Nothing last forever in
this world, and sometimes
as much as we would like
to think that the one
person we’re with is
the soul-mate, final love
and the person that
completes your existence,
sometimes (more times
than not) it ends up not
being the case. What
sucks more than a once
perfect relationship
suddenly ending
? If you didn’t do the
breakup, or you were
pretty much dumped.
Break ups are easier to
handle when you initiated
the break up, or it was
mutual – not sure if
those really happen, but
you get my point.
So you got dumped.
Whether it was sudden or
you saw it coming it’s
still something that hit you
hard, and if you’re a guy
it definitely gives your ego
a nice sucker punch. The
world at that time might
seem like it’s ending
, but not to worry it’s
definitely not. And before
you know it, you’ll be
completely over this
person. So how we get
over the ex? Well for
starters here’s what
you should definitely not
do —> Don’t kill
yourself!
So what should you do?
1. Deal with the pain
and hate.
It’s very normal after
every break up to have a
huge amount of pain, and
possibly hate towards the
other person. Do you
want to cry? By all means
do so. Scream and shout?
Do that too. You can
write out your thoughts
bashing the ex, and think
all kinds of negative things
towards him or her. Listen
to sad love songs and cry.
It’s all a phase. But the
most important thing is
not to let anyone see it.
No bashing or pity
Facebook statuses, no
sub tweets, YouTube
videos or blog posts. Do all
your crying and hate
behind closed doors. No
one wants to see you
look pathetic, and those
that do just want to be
entertained.
2. Keep your space
There’s nothing worse
than hanging around your
ex hoping that somehow
feelings will come back or
that one night of magic
will rekindle everything. If
you have mutual friends,
try as much as possible
to stay away from them
especially if you’re
bound to either talk about
him/her, or even worse
see him/her. Deleting folks
off Facebook is kind of
childish but you can
certainly use that limited
profile function and block
the news feed. No texts,
IMs, tweets, etc. Call it a
detox if you will. Most
importantly and this is
where most of us fail…
No intimacy with the ex!! None
at all. Maybe I should’ve
said that first, but oh
well.
3. Talk to friends &
hangout
Now when we say talk to
friends, we don’t mean
call every friend you know
and start crying about
your ex. It’s very
pathetic looking to have
to deal with someone
whining on and on about
their ex and why they left
and blah blah blah BS.
Save it for the shrink or
for your journal. But
besides that hanging out
with friends is very
healthy. Go out for a drink
or two, BBQs, house
gatherings, bars, brunch,
park, etc. Anything your
friends invite you to do, is
game for you. Unless of
course you’re bound to
see the ex.
4. Write down your
feelings and analyze.
Your best friend is your
journal during a break up.
If you think it, or want to
say it out loud, then get a
pen and write it down. A
lot of times during a break
up you want to say a lot
of things to the ex, and
explain some things, but
believe me saying anything
to an ex that dumped you
in hopes of amending
things is the wrong way
to go. In addition, writing
down stuff also gives you
the opportunity to
analyze the relationship
and sometimes the light
bulbs go off and you might
realize that it was going
south for a while before
the break up happened.
Besides it’s good
documentation so you can
see how silly you sounded
years later.
5. Stay active.
They say one of the best
diets is a break up. Partly
because you never eat
and you’re depressed or
you ‘ginger’ yourself
into getting involved in
some activity. Running,
basketball, football,
cycling, volleyball etc.
Always wanted to do
some sort of outdoor
activity? Well here’s
your chance to do it and
the best thing is that you
get to preoccupy your
mind with something other
than the thought of your
ex. Every moment you
stay idle is time for you to
dwell on the break up or
even worse make a
mistake and call/text the
ex. Thou shall not do that.
Plus in a scenario where
you didn’t have much
control (the break up) this
provides something you
can actually control and
get some sense of power
into your life.
6. Explore other options
Now I’m not saying go
out there and stay
desperately looking for a
rebound or if you’re a
guy, looking for the next
piece of ass to boost
your masculine ego. But if
there are people that are
interested in you or you
are interested, it
doesn’t hurt to hang
out and explore those
options. Now obviously
you’d definitely want to
take things slow, but the
company will help a lot (as
long as you don’t bring
up the ex). A feeling that
there are other fish in the
sea will definitely help you
get over the “my life is
over” break up feeling.
Plus you never know, your
new friends and such
might end being a whole
lot better for you than
you imagined. After all,
they say the best way to
get over an ex love is to
find a new one. That’s
probably about 40% true,
but there’s some truth
in it.

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