A friend shared this story with me this afternoon and I decided to share it with fellow nairalanders.
******
The story is about a lady who is in love with a man her father detest on grounds that they came from the same tribe.
The lady's father did everything humanly possible to ensure that both love birds never marry and even swore publicly that the only condition which will make the young man to marry his daughter is if he died.
As the war was going on between the two families, the lady went to answer the clarion call and that gave the two love birds ample time together which was evident with her protruding stomach after some months.
To cut the long story short, both families agreed to fix a date for the wedding but the father insisted on his stand.
The wedding is on saturday (2days time), the lady is expected back at home latest tomorrow from national assignment but the unspeakable happened yesterday night (the lady's father passed away).
Now the questions is:
1. Should they continue with the wedding?
2. What is the best way of telling the lady that her father is dead considering the fact that she is 8 months gone.

This one pass me oh

D wedding will hold for d very reason d father said...over his dead body...but d situation hard shaa

ATMC: D wedding will hold for d very reason d father said...over his dead body...but d situation hard shaa

Don't you think it is for that very reason the marriage should not go on?
At times, we have to watch our utterances.

Wow! This story is too shocking for me. When I got to the part that the father died, I screamed ha! He said it; he said the wedding will only take place when he is dead and now he is dead.

What a shame; see what the power of the tongue can do. Life and death is in the tongue, use it wisely people.

How the message will be passed to her depends on her relationship with him before he died; was it cordial or strained? During the whole preparation, did the father show any interest at all especially during the family introduction?

Infact, I don't know what to say anymore. Let others post their comments and see what they have to say.

Theres a lot of power in what we say unfortunatly people are oblivious of dis.our words can make or mar us.its not d girls fault,he just used his mouth to curse himself,meanwhile theres a high possibility dat d gals father saw somtin d gal didnt see,u know yorubas say whateva an elder sees sitting down,even if a child climbs d ladder,he wont see it but d gal was to inlove to ask her father y he didnt support her union bfor d man used his mouth to kill himself.anyway i suggest d couple should pray and go ahead with d wedding but giv a minute silence in honour of d late man

kulyie: Theres a lot of power in what we say unfortunatly people are oblivious of dis.our words can make or mar us.its not d girls fault,he just used his mouth to curse himself,meanwhile theres a high possibility dat d gals father saw somtin d gal didnt see,u know yorubas say whateva an elder sees sitting down,even if a child climbs d ladder,he wont see it but d gal was to inlove to ask her father y he didnt support her union bfor d man used his mouth to kill himself.anyway i suggest d couple should pray and go ahead with d wedding but giv a minute silence in honour of d late man

The reason the father didn't support the wedding was just that the couples were from the same tribe.

This is realy a hard one oo, in my own opinion i think d wedding should be shifted to honour the late father.... Even if at all they would have a wedding considering the fact that they love eachoder and a child is on the way, it should be a very quite wedding, only at the registry with very few pple around and they need a whole lot of prayers. The lady in person needs prayers,so her late father can forgive her wherever he is,she also needs the suport of her family in this else i fear for the future of their union.....

Busy_body:
This one pass me oh

aunty bb,eku ojo meta oo. Na your face be this. Shey alafia ni ewa??

taryour:

aunty bb,eku ojo meta oo. Na your face be this. Shey alafia ni ewa??

Hello Aunty T, ikunle mi re oh, how pickin and how body and how are those delicious cakes of yours doing in the oven

Busy_body:

Hello Aunty T, ikunle mi re oh, how pickin and how body and how are those delicious cakes of yours doing in the oven

me sef dey postrate oo,we all good and the cakes are all well on point. O n gbona feli feli...

jhydebaba: Don't you think it is for that very reason the marriage should not go on?
At times, we have to watch our utterances.

d marriage can still go on. They have to be careful in there. They should tell d girl so she will make her choice.

ATMC: d marriage can still go on. They have to be careful in there. They should tell d girl so she will make her choice.

Thanks, I'll pass your comment.

taryour: This is realy a hard one oo, in my own opinion i think d wedding should be shifted to honour the late father.... Even if at all they would have a wedding considering the fact that they love eachoder and a child is on the way, it should be a very quite wedding, only at the registry with very few pple around and they need a whole lot of prayers. The lady in person needs prayers,so her late father can forgive her wherever he is,she also needs the suport of her family in this else i fear for the future of their union.....

forgiveness kwa? His wish was granted him. Moreover, there's a limit to our control of other's choice even as parents

the man said that the marriage will only hold when he dies. He is dead. They should go ahead. People should be careful of what they say. There is power in the tongue.

taryour:

me sef dey postrate oo,we all good and the cakes are all well on point. O n gbona feli feli...

@ Topic

Still stupefied, this is deep.

Could the Dad be an occultist?

Abeg, carry go with ur wedding jo.

I think the wedding should be rescheduled to some other times. There could be other reasons behind your parents disapproval, pls follow ur parents consent as there is a say "what an old man sees while sitting, the young cannot see them while standing". There may be reasons likely to unfold when given an ample time...and also follow your heart instinctively.

Jhydon!! eyi ga o!

ki lo fa iku baba? hmmmmm......

Idowuogbo: Jhydon!! eyi ga o!

ki lo fa iku baba? hmmmmm......

Maami, maybe we ask google, pls wait...

She didnt kil d dad

She shud be told after her baby is born.

She should go ahead wit d wedin

she should name d baby after d late dad

jhydebaba:

Maami, maybe we ask google, pls wait...

ok! let me ask jeeves while u at it.

@op I thought parents love it most when their daughters or sons marry from their tribe.

There must be a strong reason her late dad disapproved the marriage. I hope the guy is not his son. maybe his son out of relationship* Adultery* and him and the guy's mum doesn't want to disclose it to anyone. It may even be blood that is holding/drawing they young couples to be together not love.*just saying*

Her dad is late already, let her not worry she is 8 months gone. In less than two months her dad may come back to the world but now in her home.

I will advice she do DNA test with her hubby to be if possible because her dad knows his reasons for not allowing her daughter marry from their tribe which almost every parent wish for their children.

obasijoy: @op I thought parents love it most when their daughters or sons marry from their tribe.

There must be a strong reason her late dad disapproved the marriage. I hope the guy is not his son. maybe his son out of relationship* Adultery* and him and the guy's mum doesn't want to disclose it to anyone. It may even be blood that is holding/drawing they young couples to be together not love.*just saying*

Her dad is late already, let her not worry she is 8 months gone. In less than two months her dad may come back to the world but now in her home.

I will advice she do DNA test with her hubby to be if possible because her dad knows his reasons for not allowing her daughter marry from their tribe which almost every parent wish for their children.

Thanks, noted.

It's very dangerous for a woman to be defenseless in a merger, she'll be very weak and vulnerable to whatever lies ahead.

It's better the wedding is canceled, she improves her relationship with her own family solidly before getting married to that man or anyone else, she'll continue to he held responsible for the father's death by every member of her family, and when there's a problem in the future, and there'll be problems, she'll be left to hang. My 2cents.

if she's 8 months gone then why cant she do a registry wedding and stop causing problems in the families involved.

some people are just attention seekers.


seems like the matter is more than meets the eye.

I don't believe the story.

maclatunji: I don't believe the story.

It looks doctored . . .

Which father will reject her daughter's suitor from their own tribe!

Plus the co-incidence is just too much! How come he died days to the wedding? What killed him?

Na wa oh!

Ujujoan:

It looks doctored . . .

Which father will reject her daughter's suitor from their own tribe!

Plus the co-incidence is just too much! How come he died days to the wedding? What killed him?

Na wa oh!

maclatunji: I don't believe the story.

It may even look tailored not only doctored.
I don't care what anybody believes as you are entitled to your opinions.
I only shared a touching story I was told, simple.

Ujujoan:

It looks doctored . . .

Which father will reject her daughter's suitor from their own tribe!

Plus the co-incidence is just too much! How come he died days to the wedding? What killed him?

Na wa oh!

My thots too! Who were the family members that agreed to the fixed date when the father was still saying 'No' and those people could not placate the man to support his daughter?
How could the bride to be just 'escape' on 'clarion call' for so long, not bothering how her special day would be, and even had the effrontery to be 'heavily pregnant' when she has not 'settled' with the man that would hand her over to her groom, only to resurface 2/3 days to her day of joy feeling cool?
If the story is true (which I doubt), the lady in question does not need any special emmisary to break the news of her dad's death, she has made her choice from the beginning.

Afta unsa don settle everytin invitw me for ur wedding.date,tym,venue