WhyMe222: I don't even know where to start. Sorrow, depression, dejection, resignation etc, all now knows me by name. The love is dead, I loath her for the betrayal, sex is dead, joy gone. It's been 8 months since I made the startling discovery, I have tried to live like It didn't happen but that didn't work. I have tried to brace it like a man and move past it, that too didn't work. We have had several talks about it hoping it will heal my wound but it ain't working too. I have lost my strength to move on, my drive for success and happiness is dead. I roam aimlessly now most times not having a clear vision cos my mind is messed up. Several times I narrowly escaped ramming into a car ahead of me. I look at women now with disdain (my apologies) and infidelity boldly carved on their foreheads.

What got me all messed up like this? I found out my wife was having an affair with her senior colleague in the office who also doubles as a family friend. How did I get to know, I stumbled into an amorous email exchange between them when I wanted to help my her apply for a job which has a better prospect than where she was then. It was the subject of the mail that arouse my curiosity. The subject says "Ifemi" which in Yoruba means "My Love". What is more disturbing is that they were having unprotected sex while my baby was still breast feeding (no wonder my smart girl stopped suckling at 5 months). Our marriage will be 4 years in a couple of months time and is blessed with an adorable daughter. They both claimed it was a mistake. While I am battling to believe them, it will be of interest to note that, they didn't go to bed just once which nullifies the claim of it being a mistake. And it will be foolhardy for anyone to believe that. One cannot make a mistake twice. The second time usually is a choice that is dully premeditated.

I am barely sticking what is left of the marriage just because of my little girl. She will be 2 in no distant time. Separation and divorce is my only option now since every other option has left me worse off. I have lost so much weight in these few months. I also want to state here that I have never cheated on my wife before. I keep asking myself what will push me to cheat because sincerely, my wife has it all; beauty and brains. Like the few people both male and female will say when they see her picture either on my phone or ipad "Guy, you carry eye enter wife market".

One question I want answers to now is: our court marriage did not happen here in Lagos, can I file for dissolution of the union here in Lagos?

andromida: Is it impossible to forgive her perhaps in time to come? Can you calm down and explore this option?

chymystique: My dear wah ever decision u make now think thoroughly abt et.. I wnt advise u to seperate or divorce her..buh Why dnt u seek d face of God in dis matter for Direction... #mythoughts

WhyMe222: I don't even know where to start. Sorrow, depression, dejection, resignation etc, all now knows me by name. The love is dead, I loath her for the betrayal, sex is dead, joy gone. It's been 8 months since I made the startling discovery, I have tried to live like It didn't happen but that didn't work. I have tried to brace it like a man and move past it, that too didn't work. We have had several talks about it hoping it will heal my wound but it ain't working too. I have lost my strength to move on, my drive for success and happiness is dead. I roam aimlessly now most times not having a clear vision cos my mind is messed up. Several times I narrowly escaped ramming into a car ahead of me. I look at women now with disdain (my apologies) and infidelity boldly carved on their foreheads.

What got me all messed up like this? I found out my wife was having an affair with her senior colleague in the office who also doubles as a family friend. How did I get to know, I stumbled into an amorous email exchange between them when I wanted to help her apply for a job which has a better prospect than where she was then. It was the subject of the mail that aroused my curiosity. The subject says "Ifemi" which in Yoruba means "My Love". What is more disturbing is that they were having unprotected sex while my baby was still breast feeding (no wonder my smart girl stopped suckling at 5 months). Our marriage will be 4 years in a couple of months time and is blessed with an adorable daughter. They both claimed it was a mistake. While I am battling to believe them, it will be of interest to note that, they didn't go to bed just once which nullifies the claim of it being a mistake. And it will be foolhardy for anyone to believe that. One cannot make a mistake twice. The second time usually is a choice that is dully premeditated.

I am barely sticking what is left of the marriage just because of my little girl. She will be 2 in no distant time. Separation and divorce is my only option now since every other option has left me worse off. I have lost so much weight in these few months. I also want to state here that I have never cheated on my wife before. I keep asking myself what will push me to cheat because sincerely, my wife has it all; beauty and brains. Like the few people both male and female will say when they see her picture either on my phone or ipad "Guy, you carry eye enter wife market".

One question I want answers to now is: our court marriage did not happen here in Lagos, can I file for dissolution of the union here in Lagos?

coogar:

biolabee:
LMAO!! Don coogar king
This joey gif haba!!
Are you trying to stir it up some more

It looks bad though especially the unprotected s.ex after having a baby

There's another story I heard like that but they reconciled
I may not do the same but it is not impossible

PROMOTER COOGAR

coogar:

what makes this story bizarre is the double betrayal. my friend and my wife. how does one truly forgive such? if that happens to me there would be 2 or 3 people taking a first class ticket to the hottest part of hell. the op could have been killed.

biolabee:
Yep really looks bad...
The man should seperate himself for a bit of time to gather his thoughts

It is really bad though

coogar:

he should take his daughter n relocate......
there's no way i can trust such wife ever again. it wasn't a one-off incident and the 2 philandering coyotes work in the same office which means they are inseparable!

baby_123: You can divorce her if you can boldly claim that you have been a faithful and good husband. If you have not, stay there, forgive and work through your issues as you have both canceled each other out. You are the leader of your home, if you stray, your wife has an 80percent chance of straying. Some women are so frustrated by their husband's bad behavior and lonely that they find solace in another. Who better than a friend whom you wouldn't suspect, is married so he won't want more, and has her time? If you have been an unrepentant cheat like some men, the shoe is on the other foot, and you feel what she feels everytime you cheat. If you feel like you have no life, imagine how you have killed her a 1000 times. If you are a cheat, man up and fix your home. In this day and age, it wouldn't get better. Women are hardly dying and crying to death for husband anymore. So men now are either faithful or the couple play each other till they both RIP or kill each other with diseases. If you are not a cheat and you are a good husband, divorce her.

biolabee: Seperate for a while
Sort out your feelings

May God Help Us All