My Today's post is CRITICAL and VERY interesting... I know you're going to want to hear this, so stay with me to the end...

The other day I was watching a movie (KROD MANDOON) and there was scene where KROD (The supposedly ‘savior’ of the human race) was having emotional discussion with his girlfriend.

As it turned out, his girlfriend was breaking up with him, and he was trying to understand why. The interchange went something like this:

Her: "We need to break up… I’m not attracted to you anymore"

Him: "Hey, don’t say that! I love you and I would do anything to make this work... We can go to Relationship counselor... I can change… just tell me what to do… "

Her: I’m not going to a relationship counselor with you and beside "That's the problem. You just don't get it...
Have YOU Ever Been In This PAINFUL Situation...?

Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you, or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold on, the further she ran from you? And the more you tried to be a "good guy" and please her, the more distant she became?
Well, me too. I've been there more than once in my life. And believe me it always sucked.

The worst part about it was never understanding what on earth was going on!
I can remember being that guy I just told you the story about... and asking "Why? Why are you confused? Is there another guy? What do I have to do to make this work?" I was willing to change, act different, buy her anything she want or whatever.

Little did I know at the time, that it was this EXACT ‘attitude’ that led to all the “WHAHALA” in the first place.
If you've read my newsletters and posts for awhile now, you probably know that women don't feel the main ‘KOKO’ called ATTRACTION for guys who kiss her ass and act weak, needy, and insecure.

But unless you know this to begin with, then it's all too easy to become a nice, overly-accommodating, uninteresting, predictable, boring guy... and even though it seems logical that a woman should love to be treated like a queen at all times, you've probably found out, just like I have, that this combination usually leads to a woman either:

1. Leaving you
2. Becoming increasingly controlling, and domineering
3. Banging one your friends or Nabors (who sabi) behind your back

So what's up with that? Why does this happen? And more importantly, what can we do to avoid getting into this horrible position of losing a woman's attention because we're trying to be nice to her?

After studying this stuff for many, many years now, here are the 3 SOLUTIONS I've discovered that are absolutely CRITICAL for you to understand right now:

Solution #1: Attraction Is Not A Rational Decision

It took me a while to finally get this. We humans don't choose who we feel attracted to... and, just as important, who we don't feel attracted to. Attraction happens for reasons all on its own, and these reasons have evolved inside us over time.
While culture, peer pressure, and trends can shape our natural drives slightly, the fundamentals never change.
Men are attracted more to looks and shapes. Women are more attracted by your personality, what you say and do.

Most men can't believe it, but to a woman your looks just aren't that important. Yes, if you don't take care of yourself, don't bathe, and let two of your ‘front goat teeth’ rot out you might scare away the ladies. But for the most part, women will look past just about ANY physical issue if she feels that all-important emotion called ‘ATTRACTION’.

This concept is the cornerstone of everything I teach. In fact, I wrote a world-famous book about it. To get simple, step-by-step training for changing your life FAST with this concept, you can learn more about my book… BUT… it’s a big BUTT… Bigger than “Ini Edo’s”… I’m not here to sell you anything…

So, let's talk about...

The next thing you need to know and accept is the proven fact that:

SOLUTION #2: Women Are NEVER Attracted To "Weak-Men"

My friend Eazy calls this type of men ‘FOOT-MAT’. I’m gonna leave it at that… Nuff said

SOLUTION #3: You MUST Pass Her Test

When a woman begins to feel a romantic connection with you, she faces an interesting problem... how can she tell for sure if your character and personality are the way you're expressing them?

Anyone who is been in the dating world awhile knows men and women both show off and exaggerate their good sides while downplaying and hiding their negative traits at first. This is why men brag, and show off... and why women wear makeup, do their hair, and shop all day for new clothes.

If you were a woman, and you needed to figure out if a man was showing you his "true self", how would you do it?

Exactly!

The only way is to TEST on an ongoing basis, and to keep escalating the tests to be sure.

Put all this together (with a bunch of other factors that I don't have time to talk about right now...) and you get an interesting problem that women face...

A woman responds to a man that stirs her emotions, and causes her to want him so badly that she'll put aside all logic and reason to be with him.

But what if the man is just pretending? What if he only seems to be this confident, funny, manly-man on the outside... but he's actually a push-over FOOT-MAT that is insecure… and makes up for it by acting like a tough guy?

Or worse yet, what if he's a FOOT-MAT all the time, and she just happened to settle for him because he was available and persistent... and she didn't have anything better going on at the time... but now she has other options?

Well, these are the kinds of situations, that when played out, lead to the story that I started with... a man begging a woman to stay... pleading with her to explain what he has to do to keep her.

Of course, this is all worst behavior, and it only serves to put the final nail in the coffin, convincing the woman of your desire that you are absolutely, beyond the shadow of any doubt, a FOOT-MAT.

So what's the answer?

The Answer Is To NEVER Come Across As A "FOOT-MAT" Again!

Listen. Being "nice" and "accommodating" and "understanding" is great for friendships and social relationships, but it's a death sentence to ‘ATTRACTION’.

If you want to make your dating life a whole lot better and easier, then stop and think about your behavior... and resolve right now to stop acting like a foot-mat for the rest of your life.

An interesting, attractive woman doesn't want a guy that she can push around and walk all over. She doesn't want a guy who does what she wants him to do. No

This doesn't make logical sense, I know. But it's the truth. These submissive qualities will only work in attracting a woman if she likes dressing up in short incredibly mini silk skirt... and charging N10,000.00 an hour. (Depending on your geography) And my guess is that this isn't the kind of woman that you're looking for.

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