given her which you feel could she isn't comfortable with and is causing her pain??

I know most times a lot of men use this 'gra gra' attitude to cover what they know deep within then that is the truth... Pls drop any ego, search yourself!

And as for your wife, I hope she realises that words are like eggs... Once said, you can't take then back, and there's obviously going to be a negative effect even after things calm down.. she should learn to control her tongue!

My dear, I feel you.... I've been thru a whole lot in my marriage both emotionally and spiritually. Mine didn't show traits before marriage. I won't say I'm separated as such but I found a reason to stay far far away from his own city. I hardly ever think about him. I can't talk much on my experience.. But, cos of what I've been thru, I understand the plight of women in situations as this. How I wish men would put in as much effort as women do into making marriages work, it would be a very lovely place to be!

Personally, I don't buy the idea of a second d marriage. The world is getting worse by the day! Before you do that, consider your kids o! Especially if you've got girls like I do. I won't ever trade their security for my selfish emotional reasons! Never!

I pray God WL be with you at this trying moment. Even if you made a mistake in the past, which we all do at one point or the other, God WL show you mercy and favour... I wish I could give you a hug now.... It is well dearie.

yoged: Hey peeps, pls if u are been posted to schools. How are u coping with those stubborn student. Started taking them yesterday, mennnnnn, really frustrating. Took jss3 B and D Basic tech yesterday. It was hell

Lol, I haven't taught yet, till next week monday. I'm to take only one arm of SS1, I'm told they r abt 60 or more. We had a meeting of teachers on tuesday and the teachers r complaining they can't handle them anymore. I'm just wondering what it'll be like