Adeolu60:

Thanks kobo, na wa for these men o, there's nothing you can do to satisfy most Nigerian men! You know I checked the last 6 months cell phone bills, the least amount of duration they spoke on the phone was 60 minutes! What are they talking about?! he must have enjoyed that gal's company to stay for that long, and I also stalked her to know what he saw in her

I read this post about checking text messages of spouses here,

he cuddles his stupid phone like a baby everytime, I tried to check it one night he already slept and you know I accidentally cleaned out his blackberry memory because I tried all the possible passwords I thot,

I felt terrible , all his important contacts gone! So I know the implications of snooping!

And I had a feeling something was going on cos the wasn't like that at least early last year but I just chilled until I got the shock of my life, the rest of our vacation was like a bitter lime, we just pretended for the kids to have a good time. It wasn't pretty atall.

Sisi_Kill: If a man confessing he cheated means he loves his wife.

What does it mean if he doesn't cheat at all?

Sisi_Kill: If a man confessing he cheated means he loves his wife.

What does it mean if he doesn't cheat at all?

Kobojunkie:

This is why I am against people keeping secrets in marriage. I don't know how to live in the same house and in the same bed with someone, and be denied direct access to information that could potentially help save the marriage.

maclatunji: Na wa O. You know what? Let us have a showdown so that this rubbish can stop. Virtually every thread in this section is turned into a slugfest between the perceived Cabal (Who are even beginning to believe in the ish) and their perceived opponents abi na enemies leaving hapless posters confused.

Can't we all just argue our points or present our opinions without reference to some group or the other. It really is becoming irritating.

coogar:

love and sex are 2 different things - only women put the 2 together as one. a cheating husband still loves his wife. most men don't even remember the names of the women they are sleeping with cos most of these extra marital affairs have no emotions attached. sex to most men is a physical expression like handshakes or hugs!

shymexx: Breast implants? Dammit!! You should have got butt injection - big batty is winning right now, I tell ya...

Topic:

- Take a break..
- Get back to normal life..
- Heal your heart and soul..
- Forgive and forget..
- Have a heart to heart conversation with him..
- And build your relationship back up from the scratch..

The 'devil' you know is better than the 'angel' you don't know(that's if you truly love this guy) - it's safer to be with him... And this would only make the relationship and love stronger..

Life is short..

Sisi_Kill:
Errr....if hubby cannot remember the name of the woman he carried a one year affair with. . .then OP has more issues to worry about, like maybe brain disease which causes an early onset of Alzheimer and dementia runs on his side of the family.

Sisi_Kill: JD...I know there are some names that sends you into hysteric fits whenever you see them but you would be doing yourself a lot of good to at least try to comprehends what they are saying before showing yourself as the guy with many limitations that you are.

What part of my comment comes remotely close to Advice?

Dude, seriously ya need to relax yourself. . .those little voices in your head telling people are after you can be quelled with two itty bitty tiny pills ya know?

Just saying.

coogar:

far majority of these extra marital stuff are one night stands or short term relationships... men are not necessarily emotionally attached to their sex partners - only women believe in such heresy!

Johndoe100:

As usual, you pander to your female fans. Can you show me where I mentioned anyone other than the OP in my posts on this thread?

Sisi_Kill:
Alls I wanna know is. . if confessing to cheating means love, what does not cheating at all mean?

That's all I am asking.

coogar:

with men;
confessing to cheating = love
not cheating at all = love
not confessing to cheating = love

Sisi_Kill:
Ok then. . .so basically the confession is not much of a redeeming factor as some people are trying to make it.

packman:

I WONT FEEL THAT BAD LIVE GOES ON AND HERE IS A FORUM SO U RE SUPPOSE TO EXPECT ANYTIN

THAT'S Y NIGERIAN MENTALITY IS SO POOR WHATS A FORUM MEANT FOR ?? PLS AM NOT SENSELESS BUT WE TAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF THINGS DAT SHUD NOT B A BIG DEAL

THAT'S VERY SIMPLE ANSWER TO UR QUESTION

packman:

I WONT FEEL THAT BAD LIVE GOES ON AND HERE IS A FORUM SO U RE SUPPOSE TO EXPECT ANYTIN

THAT'S Y NIGERIAN MENTALITY IS SO POOR WHATS A FORUM MEANT FOR ?? PLS AM NOT SENSELESS BUT WE TAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF THINGS DAT SHUD NOT B A BIG DEAL

THAT'S VERY SIMPLE ANSWER TO UR QUESTION

packman:

I WONT FEEL THAT BAD LIVE GOES ON AND HERE IS A FORUM SO U RE SUPPOSE TO EXPECT ANYTIN

THAT'S Y NIGERIAN MENTALITY IS SO POOR WHATS A FORUM MEANT FOR ?? PLS AM NOT SENSELESS BUT WE TAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF THINGS DAT SHUD NOT B A BIG DEAL

THAT'S VERY SIMPLE ANSWER TO UR QUESTION

Yomieluv: What do you want?the man confessed,would you feel better,if you actually caught him?forgive him,and move on with life,don't give yourself unneccessary stress,Life is sweet,enjoy it to the fullest.

Adeolu60:

That sounds like what my Daddy will say, but it's easy to say to move on but I'm trying to do what's best for my kids but what about me too? My feelings, the thoughts in my head , almost a year ! That's a long time to just poof and forget,

we just moved in our new home when he started dating that lady( approximately) , what's his problem?

Most men should get their priority straight and stop living a double life, it's disgusting and irritating, I had to run some serious blood work on myself to have a piece of mind that I'm not infected with some Poo.t.y bug!

I still refuse to tell my family, all the insults I'm reading here is exactly what I'll get from them esp from people like johndoe, I know a family member that'll say that but not to my face of course, or I'll collect his vehicle.

And mums are very caring and loving but you don't know which of her friends she'll tell that will put gas into the fire I'm trying to quench!

( but I love her to death but I'll spare her this headache cos she'll worry and winter is here, and she can't come now cos her arthritis, she can't even handle fall season)

I've seen a lot of real life mysteries and I'd prefer to be a meek than to blow my life out of proportion, that's why I prefer to blow it here where nobody knows me and still I choose useful advice and talks from people that are serious.

Nl is a joke to some people when it comes to serious stuff , but to some of us , it's a place to learn and keep learning from other people's experience.

I thank everybody for their input and advice, trust me, I know whose to follow , apply, practice and work with .

Thank you very much and have yourselves a great weekend! Life's too short!

ekoboy: Your dad has given you a good advice but you've ignored it to come to nairaland. SMH. You think there is a perfect man out there? You have a man that did what many men would do but had the courage to come out and tell you and apologise and you are looking for advice. You can go ahead and kill a good relationship but don't blame your husband. It'll all be your fault. A wiser woman would just grab him immediately leaving you with nothing. Maybe then you'll realise how foolish you were.