bodsibobo: Dear Timijo,

Honestly I also say that your views and analysis of the topic is one sided and myopic. I have a friend who is seriously considering divorce and he really wants the easiest way out for all parties. Upon review of his over ten (10) years marriage, he concluded that he never loved his wife. He was introduced and matched with his wife by an Aunty to whom he could not refuse.

He has over the years only just played along to satisfy his uncles, aunties, parents etc.

Now over ten years down the line he has seen so many traits in the woman he can not continue to put up with. The wife is lazy, not ready to work, unable to keep the house clean and tidy, and you know the worst thing, this attitude runs through the wife's family and all her sisters exhibit the same traits. Shame! He has not kissed, not to talk of have sex with, his wife for over a year! He is not excited going back home after work so he hangs out at bars to drink till 12 midnight before getting home. Mind you they have two lovely kids but the guy says he's not just attracted to the woman one bit anymore.

He's my very good friend and there's so much he tells me and even me I pity him in his misery!

I remember my brother once tell me that the only thing worse than being in prison, is being in a wrong marriage that is not working.

GudluckIBB: These days,i think Women enjoy it when they find themselves in an abusive Relationship.You lay all your life,love Trust and everthing a woman needs in a home,You make sacrifices but they just prefer it when they are Abused.They seems not to Value the atmosphere of peace at home!They prefer it when there is tension and fear.They prefer it when they hear the souind of your car,thier heart skips.Wereas its not suppose to be so and its never the man's intention to have a hostile Environment.
To me No man is happy laying hands on his wife or Girlfriend.But these days you see a woman asking the spouse "What will do if I say or do it again?"Some people have the patience to walk away but some don't.Proverbs 14.1 says A foolish woman tears down her home with Anger.Women too should look inwards and make amends.
They should stop imititating the characters they read or see in movies.
Women are the builders of the Home,Men are just Caretakers looking for diaily bread for the family

ishmael: God hates divorce. The man and the wife can agree to settle their differences and have a stable and peaceful home if they want to. Go back to God if u're not serving Him. If u love God u will keep His commandments. I stilll repeat it, God hates divorce. Divorce can be avoided if the couples have the fear of God in them.

Siena:

Are there instances where divorce is the only option? Are there cases whereby God will condone divorce?

Please, answer yes or no, without a long epistle.

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ishmael: No. God hates divorce. Even if ur spouse commits adultery, u can still forgive. Christ demonstrated that by refusing to condemn the woman who was brought before Him for committing adultery. He forgave her and asked her to go, and sin no more. God can put things in order for couples who believe and invite Him into their hearts and home.

Sisi_Kill: Are you in an abusive relationship? Does your spouse treat you like crap? Are you living everyday of your life in fear and you think divorce is the only way out? Think again my friend, divorce can put you at a greater risk of having cancer! You might be hacked to death by your spouse if you stay with them but at least you don't run the risk of cancer!!

This message is brought to you by the advocates of marriage by hook or by crook.

Our Motto - Better to be dead spouse than be a living single with high risk of being sick.

Siena: Tim, before you quote the Bible as the manual for sustaining marriage, think carefully. It's like those that seek the advice of "pastors" when trying to resolve marital issues. And many a husband or wife has ended up dead as a result.

Marriage is sustained by the couple, because they use their God-given brains. God gave us brains so we can use them, that's as far as God's input goes. We weren't put on earth to be spoon-fed.

Besides, there was divorce in the Bible, which you seem to have conveniently forgotten.

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Timijo: Are u nw saying dat d human brain superceed the believer's instruction(thd bible)? Do u knw d efficacy of God's words? With his words, He made everything in this world. You can find every thing that wil give u a happy and a peaceful home in His words. If anyone allow his/her home to be guided by the word of God, he/she wil nt regret it. But, if u guide ur home by ur brain, by d standard of this falling world, u wil fail woefully.

Siena:

Guy, stop interpreting the Bible to suit your warped sense of reasoning! You keep harping on about the Bible, yet fail to answer or address one issue. Quoting scriptures and verses doesn't make you a Christian, remember the Devil can quote and recite the Bible from Genesis to Revelations verbatim.



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Siena:

Guy, stop interpreting the Bible to suit your warped sense of reasoning! You keep harping on about the Bible, yet fail to answer or address one issue. Quoting scriptures and verses doesn't make you a Christian, remember the Devil can quote and recite the Bible from Genesis to Revelations verbatim.

If a woman's being battered by her husband, is married to a serial cheat, would you advice her to remain with him? No doubt, you'll advice her to "pray" for him, and remain untill he eventually maims or kills her. I don't claim to know the Bible inside out, but I do recall INFIDELITY and FORNICATION as reasons in the Bible to get divorced. For some reason, you refuse to comment upon this.

All this God's wrath stuff is just a load of bull. It's a sin to have your God-given brain go to waste, through lack of use. You're the one who'll fail woefully, by the way you reason. Have you ever seen a woman so beaten and battered by her husband, to the point her own mother would have trouble recognising her? Or so dehumanised by her husband, she see's herself as worthless, and feels she deserved what she got? No doubt your advice will be, she remains with him, and seeks solace in "prayer", LMAO.

Yeah, God made everything in this world, including our brains. If all it took was God's guidance, our brains might as well be redundant.

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Timijo: Cutting off the head is not the pill for headache, so also divorce is not the solution to marital problem. Two wrongs can not make a right. There is another way of resolving issues in the family rather than divorce as a child of God.

Siena:

And of course, you still dance around my questions. It's quite straight-forward, and a direct answer will do. Does the Bible state INFIDELITY and FORNICATION as grounds for divorce? If a husband is a wife-battering brute, they've sought counselling which has failed, should the wife remain with him, and wait for him to kill her?

Yes or no, it's simple!

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Timijo: Divorce is allowed in the case of fornication or adultery.

Efemena_xy: ^^ And you, my dear Siena, have just proven that @poster is a hypocrite!

You just made the guy eat his own words!

Siena:

Efe, he'll never admit it. I mix with folk like him on a daily basis - they simply loath to admit they were wrong.

How's the writing going?

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Timijo: The topic says reasons not to get a divorce.

Timijo: Read and have a rethink.

Timijo: It reveals the adverse effects of divorce to people.

Timijo: They can make their choice.

Timijo: But you have refused to answer all my questions.

Timijo: I have told u that divorce is allowed in d case of adultery or fornication, but it goes with a condition that people can not cope with.

Timijo: If u are a true xtian, wil u advice any victim of a troublesome home to get a divorce and remarry?

Timijo: Pls answer this question without sentiment.