I'm 22 and this is my first relationship and it has gone for about 8months. The first 4months were great, she was nice to me, lots of love, lots of sex just perfect some times she has a really harsh attitude towards me on little things, and if we ever get in fights it always seems to be my fault. And if I get upset about something she doesn’t take it into consideration, and its still my fault. If it was the other way round I have to be the one to fix everything. I feel like I am involved in a one sided relationship, now I"m not sure that I love her and I am unsure that she is the one.

The problem is that she thinks I am the one for her and that we are going to get married, and again I am not so sure. Lately my feelings have been fading for her. Another complication is that an old friend that i really loved is in my life again and I feel that she is the one for me, I had an honest conversation with this girl, saying that I've always liked her and she said it too. I think I'm a good person and i care SO much for my GF. Please help me i am lost, my nature and conscience wont let me inflict that pain on someone, what should I do? Should I wait it out a little longer? Should I talk to her about how I am feeling?

Please help.

mc~evans:
I'm 22 and this is my first relationship and it has gone for about 8months. The first 4months were great, she was nice to me, lots of love, lots of sex just perfect some times she has a really harsh attitude towards me on little things, and if we ever get in fights it always seems to be my fault. And if I get upset about something she doesn’t take it into consideration, and its still my fault. If it was the other way round I have to be the one to fix everything. I feel like I am involved in a one sided relationship, now I"m not sure that I love her and I am unsure that she is the one.

The problem is that she thinks I am the one for her and that we are going to get married, and again I am not so sure. Lately my feelings have been fading for her. Another complication is that an old friend that i really loved is in my life again and I feel that she is the one for me, I had an honest conversation with this girl, saying that I've always liked her and she said it too. I think I'm a good person and i care SO much for my GF. Please help me i am lost, my nature and conscience wont let me inflict that pain on someone, what should I do? Should I wait it out a little longer? Should I talk to her about how I am feeling?

Please help.

you definitely need to talk to her and leave her asap before the problem worsens

So, because you pity her,you won't move on? Fine. Feel free to marry her and live a miserable married life

mc~evans:

for about 8months.

lots of love,

lots of sex

Lately my feelings have been fading for her.

Please help

This is the summary. Every other thing is crap.. (oh yes crap because you can always change and correct her)
BTW, am not saying you shouldn't leave her.. but use your conscience. . use it bro..

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bennyraz: bennyraz sipping tea

RealBitch: So, because you pity her,you won't move on? Fine. Feel free to marry her and live a miserable married life

I think you know exactly how i feel. Should i explain it to her and let her know that i can't move on with the relationship?

acidosis™:


This is the summary. Every other thing is crap.. (oh yes crap because you can always change and correct her)
BTW, am not saying you shouldn't leave her.. but use your conscience. . use it bro..

I have tried my best but its not working. I don't think i can move on but im looking for a way to do it without hurting her.

Mr poster women will ruin u , u better be careful , if u are a student go face ur studies , if a trader fce ur trade and stop deceiving ur self

Eyaa

You don scatter the girl tootoo finish, the thing don dey tire you. Dey find fresh kpomo

Lol abi o

obowunmi: You don scatter the girl tootoo finish, the thing don dey tire you. Dey find fresh kpomo

mc~evans:



I think you know exactly how i feel. Should i explain it to her and let her know that i can't move on with the relationship?

dude, do just that.

Op, u ar confused!
Doz issues u listed up der can be resolved wit a heart to heart talk, but u dnt wanna do dat because a new girl is in d picture.......... If u move on wit d new girl, u ar stil gonna leave her tomoro wen u find anoda...

hy dude i understand hw u feel i am in dat kind of situation 2.she wants u 2 do all d apologise do d kalin always harsh and aggressive wenever dhr is any small dispute and d worst is u kant leave dis kinds of ladies very easily because of dey dnt mind hurtin theirselves.sha o my man just tel her ur mind because dat is wat i 2 intend 2 do

mc~evans:



I have tried my best but its not working. I don't think i can move on but im looking for a way to do it without hurting her.

there is no way you can breakup with someone without it hurting the person.......you alone know the reasons why you wana leave her. With what you stated above, you loved her from the begining, then you noticed the change, did you talk to her about it? If yes, and what was her response? Did she promise to change or she just brushed everything away and grew for bad to worse? If no, i think you should

mc~evans:

look he even gets to laugh

Dear children, as you grow older and hopefully wiser, you will realise one thing: a time will come when your partner or spouse's natural flaws will begin to irritate you. It MUST ALWAYS come. And during that period, the world will re-align in a manner to show someone else to you. That person will probably NOT be better than your current spouse/partner, but because your current person is annoying you, all you can see are his/her flaws, so the new person will automatically look prettier/nicer/perfect/whatever. It is upto you to decide whether you will keep jumping to greener grass or sit down and ask yourself "why can't I work with what I've got now, until I see that it is no longer good?"

bennyraz: bennyraz sipping tea

Will you ever finish your tea?

dude, u find conclusion or not cause i am also suffering from this situation

mcevans1:


I have tried my best but its not working. I don't think i can move on but im looking for a way to do it without hurting her.

how far,have you dumped her yet?

Sijo01: Op, u ar confused!
Doz issues u listed up der can be resolved wit a heart to heart talk, but u dnt wanna do dat because a new girl is in d picture.......... If u move on wit d new girl, u ar stil gonna leave her tomoro wen u find anoda...

your comments dey always make sense.
Kudos for that.

Youngpo413:



how far,have you dumped her yet?

I didn't

mcevans1:


I didn't

thats good of you

A boy of 22 already in a very serious relationship? Gosh! #JustThinkingAloud

This is wat u get when dating immature girls,they seem to be right in any argument. I think she doesn't even knw wat she wnt, its jst matter of time before she knws wat it means to be in relationship. I will advice u to be patient wit her. Beside wat make u think ur old friend is d 1 for u.

After getting in bed with her,u now realise her flaws. Weren't they obvious when u guys first met. And u think ur new crush is better and flawless Hmmm.


My advice to u is to talk to ur girlfriend nd tell her what she does that u don't like. Hopefully,she's gon change!.


Jumping to someone else isn't d right thing. There re always ups nd downs in relationships. Don't let d storm break u two but rather use it to ur gud by allowing it solidify ur relationship!.

Charlesefo: This is wat u get when dating immature girls,they seem to be right in any argument. I think she doesn't even knw wat she wnt, its jst matter of time before she knws wat it means to be in relationship. I will advice u to be patient wit her. Beside wat make u think ur old friend is d 1 for u.

You made alot of sense.. and truely it happens alot when the lady is immature and and just like you said, They still don't know what they want but if one keeps patience it might turn out good.
@Op.. just keep calm and wait a bit longer to see if this disease will cure or not.. but main while u are feeling she is not the one because of the distraction from your so called friend.

You don phuck the babe finish.

@op have u guys finally got married?